Do you want to know what makes
everybody watch
the Dean Show? Alhamdulillah.
Peace be with you. Thank you very much
for tuning in again to another episode
of the Dean Show. We're here every week
trying to help you understand Islam and
Muslims. Now you have come to that full
conviction that none has the right to be
worshiped except the one who created
you. There's no God but God. There is no
deity worthy of worship except Allah and
Muhammad is the last and final messenger
sent to mankind.
No more messengers to come. But now
this is not it. There needs to be time
spent learning this way of life. the
same way of life that was lived with all
the messengers of God. It's a complete
code of conduct, a complete moral
compass that you go by from when you
wake up until you go to sleep. So, we're
going to be talking about mannerisms,
how we conduct ourselves as those who
have submitted ourselves to the one God.
We need to act a certain way. We need to
be the elite in good etiquets and
manners and behavior and character. This
is befitting a Muslim, one who has
consciously submitted to the one God.
So, we're going to be talking about this
very, very, very important topic with
our next guest, Sheikh Ibrahim Zadam,
when we come back here on the Dean Show.
We'll be right back.
Allah,
there's only one word and is
Allah.
Allah,
there's only one God and Jesus was his
messenger. Allah,
I don't know why I did that. Maybe it's
just to break the ice. Peace be with
you.
Shake Ibrahim Zan. How are you doing?
Alhamdulillah. Great. Alhamdulillah.
Now, now we got a lot of not yet
Muslims, non-Muslims out there who are
listening to the show and just so they
don't think we we said some code words.
You said alhamdulillah. What' you say?
Means praise be to Allah, the creator of
the heavens and the earth.
And some people might think, uh oh,
there they go talking about some moon
god,
right?
Who's Allah?
Allah the one the most perfect, the most
high, the almighty. Nothing is alike of
him and he's the al.
And he is the one that doesn't have a
son nor a daughter. He's nothing like
the human beings and he's the most
merciful. The one that is over his
creation, over his throne and with his
creation, with his knowledge and his
power and wisdom.
Now, before we get into our topic, we
talk about manners, etiquets, just just
to we want to assuage any fear because
some people might be tuning in for the
first time and they hear Islam and you
know there's some hype out there. People
believe you know like you know Islam
Muslim and what comes next,
right?
Muslim terrorist. So, you know, there's
all sorts of, you know, corruption out
there, but we know what Islam teaches
and preaches, but you got, you know,
some people who don't even want to go
further because they think, uhoh, these
people going to brainwash me. I got to
strap a bomb to myself and go kill
innocent people. What do we got to say
about this
What we need to say is that people need
to think and make decisions for
themselves and not to surrender their
ideas and their opinions based on just
some people that has certain agendas. We
have the religion of Islam saved 1400
years ago. The revelation from Allah
subhanaa tala unlike the previous
revelations where human beings were
entrusted with it. When it comes to
Islam the the thing that was revealed to
the prophet sallall alaihi wasallam the
Quran and the sunnah meaning his sayings
and his actions is all preserved in
every single detail. So for every human
being to go back and see read the Quran,
read the life of the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam and find for yourself
the purpose of our life and you know
being following the truth. This is our
our duty and one of the sayings of the
prophet that he said that he was sent to
complete and to perfect mannerism on the
face of earth. So we have the perfect
understanding of what mannerism is and
we do not refer back to our opinions or
our desires or what our environment
would say. It's all referred back to the
pure revelation with verse after verse
with hadith after hadith the sayings of
the prophet peace be upon him and it's
all that all clear but for people need
to give the time and learn it and get to
apply it themselves. So before we dwell
into this, so just for the people who've
had some negative stereotypical views
about Islam, Islam has nothing to do
with hurting innocent men, women and
children. I've had many people such as
Shik Wali Bassoon.
Absolutely not. There is actually a
fatwa which has a ruling been issued by
the senior scholars in Saudi Arabia 30
years ago before 911 before all these
happened. Mhm. by
they condemn these things
and he said specifically that it is
forbidden, it is illegal, there is
nothing can justify this that to
specifically mention hijacking
airplanes, attacking urban areas at
civilians and bombing them.
Dr. Balaf, you know, when 9/11 happened,
what did uh Bush say? Bush was the first
one to get on the television and say
this is not an act of Islam.
This is an act of a small band of
terrorists you know who are not acting
according to Islam because Islam means
peace because they say why don't you
have the scholars who are condemn such
actions.
The Quran says don't kill women don't
kill children don't kill old people
don't attack the civilians. This is what
the prophet Muhammad told us.
Innocent people who are dying anywhere
in the world, life is precious. So, but
what is Islam? Clearly, Islam has
nothing to do with any acts of
terrorism.
That's correct.
And Islam, there is no such a thing in
Islam as betraying one's trust and
betraying people by deceiving them and
killing them by by deception and
betrayal and all these types of things
has nothing to do with the religion of
Islam. And people need to separate
between what Islam is the pure message
from Allah subhana wa tala and that if
people do things out of craziness or
whatever there is this something that
should not be related to the pure
message of Islam.
Now the fog is clear the junks out of
the trunk and you can relax. Now we
assuage any fear. We're talking about
good old good stuff. And it starts off
with the foundation of worshiping the
one who created you alone without any
partners. Not setting up a partner next
to God, another God besides God. But at
the same time now you've done that you
acknowledge that look I don't want to
worship the creation I want to worship
the one who created creation simple and
I want to obey the last and final
messenger sent to mankind and he said
and we'll take it from here didn't he
say that I have not been sent except to
perfect good mannerisms is this true
that's true that's correct and when we
see the statement somebody might say but
there are other rulings in the Quran and
in the sunnah the way of the prophet not
just about mannerism so how that
statement ment means that I have I I was
not sent except to perfect the
mannerism. It means that all of the
religion of Islam is all about
mannerism. How is that? Mannerism is of
three types. There is mannerism with
Allah. Mannerism with the messenger of
Allah. Mannerism with the human beings.
Mannerism with Allah meaning meaning
that if he's the one that created us,
he's the one that provided for us. That
means worship him alone. Imagine someone
that he hired you to do some work. A
person going to a food place or whatever
there is and he works for them and
instead of wearing the t-shirt that they
gave him to wear with the logo of the
place, he wears something else and he
calls people to eat somewhere else.
That's not being fulfilling the favors
of what he has in that place. And to
Allah subhanaa tala is the best example.
He created us. He provide for us. He's
the only one worthy of worship. the
mannerism with the prophet peace be upon
him that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the
most high sent him for people to follow.
So we follow his mannerism, his actions,
all of his affairs. We need to humble
ourselves and to have the good mannerism
with him. We do not innovate in the
religion of Islam. Do things that the
prophet peace be upon him didn't do
because we're having the good manners
with him as Allah the most high ordered
us. If people would do these two, the
easiest part of mannerism is to have the
best mannerism with others. We need to
have mannerism with our own selves that
we treat ourselves according to what
Allah the most high wants us to treat
it. There are things in the religion of
al-Islam in the Quran and in the sunnah
of the prophet peace be upon him that
teaches us how to deal with our own
selves, how to deal with our wives and
the wife with the husband, how to deal
with the children, how to deal with the
friends, with the enemies, with the
neighbors. If you are in a in in a in a
place where anybody any relationship any
variable in our life and I'm not
exaggerating and this is something that
people can go back and see for
themselves you will find it in the Quran
and in the sunnah the way of the prophet
wasallam the perfect way of life of
having the best mannerism deeds done by
the heart things to say how to speak how
to act how to look how to hear how to do
any move in our life based on the
perfect way of life our revelation of
Allah
now Some Muslims, I mean, we're all
learning and we come back from days of
ignorance and we got this roughness to
us, real rough, you know, and now we
feel that to be in Islam and and and
this is a misconception, is it that now
some people feel like, you know, I'm not
being, you know, if I'm soft, then, you
know, maybe something's wrong with me. I
need to be this tough guy, you know, in
the in the religion. But if we look to
the last and final messenger, wasn't he
the mercy of mercies? Wasn't he teaching
us opposite of this?
Right? And Allah the most high, he said
in the Quran,
it is by the mercy of Allah that you are
lenient to them.
Lenient.
Lenient to them. And the time of the
prophet wasallam before he was sent the
Arabs at his time, they were so vicious
in some of their acts that they would
kill their own daughters with their own
hands.
Yeah.
What is more rough than this?
And these same people, Allah the most
high changed them by the revelation from
Allah to be the most soft and the most
lenient. And at the same time they are
firm when it comes to the orders of
Allah. They do not compromise anything
of the religion of Allah. The Aisha the
wife of the prophet wasallam she said
that when he was will be at home he will
be in the in the help of his family.
When he when the time for the salah
comes as if we do not know him he is
fulfilling the orders of Allah.
Let's cut to a break. We'll be right
back with more here on the Dean show.
I am not afraid to stand alone.
I am not afraid to stand alone if Allah
is by my side. I am not afraid to stand
alone.
I am not afraid to stand alone. If Allah
is by my side, I am not afraid to stand
alone.
I am not afraid to stand alone. If a
lies by I am not afraid to stand alone
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say to me why did you become a Muslim?
No I I give a very frivolous answer. I
say I want to be on the side of the
angels.
Is a guy he's the number one rap artist
in the world. He sold over 60 million
records worldwide. 60 million.
60 million.
He was a young guy who had basically
everything that some of the youth would
think that life is all about. He had
everything you can imagine.
The show.
Back here on the Dean Show with Sheik
Ibrahim Zan. We're talking about
mannerisms. It's very important. Okay,
you worship, you go to the masid, but
now you act one way in the place of
worship, but now you go outside of the
masid and you might be lying, stealing,
deceiving. Is this what Islam is
teaching us? Of course not. And the
deficiency in this because of the
deficiency of how people make in their
prayers. In the in the beginning of the
show, you talked about Allah subhana t
the most high and how we worship him
alone. If this is perfected, everything
else after that will be in place. And
that's why if we have the proper
mannerism with Allah when we stand in
the salah and we look into the place
where we put our head in the sujud and
the prostration we recite certain things
we say certain things are we
understanding what we're saying is our
hearts working with what our tongue
would be saying when we humble ourselves
and put our head on the ground. The head
is the most honored part of our body and
we put it on the ground not for a human
being but for the creator of the heavens
and earth. This has to do something with
our heart. This is the humbleness that
we're supposed to carry with us outside
the salah. But most of us when we make
the prayers, we just want to get
something done and leave. We don't think
of it. We don't have the say the proper
humbleness. That's why the salah the
prayers does not have an effect in our
life. But in which if we do it in the
proper way, if we we understand that we
are slaves of the creator of the heavens
and earth, then we we'll deal with
people according to what Allah wants
from us. So the the prayers if it's done
in the most perfect way if you
understand what we're saying if we
fulfill the the oneness of worship of
Allah purely and perfectly then we'll
treat each other according to what Allah
the most high wants from us not
according to what we want with one
another. And this is this is what we're
lacking
isn't it? Because we know that when the
Muslims when they went to was it
Indonesia and they had the best manners
in business many people when they saw
the Muslims how they were conducting
themselves they because they were used
to this corruption from them before but
when they embraced the religion the way
of life the complete submission to the
one God and all the etiquets and rules
that one has to follow now it
transformed them and people saw this the
not the non-Muslim and they ended up
accepting Islam too. Is that true?
That's true. That's true. by the
millions and Indonesia is the the the
number one country of Muslims when it
comes to number wise and it was not
opened with matters of jihad. It was by
basically trade and business and things
and this is manners.
This is mannerism. Wow.
And this is how the religion of Islam
spread actually. It's by the mannerism
that people didn't do it just to deceive
people or to call them to the religion.
It's the mannerism that the most high
the creator of the heavens and earth
ordered them to act in a certain way.
One of the incidences that I was
mentioning yesterday, one of the early
generations of Islam that many of the
Muslims do not know him, his name is
Abdah Mubarak. He had a Jewish neighbor
next to him.
Yeah.
And the Jewish neighbor was selling his
house and somebody came and he asked
him, "How much you selling the house
for?" He said, "2,000 dinars, whatever
the currency." He said, "It's only worth
1,000." He said, "Yes, 1,000 for the
house and 1,000 for the neighborhood
that you're buying." Basically the
neighbor which is that man Abdah
Mubarak. So the neighbor was
understanding that this the mannerism of
his neighbor was worth money right. So
when
his neighbor knew about this he gave him
a thousand and he told him keep your
house you don't need to sell your house
he gave his money to the Jewish neighbor
to keep his house and not to leave his
house. This is the mannerism. Who would
on the face of earth would do this?
This is a Jewish neighbor.
This is a Jewish neighbor. Wow.
Right. Because he thought that he's
leaving because he is in need of money.
So the neighbor is taking care of his
neighbor because this is not something
that is of goodness of his own self.
This is the order of the creator of the
heavens and the earth that you're not
good unless you are good to your
neighbors. And your neighbors if they go
sleep when they're hungry, you will be
asked in the day of judgment why did
they go hungry when you are sleeping
full and not hungry. This is
responsibilities that we have as Muslims
on the face of earth. So this is not
only to your brothers because is it true
now the we have brothers in faith but
also we have brothers in humanity that
we want to be our brothers in faith. So
we want the best for everybody. So
sharing is because we care. We care
that's why we share. So we're trying to
share this beautiful way of life with
the world. Now some might say well you
know I'll act one way with with them but
now I'm going to be mean to the others
those that aren't in Islam. We have to
be kind and generous and good with with
everybody. Is this right?
Definitely. Because this is something
that the most high the creator of the
heavens and the earth ordered us and one
of the verses of the Quran says
speak to people people in general with
goodness.
It's not just saying Muslims general
everybody speak to everybody with
goodness. And sometimes you might be
tough on your children for example. This
is goodness.
Why? Because you want them to understand
something and you want them to receive a
certain message. Especially if a person
is in the field of da and calling people
to the truth. He needs to be the most
kind and the most lenient. Not that he
wants to deceive people but he wants to
rub off these types of barriers between
him and them to see the truth. He cares
about them.
So we need to have these types of
mannerism that needs patience.
Yeah.
Right. The neighbor has a right on us.
Right. the the those who we meet in our
life, the more the Muslim is whenever
someone is physically close to you, he
has a right on you and the right of you
that at least he does not receive any
harm from you. Yeah.
And this is something that the prophet
wasallam said when he kept counting the
things of good things that a person can
do even lifting something on someone's
mount someone in his car and you help
him to carry a bag to put it in the car.
This is not just out of the goodness of
yourself. This is the order in the
religion. Revelation came from the
seventh heaven to the human beings to do
this simple act for the sake of Allah
subhana wa ta'ala and if people would do
this this is that they're fulfilling the
orders of Allah subhanaa tala when he
said in this counting these types of
good deeds the least of it that nobody
has an excuse in it the prophet
sallallaihi wasallam said that people
should not be harmed by you this is
charity yeah
when people do not receive any harm from
you then this is a charity this is a
good deed this is good mannerism and
nobody would say I don't I I cannot help
myself by positively being something
mean. Of course not. Stay away from
harming others. This is the least that a
person can do.
This is amazing. And Islam we know is
the fastest growing way of life in the
world today, yesterday and tomorrow. And
if we would be implementing it the right
way, it would only be even growing
faster.
But we don't appreciate it. Many of us,
that's why we're here. here and we hope
that everyone has a sincere open heart
and open mind and they get to benefit
from this important knowledge. not tell
us. We're trying to give some practical
examples. You know, again, some people
coming over from Jahalia. We were there
yesterday. We're coming here today. And
you know, you you're around the brother
and you know, you didn't know he spoke
another language. We're speaking
English, but then he turns the corner
and he's speaking French. And I'm not
talking French fries or French food. I'm
talking about, you know, words that
shouldn't be coming out of a person's
mouth. Is this good mannerisms?
Swearing, cursing. Can a Muslim be doing
this?
Of course not. And why? Because Allah
the most high forbade us. And there are
surah in the Quran that talks about this
and mannerism. Do not mock one another.
Do not call each other names. And when a
person knows that this is from his
creator, then the submission is
different.
Because if it's not from the creator,
people would deal with one another as
rewarding one another or just trying to
get some benefits. But we don't do that
for the benefit of a human being. We're
doing that because we need to be
obedient to Allah subhana wa tala. So
the issue of people when they come into
the masjid or come into Islam and
there's so much or ignorance they come
with they need to take care of
themselves takes time
takes time right
takes time with building the iman
building the faith that what really
becomes the ground for good mannerism
not that be kind do this and do that if
the person's heart is not full of the
belief and the faith and knowing Allah
the most high with his names and
attributes and building this iman
fulfilling the obligations of Allah the
salah and so on then it becomes just uh
not too much of an important attitude
that a person would have unless he would
do that for the sake of Allahh. So that
mouth that we use the tongue to praise
the creator, we should never curse with
it, right?
That's definitely true. This tongue
isn't a trust that we have to use it in
the proper way.
Definitely. We're going to take a break.
We'll be right back with more here on
the Dean Show.
I just want to say very simple message.
One of the beautiful things about our
religion of Islam is the emphasis on
direct ritual and prayer to God
directly. There is no intermediary. The
lights will go on after the party and
the party will end.
It's very simple and very clear. There
are no superstitious rituals, no strange
incantations.
Time is running out. We might not make
it till tomorrow. And this is something
that we need to think about.
Back here on the Dean Show with Sheik
Ibrahim Zadan. People to watch more of
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alhamdulillah, thank the creator. All
thanks is to him that you are here with
us so we can benefit from your
knowledge. So it seems like Islam that
call to acquire peace by submitting to
your will to the to the owner of peace,
the one God, the same God of Jesus,
Moses, Abraham, Noah, that same God that
they call the people to worship. We're
talking about him. The last and final
message sent to mankind prophet Muhammad
peace be upon him. It seems like this is
a comprehensive way of life. Nothing's
left out. Everything how we worship the
creator, how we deal with our neighbors,
etiquets, with our wives, children,
everything is there.
Everything is there. Everything is
saved. And it's not again opinions. It's
text.
This is not your opinion. What you just
made up.
That's right. It's all from the Quran.
The verses of the Quran and the sayings
of the prophet peace be upon him. And
that's what people need to learn and
need to have the patience to apply it.
Even if people are not understanding
this, if they're not on the same page
with you, you're still supposed to be of
the best mannerism because you're doing
that because you're nothing but a
servant of Allah and he ordered you to
do certain things in a c in a certain
way.
Tell us, doesn't this reflect bad on the
da on your call to invite people to
reflect about their purpose of life, why
they're here, but now you're acting like
a clown, like a fool. you're not
implementing Islam and now you end up
being a you know you you end up being a
hindrance because isn't it like you you
you go ahead and and and you live one
way in front of let's say the brothers
or sisters in the masid but you go out
here and you're acting foolish you're
not implementing Islam doesn't this now
confuse people say you don't want me to
come to Islam weren't you at the
nightclub the other day don't you treat
people disrespectfully what do I have to
gain by following Islam because you're
being a bad example
right and this is exactly what The
prophet peace be upon him he said that
some of you are meaning some of you are
repellent.
Subhan Allah.
That make people run away from seeing
the truth which is another evil that we
might fall in without knowing. So we
have to have that responsibility. If you
say that I'm a Muslim comes with it a
responsibility that you have a message
on the face of earth. You don't have to
be talking to people calling them. It's
your action and your conduct. When it's
time for the prayer and you leave
everything, even if it's a million
dollar, you leave it to obey the orders
of Allah to pray. The same thing you
deal with them, you buy and sell, you're
truthful, you're doing the things that
you're supposed to do because you're
nothing but an obedient slave to Allah
subhana tala. That by itself is the
image that we need to do, not just to
get people in, but because this is the
order of Allah subhanaa tala. We'll be
asked about it in the day of judgment.
Tell us now before we come to an end. It
just came to my mind that a person is it
true he can be fasting and praying and
doing all these ritual things but now on
the other end he doesn't have good
ethics, morals, manners and now in the
day of judgment is going to be taken
from his good deeds. He was backbiting.
He was doing a lot of hideous things.
Isn't this
this is a hadith. This is a saying of of
the prophet peace be upon him that he
asked his companions one day he said do
you know who's the bankrupt among my um
mama
dead broke
dead broke they said the one that
doesn't have money so the prophet peace
be upon him correcting their
understanding and this is what we
correct our understanding when we go
back to the Quran and the sunnah he told
them the bankrupt the broke among my
ummah is the one that comes in the day
of judgment with prayers with fasting
with all kinds of good deeds but he came
and he had cursed so and so and he had
attacked the honor and so and so he had
physically attacked someone.
Wow.
So these people come in the day of
judgment and they would take from his
good deeds and they would put it onto
them. They would take it from him till
he has no more good deeds because the
balance in the day of judgment is good
deeds versus bad deeds. And still he has
some things in his account that he
abused others and so on and still he
does not have any good deeds. They would
take from their own bad deeds and they
put it on him and he will end up being
thrown into the hay. This is a man that
came thinking that he's in the Jenna
straight to paradise. But he ends up
being in the hellfire becomes in his
record sins that he didn't do and Allah
is the most just but because of this
transgression that he transgressed the
bounds and the limits and attacked
others by word of mouth by physically
attacking them that would bring the sins
on him and they would come in the day of
judgment and take from him
bad manners.
Bad manners. So this is very very
emphasized in Islam keeping your
promises
of course
being a person of your word
and this is the signs of hypocrisy if a
person doesn't the prophet prophet peace
be upon him and he said the sign of a
hypocrite is three that when whenever he
promises he breaks his promise whenever
he speaks he lies whenever he quarrels
some with someone he is beyond the
mannerism that means he abuses so much
to quarrel some with others which is
basically bad mannerism signs of
hypocrisy that negates the belief and
the the attitude of a believer that
makes the belief deficient. That means
the relationship between mannerism and
belief. It's not belief is not just
something in the heart. Belief, eman in
Islam, belief is something done by the
heart, something said by the tongue and
something done by the whole parts of the
body. It's all faith. It's all belief
that increases and decreases.
Closing comments and suggestions for
those who are struggling. They want to
do the right thing, you know, and
they're trying to get back past some of
their bad behavior from the past. They
love this because it's increasing their
iman and this is getting them more into
Islam. They just need some more advice.
Give it to them.
If there is one advice that I can say in
in seconds, turn to Allah, the creator
of the heavens and the earth alone
sincerely, truthfully, that as if you
are drowning and you seek help. You
won't seek help from a human being. When
you're drowning and there's nothing
around you, no means you would turn
sincerely to the creator of the heavens
and earth. Turn to him with that same
attitude that he would help you to be
steadfast on the truth that will make
you see the truth and make you among
those who had the best mannerism. If we
do that truthfully, we'll take the
proper means and we'll seek the proper
means from the Quran and the Sunnah of
the prophet wasallam. Putting our trust
in Allah subhana wa ta'ala and learning
and acting, learning and acting, they go
together. They don't separate from one
another. And this is what we need to do.
Mannerism is something that we need to
learn. We don't know it by default. We
need to learn it according to the way of
prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. And
one last thing is for Muslims and
non-Muslims. The basic human right if we
need to correct the understanding of
what human rights is. The basic human
right people need to know about Islam.
This is the right of every human being
on the face of earth that people don't
make barriers between them and between
knowing the true message of Islam. This
is their right and we need to fulfill
that right to others and to be in their
service to get them to know the pure
message of Al Islam.
Thank you so much. And may the one God,
the same God of Abraham, Moses, Noah,
and the last and final messenger to sent
a man kind of prophet Muhammad peace be
upon him. May he reward you, the one God
who created man and woman, but he's not
a man and woman. The one God
Thank you very much.
Thank you. And we keep saying on every
show because this is the foundation and
you cannot build a house on a weak
foundation is that you submit to the
call to worship the one God and no buts
ands ifs after that. Not three and one,
one and three, four and five, six, just
one. Leave it alone. Child can
understand that. And then we need to
perfect our mannerisms, our etiquets,
how we conduct ourselves with the
Muslims and the not yet Muslims. We have
to be the best of examples. And how you
going to do that? Following your own
whims and desires. No, you got to submit
to the one who created you. And he sent
down the verbatim word of God, which is
the Quran. And we have the last and
final messenger sent to mankind, the
prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, his
way, his example, the authentic hadith.
The same way if you were living during
the time of Moses, it was the same
message. Obey the messenger that was
sent. Worship the one God and obey the
messenger. And this is the last and
final message sent to mankind, the
prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. And
we hope that you got the benefit and
we'll see you next time, God willing,
inshallah.