this or polygi need to be more accurate
by many nations by many people as I
indicated again from Western Mark
including Christians including Jews
there are some Christians until today
even like the Mormons who accept the
notion of polygamy
it is there
in fact we must say positively
that among the three abrahimic religions
Islam is their only abrahamic religion
that for the first time in its own
scripture had an unequivocal clear
limitation on the free practice of
polygamy by limiting the number of wives
to a maximum of four by requiring the
ability to spend on them by requiring
Justice in treating all of them which
was quite open without any restriction
without any guidelines Islam is the only
one to introduce restriction we don't
find that unequivocally and clearly in
neither the Hebrew scripture or the New
Testament
furthermore
some people might wonder again why Islam
did not Outlaw it totally even though
monogamy if you read the Quran and see
the norm really it assumed actually that
monogamy is is the norm
but that's flexibility that's needed
with the variation of time place and
circumstances
take some reason recent examples
in sir beniche when under the nose of
United Nations nearly I was taught by
bosnians it's not eight or nine or seven
thousand ten thousand Bosnian Muslims
men and teenagers or boys have been
slaughtered
that creates a great deal of imbalance
for a certain period of time in
Afghanistan it is even worse during the
Soviet invasion nearly 1 million plus
died then you get large number of
Withers large number of Orphans young
girls who are looking for marriage and
is it abnormal situation like that
with the agreement of parties involves
of course the everybody has a recourse
to that there's no force in this to look
after those widows and their orphans not
just to give a handout is a much more
human and moral type of solution in fact
it's much more moral
as a form of marriage than what we hear
about today same-sex marriage
it's much more than that it's much more
moral from a Muslim perspective than
claiming false monogamy officially and
having 12 sweethearts
an illicit relationship no protection
for them no recognition of the legality
of their children
but let's focus on the prophet now we
just wanted to give that as a basic
background
that one of the most subtle attacks on
the prophet when the people speak
tongue-in-cheek about you know at one
point he had 11 wives all together of
course there is some kind of hidden
message there
either there is something wrong with his
morality or possibly obsession with
women
but mind you the interesting thing is
that not even the worst critic of the
prophet
could point out to a single a single
instance of sexual indiscretion
whereas the some of the people who raise
these objections read in the Bible which
by the way Muslims don't accept this
part that some prophets committed incest
some some prophets committed adultery
read the story of David and others from
a Muslim perspective the Quran negated
that anyway but from their perspective
that's the case they can't find a fault
a single fault with the prophet sallam
Prophet Muhammad so they start talking
about many wives at the same time
furthermore
it defies logic to describe him as a
polygamous prophet
if we know historically
that out of 37 years of marital life not
all his life he died at the age of 63.
he married at the age of 25 so he's
marital just if you restricted to
marital life
37 years
25 years
it was a 25 at least actually some had a
couple of more years 25 years at least
he was monogamous
that is more than two-thirds of his
marital life
so all of this period of monogamy is
forgotten and people are focusing only
on what Scholars actually believe to
have been in the last
seven years of his life from mid 50s
about 56 to 63 when he had so many wives
but all of the monogamous periods seem
to have been forgotten
furthermore it is not any part of his
life not any seven years
if somebody was obsessed or were
obsessed with women
the time for that
and again it's my apology to the
brothers here the time of that is not in
the mid 50s and early 60s
things slowed down quite a bit once you
eat that if you're really obsessed
that's not the time for it
but if we look carefully about the
nature of his marriages you would be
amazed about the Humane aspect of it
Not only was the prophet known for his
chastity
even before he got married in a society
that were very promiscuous
to the point that he narrates the story
himself he said twice I was invited to
attend a wedding
not to commit any adultery fornication
like young people in his age just
wedding and he says in both instances
God caused me to sleep I hear some music
in my ear I fell asleep to wake up next
morning with the sun shining in my eye
as if Allah wanted to keep him away even
from an atmosphere of drinking and evil
the party type of atmosphere
and if indeed logically there was a
single error or a slip on the part of
the prophet and he had so many enemies
in Mecca who wanted to discredit him by
any means would have been kept silent
the whole world would have heard about
it and nobody could ever raise an issue
about his chastity
but then if you look at the marriages of
the prophet and again I'll give you a
reference for more details
on the internet there is as Brother Sam
said indicated there is 352 half hour TV
programs a series called Islam and focus
or Islamic teaching
you can access it through Islamic City
.com you just go to multimedia and radio
and then under radio there is channel a
whole Channel devoted to that it's ra
200 and look under profit lust messenger
of God there are detailed information
about each and every of those marriages
I understand the tips also might be
obtainable through the ipci on on
cassette format and people also who are
running the Islam online one word Islam
online promise to put it for free also
unlike the Islamic city which might
require some subscription in any case
there are details but let me sum it up
for you that the marriages can be
classified into four
why multiple marriages one
the prophet married and give in marriage
also his daughters to people who were
the closest supporter of him who
happened to be the senior companions who
happen also to be the first four caliphs
after him
for example he married the daughter of
Abu Bakr the daughter of Ahmad hafsa he
gave his daughter in marriage to Usman
and when she died her sister also was
married to Usman and he gave his
youngest daughter Fatima to Ali so that
intermingling or intermarriage with
those who were supporter of him bonding
with them was a very very crucial in
that difficult stage in the Muslim life
secondly a category of marriages was
intended to give example to other
Muslims like I was talking about
Afghanistan or serbianicia to care
for those who lost their husbands to
care for them and for their orphaned
children I'll give you just one example
was a very dignified woman she was maybe
close to the edge of the Prophet her
husband died as a result of injuries
sustained in one of the defensive
battles of Muslims
the woman was left with four orphan
children to look after
so one of the companions of the Prophet
the most senior Abu Bakr goes to her to
offer marriage to her the woman was so
dignified maybe she figured out who
would like to marry a woman in menopause
in her mid-50s probably
it was four orphan children she knew
that this is a sympathy offered she said
no
then another companion armor goes to
offer marriage to her she said no
when the prophet heard that that the
two's most senior companions were turned
down
he felt sympathy to her and her children
so he goes to her to all Muslim and
offer marriage to her
and she said no messenger of God
and he asked her why not
she said three reasons one
I am an old woman
in other words why you're Maddie I'm an
old woman
two I have four orphan children to look
after
three I am a jealous woman
she cannot be blamed no woman would like
anyone to share her husband no matter
how circumstances I mean it's Human
Nature
so the prophet in his decency and
kindness tells her
as far as age
I am older than you he might have been
marginally ordered older than her but
look at his gentleness you tell any
woman I am older than you masha'allah
she sues in her agun
secondly as far as the orphan children
don't worry they will be like my own I'd
be responsible for their sustenance
and as far as your jealousy I pray to
Allah to remove it from your heart