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in alhamdulillah
my dear brothers and
sisters I would like to dedicate this
talk to every
individual who was abandoned by their
father I would like to dedicate this
talk to every individual who has Loved
Someone in this world yet for one reason
or another was left abandoned I would
love I would like to dedicate this
talk to every
individual who has lost someone to death
and they couldn't figure out
why the talk is called he who has no one
has
Allah and I want you to imagine the
following
situation you're 7 years
old and you come from a family that
isn't well off you have many brothers
and sisters and your own parents cannot
afford to keep you in the house so they
say go and live with your uncle who is
going to take care of you
this Uncle of yours he runs a madasa for
young children he teaches them of the
Quran he's known to be a good and
righteous
man you go and live with this uncle and
you he treats you like one of his own
children he loves you and takes care of
you one day while you finished the class
you're sitting in your
room he comes into the room and he gives
you a hug
and that is how it all begins the next
day he comes and he touches you
somewhere else and it becomes more
inappropriate but you're a young child
you don't know what to feel you don't
know what to do but you know that
something is
wrong for four years this continues and
in fact it actually gets much much worse
and excuse me for not using the term But
please understand what I'm trying to say
things get much much worse
finally when you reach the age of 11 you
decide that you can't live like this
anymore you need to tell someone you
need to speak out you go to your parents
when you go to visit them you go to your
brothers and sisters your own blood
relatives you tell them what's going
on and they say you just have a Personal
Agenda against your uncle your uncle
runs a school he's the IM of the Masid
he's known to be righteous you just have
a personal problem and they just
absolutely ignore everything you have to
say this
individual grows up and cannot have a
stable
relationship every relationship they try
to have is sabotaged by the lack of
trust they can have in any
individual this
individual now let's bring it to reality
is a sister she wears n not because she
believes it's a religious
obligation but because she believes this
is the only way she can live in the
world where she can hide her face and no
one can truly know who she is this
sister at the age of 11 tried to commit
suicide she cut her own wrists yet Allah
subhana wa ta'ala did not allow her to
die this sister at the age of
19 took an overdose of pills again she
was taken to the hospital and Allah
did not allow her to die and she tried
it again one last time the third time
saying that perhaps this will be the
time where her pain will go away that
was all she wanted she wanted the pain
to be taken away and that is why she
sought out death she tried to commit
suicide one more time and again Allah
subhah wa ta'ala saved her once more she
finally decided to get some help and she
contacted me
and I thought at I thought to myself at
that time how do you take away this
individual's pain what could I possibly
do that I would be able to help this
individual this story became a journey
for myself and as I tried to help this
sister I realized that this wasn't just
an individual case there are people
across this world who are living in pain
and Agony different types of pain
different types of Agony but it always
comes down to the same conclusion
that Shan somehow or another finds a way
to get the better of them and derails
them from the path to Allah subhana wa
taala and this lecture is dedicated to
all of those
individuals I want to start off this
lecture by explaining the reality of
this world we live in this world with
all of the luxuries with all of the
Comforts and we think that this is what
the world is meant to be like but we
fail to realize that even in luxury even
in blessing this is a test from Allah
subhana wa taala even luxury and
blessing is a test from Allah subhana wa
ta'ala and that is what it all comes
down to that this life is a test from
Allah subhana wa ta'ala Allah subhana
says in
Allah subhana wa tala says in these
beautiful verses surely we shall test
each and every single one of you with a
loss of wealth with a loss of life with
a loss of profit and trade so give Glad
Tidings to those who are
patient those when they are tested they
say to Allah we belong and to him we
shall return upon those people are the
blessings and prayers of Allah subhah wa
ta'ala and indeed those are the ones who
are truly guided now this lecture
started off on a very heavy note and I
know it's very burdensome to feel
someone else's pain so I want to light
in the scene for a little bit I like to
do a small test and this test is to see
how you react to the of Allah subhana wa
tala and this test is called the driving
test the driving test is that follows I
want you to imagine you're a driver in
the car you're all by yourself you've
parallel parked your car and you're
reversing out so everyone get with me
right now inshallah you get into your
car you're in the driver's seat you put
your seat Bel on you look into the rear
view mirror and there's nothing there
you look into the passenger side mirror
and there's nothing there you put your
foot on the clutch you put it in reverse
and you're slowly slowly slowly backing
out
boom you just hit something what was the
first word that came to your
mouth for a lot of people it's a
four-letter word that they wouldn't say
in front of their
parents but the reality of this
situation is imagine if you died on that
word imagine if you died on that word it
was a truck it came and hit you and
Allah subhana T decided to take you away
at that time that was the word that you
would have died upon and this is how you
see how you react to the of Allah this
is just a make belief test that we're
doing in the Masid Far From Reality but
it happens people cross the street every
day they get hit by a car people are
driving they get hit by trucks people go
to sleep at night and they just pass
away so you always want to pay attention
very closely to what the Last Action
that you do is is if you have the
ability to remember Allah subhana wa
ta'ala then that is what you want to
strive for so that was the test how do
you react to the of Allah you now know
where you
stand number two when talking about
tests and trials from Allah subhana wa
taala trials and tests from Allah
subhana wa taala are not just the
calamities that strike Us in terms of
death in terms of loss of wealth but
there are also blessings that Allah
subhana wa tala gives us that we don't
thank Allah subhana wa ta'ala for and we
don't use them in their appropriate
means so this whole talk is about
changing perspective having the right
frame of mind and understanding what is
truly going on in your life if you are
not being tested by Allah subhana wa
ta'ala if you do not see that test then
now is the time to realize that you're
either being tested by pain or you're
being tested by Pleasure they both need
the exact same result you turn back to
Allah subhana wa ta'ala the one who is
being tested by pain he seeks Allah wa
tala's help and finds a recourse out the
one who is being tested by Pleasure he
thanks Allah subhana wa ta'ala for those
blessings and he uses those blessings to
get closer to Allah subhana wa ta'ala
Point number three when it comes to
tests and trials from Allah subhana wa
ta'ala you have one of two choices
particularly when it comes to Calamity
particularly when it comes to pain you
can either deal with the pain right now
and get closer to Allah subhana wa
ta'ala
or you can delay dealing with the
pain seeking the pity of others seeking
help from others and prolonging the pain
without any recourse and it's very
important to understand the cycles that
individuals go through when they go
through pain when they lose someone that
they love when they feel betrayed by
other individual the very first reaction
they have is to isolate themselves they
want to be alone now this is more
significant when it comes to men because
men natur naturally like to deal with
their own pain they don't like to speak
about it women naturally like to speak
about their pain and suffering and
that's why their first reaction is going
on the phone going to see their mothers
going to see their friends however when
it comes to True pain at one time or
another you will try to isolate yourself
and this is the first thing you need to
recognize that this is not what you want
to do this is not a natural reaction but
rather it is shaan telling you that you
will feel better when you're alone
because you're the only one that
understands what you're going through it
is a deception from Shan so while you
may need to be alone for a little while
prolonged isolation is very harmful and
detrimental to your situation what you
want to do at that time is that short
period of time once you've gotten over
that initial rage that initial pain then
after that you need to get around the
Believers you need to get around people
who are going to remind you of Allah
subhana wa taala and I want to share a
nice story from the students of
and this brings us to our fourth point
that fourth point is it's not about how
you live your life in this world it's
not about how you live your life in this
world but it's all about how you will be
raised in front of Allah subhana wa tala
it is all about how you will be raised
and this alludes us to the point that
whatever you die upon is what you shall
be raised upon so let your last deed be
your best one and the story goes as
follows there was a brother who came
overseas and he came to seek a
bachelor's degree in any field and the
natural climate was that this was the
first time he got freedom from his
family in his Society people are very
religious very practicing he couldn't
have the fun that he wanted to have so
he comes to a place like England he's in
a free mixing University in a society
where no girl looks at you in fact there
no girls in your class now all of a
sudden they're sitting next to you
and you can actually find an excuse to
talk to them hey can I borrow a pen hey
can I borrow some paper and conversation
becomes very easy and now that you have
a foreign accent oh my God you're a
fitner for them and this was the reality
that he went through that he came from a
foreign land and this attraction hid him
right away the initial stages were that
he' just go out for lunch he' just go
out for meetings and that is how life
continued he never actually committed
Zena one day though he went to a party
and he committed Zena out of you know
pure emotion he committed Zena and when
he was done he just lay there thinking I
have just ruined myself and he didn't
know what to do he didn't know where to
go he didn't have any close friends that
could guide him he knew that the only
place that this guidance that he had
known was back in his hometown he booked
a ticket back to Saudi Arabia where he
was from and on his way he had a stop
over in the city in the country of qar
while he's in qar he goes to the Mah and
he's just crying and you'll see that
this is one of the least most awkward
situation that you'll have you can think
about when you're with people and
there's this awkward silence and it's
really weird what do you do in that
situation what becomes even more Awkward
is when you see a grown man crying like
a baby he's crying like a baby what do
you do in that situation one of the
students of
he saw this man and he goes up to this
man and says oh man why are you crying
what's wrong and he explains to him the
situation that I committed Z and I've
destroyed myself and the only way I can
get rid of this pain is if I go back and
have the implemented on me this is the
only way I will be
purified the student calms the man down
and he says look don't do anything rash
let's go back to Riyad together and
we'll deal with the
situation they head back back to R and
the man is still crying throughout the
whole journey he feels really bad for
what he has
done the student says look we've arrived
in Riyad go spend the night at home I
will call you in the morning just make
sure you don't do anything don't do
anything just wait till I call you the
next morning the student calls and he
asked you know this is what happened I
met this man he committed Zena and he
feels that the only way he can be
purified is if he has the H implemented
on him B says tell this man not to turn
himself in but rather this sin has been
hidden from the people continue to hide
it rather seek forgiveness from Allah
subhana wa taala and turn yourself to
the Quran let Allah subhana wa ta'ala be
your guide so this is what the Sheikh
says to the student the student calls
this man up let's give him a name now
his name was
Ahmed he tells Ahmed look the says don't
turn yourself in death is the easy way
out this pain and suffering will not be
taken away from that act and Allah subh
waa does not want this from you but
rather Allah subhah wa ta'ala wants you
to rectify your ways turn back to Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala and that is when
that pain and suffering will be taken
away that is what Ahmed decides to do a
couple of days go by he starts reading
the Quran he starts praying in the
Masjid and he says that I've never
missed a single Salah in the Masid since
that event took place this continues for
about two weeks now this student he
disappeared from the life of Ahmed there
was no contact between him and then one
day he notices that he has a missed call
from Ahmed he says later on I'll give
him a call another couple of days go by
and ahmed's house is calling now his
home number is showing up on the Sheik's
phone five six times the student calls
the house back and he says how are you
guys doing what's going on and he say we
need to speak to you Ahmed needs your
help and he says definitely I'll come
over and see you tonight after Isa he
prays Isa heads over to the
house and he sees that something just
isn't right that you can walk into a
place no one will say anything but you
can see it from their faces you can see
it from their sights that something just
isn't right he goes to the father and he
sayam alaykum he says alaykum he says I
don't even know what to say to you but I
want to thank you from the bottom of my
heart because I know if it hadn't been
for you this wouldn't have happened and
the students thinking what did I do so
he says you know what happened what are
you talking about and he says let me
show you he says Ahmed went and prayed
Salat is
tonight and he came back and he came to
pray his sunas and he was in his room
for a really really long time and we
went to seek him out we didn't know what
had happened to him but I want to show
you he took the student to ahmed's room
and there Ahmed was in s and Allah
subhana wa tala took his life away at
that time and that is how he passed away
this is the story of an individual not
who was righteous but this man committed
Zena one of the biggest sins in Islam
and this is how Allah subhana wa taala
took his life away and inshallah when
he's resurrected that's the deed he's
going to resurrected on making s that to
Allah subhana wa ta'ala and that is why
when it comes to pain and suffering pain
and suffering only becomes negative If
it creates a barrier between you and
Allah subhana wa ta'ala but it becomes
positive pain becomes positive a
motivation for you when it brings you
back to Allah subhana ta'ala and this is
what every individual who's going
through pain and suffering needs to
realize that this point of pain and
suffering is not that Allah subhana wa
tala wants to punish you but this is a
calling from Allah subhana wa ta'ala oh
my slave come back to your Lord oh my
slave this is a reminder for you that I
want to bring you back to me and this is
one of the wisdoms of trials and
tribulations that while we call each
other on the phone while we text message
each other the calling of Allah subhah
wa taala comes through trials and
tribulations and you can react one of
two ways either you can deal with the
pain at that moment and decide to get
closer to Allah subhana wa taala or you
can decide to just restrict that pain to
yourself not do anything about it and
then you'll see what it does to your
dean and this is the last stage of the
cycle of isolation that once you're
isolated you will see that eventually
your Dean starts to disappear the
content of your Salah the in your Salah
it disappears your ability to recite the
Quran is no longer there your ability to
fast during the day it gets taken away
way what did you do differently what you
did differently was you gave yourself
into Shan and Shan's promise is that he
will lead you astray he will lead you
away from the path of Allah subhana wa
ta'ala so in times of trials and
tribulation you need to seek out the
Believers you need to seek out the
righteous and let them be your guide and
help to Allah subhana wa ta'ala
Point number five is that there is
actually a blessing inside trials that
we don't perceive the simplest trial
that an individual will go through is
that he's walking on the road and he
gets pricked by a thorn he gets pricked
by something that goes through his skin
and causes him to say ouch but it's only
for a split second the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam said that no
individual is pricked by a thorn except
that Allah subhana wa ta'ala purifies
him with a sin for it now imagine an
individual who loses someone that he
loves
what was the promise of the messenger of
Allah the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam was once giving his to women he
was giving a reminder to the sisters and
he said to the sisters that Allah
subhana wa tala does not take away three
children from a woman except that Allah
subhana wa T promises that sister
Paradise if she is patient now you can
imagine there's a sister in the audience
she didn't lose three children she only
lost two she says Yool Allah how about a
woman who has lost two children the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam knew
her situation and he said I can't
remember her name but he said Oh Sister
even an individual who has lost two
children Allah subhana wa tala will
promise that individual Paradise trials
and tribulations are a means of
purification there are a means of
purifying you so you can go to the
purest of places the punishment of Allah
is not out of anger and wrath the
punishment of Allah is a means of
cleansing you of your sins the
punishment of Allah is a preparation
that you can go into noblest and purest
of places
Al and this is why Allah subhana wa tala
sends trials and
tribulations Point number
six is that in this world you will never
truly be happy no matter what Allah
subhana wa ta'ala gives you you will
never truly be content you can have the
most amount amount of money in the world
you can have the biggest house you can
have the most beautiful spouse you can
have everything that you desire and
you'll never be happy true contentment
true content and satisfaction comes in
the alone it comes when we are in
Paradise all of this is about
perspective and how you deal with the
situation and that is why it is very
important that an individual who goes
through a trial he changes his
perspective of the trial it's not a
punish M from Allah it's a means to get
closer it is not a punishment from Allah
it's a calling from Allah that he wants
you to come back to him now I want to
end off with two more
points that Allah subhana wa taala he
does not burden a soul more than it can
bear a lot of the times when we go
through trials and tribulations it feels
that this trial is so great that there's
no one being persecuted more than us at
that given moment but the reality of the
situation is that is not the case
there's always someone who's in a worse
predicament than you one simple
statistic shows that any individual that
lives in the west any individual that
lives in the west is automatically in
the 5% Elite of the world 5% Elite of
the world that means 95% of the people
are worse off than you they live off
less than a dollar a day they drink
water that is Brown they drink water
that is mixed with mud and feces and
bacteria and everything else they make
food they make shoes out of water
bottles they make shoes out of water
bottles just so that they can walk so
the reality is that there's always
someone who being who's being tried and
tested more than you and this is why I
remember one one of the last Halas I
attended in Medina was perhaps one of
the most beautiful and if you were to
ask me you know what we were studying I
can tell you we were studying the M of
Malik but if you were to ask me what we
learned I can tell you that I only
learned one thing from that and that's
what I want to share with you right now
the statement
of the statement
of where he said when we were tested we
were grateful for three things we used
to thank Allah subhana wa taala during
the time of Calamity for three things
number one that this trial wasn't in our
Dean that this trial wasn't in our Dean
number two that this trial was not as
great as it could have been Allah
subhana wa tala could have made this
trial much much worse you lost one
parent imagine those individuals who had
lost both you lost one loved one imagine
an individual who lost his wife and his
children and this is perhaps one of
the I guess painful experiences I've
ever experienced and it wasn't even my
situation there was a friend a brother
to me who I studied with in the
University of
Medina he got married and this was like
his lifelong Mission he was a convert
and it was extremely difficult for him
to get married he would go from house to
house propose to Sister to Sister the
father would see his skin color and say
sorry you know you don't have enough
money or your family isn't good enough
or they would actually straight say
straight out I'm sorry but you're black
and my sister and my daughter isn't and
he would be rejected the day that he got
married was one of the most beautiful
experiences for him cuz that's what he
was striving for that he was chased and
he protected that Chastity and that's
what he wanted then imagine the day his
wife finally becomes pregnant his wife
becomes pregnant and they're joyous
together now that they're about to give
birth to a beautiful baby 9 months
passed by the sister is taken to the
hospital the the brother says to his
neighbor look take her to the hospital I
need to sort some stuff Us in the house
and I'll take and I'll meet you guys in
the
hospital the sister the pregnant sister
goes to the hospital and this brother
packs up the stuff that the sister will
need in the hospital and he heads to the
hospital he gets to the
hospital both his wife and his child
have passed
away and you can imagine the pain and
agney that he goes through now put that
in perspective to anything that you may
have lost in this world Imagine the time
that you know there were 10B in your
pocket you don't know where it went and
it was such a painful experience to you
put it in perspective with this
situation he didn't know he was about to
lose his wife and
child he went to the hospital and they
had passed away this was such a a
difficult trial and it wasn't even mine
it was you know for a brother of mine so
put things in perspective that the trial
can always be greater and number three
he says that we were grateful that Allah
subhana wa taala allowed us to be
patient in that trial allowed us to be
patient in that trial now why is
patience such an important thing when it
comes to trial because the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam says that an
individual who is patient in times of
adversity incurs the pleasure of Allah
subhah wa ta'ala and the individual who
is not patient he incurs the wrath of
Allah subhana wa ta'ala now the
situation is already as difficult as it
is you're going through a trial why make
it worse by not being patient
because you're only incurring the wrath
of Allah and an individual who's patient
and remembers Allah subhana wa ta'ala
they get the salaat of Allah the
remembrance of Allah subhana wa taala
upon them they get the of Allah subhana
wa tala upon them and Allah subh T ends
off the verse by
saying that they are the ones who are
truly guided I want to end off my talk
with a Hadith that will put everything
else in perspective
the prophet sallallah Ali wasallam
said that if any of you is ever tried by
a tribulation then let him remember his
trial and tribulation through my
Calamity for indeed it is the greatest
of
Trials what is happening here the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is
alluding to the death of the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam it is the
greatest trial that every Muslim goes
through without even realizing it and
let's look at why you look at the status
of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam he was Every Man's Best Friend
you see this in two particular ways
number one theith of
abdah where he comes to the prophet
sallallah alaih wasallam and he says who
is the most beloved person to you the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
responds AA and he thinks to himself
okay that's not the I'm looking for how
do I get the answer I'm looking for he
wants to hear his own name so he says
not from the women but from the men then
he says her father and he says H that
makes sense you know they are best
friends at the end of the dayas I have
to be next so he says then he then says
Omar okay it's still not him he says
then
who and then he gives up at that point
the point of this Hadith is that every
man thought he was the best friend of
the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi
wasallam so each IND individual lost
their best friend number two the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam was every
individual's consoler one of the
greatest concerns every individual
should have is what is going to be the
destination of my father a man came to
the prophet sallu Al wasallam and he
said Yol Allah he came to the messenger
of Allah and he said Yol Allah my father
died upon this belief is he going to be
in the Hellfire the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam simply at this time
could have said yes he's going to be in
the Hellfire and you know what that's
too bad for you he could have said that
but he knew the pain that he was feeling
and he wanted him to feel good so he
said both your father and my father are
in the same destination he consoled that
man so people lost their best friends
people lost their Consolers the wives of
the Prophet lost their husband the
Muslim Community lost their leader the
old women in the community who had no
one to tell the problems too they used
to tell it to the messenger of Allah
they lost the ones who would hear them
out now imagine the greatest of all
trials the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam was our direct link to Allah
subhana wa ta'ala the prophet s alaihi
wasallam was our direct link to Allah
subhana waala that when this um did
something wrong Allah subhana Wa tala
Would reveal down through the Prophet
wasam this is what you should be doing
they did something right Allah subhana
wa tala tells the um about the rewards
of Paradise so that they continue to do
it when the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam passed away all of that was
taken away now put it into further
perspective when leadership was taken
away who is going to step up to fill the
shoes of the Prophet sallallahu alai
wasallam the um was left without a
leader and it would have been absolute
chaos had one man not step up to the
plate had one man not step up to the
plate Abu bak and decide to take that
leadership decide to put things in his
own hands decide to remind
the that whoever used to worship
Muhammad know that Muhammad has passed
away but whoever worships Allah subhana
wa ta'ala then know that Allah is ever
living and does not die reconnecting the
people with Allah subhana wa ta'ala I
want to end this lecture off with a
funny note again when I think about this
situation I mean imagine you're a
companion at that time someone needs to
step up and take leadership but you know
taking this leadership is not the
leadership where it just comes with Fame
and riches and all of that but rather it
comes with responsibility that you have
to deal with everyone's problems you
have to be the religious authority of
that Community it's a very great
situation how am I going to to tie this
in for you Optimus Prime if you guys
have ever heard of
Transformers I came across this line and
this is want what I want to end up upon
what I want to end off the lecture
upon is that there's a this famous line
of Optimus Prime you think it was like a
statement of a sahabi you think it was
the statement of one of the great imams
of the salaf but it's just Optimus Prime
and where's the is he here there he is
he loves this statement and that was the
statement
fate rarely calls upon the people at a
time of their choosing fate rarely calls
upon the people at a time of their
choosing in times of trials and
tribulation you have a decision to make
either you can get closer to Allah
subhana wa ta'ala and that is your way
to Paradise or you can decide to live
with your pain seek the pity of people
and let the pain get worse and create
your own
destruction now this lecture started off
with he who has no one has Allah but I
want you to leave with the opposite of
this statement that he who has Allah has
everything I pray that Allah subhana
waala alleviates the Pains of every
believer and of every Muslim and that he
makes it a path to get closer to Allah
subhana wa ta'ala rather than a path
that leads away from him