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to be talking about the youth trying to
understand the youth why some of them
have drifted off and got involved in
gangs and drugs and shootings and colors
and Crips and this and that when we come
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I don't know why I did that maybe maybe
it's just to break the
ice break the ice a little bit so they
can see this beautiful smile of
yours how are you alhamdulillah we had
you here with us before right and people
can go to the Deans show.com and they
can see your biography they can read a
little bit about you and we're glad that
you are here with us again on the dean
show you are doing wonderful J I love
the show Dean show alhamdulillah every
time I want on YouTube something I say
okay let me see what's on Dean show youf
sometimes other sh sh beautiful work
beautiful work inshah we encourage you
to continue getting better and better
and improving your work M thank you may
Allah accept this from from all of us
and may we be in the higher levels of
paradise am mean yes so uh you still
playing ball I'm still trying yeah yeah
I'm trying I'm trying nice one of the
guy he said I um I was told and then he
said no no no I I think you believe
you're a good basketball player and I
said let us rewind that take the belief
part and let us go to the court and let
us let the ball speak for us I heard
Shaquille O'Neal he accepted Islam is
this true or just a
rumor I can tell you what I know yeah um
I think was way back when Al was playing
with the Raptors and also m an was also
playing with for the rapsters here and
when the game between Raptors and uh
Lakers at that time when the game
finished of course friend of Madu was
also with them and his wife was wearing
hijab yeah and of course this is what it
is and Subhan Allah in that environment
shail came you know Vince that was like
you know he put his guy and he said when
sh comes let me know yeah so everybody
all the rapor players were excited to
see shik even though they just finished
game with him but they want a personal
you know handshake a personal greeting
yeah so when shaki was about to come the
boy or the man reported to Vince SC that
he's here so meanwhile Shaquil noticed a
sister and her husband who's wearing
hijab she is there so he stopped going
to them and he went to them yeah and he
G gave them the greeting of Islam the
the greeting of Peace huh peam alaykum
yeah and then some of the guy's like are
you a Muslim and he turned you know how
big is it of course I am I'm a Muslim
wow so that's what the guy reported but
he said he was there alhamdulillah so
Muslim is simply for our non-muslim
guest someone who's chosen freely
consciously to surrender and submit to
the creator of the heavens and earth
absolutely absolutely no one else but
that unique one God the same God of
Jesus Moses Abraham Noah all the
prophets of God and the last and final
messenger Muhammad sahu alaihi was that
people can actually get to know from the
last show that we did about his life
absolutely now your hip I mean you know
what's going on on basketball you know
what's going on you know out there with
the youth and
unfortunately there are a lot of Youth
that are getting caught up into some of
the vices out there gangs drugs all
these other things that are going on and
we want to help encourage them to come
back to the correct way why do you think
this is actually happening to some of
the youth let's start off with that well
you have to understand when you're young
especially start you know when you're a
baby and young boy under you know 14 15
you still under influence of your
parents yeah so you listen to them you
they ask you to pray you pray but most
of the time he like man what do I have
to pray you know God doesn't need my
prayers a lot of times or some say I
know you know I have to pray but it's
too much much or I don't want to pray
I'm too
lazy and as they grow they gain their
independence yeah so they think they now
I'm a man you know I'm I'm an
independent person I'm an adult I will
do what I want to what I feel doing and
then those guys who were raised in
Islamic environment they may go little
bit off track then come back now those
people are not the problem the problem
is those the actual ones that whom their
parents were too busy to educate them
about Islam or the parents would think
by bringing the child to Sunday school
for two hours and then picking up their
daughters without hijab and we asked the
daughter to we the young girl to wear
hijab at school and the mother you know
she comes to the message she puts hijab
on she gets into her car she takes over
hijab and this young lady she sees this
and say well hijab is not that important
my mother's not wearing why do I have to
wear it and both parents are working
most of the time and what happened this
kid is start you know developing his own
personality which later on will come
something that is pro uh issue with the
family mhm these guys are difficult to
bring them back yeah they are difficult
because they don't know anything about
Islam yeah I remember in in arwa this
father he walks into uh the imam's house
after midnight
and he said sh you have to talk to my
daughter she wants to move in with her
boyfriend and the question that the IM
asked was old Egyptian man he said how
old is your daughter she said
25 and he said you you know left your
responsibility for 25 years and now when
you realize the problem you coming
running to me I cannot help you this age
wow so what is what is the problem with
the youth is all this temptation around
them but at the same time not having
that role model to follow or the
environment that was needed for the
communities to create for them we're not
doing our job and I don't blame these
kids for a bit but I would advise them
listen we have new
Muslims already been there they saw
everything they felt everything they
felt the pain of of ignorance of J of
they can tell you about it you don't
have to go experience yourself just
listen to their stories read about them
sit with them ask what happened why they
become a Muslim and why are you going
away from Islam you know and you going
Direction where they just came back from
so my with these guys would be listen
chill relax and cool down come back to
Islam and you will see Islam a lot of
you also misconception about Isam Islam
they think is I'm going to the Masid and
I'm going to just read and I'm just not
going to do anything and that is the
wrong impression it's not is having fun
we play ball we play soccer in
alhamdulillah we have soccer league we
have a basketball league we have you
know hocky H everything is there
anything that is Hal for entertainment
is there yeah so you made a very
important point now the parents so it
looks like we first need to rewind a
little bit and give some advice to the
parents prevention Islam is all about
prevention let's talk about the
preventive measures that parents could
take so they don't end up with something
dangerous like this on their hands where
the youth is totally gone and maybe in
drugs and where it's too late let's talk
about this now see Subhan Allah when
Allah subhana said in the
qur indeed you have an excellent
example it's true everything that in in
your life you know dealing with media
you know dealing with the politicians
dealing with you know you know drug
dealers or you know alcohol everything
is there you come come fine so I
remember one of the instance from the s
wasam a mother who wants to call her
child she said sweetie take this take
this and the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam he looked at her hand and he
said I hope you have something for
that because if you don't then you're
lying to that child and it would be sin
on your book MH you know what does that
show it shows that as a parent you got
to be role model you know you don't have
to lecture these children but just live
Islam pray and they will see Salah is
important go to the Masid as often or as
hard as you try going to your job and
the child will see Masid is important be
honest and they will be honest I have my
daughter she is you know a year and a
half as soon as her mother start praying
she runs and she grabs her little hijab
and she prays right next to her Tamia
yeah how because the she saw her mother
doing this
so as a parent we have to be a role
model we have to understand number one
the children are observing us real in
realizing that you know everything that
we do they're learning from Remember The
Story of Imam Shafi mhm when a man came
with excitement and he has little son
sitting next to him and say she I want
my son to be exactly like you yeah and
the father and the father's so excited
IM how old is he he said he's just a
baby he's only 2 years old I bought him
early he said say it's too late it's too
late and that is true two years it's too
late I met brother in Egyptian brother
in um in Houston and he I saw a little
funny you know um CD player or you know
I said what is this he said it looks
like a belt and he said that's for my
wife I said what is that for he said
she's pregnant I said Subhan Allah so
why does she have to wear this he said
the doctor say take this play slow music
and the child will come when he's born
it will be calm and easy to manage so I
took that method he said and I put sud
and and Quran and now alhamdulillah see
they start to corrupt the child from
that age yeah you know if we only use
those methods and say okay while the
mother's
pregnant how is her Dean you know what
are you doing to make sure that the
child that's going to be born is going
to be born righteous and from there
Subhan Allah as a father don't bring
anything Haram to the house you know
make sure everything is Hal as a father
as a mother make sure the child knows
the Dua of going to the bathroom as a
father make sure the Father the child
knows the way to the Masid as a father
make sure that your house is located
close enough to the mid that when the
time of the time of Salah comes and you
still at work and he six seven years old
he can walk to the mid by himself as a
father you make sure you are perfect
role model when a man said to one of the
of the past he said to his son who do
you going to who who is your role model
and who you going to be like he said you
as a child he said use nothing but a
loser boy he said why you pray you read
Quran you go to J he said no I want to
be like Al and look what happened to me
I'm just a regular man now you know so
if you want your child to be perfect
Muslim aim high mhm and then from there
on you always always try to raise them
mold them by the time they 15 and you s
you experience some difficulties it
would be less more difficulties than any
other any other you know child so it
obviously doesn't work if you lighting
up a marro if you're not establishing
that second pillar of Islam praying
right and you might be more adamant
about following some cultural practices
absolutely then this is not something
that's going to work now no you you
you're sending mixed messages yeah you
know some the parents all over the phone
you said when the little baby pick up
the phone he says you know can I speak
to your father the father no no no no
I'm not here oh my father is not here
that's what he said so we got lying now
so we taught him from the first day how
to lie now tomorrow when he lies to
us so we should not blame anyone but
ourselves so again we have to be Role
Models
abdah you know he saw sallallahu alaihi
was everything in the Masjid he prays
he's never late for aan you know unless
he some something serious you know he
gives to he teach he's a perfect role
model sallallahu alaihi wasallam and
he's only seven years old and then he
said I want to see how he is at home so
he went to his aunt Maya and said can I
spend the night with you she said sure
so he's pretending that he's asleep but
he's not sleep so he said walked through
the door he gave his family beautiful
greeting how are you he asked about them
how was your day and and then he saw
said is the boy sleep and my said yes he
is and then he start talking to his wife
even this is a lesson for husbands you
know just don't come and you know go to
the bathroom and take a bath and then
you know sleep spend some time with your
wife and ask her how how was her day and
then Abdullah said then after finish
after he finished talking to his wife he
stood up for Salah and I said now this
is my time so he said I joined him
sallallah alaihi wasallam in the Salah
see he wants to see what is doing as a
child the child wants to see what his
father is going to do now the parents
are off at work and they might have a
babysitter or the public school is
raising them meaning that they're
spending most of the time five 6 Seven 8
hours in the public school they come
home they got a baby babysitter and the
TV is actually educating the kids and
the music and The Hip Hop and the ganga
rap is this something that you seeing
also a lot and what is your comments and
advice on
this let us let me address the issue of
TV in My
Views when
Shan walks into your house or into my
house and he sees tvan will say man this
thing is doing more damage than I can do
let me just you know sit back on I got
this I guess this you know I hire TV
that's it this little black box is
destroy will destroy the whole family
and you won't need Shan because you
already purchased your own Shan and not
only that some of the family you know
with little kids and the parents like
yeah you know these kids are not
listening can you talk to them so I said
how many of you have TVs at home and
everybody raised their hands and I said
how many of you have two TVs at home and
they say I say how many of you have TV
in their room and almost half of the
little I'm talking about six seven years
old they raised their hand yeah so
having that thing in your room that
monitoring that knowing what the child
is watching is a dangerous thing to do
very serious issue I'm not saying you
you should not have TV period say if you
have TV get a TVD DVD player put some
you know kids show Islamic kids show put
some lectures based on the CH the age of
the children you know there are a lot of
things for Muslim children put de show
on you know get some of the episodes and
put them together and play them so that
people can understand because obviously
on the normal TV 90% of 95% of the
things promiscuity you have men kissing
women nakedness you have all sorts of
violence things that obviously are going
to have a detrimental effect on that
child he's recording everything isn't he
he's recording every single thing Subhan
Allah my son 3 years old he just saw him
you know when I'm doing something he
won't even blink he's just looking at me
like this and I know he's that little
eyes and nothing but two cameras you
know just recording and Reporting
everything and what if I do anything
wrong he would do exactly and I can tell
you every time he says something wrong
it's something that he's seen at home or
M you the street it's not it's not own
his own things but you know TV and what
the children watch is very serious one
of the kids he said you know to to her
dad he said why don't you love Mom I
love your mom but you don't kiss it like
like they kiss each other you know so to
them love is you got to do you know a
kiss in front of the children to show
affection and love cuz it's kissing all
over the TV even in the cartoons
everything everything so I would say
Muslim parent to fear Allah because this
child is a man is a trust and Allah
subhana T gave you a gift to maintain it
and to bring it back as a righteous
individual and that gift and unless you
maintain it and protect it and give it
back as Allah gave you pure you will be
held accountable and that's on the day
of we will come like this our hands
would be chained on our neck and our
children would say yeah Allah he did not
teach me Quran yeah Allah he did and
unless they fear you you're not going
anywhere so this would be something if
you take away one thing we can replace
it with good permissible things good
programs that are of a positive message
message to the youth and to the adults
and to to themselves what are other some
of the other practical advices okay we
we talked about the TV replace it not
with the Britney Spears and The Hip Hop
and all the gangster stuff take that out
but we can put in Islamic programs and
also now I mean if the parents are out
there busy they're working and now the
children are out in school they come
home and they don't have the mother or
father babysitters there and you know
how do they deal with this when they're
busy work work money money but what good
is this money if you're not going to
enjoy it or you won't you won't enjoy
the presence of your family I would say
take certain time out of you take
certain days off just for the family
yeah take them Outdoors you make them
busy let them run get take them to the
park spend some quality
time with his all his busy schedule he
used to spend some quality times with
his wife and his children so not only TV
that you know if you keep them busy with
good things Sports you know um out
outdoor activities you know visiting
good righteous families you know taking
them to the M for a lecture for Islamic
event you can their schedule can be
really packed you can make them busy if
you only really mindful of what you can
do for them for them now those youth who
are listening and you know what they're
doing this eternal struggle they feel
what we're saying is right that goodness
wants to come out but they around other
friends who are calling them to the
weekend night at the party to places
that they shouldn't be what advice do we
have for them imagine yourself standing
in the middle of a pool that is full of
urine mhm it's filthy yeah and you want
to perform Salah mhm and you lift your
foot and say I'm going to wash my foot
you know and then you put it back again
in that urine would he ever be pure no
so what you need to do is take yourself
out of that filthy environment find
righteous good environment good friends
you know and you can where can you find
good friends not in nightclubs or you
you can only find them as Allah said in
the Quran in the
mass in Islamic you know Muslim
organized events this is where you can
find them so take yourself from that
stay pure now you can M outside and stay
that that in that situation by being
with brothers who we remind you if you
if you look a lady who was passing by
say Fe Allah you Allah is watching you
you know if you you know if you you know
not mindful of your Salah say let's go
pray if they see you doing a wrong thing
they will correct you if you're not
doing well with your woo they will
correct your wo so this is what we need
they need to change the environment and
I will also say to all the new Muslims
who accept Islam don't try to go back
and bring your non-muslim friends before
you learn enough of your Dean if you
don't know how to walk just imagine this
you don't know how to swim and you want
to dive and save someone was drowning
both of you going to drown yeah so stay
dry until you learn what to do and then
go and help them out be a couple more
points we're almost out of
time there's brothers and sisters who
are mashallah all praises to the Creator
that he's guided them and they're coming
along but it's a great challenge
nowadays because there's a lot of Trials
and tests with the opposite genders and
now the person he obviously has this
desire to want to be with a woman woman
want to be with the man but we know what
Islam says about the boyfriend
girlfriend thing which nowadays is kind
of odd that if a person a boy doesn't
have a girlfriend the girl doesn't have
a boyfriend something is wrong with them
something's wrong with them but they
want to preserve their Chastity they
want to preserve this morality what
advice for them to stay steadfast and
some things that can help them out
number one the one that can help is
Allah subhah wa taala put your trust in
Allah subhah wa ta'ala and with
sincerity look and say Ya Allah this is
who I am and you know what I used to be
Ya Allah keep me on this path and guide
me that's number one number two you know
do
whatam said number one try to fast as
much as you can if you're single number
two what do you do is avoid places of
fitt you know you can't say you know I'm
you know I'm struggling with myself but
at the same time you being with all
these almost undressed women and at the
same time you know watching all these
videos or movies and they what with
nothing but drive you crazy and then say
man I'm struggling well you put yourself
in that position situation get out of
the envir get out of that environment
and number three always stay in the
Masid Masid environment is beautiful why
because there is always Mal and because
of the Mala you will feel their presence
in your in in your behavior and in your
heart inshallah I want to thank you
again may God Almighty the Creator Allah
reward you for being with us may Allah
reward you inshallah we hope to see you
third annual of Journey of Faith insh
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you and I'd like to thank you again for
tuning in to another episode of the dean
show we look forward to having you again
next time I hope you got to benefit this
beautiful way of life the way of life of
all the messengers and last and final
peace be upon him that if we follow it
sincerely seeking the pleasure of Our
Lord there's nothing left Less Than
Paradise and there's nothing wor worth
it these cars these women and all these
things that are temporary take a time
out from the r race of life and really
connect with your Creator and ask him
for the guidance and it only be fair if
he guided you and come back here every
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God willing inshallah asalam Alum peace
be unto
you
everyone's talking about prove you find
one contradiction it can't be from
God but the rational idea the rational
explanation is you do your best give up
worshiping God is one I will never give
up spreading this message I hope that
you take that necessary step you don't
know if you're going to live till
tomorrow
so you got to find that urgency to do
the right thing right
now the reality of Life usually doesn't
sink in until tragedy
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