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you thank you for tuning in to the dean
show when we come back we're going to be
talking about who is your best friend we
all have best friends in life people
that we really attached to people that
we follow people that we emulate or
maybe we're somebody's best friend so we
want to come back and talk about who is
your best friend is it Allah or is it
someone other than the creator of the
heavens and earth we'll be right back
here on the dean
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alaykum peace be with
you you alhamdulillah thank you
alhamdulillah all praises to the creator
of heavens and earth who's given us this
ability to be here and to talk about
something that's very important
what's topic the topic today we're going
to be discussing best friends now when I
introduced the topic I was like who is
your best friend someone I think and
then I said you know is Allah your best
friend someone think how am I going to
be friends with Allah that's the creator
of the heavens and earth is is this
something that's not practical to make
Allah your best
friend
okay is nothing wrong to have friends
okay and I don't think we can make it in
life without friends
but there is a difference between a
friend and the best
friend uh your wife can be a friend your
husband can be a friend your neighbor
can be many people can be your friends
but the reality when you're talking
about who is the best friend this is a
different issue this is the ultimate
friend yes best in Quran talks
about that Allah
took Ibraham the prophet ibraim as a
intimate friend mhm uh and the Quran
talks even about the prophet Muhammad s
alhi
wasallam that the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam who migrated he have to
run away and leave Mecca because
nonbelievers try to kill him and him and
Abu Bakr only and they went to hide in
the cave so he was saying to his friend
don't be
sad Allah is with us okay Allah is with
us so if Abu Bakr is the friend of the
Prophet The Prophet is the friend of but
there is a higher position here that the
one who always be there with you when
somebody tell because Mecca is the town
of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam this where he born when he grow
okay but for a certain time this
friendship stopped and the people turn
against him so you can understand how
things change if it's a wife is a
children uh so things and even if your
wife is the best friend or your husband
is the best
friend sooner or later they die they
leave you and after this he sad because
you left them but Almighty Allah is the
best friend and the only friend that
always can be there
a supporter and the Quran
say Allah is the friend or the best
friend uh the guardian the protector of
those who believe and what is the most
important
thing he takes them out of the darkness
to the light so the guidance okay is
something is very important and the
guidance has two types that you can
guide people by talking and guide people
by turning their hearts you as my friend
you can try to convince me to be a
Muslim or to carry the same ideology you
have but you could not turn my mind and
my heart to accept it but Allah is the
only one he can guide through his
Revelation and also you have the control
to turn your heart to make you accept
this so he's the best friend friends are
very important as you said you know it's
nothing wrong with having your wife as
your friend your husband your friend but
now sometimes we excuse me let's correct
something we we talk in when you say
your husband because when I say I say
your wife and you say to your husband
maybe somebody will misunderstand and
think that Muslims they can have uh this
kind of relationship gays and whatever
no we're talking about speaking in
people in general I think it's very
important to make it here because we
don't believe in this stuff you know yes
yes so we're talking about is it right
yes absolutely so now we see that many
friends and if you have the wrong
friends you can get LED astray some
people they don't want to practice the
way of life that all the messengers of
God practice Islam submission to the one
God acquiring Peace by doing all the
wonderful things he told us to do so
they're nervous they're scared because
they're scared what their friends might
say exactly exactly so these are the
wrong friends or you got to of course
because they have impact in you and
Subhan Allah the prophet Muhammad Sall
alaihi wasallam had indicated this long
time ago
the the friend or the companion or the
Gathering of a good companion and bad
companion like a person who sell perfume
and the bad companion or friend is like
the person who blow in the furnace if
you sit beside somebody who's selling
perfume you smell something good it has
some impact in you okay but if you sit
in the shop of the blacksmith and he
blow in the furnace he can burn your
clothes so you have to watch and and
there is a saying
say that mean your friend can pull you
like a tow truck okay he has this
ability that he can make you go stray or
make you go to the right way the wrong
friend and this what's happening you
know how many Muslim women stop putting
hijab because they they concern about oh
what what's my friends and what is my
schoolmate going to say about me because
it has impact on them and same thing how
many people they became Muslim because
they have the right friend so it is very
important and don't forget your wife
also part of this companionship and
friends as a result of this the prophet
sallallahu alhi wasallam
saying marry a woman because her
religion otherwise he be a loser because
she spend more money more time with oh
not more money more time with you and
she going to have impact on your
children so make sure you get the proper
wife for your future generation so we
have to be careful about friends but
nevertheless is still the best friend no
one other than Allah because he always
going to be there for you everybody else
they may die they may get angry they
stop they may go away so you been left
with no friends but the creator of the
heavens and earth he was there before
the creation he'll be there when it ends
and that's the one we got to put our
certainty Reliance on the one God
might Allah alhamdulillah let's take a
break sh we'll be right back with more
here on the dean
show on the outside everything looks
good you see the $100,000 cards you see
a lot of diamonds you see a lot of
females and they think that this is you
know this is a life this is this is like
you know Paradise right here on
Earth it's not anyone's job to go into
someone's heart and change their heart
your job is to tell people what the
truth is and the reality of it is while
we're sitting here while I'm sitting
here constantly paying for the disease
wasone I am not afraid to stand alone if
I Lies by side I am not afraid of stand
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alone back here on the dean show we're
talking about who's your best friend now
we're always trying to impress people
but when you want to impress your true
best friend Allah then you're not going
to take the hijab off you're not going
to be worrying about impressing other
people who can lead you astray in a way
actually they can lead you to the
displeasure of the Creator and they can
lead you towards the Hellfire the
problem that you don't have the real
love for your creator because if you
have the real love for your Creator and
you want to be loved by your creator
this will be your priority you don't
worry about who's happy with you who's
mad at you you concern is my Lord my
Creator happy with me or not this has
have to be your priority is there one
authentic saying by the last and final
messenger sent to mankind the prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him that says if
if a person you know
at at the at uh the pleasure of people
yes at the pleasure of people at the
expense of displeasing Allah Allah will
be displeased with that person and make
the people displeased with them can you
go ahead and elaborate on this and for
you you understand to try to please
Allah regardless whether for the people
Allah will be pleased with you and he
will turn the hearts of the people to be
pleas with you but if you try to win the
pleasure of the people displeasing Allah
Allah displeased with with you and still
these people going to maybe smile at
your face for now but maybe a day two
there'll be something different and you
can't make everybody happy exactly
you're always going to Happ and why you
have to worry about somebody like you
okay human being doesn't matter what's
he wearing what's their height what is
their color a human being like you they
are weak if they get sick he understands
or they die they could not help
themselves so why I'm putting these
people to be as main priority why this
is because I have something wrong with
me I did not set my priority there's a
deficiency maybe in Ean in IM of course
of course because they still value
people more than the Creator but if you
have Allah the
Creator as your best friend you're going
to have the best manners you're going to
be the most educated aren't you you're
going to have the best character and
then people at the end are going to love
you anyway of course is this true and
don't forget that the when you love
somebody when you be a friend because
you love the person admire the person
this is a a a feeling inside the heart
you have to understand who controlling
the hearts the human being could not
control their hearts Allah subhana T is
the one who controls the hearts so you
have to be concerned about the one who
have the control if you fix your
relationship between you and him now he
will take care of letting the people
loving you happy with you all these
things so we have to set our priority
who that the one I want to pleas that's
the biggest one of the biggest problems
especially with the peers even it goes
towards adult fitting in you just want
to fit in at any expense and this will
cost you it's danger it's very danger
it's going to cost you because at the
end you'll be a loser you're going to
lose the Hereafter because you're going
to definitely lose this life believe me
those people who try to please them they
be the first one dis pleas with you give
it a time and this happened me many
times okay in families in friends in
schools in jobs okay turn their back to
you and this is reality everybody can
relate to this best friends end up worse
enemies exactly but Allah will never
turn his back the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam teaching us that all
when you love somebody love him you
understand gradually or easy don't fall
into this love that when something
happen you could not even oh I don't I
could not I could not make it okay like
somebody put their priority of my wife
my girlfriend we don't believe in but
you understand for the public some
people talk only marriage in Islam whome
husband and wife no dating test driving
exactly exactly but whatever you call a
wife or you call it a girlfriend
whatever okay so if something happened
to this person now they feel that no
need for life they go jump in the river
they Comm Sude you understand why
because they did not have the right
understanding who's the on that need to
be loved and seeking their love you see
so all this things is temporary and it
doesn't work let's take a break and
we're going to be right back with some
ways on how you can get Allah's love
what's the ways to go about it when we
come back here on the dean
show there will always be someone that
will be there to say something negative
but at the same time there'll be someone
there to say something positive also
just hold on to the Rope of Allah
everything in this universe rely and
need Allah the Quran says don't kill
women don't kill children don't kill old
people don't attack the civilians this
is what the prophet Muhammad told
us said that the prophet never ever
start a war against
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Iman is going down check
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yourself there is none worthy to be
worshiped except Allah alone you got
some CD or some music in the car bobbing
your head to 50 cents or
no it's common sense don't do things
that can hurt
people Lady Gaga goooo and all that
other
nonsense bulying is Haram backbiting
slandering and such substit as
smoking stay tuned 18inch biceps we'll
see what happens to Eddie on The Dean
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in back here on the dean show with shik
Muhammad odley shik tell us now okay we
know that we said earlier that your
friends they can have a great impact on
you mhm they can help you get closer to
Allah if they're righteous friends
exactly or if they're friends who are
corrupt they're going to the nightclubs
you know all they're thinking about is
fulfilling their lust and desires and
you're trying to fit in you're going to
go with that Bunch you're going to
you're going to end up getting corrupt
yourself let let's give little bit
explanation about a friends here that
you're supposed to be
that the friends that you take from the
human being the one that when you
remember almighty God he will assist you
if you forgot about the remembrance of
God he will remind you yes that's a
friend this if you don't have this type
of person this is better to stay away
yeah because he's going to have impact
in you is going to corrupt you sooner or
later so now as example I say uh oh
Eddie we did not pray let's pray so
instead of say yes let's pray th say
what about if we go and go to the mask
and pray it in congregation good friend
you see this is a good friend and if I
forgot you will remind me but here is
the problem that you have friends
nowadays they approaching you okay about
doing the things let's smoke let you
understand have girlfriends let's go to
the why you got this hijab on your head
take it off EXA doesn't look like it
don't fit you we're in the 21st century
now why are you wearing this on your
head you need to wear a short skirt let
the boys whistle at you wrong friends
mhm this this is a bad company can you
equate it now same thing you could not
even call them a
friend can you equate it to if you're
trying to again we go back to some of
the worldly example you want to get a
big degree you want to be a doctor uh
scientist an engineer and you have a
good friend reminding you don't cut
Class come to school be on time that's a
good friend this the same thing exactly
exactly the other friends that encourage
you during because you're looking after
you understand things but other people
say hey man let's go watch TV let's go
understand exactly not a good friend
this is not this not the right okay tell
us Shake now tell us tell us please how
can we have Allah as our best friend
what will make us earn the pleasure of
our creator so that he'll love us and
we'll be that he'll be our best friend
this this is a big subject but BAS
basically if you can look in the Quran
if you look in the index word Love You
Because by the way a lot of Christians
they think that Islam is about do don't
and this is there is nothing called love
and they always say to you Jesus is Love
God is love love is a feeling God Is Not
A Feeling God is a Creator so the
terminology even is wrong God is not
love okay but God Almighty loves and he
loves us exactly so in Quran if you
found in the index and try to find the
word love you will find a lot of verses
talks about acts which make God Almighty
loves you as
example indeed Allah loves those who
repent comes back to him stop sinning
and come back Allah loves him and those
who profile himself physically mentally
spiritually you understand they always
sets to be clean purify thems stay away
from the wrong doing from the bad
mouthin okay from impurity Allah loves
this okay so you found description of
people whom Allah subhana waala loves
and Allah that Allah subhana tala he
loves those who spend in his cause those
who understand who care for others and
you found this is a lot in in Islam but
one of the main things
that getting closer getting closer to
God okay and there is many many many
ways and make means you have to fulfill
the obligation first the five time
prayers fasting Ramadan making the
giving the Zak but after this there is a
higher degree now and this will go show
you the result of the love ofm Mighty
God what
Almighty Allah is saying that my slave
servant continue getting closer to me by
doing
optional Deeds
addition more charity not only Zak more
sun prayer not only five time prayers
okay when you do extra optional Deeds
Almighty Allah will love you and he say
when he loves the slave servant of his
he became
the ear that you hear with the eye which
you watch with the hand you touch with
that mean God Almighty will be there for
you to guard all your limbs so you be
directed by your creator so you don't
find yourself doing the wrong thing now
he became a shield for your earring for
your sight so you're always doing the
good things M and of course when you are
loved by Allah you know what was the
reward if if you love somebody ready to
give him anything yes so can you imagine
if Allah loves us that's amazing that's
the love that you want this what it is
you can live on love if you have the
love of Almighty Allah you don't need
anything else but it's it's not just a
take take Rel you got to give
back go ahead tell us uh almost out of
time just a few more points I wanted to
put in tell us so the person you
mentioned that is fornicating you know
jumping from man to man woman to woman
you know swearing cursing doing evil
things dressing dressing promiscuous and
name it just doing drugs you know that
person obviously is not earning the
pleasure of Allah and you're furthering
yourself away from Allah but the one who
did all that but you said comes back
they can be still the best friend with
Allah is not only the best friend there
is a Hadith but because a short time
that the prophet wasallam said that
Allah Almighty Allah is so happy more
happier than one of you lost his camel
with everything on the camel in the
middle of the desert okay and he keep
searching and he could not find the
camel so he gave up and say let me die
now and waiting for death he close he
take a nap close his eyes wake up he
sees a camel he jump hold the camel
say oh God you are my slave I am your
God that the man was so happy he doesn't
even have to put the words together
correctly so instead of say thank you
God he said say I am your God you're my
slave so Allah is so happy much happier
than this man who find his lost camel
with all the food so whenever you come
back to Allah Allah welcome you Allah
happy that you come back and he doesn't
need you yeah but this is the love of
God and this is the reason he can be
your best friend can you make that
analogy cuz some people they think
desert camel never been there never done
that but if somebody lost their whole
bank account in a wallet and now
everything credit cards their whole life
savings is in like like a box but he's
in the middle of the desert there is no
911 there you have to understand this or
in a ghetto and he lost he's never get
his and someone gives it back is it the
same thing it's more than this it's more
than that yes Allah is more happier when
you repent and CH change your life for
the better Allah is so happier but he
doesn't need us but this is the to shows
you why he can he have to be your best
friend because even after sinning coming
back still welcoming you closing
comments and suggestions for those that
have having a hard time they influence
in the wrong way instead of the right
way but they want Allah to be their best
friend what advice you have for him I
tell
them make a U-turn make a U-turn and
make a U-turn and come back to Allah and
Allah subhana T is waiting in you at any
time doesn't matter day or
night and if you can cry one tear from
your eyes this will wipe the whole thing
great advice thank you very much may
Allah the creator of the heavens reward
you again for being with us thank you sh
beautiful advice make a your uturn you
know if you're going in the wrong
direction or right direction the signs
are there you got to watch this show if
you're just trying to fit in fit in with
this crowd that crowd and you see you're
not happy you're never content you'll
never be content until the dirt's in
your mouth until you're in the grave and
now you know what the drama of this
life it's over but the drama in the next
has just begun don't get caught by
surprise by melico the angel of death
and it snatches your soul and you spent
your whole life trying to please the
people at the expense of displeasing the
one Creator Allah work now to please
your Creator and let Allah be your best
friend that's how you can truly be
successful not only in this life but
definitely in the next and that's what
we're striving for to be the best in
this life and to have the best Paradise
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show until then peace be unto you I am
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by I am not afraid to stand
alone I am not afraid to stand alone if
a Lies by my side I am not not afraid to
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alone you have to pray as if everything
depends on Allah and it does but you
must work as if everything depends on
you and it doesn't that's my point you
see what I'm saying and I don't like
that I don't like us sitting here what
are you waiting for what are we waiting
for right now what are you waiting for
all these people to come to Islam what
are we waiting for what are we waiting
for right now when they going to come
they're going to come Allah going to
bring these people Allah subhana put in
our hand the ability to do it now do
your job
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