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Islam and Muslims and Islam simply means
to acquire peace by submitting your will
to the owner of Peace the one God the
creator of all that exists the creator
of man and woman
the creator of the Sun and the Moon the
creator of this whole
universe that's the one God we're
talking about now he has sent throughout
time Messengers and they came with that
same message worship the Creator and not
his creation they came with a
comprehensive system on how the human
being needs to live his life but now
there's another part another facet to
this patience it requires some patience
to stay away from the evil things that
are out there calling you day and night
and how can we acquire this we need some
more advice we need teachers to teach us
qualified individuals and we want we got
one of those qualified individuals here
today he's back with us again shik
ibraim zadan we'll be right back with
more on the dean
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into the topic today we want to talk
about patience it requires a lot of
patience doing the good staying
steadfast on doing all the wonderful
things that the creators told us to do
in the verbatim word of God the
Quran so we want some advice because
sometimes people male and female they
feel like slipping it's hard to
sometimes get up for that early morning
prayer you got to be patient sometimes
it's hard you want to take that sip of
some of that stuff that'll make your
mind go loose you know what I mean you
want to let loose but you can't you got
to refrain so talk to us about the
importance of
patience patience or it's an Arabic
called called sa and the word sa
literally means something that is bitter
that means it doesn't taste good in the
beginning and Allah subhana T the most
merciful ordered the Believers mentioned
patience in the Quran for over than 90
times in the Quran 90 times 90 times in
the Quran over than that with regards to
patience the rewards of it the order
from Allah subhana tala for people to be
patient and the reward for the people in
the Hereafter and in this life and with
with these orders from Allah subhana wa
tala it shows that when the Most High
created the human beings everybody
endure patience one way or the other
anybody Muslims non-muslims in our daily
life Allah subhana wa tala created this
life in such a way that if we leave your
home for example without cleaning it for
a few days it becomes dirty you have to
have patience to clean it you have to
have patience to earn money you have to
have patience to study and people would
look ahead that he would earn after few
years of studying and hard work and
things like this how would a person
steadfast in his studying and his
learning and so on is by patience
patience carry the person to reach his
goal this is a fact and Allah the most
high the most merciful made this in the
life of the people so don't so that
nobody will have an excuse saying I
can't have patience you already have
patience in many things and that's why
when it comes to matters of the
Hereafter worshiping the creator of the
heavens and the Earth alone obeying the
orders of Allah subhana
we have to have the hearts attached to
the Hereafter this life is so so short
and everybody shall depart from it so to
be patient to seek the rewards from the
creator of the heavens and the Earth
that a person would receive in the
Hereafter that needs patience that's why
patience is of three types as it's
mentioned in the Quran to be patiently
away from sins and the things that Allah
subhana T forbade and by the way the
sins in Islam as it's mentioned in the
Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet
sallallah wasallam it's all evil things
the most high the most merciful the most
wise he did not forbid his creation from
something that is a necessity in their
life or something that would bring any
goodness to them it's all the immediate
passion or the immediate attachment that
if people would look ahead and this is
the difference between the human beings
and others if they would just look ahead
and they would think and make right
decisions they would see that all these
things that are sins it's something that
is all evil even if it brings some Joy
temporary joy that brings after that
misery in this life and in the Hereafter
so to be patient away from sins because
we want to preserve our Ean our faith
the faith increases and decreases
increases with good deeds and decreases
with bad deeds and a sin is not just a
sin versus a good deed it affects the
heart it decreases the Iman it decreases
the structure that you build with the
good deeds and being obedient to Allah
subhana wa tala being in the state of
sin decreases all of that so that's why
this is something that would help the
Believers to be always in state of
patience and many other reasons like
when a person went to the prophet
wasallam and he told them give me the
permission to commit Zena adultery the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam did
not tell him this is what are you asking
for he said do you like this for your
mother do you like this for your aunt do
you like this for your sister people
with Sound Nature they won't like these
things for their own selves so then the
prophet s wasallam told them the same
way people don't like it for themselves
you should not like it for your own self
and for others so by thinking this way
and this is what we need to call people
to do we need to think many people on
the face of Earth now they're not
thinking properly they're just busy with
the daily activities and the desires and
things of that nature they don't think
to see what is right and what is wrong I
don't think anybody on the face of Earth
would say patience is a bad thing
everybody would agree patience is a good
thing yes but it depends on what are you
trying to achieve so being paent away
from sins being being patient to apply
the orders of Allah subhana as human
beings we tend to be lazy we don't like
anybody to tell us do this or not to do
that but when we know that this is
something that we are nothing but
Servants of the creator of the heavens
and the Earth we need to Humble
ourselves to him we eat from his
Provisions all the favors from Allah is
showers us all around us that means we
need to be shy from him that we be
obedient to him and he said that after
this life for those who are obedient
they would enter the J of Allah subhana
so people need to be patient is there a
verse in the verbatim word of God
Almighty Allah the Quran that Allah is
saying and can you explain us that
indeed those without account are the
patient those on that day that are
without account are the patient it's a
good point because many verses in the
Quran with the rewards of Good Deeds you
would find the rewards 10 rewards
multiplications of that but when it came
to patience Allah subhana wa tala said
what you said here that the rewards is
without a limit
that means
indeed which means the those who have
patience they are given in full their
rewards without account Without Limits
Without Limits so if you do one good
deed you get 10 rewards right and then
it can be multiplied but here what
there's no limit to how much reward you
can be from holding back like the person
says something you offend you and you
want to knock him in the mouth you say
oh oh no I shouldn't be do I can't do
that Islam doesn't let me to uh hurt
somebody so you're patient for the
Creator that's correct and that's why
it's a deed done by the heart mhm
there's no such a thing as he is patient
meaning physically patient yeah no it's
something that it roots in the hearts
and then it shows its effect in our
outside appearance was there AI is there
a Hadith where the Prophet peace be upon
it he was sitting with Abu Bakr sadik
and this man came and can you go ahead
and elaborate he was insulting Abu Bakr
and the prophet and then the Angels were
writing can you go ahead and was this
about patience also right and the
prophet Propet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam was being revealed to him this
is one of the benefits of the the
Revelation from Allah that we get to see
the Unseen yeah and when the prophet
wasallam was seeing that and was seeing
that His companion was patiently
responding to this person and then when
he got angry and he wanted to respond in
an un permissible way the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam told him from
The Unseen that the Angels were
supporting him while while he wasn't
stepping back while he was in patience
he was practicing it and once he got it
into himself as a personal thing then
the protection was lifted he was left to
his own self big lesson for us isn't it
definitely and that's why if a human
being is left for his own self he is
perished yeah unless we are protected by
Allah subhana and the creation of Allah
subhana tala we are in loss that's why
if I if I go back to the three parts of
patience being patient away from sins
being patient to do what Allah subhana T
ordered us to do in the way that Allah
wants us to do it the third type is to
be patient whenever a Calamity hits we
are human beings and that's why if I
have the time I would like to give you
or to the viewers something to make it
easy for us let's let's hold off on that
and we're going to come back and we'll
talk more on this topic patience we'll
be right back on the dean
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back here on the dean show with shik
ibraim zadan please continue where you
left off before we went on a break
anything that happens in our life there
is something before it and there's
something after it if something happens
to us and something sad has to happen in
our life this is the wisdom of the
creator of the heavens and earth either
we'll die or someone that is a loved one
will die something bad happens to a
person so we need to prepare ourselves
for what's coming ahead by having always
been putting the Trust In Allah subhana
wa tala by taking the means the physical
means the permissible means why the
hearts attached to the creator of the
heavens and the Earth putting our trust
in him that everything happened by the
full and the perfect wisdom of the most
high nothing happens like that without a
wisdom and then if something bad happens
to the person immediately after that he
is pleased with the with the destiny of
Allah subhana wa tala so you have as one
of the scholars give it that two things
that around the around the destiny of
Allah the to put our trust in Allah
before it and to be pleased and patient
when it comes to after what happened to
the person why because we are nothing
but Servants of the creator of the
heavens and the Earth and these are acts
of worship yeah we lose it sometimes you
know it's a rat race out there in life
and things getting to hustle and bustle
and traffic and this and that and
sometimes it's easier said than done but
when we hear from the last and final
messenger sent to mankind the same way
Jesus was a messenger at his time Moses
Abraham they were all calling the people
to the same thing and they had the
ultimate gems of wisdom because it was
coming not from their desires but from
the creator of the heavens and the Earth
so when we hear some of these sayings of
the Prophet authentic these aren't
lullabi or stories fables these are
authentic sayings so can you elaborate
on another one because did the prophet
peace be upon him said the person also
when he refrains from from even when
he's right but he doesn't get into the
argument what does it mean Allah will
build him a house in Jenna right this is
again it's an act of worship yeah yeah
act of worship that means we have to
submit ourselves to Allah subhana tala
the most high when it comes to this act
of worship people reward one another yes
if people are nice to me I'm nice to
them if they're not nice to me I won't
be nice to them this is not an act of
worship this is basically just rewarding
one another Allah the most high wants
something else extra from them if people
are nice to you nice to them if they're
not nice to you you still need to be
obedient to Allah subhana wa tala with
regarding to your affairs with them and
that's why when the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam peace be upon him when
he said when people are arguing and when
arguments comes in place it's not about
finding the truth it's about who would
win for his own personal Glory so the
prophet Salli wasallam said whoever
leaves argument while he is on the truth
he presented the truth the truth is
clear and one characteristic for the
truth that if it stands in front of the
falsehood the falsehood cannot stand in
front of it so he explained the truth
truth of the Quran the Sunnah of the
prophet wasallam and the matter is clear
but then the other person still wants to
argue in that case the prophet Sall
wasallam said whoever leaves such
argument which means he is on the right
side he's on the truth Allah the most
high will build a house for him in the
outskirts of Jen and this is the mercy
of Allah subhana wa tala because not
every human being can do this you are on
the right side you're not someone that
trying to prove something wrong you know
that you are correct and you would feel
that this person defeated you he might
think that he defeated you mightbe your
ego also definitely and that's why when
a person suppress this for the benefit
for the sake of the creator of the
heavens and earth alone Allah subhana
tala the most merciful nothing is wasted
and that's why one important statement
that we need to understand very well
that whoever leaves anything for the
sake of Allah not for any worldly
benefit for the sake of the creator of
the heavens and the Earth he would never
feel the loss of it never if he's truth
y leaving it for the sake of the creator
of the heavens in so male or female
doesn't matter doesn't matter it might
be something immediate feels needs some
struggle and then eventually after that
he would he or she would feel no loss
whatsoever in what they left behind
we're all human beings yeah if human
beings some of them would say I cannot
leave this whatever sin they are doing
other human beings if you give them even
push them to do it they would rather be
killed than to do the same sin why is
that when The Temptations are the same
some people worked on themselves they
thought about it they made decisions
they turned to the creator of the
heavens and the Earth and it's just a
short period of time and it becomes in
their Norm but others are they surrender
themselves to their desires and they
chose to live a life like how the
animals do yeah so we don't want to live
like the animals we want to live like
the most high has told us to live
according to his guidance not our
desires and that is something logical
rational now let's get to the nitt
gritty of some some real practical
examples you know that man is attracted
to woman woman to man and sometimes it
requires a lot of patience not to do it
the wrong way but to do it the right way
right can you talk to us about this
right this is also something that is
mentioned in the Quran and in the life
of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam because Allah subhana tala is
the most merciful the family structure
in Islam is something very important it
is the right of every human being to be
raised in a healthy family he sees the
father and the mother and there is no
chaos in the household with cheating and
things like this and that's why Allah
subhana T protected us with the orders
of Allah subhana wa tala it's against
one's desires if we leave our desires to
be the leading thing to us either the
desires would lead us or the truth would
lead us and the desires comes after it
if Allah the most high forbidden
adultery and what comes before it this
religion is so perfect if adultery is
forbidden then what leads to it has to
be forbidden otherwise no human being
except very few if they are right by the
sin and by the real temp ation most of
the human beings even if it's a
righteous person would fall into that
sin that's why y Prophet y we have a
Surah in the Quran chapter in the Quran
about him why because he was patient
when he faced the wife of the person in
Egypt she was a beautiful woman she has
status he was a slave to her that means
he has to obey her he was a stranger
that means if he do something nobody
would blame him she was ordering him she
was threatening him that he would be in
the prison if he does not commit this
act to her and he was a single man he
was not married that means all the means
of falling into the sin was there and
she closed the doors and everything like
that everything is ready for it but then
when he chose to have the fear of Allah
subhana tala and he patiently stayed
away from that we still tell today how
many people on the face of Earth even
now at this second that I'm speaking are
reciting Surah yusu and his praise is
being mentioned what would happen if he
had committed this sin nobody would have
heard about him but Allah subhana T
raised his mention as a result of being
patiently for just few minutes obeying
the orders of Allah subh patient so
that's why the orders of Allah when it
comes to hijab lowering the Gaze all of
this is to protect ourselves protect our
IM our faith to protect our children to
protect the family to protect the
society in general all of that is from
the most wise subhah tala that's why
when a person as the prophet wasallam
which is a very good Hadith are weak if
a person falls into the sin of looking
at something that is not permissible for
him to look to look the prophet s
wasallam said go back to your wife and
have relations with her because she has
what you saw because Shan beautifies in
your eyes what you see and it's not true
exactly what you see is what you see
Shan the devil is making it more
appealing than what it is in your wife
she has what you are seeing and that's
why the prophet wasam practical advice
no in the religion do that as a way to
expiate your sin and Allah subhana T the
most merciful so this is like an arrow
in the heart when a person look at
something that is not permissible so we
need to take the means the prophet s
wasallam said to the young people if you
have the means the physical means to get
married get married this is the religion
of Al Islam not to stay syllabus without
getting married and thinking that that
pleases Allah subhana T no get married
be productive in the society and protect
yourself the prophet s wasallam said
that that when a man have his relations
with his wife he get rewards for it and
the companions they said he would get
rewards while he's fulfilling his desire
the prophet s wasallam said if he would
do it in the Haram in a sinful way would
he get a sin they said yes so he
said so the same way if you do it in the
Hal in the permissible way you get
rewards for it yeah tell tell us Shake
now where the youth and those men young
adults and they're being patient they
are worshiping the one God Alone
establishing the prayer and doing all
the good wholesome things that God
Almighty Allah wants them to do but now
what advice do you give to them and the
parents because they get to an age and
now okay they're holding back those
desires you know sometimes it's very
difficult they want to get married but
the parents say you know what you need
to finish another six years of of
medical school you should be the best
doctor you should be the best scientist
you should as we should be the best to
benefit mankind but now they are more
concerned about their son getting a PhD
or MD but the patients are wearing off
because we're natural human beings what
about this situation well this is a sad
situation and he just said that this
morning after F I was talking with the
young brother and he was explaining the
same problem same problem same problem
let's hold off right there they're
saying we got to go to break don't lose
your place we'll be right back with this
live example here on the dean
show all of the prophets would have been
labeled Muslims because this essential
message was the same message submission
to the will of
God this is God talking to you directly
how can I stand behind the pulpit on
Sunday morning and preach a sermon that
I knew was at variance with the actual
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and and before sorry we had to cut you
off we had to go to break but please
continue I hope you didn't lose your
place so after F prayer this morning a
young Muslim and he had the the S the
look of the Sunnah on his face mallah
and he was asking me the same question
the same problem that he's young he's
going to college and all these
Temptations are there and he have been
practicing Islam not too long ago and he
wants to get married but the problem is
with his parents they're telling him not
before he finishes is college and so on
and so forth and this is a sad thing
because we are human beings if we ask
someone to stay away from these
temptations that it's forbidden to have
a girlfriend it's forbidden to look at
someone that is not proper clothed and
so on and so forth then we you are
basically ordering people to do the
impossible so that's why we need to make
it easy for them and it's the call for
the parents for the Muslim parents have
mercy onto your children don't think
when they're hiding to you that they are
tempted and they want to fall into these
types of sins everybody would say my son
is not that way my my my daughter is not
that way they're human beings what do
you mean they're not that way you need
to help them to protect themselves and
the first thing to protect themselves is
not to tell them fear Allah subhana T of
course we have to fear Allah subhana T
but as the prophet wasallam said get
married he said this he said that get
married first if you're not able to get
married then fast did he say get married
after you get the PHD he didn't say that
of course and that's why when and this
is another point that many people might
disagree with me but uh the a parent
would say but how he's going to going to
support his wife right if he's now going
to school and he's such a well-mannered
person and things like this eventually
inshallah if Allah subhana T give him
life he will graduate and he will work
and he will make money if he is being
helped while he's doing this if he can
support his own self and eat and drink
and have a shelter another person with
him won't cost him anything actually
when we look into the means as pH
physical means only we are in loss
there's no difference between us and
anybody else we have the Quran and the
Sunnah of the Prophet wasallam teaching
us there are other set of means that
people do not know except by the
Revelation from Allah the means that
Allah mentioned in the Quran and one of
which Allah said in the Quran
clearly if they are poor in the context
of being married get the men and women
get married to each other if they are
poor Allah the most high will make them
Rich out of his Bounty so it's mentioned
in the Quran the same reason why people
would hold back on marriage is because
they're poor they don't have enough or
the status and the degree and so on
Allah subhana T refuting this call by
saying Allah will make them Rich that's
why abdah Mas the companion of the
Prophet wasallam said how can a person
hearing this verse and doesn't get
married to be rich if you want to be
rich get married opposite to what people
say this is now a test Allah subhana tal
is saying to you if you want to make
money if you want to be rich and Allah
subh bless bless your Provisions get
married your Provisions will be blessed
because you're obeying the orders of
Allah especially you're getting married
to protect your religion not getting
married just for the lusts of it but to
protect your religion so the parents can
go ahead and do what the prophet said
for them to do and come together in a
Wholesome Way in marriage because if you
don't and then they can continue school
they have to stop school because you got
married and now those those
psychologically physically those is
going to be met otherwise they're going
to go through the back door aren't they
a lot of them end up going and doing it
anyways but the wrong way and thean has
his ways when a person commits a sin the
Shan will come to him and tell him
you're a bad person you cannot stand in
the Salah you need to stay away totally
from the path of Allah subhana wa tala
so for one sin he would lead them to
even sometimes Renegade from the de of
Al Islam and this is another thing if a
person out of weakness fell into a sin
would need not to be despaired from the
mercy of Allah subh we need to return to
Allah t with repentance and a person if
he commits a sin it doesn't mean that he
abandons the Salah if he goes to the
prayers in the Masjid he needs to keep
doing that even if he committed a sin
return to Allah subhana t with
repentance never give up never give up
and it's the responsibility of the
communities that they need to support
the young adults in their Community
putting them together in the same
classrooms in the same environment and
we tell them you need to stay away from
each other how can that happen
this is against the human nature we need
to protect them by getting them married
and for those who are not able to get
married the advice of the Prophet
wasallam to fast because the most
important thing is to save your religion
wait for the for the for the favor from
Allah T to come to you we cannot sustain
the punishment of Allah subhana wa tala
in this life and in Hereafter so we want
to strive like you said earlier we're
almost out of time for the Hereafter no
and deaf is coming as you said and avoid
argumentation stay patient
that is mentioned over you said 90 times
in the Quan and patient not to go
towards the boyfriend girlfriend get
married and the parents also as you
mentioned help the children don't
oppress the children last closing
comments and suggestions please our life
one of the two acts of worship that we
always in that state is patience and
being grateful to Allah subhana T so we
need to practice this patience is to do
what Allah subhana T ordered us it's not
a negative action it's something that we
are positively doing what Allah subhana
T wants from us patiently and at the
same time being grateful to him that he
gave us the life and the health and
everything like that so we need to be
patient to fulfill his orders and to
submit ourselves otherwise what
submission submission is not just in one
thing or the other submission in all of
our Affairs in everything we say
everything we do in any state that we
are in we need to be submitted to the
creator of the heavens and the Earth
thank you very much may Allah the
creator of the heavens and earth reward
you once again for being with us here
thank you very much mashah God will it
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