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talking about boys, girls, men, women,
marriage, hot topic with my next guest,
Baba Ali, here on the Dean Show. Don't
go nowhere.
I don't know why I did that. Maybe it's
Maybe it's just to break the ice.
Assalam allayikum.
Welcome to
Peace be onto you, brother.
Peace be upon to you, too.
How are you?
Good. Alhamdulillah. How are you?
You're back again.
Yes, I'm back again.
It's just like I just saw you.
It just feels like a few minutes ago.
All right, man. We're here. I'm excited
that you're here. We're going to be
talking about people can go to the
deanshow.com and we we got to talk about
how you actually came to this beautiful
way of life, the way of life of all the
messengers that submission is written to
God alone and not his creation. But in
this show, we're going to be talking
about something that is on the minds of
the people. You got this yearning. You
got this feeling. You want to be with
the opposite gender. Man wants to be
with woman. Woman wants to be with man.
I mean now and they end up doing things
that aren't according to how the creator
wants them to do it. Now you have some
experience. I mean we live in America
and some things just become normal. You
know I'm going to see Sally and Betty
and we're just dating and then you know
we test drive and we have a good time
and then people get heartbrok
let's let's let's just flow with this.
Tell us you know uh what is your
experience and and and with this whole
you know and it's become something
that's prevalent now amongst the
Muslims. Yeah, unfortunately these days
you see a lot of Muslims their
the parents have made marriage very
difficult for them. Actually it's not
the parents I would say the culture that
the parents have implemented on them.
Um actually if you look at Islam Islam
made marriage very easy.
It's a very easy process and very easy
to go through it. Um unfortunately uh
our culture many of the people from the
Middle East have this culture that they
implemented and forced upon their
children that has nothing to do with
Islam. Actually most of the time it
conflicts with Islam that has made uh
marriage very difficult for the young
people. So now they're resorting to
dating and resorting to doing all these
type of uh prohibited acts under right
under the noses of parents and every
parent is like you know what my son my
daughter they're not doing it.
Yeah.
But they're usually the last people to
find out. It's someone's son and
daughter and most likely it may be
yours.
So this thing is I mean with with when
you live in Islam it's very simple. You
need the guardian, your father or
someone there to
say, "Okay,
because they want to see who this guy
is." Yeah. Obviously, you don't want
some bum coming in the house and he's
maybe a crook, maybe this, that. The man
kind of sniff it [clears throat] out,
right?
Yeah. You can smell [laughter] a rat.
Yeah.
You know, guys can tell what the other
guy is trying to con my sister. He wants
to trick my sister, you know. And this
is natural. No matter what religion you
are, you know, the the father, he's a
little protective of his daughter. You
know, I don't want some guy I've been
this I've holding this diamond in my
hand for the last 18 to 20 years of her
life and now you're knocking on the
door. You just want to take the diamond
out of my hand. I've been protecting
this thing. I'm not just going to hand
over to anybody.
I want What's up? Who are you?
What's your story? Are you trying to
trick her? You're going to try
[laughter] to trick her with emotion,
but I'm not going to get emotional. I'm
not going to go cry cry and say, "Uh uh
oh, you're loveydvey." No, I'm going to
see who you are as a person. And
sometimes guys can see stuff that other
guys uh that other girls can may not
see.
Yeah. And then two witnesses.
Two witnesses. So they can say there's
evidence of saying, "Okay, these two
people, they did say it that they this
person wants this person. This person
wants this person."
Yeah.
And then let's have a party.
Let's have a halal party.
Yeah. Hal party.
That's it. It's done. We don't need
50,000.
No $50,000. No chandelier. No people
riding at our office. Hey, we're getting
married. [laughter] You know, it's just
an easy marriage. But these days,
parents make these difficult conditions,
these obstacles, these these loops you
have to jump through just to get
married. You have parents say, "Okay, I
want a $50,000 wedding." $50,000 a house
in some areas.
Yeah.
I mean, with the rate that people are
getting divorced, you can get married
now and you're still paying for and get
divorced and you're still paying for
your marriage. You know, it's
unfortunate. A lot of this has to do
with show like to show to just to be the
to keep up with the Joneses to be better
than the next person and say okay look
our wedding was 50,000 our wedding was
100,000 our wedding was amazing and
these kids most time you ask the kids
they don't they don't even want it
they want something easy and simple and
they just want to be with the person
that they found for the rest of their
life not to come back with the uh a
little debt letter that says oh you're
in debt for the next uh 10 years of your
life paying us $20,000 for that one just
that one night
four hours
yeah it doesn't make sense but Islam
makes it easy but the people
make it hard
make it difficult
tell us now what I mean what advice can
we give to the youth out there also I
mean some parents are making it
difficult but you know to be real some
parents aren't some parents really are
doing things right but the youth some of
them are just caught up
in society and you know going to the
nightclubs you know the guy's got a
woman and he's like coming to Islam but
still he can't let go of this girl from
the as you came in in your story that
you talked and you came full force. You
left
Yes.
this girlfriend you had before because
you love the creator and you wanted to
do what he wanted you to do. You didn't
want to find I want to do things the
right way.
Yeah.
There's different ways of doing things.
There's a wrong way and the right way.
You want to make business, do it, but do
it in a way without cheating people.
You want to be with a girl, do it. But
accept that responsibility. It says,
"Look, I will take care of you from now
on. I will feed you, provide for you,
clothe you, take care take care of your
emotional needs, your your physical
needs, every needs that you I'm here to
I'm here for you. Not here I'm here to
spend one night with you and the next
day with next person and next day with
one person this girl's pregnant and next
thing you know you have baby mamas left
and right.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
That's not that's not that's a broken
society. And this society has many many
broken pieces to it and a lot of it has
to do with marriage before sex. Marriage
before sex before marriage. So I'm
getting myself all confused. But yeah,
it's it's it's it's sad. And this a lot
of Muslims think, okay, my daughter, she
went to Islamic school, she wears hijab
and none of this stuff is happening. She
doesn't desire boys. She desires boys
after her PhD. No, that's not reality.
Reality is at a certain age, men desire
women and women desire men. And our
creator made us and put our instincts
inside of us and knows and gives a
prescription just like the doctor gives
a prescription and says this is the way
to do it and this is will give you
success and you go the other way it'll
give you failure.
We're here just giving some real advice.
I mean we're not two shakes. We don't
have uh you know just normal people. We
you know
experience a lot of things living in
society. So we can keep it real. We can
give some real advice. Brother came up
to me and I want to see what advice
would you give this brother? He's
committed to trying to change himself.
Yeah.
He's going after the knowledge that's
gonna help to change him, but he says,
"You know what? I just can't give this
up. I can't give up dating these women.
It's hard." What advice would you, He's
a young man, strong, and this is a hard
time he's having. What are some of the
steps now that you think that, you know,
from your personal experiences, advice
that you can give this brother?
You know, the whole desire thing is is
very difficult. anyone who's gonna sit
up here and say, "You know what? Just
give this up and give this up." That is
easier said than done, they're either
not being real or they haven't been
through it. I as a person can tell you
straight up, it's very difficult. Your
desires, your heart, it's it's pulling
you to go after something.
But if you're connected to the hereafter
and you you want that paradise more than
you want that girl, you reminded this
life will come an end. This is a this
life is like a dream and all these
things are like trials and tests for
you. And if you have that in the back of
your head, that helps you become
stronger. Number two is put your who who
are your companions. If you're hanging
out with a bunch of guys who have a
bunch of girlfriends and you're sitting
there as the third wheel, of course, you
be pushing to this.
Yeah.
But hang out with people who follow the
same type of thing and going to keep you
strong. Do other activities until you
have enough money and have resources
until you can get married. I play
basketball with my friends. I go do all
kinds of stuff and we just keep
ourselves busy until we're all prepared
enough to have enough finances to get
married. You know, all all these things
make are factors. All these things are
variables. You put yourself in that
situation. You know what? I'm not I'm
going to be a good person. I'm just
going to go to the club. I'm just going
to watch. [laughter]
They're not going to watch. You know,
watching it takes these baby steps. You
know, Shayan will pull you step by step.
He doesn't scream. He whispers, "You
know what? Just go spend time with her.
You just talk to her about Islam. You
know, now that you're talking to her
about Islam, spend a little more time
with her. You know, maybe she's lonely.
Maybe she doesn't need to be [laughter]
lonely. Maybe just go spend some time
with her. Oh, you know what? She has so
much clothes on. Maybe she's hot. Help
her take off the clothes. And then
working, you know, we got all our
clothes on. What's going on here?
And then, yeah, it's crazy, man. It's
Shayan. He's He's very smart. He's got
he's got
he's been there since day one. So he has
a lot of practice.
Uhhuh.
A lot of practice.
So you're tricking yourself. You're
thinking, "Okay, maybe she's there.
Maybe she's in that club. Maybe I can
change her."
Yes. And you I'm going to the club,
not so I can dance and boogie. I am
there so I can teach people Islam.
[laughter] I don't want to preach. I
will just wait there until someone ask
me what Islam is. But while I'm waiting,
I'll just dance a little. [laughter]
You know, it's like it's like this
confusion. I think really really think
to yourself, who are you fooling? You're
only fooling yourself. Really, you're
only fooling yourself. And
unfortunately, we all fall into this
this this struggle. And you really It's
tough. It's really tough. Especially in
this society where you have temptation
everywhere from billboards to television
to everything. It's everywhere around
us. And it's tough. But then again,
paradise isn't cheap. You can't buy
yourself in. You can't you can't walk
with a PhD or say, "Oh, I'm from this
family and that family." You have to
earn it. And you earn that by going
through the struggles and by passing
those struggles. And this itself, this
this marriage and this desire thing is a
struggle that we go in as our youth.
It's tough. All of us have to go through
it. So you're not alone.
We love our brothers. We love our
sisters. We just want to give them
sincere advice. We talked about the
brothers. Now you got our sisters out
there. Some of them are falling in the
trap, you know, falling fi finding
themselves, you know, being alone with a
guy and trying to, you know, because men
they admire, they lust and they look and
women, you know, uh, shirt up to here,
then up to here and then following the
latest fashions and getting caught into
just being more of a object and then
getting used and abused and maybe
falling for some of the naive tricks
that that guy who's after her, you know.
Yeah.
Have you come across this also? Men are
very smart. So for the women that are
watching, no matter what religion or
background you're from, women you are,
the ones that are older have figured
this out by now, but the men will tell
you exactly what you want to hear. They
have this lust. They have this desire
that there's hungry for. It's a hunger.
And when you're hungry and you're and
you need to be fed, you're going to say
what you need to do. Say what you need
to say so you can get what you need to
get. And you don't care whose heart you
break. You don't you say, "Oh, how are
men so mean? They're they're hungry.
They're going for his desire. And when
you have no guidance and you have no
fear of your creator, you're gonna say
whatever you want to say.
But he loves me.
But he loves me. Yeah, right. He doesn't
love you. He loves something else.
[laughter]
So this is a trick.
And I'm a guy. I'm going to tell you
straight up. But oh no, he's different.
How [laughter] many girls have said
that? Ask yourself, no, our love is like
no love ever in the world, and we're
going to love each other forever and
ever and ever until we end up in divorce
court two years from now.
Uhhuh.
So it's funny. All these people say,
"Oh, lovey loveby loveydwy." How much?
Look at the divorce rate around the
world. It's over 50%. And that's the
people who decide to stay uh to get
divorced. There's so many people that
are connected and they can't get
divorced and they're married and
miserable. They're stuck because of
kids. They're stuck because of family
issues. They're stuck because of
whatever. Those don't even come those
those stats don't even come there. And
there's people who don't even live with
each other. You know, they just decide,
okay, we're just be separated.
Mhm.
I'm going to stay together because of
tax reasons.
[laughter]
So it's like and it's unfortunate
relationship if it does not have the the
the universal bond and that's connected
with our values with the right thing and
you know how to treat her and she knows
how to treat you and this is what Islam
teaches us by the way
how to treat a woman not what you see on
TV not just mumbo jumbo they try to
teach you on television but really the
way a Muslim should treat his wife and
his wife should treat her husband it's
it's it's amazing and if you really look
into It it's it's beautiful. Like your
woman, all her desires must be taken
care of. For an Islamic in a
relationship man for her physical needs,
her emotional needs, her even her sexual
needs have to be all taken care of by
the husband. On top of that, if she
needs help in around the house, you try
to help her. You get reward for that.
You know, these are encouragements.
You're encouraged to do it. And the and
Islam teaches us the best of you is
who's best to his wife. This t teaches a
man to like go even beyond of that.
Compete with other men to be better for
your wife. So she and look if we had a
if we had a society built on this how
much of an impact it'll make and to
treat her with honor. Islamically even
if you die defending her honor it's died
as a shahid that mean to get paradise
her honor so much protected. Now we have
all this crazy stuff men just going
around beating their wives and all this
domestic violence all this crazy stuff
over what? over is is it's just crazy.
It's crazy how when you go towards
culture what it gives you and when you
go towards Islam what it gives you and
unfortunately we have too many people
towards culture and not enough people
towards Islam.
That's what we need. We need to learn
this way of life and we need to live it
live it purely and the way it has been
prescribed not according to our desires
or any customs or cultures.
It's very simple. Now what encouragement
I mean some of the benefits from leaving
off following your lust and desires and
going off and living a life of just you
know uh from one guy girl to the next
where you come and and and and do
something that's sacred and you come
together even at the end I mean if it
comes to divorce it's not the end of the
world but what encouragement can we give
them that you know what this is a
[clears throat] healthier way of life to
live
you know even the divorce issue you just
brought up right now Islam allows it
but this is the worst uh uh allowed
thing that you can do. It makes
according to Islam makes the throne of
Allah subhanaa tala shake uh it's the
one that he the least the less he knows
that this is something that can possibly
happen but it's the last resort
unfortunately for many Muslims today
it's the first resort you know they jump
straight to tala which means divorce go
straight to it and as soon as you find
the smallest thing wrong and not not
just the guys girls girls as well I
think this is because we just jump into
the whole oh Hollywood ohm Mhm.
You know, Prince Charmmer is going to
come and riding his little horse and
he's going to say, "Oh, you do this and
perfect and my husband, he's going to be
just like Brad Pitt and he's going to
say the right words at the right time
and blah blah blah blah." Yeah.
And then you come home, you realize his
socks are on the couch and he's
scratching himself.
You realize, wait a second, that's not
the husband I was looking for in
Hollywood. And then he says, first mean
thing he said to me, boom, I want a
divorce. And then next thing you know,
okay, I want divorce, too. Now that
everyone is single and divorced and like
what happened?
What makes it work? I mean, because I
think that's what it is. You get caught
up watching too many movies you're not
supposed to be watching, first of all,
with all with all this junk out there
and you start living this fantasy.
Yeah.
And you think that this is what marriage
is. It's some fantasy fulfilled.
Yeah.
What do you think about this?
It it's it is unfortunately this is
movies. They do this so you can buy
their movies so you can watch their
movies. They do this so they can fool
you to think this is real life when in
reality it's not real life whatsoever.
Marriage life is completely different.
No one prepares you what to expect for
marriage. I wish they did but they don't
really prepare you. Let me tell you from
the very beginning. You know what since
we're on doing the Dean show, I'll tell
you straight up and you're going to hear
in the Dean show first. Marriage is
hard. I'm married. I've been married for
eight years. It's not easy. It's a
struggle.
It's not just easy difficult for me.
Sometimes difficult for my wife
sometimes because men and women are very
different. We think differently. We act
differently. Our brains, our chemicals,
all our mind is all completely
different. And you put two completely
different people together and they're
trying to communicate. Doesn't always
necessarily work out. And you learned
you learn to be patient. That's one of
the first things you learn in marriage.
Patience. You learn to work with
another. You learn to compromise.
Sometimes I'm going do stuff she likes.
Sometimes she's going to do stuff I
like.
Yeah. All these things you you sacrifice
but you do it for the sake of your
creator and say look I'm going to do it
you know I'm arguing with her but I'm
going and I know she did something that
was very hurtful for me but I will
forgive her or he she may say I may
forgive him and the reason you forgive
with the hope that because in Islam if
you forgive someone you do it with the
hope that Allah will forgive you for
something that you did because we're all
human beings and we all make mistakes we
all make errors and we have all so much
of her accountable for on the day of
judgment. So you do that with the hope
that Allah will forgive something of
yours on the day of judgment. Make your
life easier in the hereafter. And when
you have this type of mentality and this
type of mindset, your marriage and
there's tranquility it can be in your
marriage.
So on one end here by coming together to
do the right thing, man and woman,
getting married, living life according
to how your creator wants you to live,
all about rewards, benefits.
Exactly.
I mean, you're gonna have your tests and
trials. Yes. It's not all sugar and
roses and sweets,
but you get through it and you get
rewarded. You even get rewarded for
having intimate relations with your
wife. Yes, you do.
That's a beautiful thing.
You do it correctly.
If you do the everything correctly, you
get reward for it. You get reward for
kissing your wife or sleeping with your
wife and she gets reward for it as well.
You know, you're staying away from the
bad things. You're trying to stay
towards the good things. You're doing
things Islamically the way the creator
wanted you to do things. And by doing
things correctly, you get reward for it.
Of course, you go towards the wrong
direction, you get punished for it.
Yeah.
So again, by all comes back down to
accountability. Every action we do,
we're gonna be accountable for.
Everything that we say, even even this
dean show is being written for us and be
accountable for. And this is why it's so
important for us to do things the right
way.
That's the other side. Now, we talked
about all the rewards here. Like you
said, now you get punished for it. You
don't want to I mean, Allah, the creator
of the heavens and earth, is the most
merciful. You stop, you repent, he
forgives all sins.
Yes.
Except if you die associating partners
with him. That's something he doesn't
forgive. So hopefully Allah guides us
all to do the right thing. Now over
here, you're playing games. It's a game,
isn't it? A game. You're going around in
circles, you know, chasing this person,
that person. I mean, you're never
satisfied.
No.
You're never satisfied. And you risk
What if you die on that and you get
resurrected in that state? That's a
horrible state to get it caught up. Even
even if you survive in this life, what
if you end up with so many people have
so many diseases?
Diseases. Uh illegitimate children. What
about that child now? Huh?
Yeah. You have a child that you're
raising and then she's going to go
around sleeping with more men.
Who knows? She may have kids, different
kids from different guys.
Well, imagine what kind of lifestyle
this poor child has to be raised in.
Yeah,
it's tough. I mean we we have a societ
the entire world or for our Muslim um we
have um which is the whole all all the
people and these this um is made of up
of of countries and these countries are
made up of cities and these cities are
made of communities and these local
communities are made out of just
families and the basic foundation of a
family is a husband and wife. Mhm.
When you break that basic foundation of
a husband and wife and you have all
these divorced people with little kids
and they can't get married and you make
these young guys, they can't get married
because their parents are making it too
hard.
What kind of society you're going to
have? You have these people that just
frustrated
Yeah.
for one reason or another. And what kind
how can you focus on school, focus on
work, and focus on this? Naturally, men
and women are supposed to be together.
Yeah. And you got to get out and do it.
She's not going to come knock or he's
not going to just come knock. You got to
get out there.
Well, if you're waiting for a prince
drama to knock on the door, there's no
prince drama knock on the door. It
doesn't happen. You have to go out there
and look for the right person. And the
guy looking for the right girl and look
for someone based on their character,
not based on their culture, not based on
their money, not based on the stuff, not
based on stuff they had no choice of
which family they're born in. Look for
something of their character, the way
they look at their creator, the way they
look at their values. And and hopefully
in she carries the same values you do
and that will keep that person will keep
you in check when you go the wrong way
and you keep her in check when you go
the wrong way. You know, I mean these
these are the things that can make
possibly a good recipe for a good
marriage.
Now, how could we get brothers like our
brother Imran and this brother Muhammad
and this brother so and so Chris and all
the other brothers Greg and I I just
there's so many of them say and they're
all trying to get married.
We got to lose the brothers, man.
How do we help them? I mean, we got to
give some kind of solution now. I mean
something where they can go somewhere
where
the number one best way to do it if you
can go through family you go through
family but if you can't go through
family because family is the best way
they can they know someone that knows
someone it's always better it's easier
if you don't know then there might be
social gatherings if you're like myself
where I come to from a family that
doesn't necessarily practice any type of
religion and you need to find someone
and you look around and like nothing
around me is working um I tried going on
the internet and start making uh
checking out the matchmaking websites
out
They weren't good. They list people like
their used cars.
This is the height. This is the weight.
This is the et blood type. And honestly,
you don't go to people and say, "Hey,
so how much you weigh?" [laughter]
And you say that to a girl, you're in
big trouble, man. But uh in real life,
you ask people questions when you want
to learn about them. And so I made up a
website called halfhourdan.com.
And that's basically a website for
trying to help people, guys, to get
married. And I ask questions about what
you're looking for in a in a spouse and
and what would and what is that what are
you like and I ask all these questions
regarding family regarding dean
regarding all the different parts of
your life and uh and then and then when
you look at someone's profile I'll tell
you you're a 75% match on religious
religious beliefs 24% match on
personality 10% match on character you
learn a lot more about your
compatibility.
Because not every single girl is going
to match with what I'm looking for in a
wife. And I'm not going to match for a
lot of girls what they're looking for in
a husband. Some people may look for a
shy guy. Some guys are looking for a guy
who's very assertive. And some people
are looking for a guy who's very
ambitious. Different people are looking
for different things. So, and we're all
different and your taste is very
different. It's kind of like you go to a
garden, there's all these different
types of flowers and they all have the
different scents. You may like roses. I
may like some other type of flower.
doesn't make one better than the other.
We're just trying to find half our dean.
The whole website's about trying to find
you and that one person that's going to
match with you.
Now, how does someone I say want to send
my daughter there? I can't find her now.
How do I know? How do I feel secure that
she's not going to be taken advantage
out? Because there's a lot of
people out there who aren't serious.
They might be just trying to sneak
through the cracks.
There's a couple things I try to do and
nothing is guaranteed. No matter what
website or even in person, you always
want to try to do research and try to
find out more and more about the person.
This website is here to try to filter
out all these people. It's kind of like
taking when they're searching for gold,
you have all this dirt there and just
shaking it until you have a couple
pieces of pebbles left. And now now you
have to go into detail how good quality
of gold this is. So that's what the
website's doing. What we're doing is
trying to filter all these different
people. So the questions we ask will
tell you a percentage of how you guys
match on different things. But on top of
that, we let each person ask 21
questions that's important to you.
Like right now, we're in Chicago.
One of the questions you may ask is,
"Are you willing to move to Chicago?"
If the person says no, then why are you
uh talking to the person if you guys if
that's the only place you're going to
live?
Yeah.
Or you say, "What are your what is your
idea about this or what is your idea
about that?" You can ask these questions
before they even meet the person
and they can answer these questions
before you actually officially talk. And
you can and you can go ask her answer
her questions, she can ask your
questions. You're learning a little bit
more about each other. Yeah. After all
of this and you go through all these
different profiles and you say, you know
what, this is a person I think may be a
possible match. Then you can contact
them. Maybe speak to their parents, ask
for permission, you know, and maybe they
can talk to your parents. Maybe you guys
can talk talk to some of the friends
that they know. Find out which community
they're involved in. You know, it's
resource. You don't just go find someone
off the internet and say, "Hey, guess
what? Let's get married." You got to
keep your family involved.
Exactly. Try to get family involved and
you never know who's on the internet and
that's why it's important. But I found
my wife halfway around the world and I
couldn't find one in my local community
and if if it wasn't for the internet,
there's no way I would have found her.
Yeah. You just got to be careful. Always
ask Allah, be connected to your creator
to make it easy and to protect you.
Exactly.
Yeah. So, any uh closing comments and
suggestions for those single people out
there that you know what, they can
relate to what we're saying. They just
need a little extra extra uh push.
Yeah, you hit it right there on the
spot. I mean, it's not easy. The whole
marriage thing is very difficult for all
of us. All of us. You know, even before
you're married, you go through a certain
type of struggle. After you get married,
you go through a different type of
struggle. But the whole life itself is a
struggle. It's all a struggle. And at
the end, there is there will come an
end. And when it comes to the end, you
just want your good deeds to be better
than your bad deeds. and you want your
creator to have mercy on you and to give
you success in the hereafter inshallah
and that's it just pray to Allah to make
you strong to give you patience and uh
inshallah hopefully inshallah it'll be
successful for you
halfardan
halfardan.com
thank you very much for
inviting me
well thank you for being with us and I
like to thank you for tuning in to
another episode of the dean show you got
to hear it here we're trying to give you
that sincere advice to get motivated to
find that special person to be with.
Never exclude your family. Always have
them involved in this process, your
imam, somebody who's there with you
helping you. But the most important
thing is that you have that connection
with your creator and you're always
beseeching his help. And inshallah,
everything will be all right. With that
said, we look forward to seeing you next
week here on the Dean Show. Until then,
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