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we're going to be talking about
something that's very very very
important all the topics are important
but this one especially because we as
those who have submitted ourselves
entirely to the one God the same God of
Jesus Abraham Noah Moses and the last
and final M the prophet Muhammed peace
be upon the one Creator we stay away
from all evilness all evil Deeds
adultery
fornication
eating the pig we won't even say that
word sometimes but we'll end up a lot of
times slandering somebody backbiting
somebody so we stay away from we do the
prayers we do the
physical many of the physical things
that we need to do the spiritual things
and this is one of the things that are
so heavy
so heavy on the scale the day of
judgment that it can land You by saying
good words it can land you in the
Paradise by saying evil worlds it can
land you in the Hellfire so we're going
to be talking about this topic and we
come back with shik ibraim a Dan tight
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peace be unto you sh welcome back in
town again it's my pleasure it's always
good to be here and I'm always glad that
you take the time to visit us here at
the studio it's my pleasure
alhamdulillah time is short thank you
very much uh we're going to be talk you
see when I opened up the show I talked
about now we as those Muslims Muslim is
one who submits himself or herself
entirely to the one God the Creator not
the Sun not the moon not a man or woman
but the creator of all these things and
we pray five times a day and these are
the obligatory prayers but you can pray
optional prayers so we pray we fast you
know we give in charity we avoid taking
the life of an innocent Soul we avoid
adultery fornication we avoid a lot of
these major sins but some people they
avoid all these sins and they won't even
say the word Pig some people because
it's a filthy animal but they'll end up
slandering their brother their sister
they'll backbite them and they don't
understand the heaviness of this tongue
and the evil that I can cause so we want
to Define what is backbiting cuz some
people will say you know what I'll say
it in their face so what's the problem
if I say it if they're not there because
this is the truth even though it's
causing a lot of corruption and disunity
so maybe let's start off with what Islam
has to say about the definition of
backbiting before saying the definition
of backbiting it's very important to
understand the status of one's tongue we
know that Ean goes to the basis of our
religion which is IM Faith the belief
belief is not just something in the
heart belief it's something in the heart
Deeds Done by the heart and things that
we say with our mouth and things that we
do with the different parts of our
bodies if we relate what we say to our
belief that would make the Muslim
realize that our words is our actions
actions are words and words are actions
so we have to make sure that we say what
pleases Allah subhana wa tala and stay
away from what displeases Allah subhana
T the tongue is the only muscle in one's
body that never gets tired we can speak
and talk the whole day we don't get
tired with our tongues so how can we act
according to what Allah subhana T wants
from us there are things that we need to
do that we are ordered in the Quran and
in the Sunnah of the Prophet wasallam to
do and there are things that we need to
stay away from one of which is back
biting or slandering lying and so on and
so forth the definition of backbiting
defined by the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam when he asked the
companions he told them do you know what
means and this is the Arabic word of
backbiting Al literally means something
that is unseen from that means you're
saying something about someone without
his
presence the companions they asked the
prophet wasam what it is the prophet
sallallahu alai wasallam
said that you mention your brother
by something that he dislikes that's it
that's the definition of back biting so
it can be it can actually be true it
this is actually what backbiting is that
it's true but he will dislike it like
let's say that you're not there and
there's two brothers or two sisters and
they're talking but if that person was
there they would object to that they
wouldn't like that right even if they
have the ability to say in front of
their face still it's considered to be
Beg by so that's not justification I
would say it even if they were here
because that's the excuse a lot of
people use say the the companions they
as the prophet what if what I'm saying
isn't my brother it's true I'm not lying
he said the prophet wasallam said if
what you're saying is true that's that's
backbiting that's what is Haram that is
what's a major sin but if you're saying
something that is not in him this is a
higher level of a sin which is anima or
slandering that you committed a worse
sin so uh you can say or you can fall
into the back biting by a word saying so
and so the short the short that he's
short or the tall or the greedy or the
liar or whatever there is to the extent
of which and many people do not know
this you don't have even to say a word
if you tell me for example how is
brother Muhammad doing and I do like
this this is back by because that what
what does that mean oh which means that
he's he's not that good with with your
facial expression with your body
language cuz 65 they say 65 % of
communication is done like physically so
you're physically communicating that you
know and you add to this if you ask me
about a brother and I say may Allah
subhana tala guide us all that's
backbiting I didn't say anything bad I I
even made Dua supplication that Allah
subhana T guide him right what is a
what's a beautiful statement but I said
it in a in a way that means he's on
something wrong you're saying he's
misguided right cuz he needs the
guidance yeah so that by itself is
backbiting unless unless there's certain
exceptions to backbiting if I want you
to help me in trying to fix a problem in
him that's a it's a good thing but just
to put down a brother to step on someone
so that people are higher this is how
the mentality of some people are yeah
for you to be high you have to step on
someone now sh it's so beautiful that
you know if if you testify what you
believe that there's no God but the one
God that we only want to worship him
alone you know and and you testify
that's one word That's Heavy so heavy on
the scale and that Allah is a true can
be you know pleased with you by saying
these good words that you can have a
reservation in Jenna because of these
good words but talk to us the flip side
people don't understand isn't there this
Hadith that talks about it the flip side
that one word that evilness is it's like
not restraining yourself from saying bad
things you can win yourself a seed in
the Hellfire the prophet Sall Al
wasallam said in
authentic that a slave of Allah human
being would say a word just one word
just one just one
word that bring the anger of Allah
subhana t a sinful word that he's not
aware that it would reach that level of
of being a sin it will make him fall
into the Hell Fire for 70 years wow you
know that we enter the fold of Islam
with the word of mouth of course after
the conviction of the heart but in the
outside appearance once a person says I
bear witness that there's no one worthy
of worship except Allah and the prophet
Muhammad wasallam is the final messenger
he become a muslim with the word of
tongue a word of tongue can take the
person outside the fold of Islam if a
person mock the religion if a person
curses Allah
subhana or something like this so we
need to make sure that anything we say
Allah
says nothing that a person would say
unless there is two angels are writing
down what is being said so it's either
going to be in the balance of Good Deeds
or in the balance of bad Deeds this life
is is about fulfilling the rights of
Allah subhana wa tala and fulfilling the
rights of others the honor and dignity
of a of a human being of a Muslim is
something that is so sacred and to be
protected the same way that I don't have
the freedom to punch someone to hurt
someone physically or to take one's
money as important as this is to protect
the honor and dignity of a human being
that once you say something bad about a
human being as if you are shedding the
blood of this human being as if you are
taking his money new laws on the face of
Earth would allow this to happen yes and
the same thing in Islam we're not
allowed to attack the honor and dignity
of someone by putting them down we're
going to take a break Shay and we'll
continue on with this very very
important topic here on the dean show
sit tight we'll be right back I started
asking deeper question the question I
want people to really ask
themselves is when you come back from a
night on the town you've been drinking
you've been boozing you've been dancing
you've been
hanging out with girls guys whatever
number
one did you improve yourself as a human
being number two did you contribute
anything to the betterment of
humanity the amazing thing is is that
the most advanced studies in
Psychology about human happiness
show that these are the two key factors
in making people profoundly happy
I Take 5 minutes out of my day and pray
to the Creator and none of the creations
and I feel deep internal peace and I
still have my normal
life back here on the dean show Islam
submission to the one God that's how you
get that peace that we're all looking
for all the messengers of God they
taught it they brought it and that's why
we're continuing the Legacy we're not
following a new religion it's the same
way of life that all the messengers of
God including Jesus peace be upon they
live this way of life and how beautiful
it is that even these details aren't
left out protecting a human's honor and
their dignity by making sure that you
don't oppress someone not just with your
hands but with the tongue so let's
continue on shik talking about please
that isn't there we have the Quran the
verbatim word of God and then we have
the example of the last and final
messenger sent to mankind of prophet
Muhammad his authentic sayings so isn't
there also a saying that like in the
morning that the that the body is
pleading with the tongue to be upright
because because of this tongue you could
end up actually getting killed by
someone because arguments quarrel start
you can divide a family you can really
hurt your brother or sister make him cry
make him shed tears you know or you can
do something upright and this is what
Islam has encouraged to to be upright
can you take it from here and talk to us
about that right this is what you
mentioned is that the whole different
parts of the body would plead with the
tongue because the tongue is basically
leads them to either their salvation and
goodness or their own destruction the
tongue is like the spokes person for the
heart and see even there's so many
things to be talked about really but
when you look even at how Allah subhana
T created us physically you see how the
tongue is created mhm that it's not out
makes the human being looks you know not
very decent but it's protected you have
the teeth you have the mouth you have
the lips so that it stays in there yeah
unless you think that there's a benefit
of speaking then you start speaking now
you can bring it out right yeah but not
that it's just out like the eyes for
example no it's something that has been
protected and we should protect it and
we see in the Quran and the Sunnah the
way of the prophet wasallam and the
actions of the prophet wasallam and the
action of the early generations of Islam
that basically comprises the religion
the Quran when it talked about back
biting it gave a very severe example he
says would you love that you would eat
the Flesh of your brother dead this is
the example of someone backbiting
someone as if you killed him or he's
dead and you're eating his flesh dead
this is what the creator of the heavens
and earth is saying in the in the
Glorious Quran the verbatim word of God
right and the Quran does not exaggerate
this is not exaggeration when you
backbite someone exactly as if you
eating that flesh of that brother dead
you're eating it and that's why the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam when
two of the companions of the Prophet
wasallam they said something about their
servant the servant was sleeping and
when they asked for food and they heard
that the servant is sleeping they said
one of them said he sleeps too much
that's it he sleeps too much when they
went to the prophet wasallam to ask for
food the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said to the messenger that they
sent go tell them that I see the meat of
your brother between your teeth the
prophet wasam also was not exaggerating
he was seeing something that we cannot
see and when he went back and he told
them that and they said how is that well
the prophet wasallam told them that you
already ate so they asked the prophet
how did we eat he said you ate the Flesh
of your brother he is your brother it
doesn't mean that he is your servant
that you can just say things about him
to that he would dislike for you to say
to that extent this beautiful religion
of Islam
protected the honor of the human being
the prophet s wasallam in the farewell
pilgrimage he stood in front of all the
companions for one generation to the
other to take these words he
said all the Muslim on the Muslim is
Haram it's sacred is protected his body
his wealth and his honor and dignity
this is something to be protected not
for anybody to cause any harm to this so
this is our de this is our religion is
to protect the human beings from the The
Evil Within their own selves this is
amazing amazing now we as as students
who who want to learn this knowledge we
hear the quranic the AY of the Quran and
the Hadith and then we want to sit with
Scholars people such as yourself who can
comment on these things just so we don't
get it wrong now there's another
authentic narration from the last
prophet uh the last final message s to
mankind of prophet Muhammad peace be
upon him and comment on this where even
the details of when is the most
beneficial to speak you know he talked
about uh is it true like inviting the
good or um inviting someone to give in
charity to um uh to give in charity or
reconciling between two individuals so
besides this you know many of us they
say psychologists that you know men they
speak like uh 12,000 words or something
a day women speak like 25,000 so now if
the prophet peace be upon him saying
this is where you're getting rewarded so
now you spending let's say 2 hours on
the phone or in a Hala in the coffee
shop and the mouth is just going off the
meter is
running what do we do do we have to like
bite this tongue and not let it go
because are you going to definitely from
all these words how much words are
actually beneficial and how many of them
are just you're wasting time and you're
accumulating sin one of the leaders of
this
de he said that there's three cases
before you speak you need to understand
them three of them three of them if you
know that you're going to speak about
something evil then definitely do not
say anything if you know for sure that
you would say something that is good
then say it doesn't have to be something
about the religion I can tell you how
you doing the weather is nice something
like this to break the eyes between
people to make them feel comfortable
this is something absolutely good for a
person to be sa to to say the third
thing if you're not sure whether what
you're going to say is going to be good
or not it's going to bring to bring what
is good or to bring what is evil in that
case you do not say anything so out of
three cases you only speak in one case
so that means we are originally quiet
till proven otherwise you see what I'm
saying not like we're talking till we
prove to ourselves that we're saying
something wrong no we don't talk till we
see that there's some benefit in
speaking okay so now let's give some
practical examples some people more than
others like to be on the phone mhm and
you know even though nowadays you know
even the cell phone they're telling us
you know this rad radiation is bad for
you now for the person who's used to
being on the phone the whole day let's
say two three hours a day or an hour
what advice should they be on the phone
that long well there's a benefit that's
what you just said if there's no benefit
it's just talk and talk The More The
person talks without uh paying attention
of what he's saying or she's saying the
more easier for the person to fall into
the sin it's very easy to it's going to
Shan's going to come and he's going to
slip some in next thing you know you're
having a you know A bash you're bashing
someone and and now you're accumulating
thatan the devil is not is working very
hard and diligently and he would just it
it feels good to B bite this is it feels
good it makes you higher than that
person what it means when I say such a
person is not good that means I'm good
see what I'm saying so it feels good for
a person to beg bite to put people down
yeah because this is how people would
Elevate themselves or this is how they
think but when we see that Allah subhana
wa tala protected us from this and we
should not complete our Iman till we
love for our brothers but we love for
ourselves and once we do that then Allah
subhana T would Elevate the levels of a
person that would control himself only
for the sake of Allah subhana tala so
instead of being busy with this there's
so many good things to be busy with
we're living in a world where there's so
much suffering in it yeah and what's
wrong with getting ourself and time busy
to help those who are needy to to do
what is right there's nothing wrong with
with giving ourself time to to to Joy
and so on but with the permissible acts
not just do something that is wrong
Brothers in some of these coffee shops
and they're uh you know they sitting
around talking and yapping away and
what's that stuff that they call the
smoking it's not a it's not nicotine but
it's some kind of flavor what is that
you have these in a lot of these
restaurants right what is it called the
Arabic I'm not sure the but you know
what I'm talking about right and they
sitting there talking drinking coffee
and you know again 3 4 hours and
sometimes even the Salat passes because
you're so intrigued in this conversation
and then you got the sisters even in
some mids they'll get together and
they're having a halah complaining about
their husbands and these are the
practical things that are going on what
advice do we have for both for the
brothers and the sisters ypp in away and
you know what it's of no benefit
accumulating sin it is no benefit that
it would cause harm unless there's a
need for such a thing for example if a
woman is asking a question what to deal
with her husband is it permissible or
not permissible has nothing wrong with
that going a person going to the judge
for example saying such and such took
from me this he did this harm to me this
is not considered to be backbiting if I
if a person wants to get married for
example or uh the father of uh of his
daughter she wants to get married and
they're asking about that person should
you just say the good things because you
don't want to back bite no it's it's an
it's a trust that you have to say the
evil things before the good things
because now it's something that would
affect this relationship you see someone
go going into a business transaction
with someone you know that he is a thief
or he takes the money other people then
you need to go advise him this is all
not backbiting so whatever brings
goodness it's not considered to be
backbiting but things just to kill the
time and to enjoy oneself and we have to
make sure that Allah subhana TAA knows
what's in our hearts and what's our
intentions when we say things so we have
to Be watchful of Allah subh and control
that tongue and as I as as we heard
before it's even with the body Lang
language with a word that might sound
very nice but you said it in a context
that would undermine this brother then
it becomes not permissive and may the
creator of the heavens and earth protect
us from all the evil and help us to do
good we'll be right back with more here
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Al there'll always be someone that will
be there to say something negative but
at the same time there'll be someone
there to say something positive also
just hold on to the Rope of
everything in this universe rely and
need Allah the Quran says don't kill
women don't kill children don't kill old
people don't attack the civilians this
is what the prophet Muhammad told
us said that the prophet never ever
started a war against
anybody now in upon investigating all
the religions I remember finding out the
meaning of what Islam is what a Muslim
is those who surrender theel to God is a
Muslim those who surrender submit to God
God's will that is it Islam was pure it
was just you just pray to God your
creator is the dean
show back here on the dean show with
shik ibraim zadan and we're encouraging
people to say good or be quiet can we
say that talk good say good words or
just be quiet I want to before we wrap
things up you know you know the mother
of the Believers we all make mistakes
you know can you comment on when the
prophet peace be upon him even corrected
his own wife and what she said and the
significance of it just if this word
would have been thrown in the sea it
would have darkened it just comment on
this when she said something about one
of the wives of the Prophet Sall alhi
wasallam she said just one word and it's
something to mean that she was short
just that and the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam told her you said a word
that if it's to be mixed with the ocean
it would contaminate it so showing her
that this one word is not an easy thing
came out of the mouth we don't think of
what come out of our mouths but it's
written and it attacked the honor and
dignity of someone and the prophet
wasallam again and again he does not
exaggerate so imagine something would
contaminate all the oceans on the face
of Earth you know the oil spill and what
happened imagine that just one thing
would contaminate the whole oceans on
the face face of Earth bag biting would
do this if it was something physical so
it's by the mercy of Allah that it does
not transform to something physical
otherwise we won't be able to live our
lives because of how much evil that is
being spread so the prophet s wasallam
correcting his wife in
J which shows that we as human beings
were're not supposed to be perfect
sinless people but when we fall into a
mistake we return with repentance and
asking Allah subhana t for forgiveness
but repentance from back biting is a bit
difficult than repenting from a sin that
has to do with a person alone because
Allah subhana tal you ask his
forgiveness plus you need to ask
forgiveness from that one person that
you backbit it but if you do that he
might get very angry with you it might
even sever the relationship far worse so
in that case the they say do not go to
the one that you back bited him you
don't go to him you say I I talked about
you in front of whole bunch of people in
a bad way instead make Dua supplication
to Allah subhana wa tala for such a
person give charity on his behalf do
something good mention him in a good way
in the same Gathering if you can so that
this will be in the balance of his good
deeds in the day of judgment so that you
don't even bring more harm in your
relationship so almost coming to a close
and we we want the best for everybody
and you know along with Islam calling
the human being to what the purpose of
life is giving them all the instructions
on how to be successful in this life and
the next like no other way of of Life
the Quran the verbatim word of God we
invite people to read it and it has
everything from A to Z how a human being
needs to live so you can be successful
as I said not only this light but
definitely with Jenna paradise and the
next this detail which is such a major
detail it it's a major sin and breaks
homes or makes homes with that tongue so
how could again you know the the
individual that just so used to it makes
them feel good you know it makes them
kind of like by putting the other person
down they're just so addicted to it and
it's just that one person that jumps
into the Masid or you know and they they
get the whole crew going and everybody
starts going how could the person that
finds thems they don't like it but then
they end up getting into it by someone
else starting it what should that person
do let's start with that person this is
a very good point because the one that
falls into the sin of backbiting is not
just the one that is saying it it's also
the one that is hearing it and not
saying anything about it and this is has
an Evidence at the time of the prophet
the the example that I mentioned earlier
the prophet wasallam said to both of
them in which one only said something
about the servant the prophet sallam
said to both of them both of you have
ateed the Flesh of your brother both
both so whether you are listening to
backbiting or saying the backbiting it's
the same that means we are not to be in
the same crowd where people are
backbiting if somebody back bites
someone in front of us we either we
leave or we say something in a nice way
that this is not appropriate if you see
someone stealing money from someone or
beating someone up you won't just stay
quiet so the same thing when it comes to
B biting this religion one thing I
wanted to say that people need to look
into the beauty of the religion of Islam
if people would recite the Quran and see
the way of the prophet wasallam and the
life of the Prophet wasallam this is the
perfect example to all Humanity that's
why there's no need for another
Messenger to come it's all there and
people should see the miraculous words
of Allah subhana wa tala even in this
manners and the words of tongue and all
of our actions to fulfill the purpose of
our life and that is to worship Allah
subhana it's amazing because when you
worship the Creator not that he needs it
you become upright you become a better
human being and these things that we're
talking about it just when you stay away
from it isn't it you feel better but
when you fall into this it doesn't it it
you accumulate those black St spots on
the heart and you start to feel the evil
effects of the sin right and it makes
the person like intoxicated on the face
of Earth we need to be sober away from
these things but knowing exactly that we
have a purpose in our life we're not
just living for no purpose there's a
purpose and how to fulfill this purpose
by protecting our rights and the rights
of others and before all of that the
rights to worship Allah subhana T last
closing comments and suggestions we gave
the advice for the person who's sitting
with the person who's slandering or
backbiting get away uh even what you
know correct them but the person who's
initiating it that person who's addicted
to it you know what you penetrated their
heart they heard the Quran
and the advice from the prophet peace be
upon them and you know they got some
fear in them and they don't want to do
it but they might fall back into it what
advice do you have for him she the
advice is that we need to fear Allah
subhana tala and we need to Be watchful
of Allah subhana wa taala and we need to
compare this life to the here after we
have certainty that we would leave this
life and we have certainty that there's
a Hereafter which is an everlasting one
compareed between both definitely we
should choose the Everlasting one it
doesn't mean that we would have misery
on the face of Earth but we need to live
on the face of Earth in the ways that
Allah subhana wants us it would never be
misery what is a what is a bad thing for
us to control the ways that we say
things the company one last thing is who
is your companion who is your friend
because the prophet
said that you have the same religion as
your friend so if your friend is back
biting you would fall into the same sins
so we need to choose our friends we need
to be with those who would remind us of
Allah subhana wa tala not the ones that
would attack the honor and dignity of
others thank you very
much again may God Almighty the Creator
Allah reward you for being with us thank
you so
much and thank you for sitting through
another episode of the dean show as the
last and final messenger sent to mankind
said he said for those who believe in
the creator of the heavens and earth in
the last day say what is good or be
quiet and you can't go wrong by just
being quiet and watching that tongue
because as we got to hear that tongue
can land you in Paradise or the Hellfire
may God Almighty protect us from that
hot hot fire and may we do so much good
and may we worship the creator of the
heavens and earth serve him the way that
he has told us to serve him not
according to our desires but the way
that has been revealed in the verbatim
word of God the Quran and the authentic
Sunnah the authentic sayings of the last
and final Messengers sent the mankind
the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
and we'll see you next time here on the
dean show until then peace be unto you