in the name of Allah the beneficent the
most merciful I'd like to welcome you
dear viewers to our new program
contemporary
issues May Allah's peace and blessings
be on each and every one of you you for
those of you that have been following
our program since its beginning you know
that we are looking at issues concerning
marriage in Islam the controversial
issues
polygamy arranged marriages the
guardian child marriages today we're
looking at marriage to
non-muslims Islamic laws governing it
well as you may or may not know a Muslim
male is allowed to
marry two categories of non-muslim
females
either a
Christian or a Jew these are the only
two categories that Muslim males are
allowed to marry these such marriages
would be considered legal marriages I
know some of you might question there
was an article in the
paper a day or so ago in which the
grandson of Muhammad Ali jinah the
founder of Pakistan was talking about
his father and the liberal ideas of his
father and about how his father married
a Pary was Z
asrian right oh he also mentioned that
he ate
pork and he drank alcohol he loved his
eggs and bacon from living in England he
became a habit for him and he stuck with
it
I mean of course these raised big
questions about this man's
Islam but that marriage from an Islamic
perspective for a Muslim man to marry a
zor asrian woman this is considered to
be illegitimate it's not marriage in
Islam for a man to marry a non-muslim a
Muslim man he is only permitted to marry
a Christian or a Jew
now even in the
marrying of a Christian or a Jew some
people raise issues saying well it's not
the Christians and Jews of our time it's
only of those you know the time of the
Prophet may God's peace and bless be
upon Him of course it's not correct
because the Christians and the belie
their beliefs by the seventh 8th
centuries is same as the beliefs now
beliefs in the Trinity and all these
other kind of things so it's not the
issue of the time frame as long as
somebody's a Christian they claim to be
a Christian Christian they have
Christian beliefs that's their claim or
a Jew then it is permitted for us to
marry them males
why why when Christians believe that
Jesus was
God the Son of God some Christians will
say we don't believe he's God the son
yes you believe he's God Christians
believe that Jesus was God God incarnate
God became a man it was
born he had a son who was himself this
is what they
believe God had a son who was himself
because the belief is that God the
Father God the son God the Holy Spirit
three gods in one God the father is God
the son God the son is God the father so
therefore God had a son who was
himself this is something ludicrous
that's there belief and so Jesus is
worshiped as
God how can a Muslim marry somebody with
this kind of beliefs isn't this shik
isn't this the greatest possible
sin yes it is
shik however an exception has been made
for Christians and Jews an exception has
been made why the exception was made
because of the fact that there still
remains in the books in which they
believe elements of Revelation the
Revelation which God revealed to the
prophets to Prophet Jesus and to those
before portions of that Revelation
remain in their books their holy books
and in honor of that portion which is
there Islam allows Muslims to
marry non-muslim Christians and
Jews this is a special permission
given nobody outside of that for a
Muslim man to marry a Hindu that
marriage is considered invalid it's not
marriage or a Buddhist or a
zarrian or a Morman you know or any of
the you know non Christian sects which
may claim Christianity but is rejected
by mainstream Christianity because they
don't actually hold Christian beliefs
such a marriage would not be considered
marriage according to Islamic
law
now on the other
hand that is permitted for males but not
permitted for
females Muslim females must marry Muslim
males alone so I may raise a question
why well first and foremost we should
consider that when the Muslim
male is allowed According to Islamic law
to Mar marry a Christian or Jewish
female it's not just any Christian or
Jewish female you know
unfortunately
many Arab
and uh Indian Pakistani men so on so
will go to Europe and America and due to
the influence of the western media on
their minds where the image of beauty
now for them from these Beauty contests
and everything is blond hair blueeyed
you know goddesses
this is the image of beauty so these
young men they go to America go to
England this what they're looking for
and where did they go look for them in
the nightclubs in the bars Etc yeah they
find some dancer or whatever they Fallen
love this
is Paradise the one of the women of
paradise here is ready to get
married and well she's Christian I can
marri her well guess what According to
Islamic
law Allah law describes those women
as those people who
were those people women who did not have
sexual relations outside of marriage
chased
women CH te not chased meaning that
people ran after them chased but CH
which means a woman who is virtuous
she's not had sexual relations outside
of marriage if she was she had she she
previously had relations it was in
marriage she was either married and
divorced or married and widowed or she
was not married at all she was a virgin
such a woman a man Muslim man May marry
if she's Christian or Jewish and guess
what such women are few and far between
in the west
today
virginity among young girls is
considered to be something as you know
as sign that you're
ugly you know nobody wants you virginity
is a liability it is not considered to
be an honor in modern society the whole
idea of you know having sexual relations
Is Something promoted children are being
taught you know how
to have sex in quote unquote sex
education classes teachers are bringing
in dolls which you know with which are
anatomically correct and demonstrating
for the children 12-year-old kids
10-year-old kids demonstrating for them
sex movies and all this kind of stuff I
mean this is what is happening out of
that there even I know they were
debating in New York City a year ago
about Distributing condoms to children
in in in primary
school this is
insane the end result is that virginity
is like finding finding virginity
finding a woman who's a virgin is like
finding a needle in a Hast stack it's a
rarity in that society today Western
society today which has opened upon
itself and promoted sexual relations
free relations amongst everybody it is a
rarity so for you to go to a bar you as
a Muslim man to go to a bar or or a um
nightclub or whatever and find a woman
there and think that this is a woman
appropriate for marriage you're sadly
mistaken you will not be marrying in
accordance with Islamic law you
shouldn't be there in the first place
anyway okay because it's a place of
corruption drinking of alcohol all these
other kind of things you shouldn't be
there this is not where you find a
wife now leaving that aside if we go
over to the
other uh picture the picture
concerning why Muslim women
are not allowed to marry non-muslim men
I mean is there an inequality is there a
double standard here why men are allowed
women are not allowed well primarily
this has been instituted by God to
protect the religion of the women and
the children to protect them protect
their religion why because a Muslim man
if he marries a Christian woman or a
Jewish
woman and he says to to her for example
you know uh I don't want you to bring
any alcohol in the
house
okay she
doesn't bringing alcohol in the house
drinking alcohol serving alcohol this is
not a requirement of being a Christian
or a
Jew so they can give it up if he says I
don't want any pork in the house of
course Jewish women they're not going to
have pork anyway but a Christian woman
who's eating pork if he said no pork
she may like it not want to give it up
because she likes it but she can give it
up the religion doesn't say she cannot
there's no threat to her
religion similarly if he says to her for
example I I don't like you going out you
know exposing yourself wearing a mini
skirt tight clothes you know showing off
your body I don't like it I you know I
feel you know this is you're my wife you
know I don't want people staring at you
this way so please wear something loose
not necessarily having to wear the
complete dress of the Muslim woman when
she's outside of her home but at least
wear something loose cover yourself up
you know don't expose your body well
again you know neither Christianity nor
Judaism states that a woman when leaving
her home must expose her
body it's not a requirement so for her
to comply it's quite legitimate quite
reasonable even in Christianity when you
look at the the religious art the images
the icons of Mary and you know the women
Around Jesus Etc they're all wearing
loose clothing loose clothing at a time
when the Romans and the Greeks you know
wore clothing which expose their
bodies
so we can see from that that the man
Muslim man in asking his wife to comply
with Islamic law she will not be um
doing anything which is against her
religion he cannot tell her don't pray
to Jesus no if he marri she Mar she
marries her she's a Christian she has
the right to her prayer don't go to the
church she cannot stop her from going to
the church she he has to allow her to
continue her
religion furthermore if he goes to visit
his friends if he tells her for example
hey when we go visit our friends I know
it is your custom that when couples
meet the males kiss the women and the
females kiss the men
on their cheeks maybe on their lips you
know friendly it's part of friendship
and this is part of western custom in a
number of places in the west so if the
husband says Hey listen I don't want you
to go kissing anybody else you
understand you're my wife the only
person who kisses me or our kids or your
father your mother so and so okay but
men other men no it's not a good idea I
don't want you shaking their
hands I'm not going to shake any women's
hands and I don't want to shake any
men's hands why because these things
these in these contacts though we may
say oh it's pass in contact with just
shaking hands you don't know what can be
conveyed in a
handshake people who have lived that
life been out there much can be conveyed
of Desire etc etc in a simple
handshake not to you know to consider
kissing I man going and kissing somebody
else's wife you know putting his hands
on her body in one way or another hey
this I mean though it has become custom
it's a very dangerous custom it is
promoting feelings which can lead to the
breakdown of
families so the Muslim man says wife I
don't want you doing these things it's
not against religion Christianity
Judaism does not say you must do these
things
so her religion is intact if he asks her
to comply with basic social dietary laws
of
Islam and she will likely comply because
she's the H the wife Etc she wants to
come you know to go along with it she
loves her husband now switch it around
the other way the Muslim woman married
to the Christian Man Christian man
says I like my alcohol I know you don't
drink it but I want you to get some go
to the store buy some alcohol bring it
home serve it to me pour it give it to
me she's in a dilemma because it is
forbidden in Islam for her to purchase
alcohol to pour it to serve it even
though she doesn't drink it all of that
is forbidden
sinful but she wants to please her
husband her religion is threatened if he
says pork go buy me some pork cook it
serve it give me
you don't have to eat it I know you
don't believe in it you know your
religion says you can't eat it but give
me I want it again she's in a dilemma
it's forbidden for her cook it up serve
it you know buy it
forbidden he says to her well listen
when we go outside you know I like to
feel proud I like my woman you know when
she walks with me everybody's looking at
her and saying woo what a look her she's
really beautiful
where'd you get such a beautiful wife so
and so I want people to have this you
know view of my wife I want to feel
proud of you so when you go outside take
off that scarf I don't want you wear a
scarf let your hair out wear a tight
top tight clothes short expose your legs
high
heels of course all of this is forbidden
in Islam sinful for her she wants to
please her
husband her religion is threatened he
says when we go to meet meet our friends
our
neighbors you know don't feel shy kiss
the kiss the
guy let him kiss you don't fight against
it if we're sitting with him and he
turns on the music he wants to dance he
asks you to get up and dance with him
dance with
him well all of this is forbidden in
Islam so for the sake of of that
woman her her
religion Islam says no you as a woman
should only marry a Muslim man because
your nature is to compromise your nature
is to
facilitate you don't like conflict you
want to make compromises to make things
workable you know you want to keep
Harmony that's your nature and if you do
that in the context of being married to
a Christian or or Jewish man you're
liable to compromise your
religion and this is forbidden so for
the sake of her religion and the
religion of her children because then
he's the Christian man will say I want
my kids raised as Christians I want them
going to Christian Schools etc etc etc
quite possibly he may may not but the
point is that if he does she is
threatened her religion is threatened
the religion of her children is
threatened I should point out here that
because of the
fact that in non-muslim societies today
in the West in America in England France
Germany
Etc if a Muslim man marries a non-muslim
woman and they get
divorced the courts will give those
children to the
mother and in such a case the mother is
going to raise those children as
non-muslims Christians or
Jews that is the greatest likelihood on
the basis of that many Muslim Scholars
today hold that it is forbidden it's not
permissible for a Muslim man to marry a
non-muslim woman in those environments
in those circumstances in a Muslim
country it's different because in a
Muslim country the children will be
given to you as the father Muslim the
child children will be considered to be
Muslim and it's your right to raise them
but in the non-muslim countries the
children will be given to the wife
that's is the common practice
normally in the Muslim country uh
amongst Muslims the children would be
given to the
mother if they're before below the age
of seven Etc after that they're given a
choice whether they want to go with the
father or the mother but before that
they'll be given to the mother but if
the mother is a non-muslim then they
will give those children to the
father to protect their religion so what
is permissible in the Muslim environment
where the society will support and
protect the interest of the children in
a non-muslim environment you know the
scholars a number of Scholars have ruled
that it is really not permissible you
know though in on a general level yes
the permission is there under those
circumstances where the harm the the
great harm that can come out of it is
quite evident then it should be avoided
there and this has led this kind of
breakup of marriages have led you know
for husbands kidnapping their children
in America and England other countries
and fleeing back to their home countries
to protect their children's religion
this is not a good situation and we
should consider when marrying
non-muslims these considerations have to
all be taken into account with that dear
viewers I hope that this point of
marriage to non-muslims has become
clear that
Muslims Muslim males May marry
non-muslim females Christians or Jews if
they are virtuous in a Muslim
environment Muslim women may not marry
other than Muslim men for the sake of
protecting their religion and the
religion of their children with that
dear viewers I'd like to thank you for
being with us in this segment of our
program contemporary issues and I hope
that you'll be with us in our coming is
uh coming program in which we'll be
discussing a recent phenomena in Western
Law rape in marriage where a man may be
accused of rape be put in jail for
having sexual relations with his wife
without her consent with that their
viewers I'd like to thank you again and
bid you
farewell