thean alhamdulillah peace be with you
welcome to the dean show I'm Eddie your
host and before you go all out red on
Valentine's and you get into the
Valentine's fever you got to watch this
week's show we're going to be discussing
Valentine's Day and we're also going to
be talking about Miley Cyrus Britney
Spears on The Dean show that's right
we're going to be talking about about
them connecting it all together
investigating some of these holidays
that we all get in the holiday spirit
with and really find out what's going on
behind the scenes so we'll be right back
with more on these exciting exciting
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you back on the dean show na how are you
my brother alhamdulillah all praise is
due to Allah I'm incredible you're
incredible alhamdulillah you look
incredible
masallah all right thank thank you for
finding the time you know very uh
important uh topic and for many uh
people before they go red because it's
all about love and going red and the
Valentine's fever we really wanted to
expose people you know the conscious the
godc conscious people out there who
really want to live a righteous life who
really want to do the right thing they
kind of sometimes fall into these
pitfalls and they think it's Innocent
but really it ends up being a trap so we
want to talk about Valentine's Day you
think you can help us out with this
inshallah tal I can really relate to it
obviously being um a parent one of the
things that I teach and train parents is
on is really the importance of education
and exposing things as as a confidant to
our children in particular because they
tend to be the ones that are more
affected if you will because no matter
what it be what type of holiday what
type of thing especially the Valentine's
Day thing it tends to focus around
children that's when they start I
remember being in private school and I
went to a Christian private school and
we have Valentine Day parties and mind
you this was a Christian School went to
church and we sang and studied catechism
and all kinds of things but until you
investigate then we just blindly follow
and as humans we know we don't want to
just blindly follow we want to be
convinced intellectually that what we're
doing is right it actually pleases our
creator so with Valentine Day in
particular when it comes to love which
generally is a good thing thing when we
think about love and loving our parents
and our loved ones and things like that
those are things we could consider close
to us however we know as Muslims that
the prophet Alam reminded us that Shayan
has given up all hope of dealing with us
or tricking us on the major things so he
tends to major in minor things so it's
the little things that kind of get us
and when we look into Valentine's Day in
this lalia um celebration and the the
things that went on the things that we
we wouldn't be able to say on this show
or if you put into a film it would be
above R rated if you will and are these
things we have to ask ourselves as
parents as other humans those who care
do we really care enough to investigate
one time in order to find out the truth
in order to change and set a pattern for
our family if need be or are we just
going to go go with the flow you know so
so now this is something that any God
conscious person can relate to doesn't
matter if you're
uh uh from the Jewish faith or the
Christian faith or just a god-conscious
person after we expose these facts
people should POS you know probably have
a change of heart about this whole
Valentine's so let's go back to the
roots of it how this all started
Valentine's Looper CIA yes well
interestingly enough there are a number
of different ways or a number of
different myths about how it started and
one of the oldest tends to go way back
to this big feast and this big
celebration of lalia and it's
interesting because there's the myth of
St Valentine we'll talk inshallah about
that God willing you know about that in
a minute but we go back to a feast That
was supposed to be on men dressing men
dressing up in this time uh in wolves I
believe it was wolves clothing or Wolves
skins and stuff like that and they would
go they would they would beat it but the
challenging part is to skip forward to
the story a little bit part of their
celebration they will go and basically
grab women and uh put into a bowl kind
of like we pick random numbers or random
names they go ahead and pick it grab the
women who are supposed to be fertile in
order to continue on this celebration
and just have non-committal sex and so
on and the things that will follow that
of course yeah you know what I'm saying
so just basically some type of origy
some type of you know sexual event that
pagans used to traditionally do that's
one of the reasons that Christmas was
banned even in this country till the
late 1600s it was actually banned even
in world again pagan origins right yes
and most of the things
the days of the week that we I mean
today's Wednesday or or wooden day if
you will which actually is a pagan you
know Pagan every day of the week every
month on the calendar not every month
except like the last four have pagan
origins so it's amazing all of these
paganistic things are around us it's not
a surprise that we take them into our
daily lives and then we blindly accept
and follow a holiday without
investigating that we could be on the
wrong path of doing something that's
displeasing to the Creator so imagine if
you're telling your child hey you know
there's a a celebration that we're
participating in Rec calling it
Valentine's Day but you know what what I
want you to do is have some wolf skins
go around take these things beat them
and grab grab a a bucket full of someone
of the opposite sex or even the same sex
CU that's what happened and go ahead and
just be intimate with them but not
really intimate it's just an animalistic
act if you will wouldn't wouldn't they
also now they would take these because
they had these uh Roman pagan gods so
they would also take these dogs and
these wolves and they would s this is
this actually goes totally away from the
pure monotheism because now worshiping
other gods besides God because these are
like these pagan gods and you're
sacrificing these Gods these animals for
these pagan gods now that's that's
indeed and we do it's amazing because we
can look at the parallels in society
some people say oh well that's old it no
longer means that anymore and say well
you know nowadays it just means this we
have to look at the origin of what what
it came from and why is this thing
sticking around so long is that
something from us or is it something
from Shayan is something from the devil
you know excuse me you know we have to
ask ourselves these questions because
looking at this these these sacrifice
and this blood sacrifice and these same
things there's still remnants and
there's still pagans who celebrated to
this day but now if you don't consider
yourself a pagan this is not part of
something that you want to worship we
have to ask ourselves why are we aligned
to it why are we allowing our children
to do it why are we saying Oh Happy
Valentine's Day why are we being forced
to go out and get cards and candy and
and these other things that are
representative of the evil and the
paganistic rituals that went on at that
time it was like something basically
disgusting something that wasn't pure
and now you put some like cologne on it
and stuff and and you want to go ahead
and and use it but that you it doesn't
uh we're going to be talking more about
this we got to go to break but uh
hopefully this is going to really
Enlighten you and you're going to have a
New Perspective here on the Looper Calia
Valentine's Day we'll be right back
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touched upon history a little bit the
origins totally a pagan custom culture
something that where you're sacrificing
for pagan gods and any person who's on
pure monotheism he knows that this is
something that's displeasing to the
Creator and can can win you a seat in in
the Hellfire indeed indeed because uh
monotheism is something that's pure it's
for the Creator and we don't mess around
with this Pagan stuff right so now
someone says hold on we're in modern
times I gave the example of something
disgusting and dirty and you trying to
put some clone on it I mean is there
anything else you can think of for
someone who brings up this common excuse
It's so innocent it's love that was back
then we've basically revamped it what
would you have to say well one is not to
be naive see one of the challenges is
that as parents I mean I mean we teach
of course that outstanding was the
parents that we can't be naive we can't
afford to be naive if we want to look
and investigate something we could we
could literally look one generation in
the past so we may be new parents for
example our children may be young you
know of course if you're an adult
watching this you you've been through
this you already experiencing things how
what about your grandparents and
great-grandparents how has Society
changed so if you look at a generation
when I was coming up for example in
fourth and fifth grade even lesser
grades and we're talking about love and
be my Valentine having Valentine Day
candy and being shy and having some high
that shyness and being nervous about oh
girlfriend girls are yucky and boys are
yucky type deal at that age love is
being pushed on us okay do we really
know love are we capable of know love at
that time but let's fast forward to when
I was a teenager 10 years later when
hormones are bustling now I'm looking at
girlss that not necessarily so yucky
girls are looking at boys this Society
still promoting this love fantasy if you
will and let's fast forward even just a
few years later where now there are
societies and epidemics in certain
cities or across the nation in
particular where you have these single
family households where you have these
unwed teenage moms or unwanted
pregnancies have abortion and stuff on
the rise you have um poverty that is
unable to really sustain this continual
non marital relationship in society so
but it comes from that idea this magical
fantasy of this love you know pushed on
our children comes off with something as
something innocent and then we can see
what the the negative side effects you
have a doctor PhD and a medical
psychologist uh he had a really he has a
really good book it's called girls on
the edge so he talks about the four
driving factors for the new crisis for
girls he also has uh one for the the
boys but this one specifically talks
about the four the sexual identity the
Cyber bubble the obsessions and the last
one that's uh very interesting is the
Environmental toxins can we classify
this as one of the environmental toxins
along with the other very very important
Point sexual identity because you keep
pushing love and you keep pushing this
fake persona of what love should be and
then you have kids coming together
acting that out in the wrong way now you
got all of this sexual deviant and all
the other negative things what do you
have to say on this what well one of the
challenges I mean those four points
obviously mean hit it right on the head
there many more that come from that
because they're are are different Subs
beneath them however when you think of
just sexual identity in and of itself
isn't America dealing with an an entire
epidemic of low selfesteem in women when
it comes to anorexia bulimia people that
are put out as models that are supposed
to be the perfect size or these models
who get photoshopped all the time and
women saying oh my skin isn't light
enough my hair isn't light my eyes
aren't this color where I need to get
injections in my face uh I saw a Show
recently where children or teenagers
were getting bullied in school and they
they were going to plastic surgeons to
actually change themselves physically I
mean is that really the answer you know
so we look at this and it's not only
affected our children but our grown our
our baby girls our daughters and our
sisters but grown women who feel they
have to live up to a standard that's
almost impossible um to live up to and
not loving themselves in the body that
the creator has gifted them with you
know while meanwhile they looked at as
toys for the boys they men aren't
physically and drastically changing
themselves to try to appease to some
societal standard however the women are
and what does that say for our daughters
alhamdulillah I mean I have four
beautiful daughters you know I'm not
wanting my daughter to fall prey to the
whole Disney princess syndrome where
they're giving this this standard that's
put out by who by people in Hollywood
for example that have a huge homosexual
agenda you know there are men that are
the fashion designers but these are men
that don't like women but they're yet
they're the one that are designing the
clothes and things like that amazing or
and they're also designing clothes that
are glittery and fasy all all upon the
men all of just guys of love and just
fashion where in today's climate you
have President Obama calling the the the
gay basketball player and congratulating
him with all the the things that are
going on the world he calls to
congratulate him about coming out and
recently his wife just called a
potential NFL player about him you know
being possibly being the first openly
gay NFL player like that's an agenda
I've never received a call or heard
anything about hey great for
heterosexuals if you will you know and
this doesn't mean we treat homosexuals
bad or or crazily however there's a huge
Society thing going on and for those who
practice monotheism we know that if
everyone practice homosexuality that's
the end of the human race so that
already lets you know whether you can
weigh it as good or bad but this agenda
starts as a small seed in something cute
in our children and when we see the
results of it meaning in today's times
or as we grow older and we see what's
going on with the breakdown of the
family and divorce rat skyrocketing um
over 50% over half of our marriages end
in divorce and two-third of people in
the black community for example come
from a single parent home where the
primary parent is the mother or nowadays
when you have what's considered Norm or
a man in a man or a woman in a Woman
They want to raise child children in the
family we really creating a serious
identity crisis in the complex that we
have to be addressing and be at the
Forefront of addressing
the roots of it and it's these little
things of these Valentine Days oh it's
all about love well love is not always
good what if you're loving alcohol what
if you're loving an addiction you know
or you're sacrificing who you are and
your identity what you believe is to get
what you think is Love from someone else
you know and until we ask those
intelligent questions we can continue to
fall prey to shayan's little tricks so
now we can see the the negative side
effects from what we we we perceive as
something something innocent and then
now the big we have to look at the
bigger picture now is that what're we're
looking at so from something now pure
that God created man and wom and they
come together in in marriage
holistically organically now if we start
from a young age are we saying like
promoting that we're basically promoting
you know uh boyfriend and girlfriends
coming together outside of marriage and
then we see that like you mentioned um
because we know that Islam obviously
came to the way that was sent by the
Creator came to protect Mankind and one
of the things that it protects is the
lineage of the family um illegitimate
children we also have crime orphans you
know uh the sexual deviant so if we as
Muslims now we fall into this trap
obviously this is going to end up
affecting us and some of these negative
things are going to have an impact on us
and it already is unfortunately I mean
we have Muslim schools where children
you know children are being sent out of
the country because these type of
relationships have affected the family
only because we as parents have been
naive we cannot afford to be naive when
Shayan is intentional with his tricks
yeah so again this is for any
god-conscious p uh person because a
Muslim is one who submits to the will of
the Creator so this is obviously
something that Jesus would have be in
line with he wouldn't be in line
probably with s Valentine's Day would he
not at all not at all so we'll be right
back with more here on the dean
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show back here on the dean show we're
discussing the Looper Kia Valentine day
something that we perceive as innocent
and before we go all red and before some
of even the sisters they go and put on
the red hijabs stop stop right there huh
so we talked about a little bit of the
origins and some of the negative side
effects that can end up coming and we
know that this way of life that was sent
for all of mankind is a mercy protects
us help us to see straight another
innocent thing or something that people
perceive as innocent is let's say we
mentioned Miley Cyrus br Britney Spears
um and many of the other dozens of
dozens of
superstars that they come their roots
are from the Disney Channel so let's
talk about a little bit of the Disney
Channel because some U youth are
addicted to the Disney Channel and some
parents they think is innocent what's
the big deal Disney Channel well Mickey
Mouse yeah Mickey Mouse see Subhan Allah
it's it's amazing that these little
things can make such a big difference
for example with Disney when we look at
Snow White what's the the premise of It
Snow White some she been to this apple
fell asleep and some Prince Charming had
to come and save her and kiss her were
they married no is that immoral yes was
the woman weak yes needing to be saved
by a man yes it it promotes this
weakness of women well we don't come
from that in Islam we have scholarship
of women you look
at she was the fourth highest narrator
ofth the companions would come to her
and ask her about different narrations
and study from her you know when the
first that had a school in North Africa
was I believe Fatima I don't remember
her name we study you know established
School in Islam so our women come from a
a period of strength if you will
nevertheless when we look at Snow White
you look at um Cinderella for example
going out and kicking it at a big party
and losing her glass shoe and coming to
be swept up by this man it really
creates an idea of dependency and this
fantasy man that's going to come and
straighten it and figure it all out for
you whether or not he may already be
married or he may be doing something or
you're not married not looking for
marriage this fantasy
arises and when you talked about Miley
Cyrus who was previously known as Hannah
Montana little girl show doing little
girl things and now she got turned out
now she's Mighty cus and twerking
controversy and just trash is what it
comes to this is a process it was not
accidental it could now it would be
interesting if it's just one person
maybe then you have Britney Spears we
see her Mickey Mouse stuff little cute
girl attracting millions of fans but
then as soon as that teenage years come
soon as bodies begin to develop all of a
sudden she taking off her clothes
promiscuous and drugged out and
everything else then you have Christina
agulara she's again Disney Channel smart
little girl creating this following of
millions of girls who are not women then
next you know she's in a video dirty
taking off her clothes and having chaps
on it's it's amazing and then you have
even boys on the other side you have shy
La buff what's that a song dirty dirty
it's called Dirty yeah they're letting
you know clearly what it is you know so
you to go from here to this transition
to being promiscuous cutting your ch
your entire look advocating alcohol and
all this over sex if you will come in
looking for love and looking for
something hence we have the drinking you
have the alcohol abuse you have all of
this stuff because there's an emptiness
inside of them that alhamdulillah Islam
fulfills and provides you with and it
doesn't require that you sell yourself
short and the value of women is not put
in um their skin and how much they can
show as toys for men you know to cover
that up and to keep that and protect
that and actually be forced to have
someone deal with you for your mind when
all I can see is your face I mean
everything is covered on me except my
hands in my face you know what I'm
saying and there's not a protest about
that whether or not I'm being oppressed
but when our women do it as most of
women is the Virgin Mary covered for
example many times looked at as being
oppressed for some reason but you would
only look at such a righteous woman to
hear what she has to say with some of
the wisdom and God-fearing this if you
will yeah that doesn't make sense
because if they were oppressed I mean
they're they're being more oppressed for
wanting to to cover by the by the uh you
know all the negative uh media comments
and but they're fighting for it's their
choice so you made actually a comment
you said um it crushes the woman's
self-esteem because all of it is about
the outer beauty and the um booty the
the booty the booty can you say that on
the dean show the booty yeah we go say
it on the dean show and actually get
into what the word means or where it
comes from so you're saying now that it
it's it lowers her self-esteem and it
becomes every it's all about her outer
not inner and her beauty that's all
looking at not really concentrate on the
inner and and and when you think of of
of Valentine's Day for example it's
about having a valentine what is that
Valentine oh this is my love this is my
sweet this is my thing if you will and
of course it's about the beauty it's
about the outer beauty and attracting
this not about marriage it's not about
morals it's not about um proposals
though many people propose on the day
which is very unoriginal but it's about
that you asked about booty well what is
booty booty is defined as treasure or
Spoils of War this is what would happen
after War this is it is not valentine
day a war on our morals so that's that
man he's just wanting to conquer that
woman for his self-pleasure like like
cupid actually Cupid I believe means
desire so that's another also another
Pagan God is actually isn't it indeed
indeed and he's you know well known with
his arrow and looked at his love this
little cherub going around but it it
goes right back to capturing that
treasure yeah that booty that what that
Spoils of War if you will to the point
where now that's the part that's twerked
or that's the part that's put out in
front of people on a woman
you know what I'm saying is this what we
want for our daughters or our society is
this what we really going to promote to
be something that's healthy and
something that's righteous something
that's going to get you where you go
even when you have a myth I mentioned we
have to say it because I mentioned
earlier about um St Valentine this whole
myth that he was performing these
marriages which actually a good thing
performing these marriages and was
getting locked up and stuff for it and
then they were passing cards which was
the origin supposedly of Valentine Day
cards well think about it when it comes
to marriage when it comes to being moral
and being in family and strengthening
Society that's something that's done
within your religious class or within
your own Community this is something
that should be protected not something
that someone should be locked up for or
you create a story to try to justify it
and create another fantasy again because
it's a myth when the reality goes into
this Pagan ritual so we have to
recognize number one is this okay with
me have I investigated have I studied it
and if it is okay with you why if it's
not okay with you why but we just again
want to call you to the Accord you to
the truth so you can separate any and
everything that is falsehood and only be
with the one thing that is truth before
we cut out also attaching your heart to
a lot of these uh Superstars now as a
young child you have your kid watching
this Disney Channel and getting all uh
their heart attached to them say Miley
Hannah monana for instance now she she
gets older and obviously the heart it's
you know it's attached to this person
there's a good chance now Hannah
mantenna now she's Miley Cyrus she's out
there basically you know showing it all
drugs alcohol just just basically
destroying her life that's a good chance
your those millions are going to come
with them is that ABS high probability
she hasn't lost fans they just gotten
older yeah and now if you want to see
who's going to be the future stars look
at the Disney Channel look at who your
daughters following now and let's see
what they'll be in five or 10 years as
stars cuz we already have the pattern we
know what's going to happen yeah is that
okay is that what you want for your
girls is that the type of woman you want
for your boys to be Desiring and we're
seeing right now people can see many of
the the um the pictures are showing a
lot of these stars getting arrested for
drugs for um alcohol intoxication and
these are these young stars that people
are looking up to so hopefully God
willing we can benefit from this and
really live a good wholesome life that's
pleasing to the Creator before we meet
our creator because definitely this way
that way is the wrong way to go what
would you have to say no indeed 100%
it's sry responsibility as parents as a
matter of fact I like to give a gift to
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peace be with you am mean likewise and
thank you for tuning in to the dean show
and hopefully you ain't going to go red
there's nothing wrong with the color red
but hopefully now Valentine is around
and you've changed
you have a totally New Perspective now
on really what you should be doing and
not falling into these pitfalls of
Shayan and the women now we talked about
who want to live a life of Integrity of
dignity of modesty not wanting to follow
Lady Gaga goooo wanting to follow Mary
the mother of Jesus that's the Muslim
woman the one who's chosen to submit not
to her desires not to the peer pressure
of society but to the Creator the one
who created all of mankind and that is
what we're calling you to that's the
purpose of life to acknowledge that now
you have a Creator he created you you
get up and clap when somebody hits a
nice free throw jump shot three-pointer
right someone writes a nice song you're
all like out of your mind but what about
the one who created you who made you
don't you acknowledge that well start to
ask him because if you've been led to
the dean show that's a good chance now
that the process is started but are you
going to deny all these signs start
asking the Creator earnestly to guide
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messenger of prophet Muhammad peace be
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