all right I must warn you in advance
that uh I don't have this is a a serious
topic and a serious lecture so I'm not
going to joke about
it and generally when the topic is like
that obviously we're not going to make
any jokes so we get the jokes out of the
way now I got a Shuki related joke for
you so basically this guy DS a wrong
number and a woman picks up so he likes
her voice you know how it goes over the
phone he likes her voice he thinks you
know this might be a know good
opportunity and stuff so he tells her
let's meet so she says sure let's meet
and they agree to meet at a place that
sells juice they sell drinks and Juice
things like that so she said how am I
going to know
you he said I'm going to be holding
mango juice at 12:00 at this place and
how will I know you she said I'm going
to wear this this and that so he goes to
the place he asked for mango juice they
said we don't have mango juice how's she
going to know me now okay give me any
other orange colored juice do you have
orange juice no any other juice that's
orange color they didn't have it so in
the end he got some lemonade he like
how's this going to work she's not going
to recognize me so then she comes in
wearing what she said she was going to
wear and she recognized it was her her
but he found out she that she was
extremely
ugly so he's like alhamdulillah I didn't
have manga juice so she comes to him and
she she finds him the only guy standing
there holding juice she comes to him
she's like uh are you Ali he's like what
are you Ali who Ali no I'm not Ali like
aren't you Ali we spoke on the phone I
recognize your voice it's you you're Ali
he's like what's the matter with you
woman does this look like mango juice to
you
all right people now let's get
serious okay the the lecture so
moderation and sexuality or the other
title also celibacy and free love and
this is exactly or more so what I'm
going to talk about celibacy and free
love and celibacy of course is when
someone vows to not get married and to
stay and remain single and of course
celibacy does not exist in Islam at all
there's no such thing there's no such
practice you do not draw nearer to Allah
subhana tala by being celibate and even
at the time of the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam one of the companions
wanted to take a vow of celibacy and the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
forbade him from that so that doesn't
exist but of course it's more popular
today and we know it well as as far as
our context here in the West we know it
because of Christianity specifically and
I wanted to talk about a little bit of
the history behind that and how those
thoughts developed in Christianity even
though we're we're we're trying to talk
about it uh from the Islamic aspect but
I'm I am going to go over the history
and the development of that thought in
Christianity because it will help you
understand a lot of the things that you
see today inshallah so how did it start
in Christianity it started when they
contemplated the situation of Jesus
Isa and they saw that Jesus did not get
married that he remained a bachelor for
his entire life so when they saw that
the best their role model and the best
of them Isa Jesus did not get married
they saw that perhaps this is the best
choice because if he is the best amongst
them and he made the choice to remain
celibate and not get married then
perhaps that's a good thing as an
extension of that they started to see
sexual relations between a man and a
woman obviously even a man and his wife
as a bad thing and that's why if you
look at you know early Christian writers
and and theologians they would always
talk about it as uh only for procreation
that's something you do only if you want
children not for enjoyment not for
anything like that so now I want you to
follow how these thoughts keep
developing it started off just from the
fact that isaam was never married then
it got to the idea that it must be a bad
thing and you only do it if you want
children and not for enjoyment or
anything else so then as a result of
that they saw women as evil because of
that and uh they also if you look at it
uh the story of Adam and Eve and the
garden and everything if you look at it
biblically all the blame is put on the
woman well when you look at it in Islam
that's not the case Allah subh says in
the Quran and Adam disobeyed his Lord
the blame wasn't put on the woman
because Adam was there and he made the
conscious
decision so women became evil as a
result of that and that will explain to
you A lot of the things behind you know
women uh being bought and sold or being
not allowed to vote all kinds of things
came as a result of that at the same
time also they saw that because uh
because they came to the conclusion that
sex is not a good
thing they came with the philosophy that
heaven is spiritual and not physical as
well and even though in their movies
when they show Heaven they show it as
physical because it doesn't make sense
that it's spiritual because there's
eating and drinking and things like that
and so they had to say that it was
spiritual so that they there will be
nothing of a sexual nature in Paradise
because if it's a bad thing how could
you enjoy a bad thing in Paradise so
then when they came into contact we're
talking about you know the the the west
or early Christians when they first came
into contact with Islam they were
surprised to find that sex is not
regarded as a dirty thing at all and
that there's a lot of uh it's mentioned
in the Quran you know enjoying you know
the wife and even in that ayat those
ayat it's in the middle of talking about
in Ramadan so it's just very you know
easily put there these ayat like there's
nothing wrong with it the 71 virgins in
Jenna you know which caus problems for
people so they're saying so then they
they were and then they saw the multiple
wives that the Muslim is allowed to have
the multiple wives of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam and so they
started to say that the Muslims are over
sexed and those of you who are old
enough you if you ever watched movies
from the 70s and from the 80s they
always showed the Arab guy as this crazy
guy with big googly eyes and bad teeth
and he's always looking for the women
always all the old movies the Arab guy
is just looking for women you know
always trying to offer he sees a nice
woman he comes how much he's always
offering to buy the woman they always
portray them as over sex that was
related to this because they used to see
it as a bad thing and even the the early
Christians when they first encountered
hijab they said that the Muslim men are
so over sexed that the women have to
cover themselves like that otherwise
they're going to be attacked these are
some of the ways they understood it you
see all these thoughts and how it
started off with the simple idea because
did not get
married so
then in in the early days they would
look at the Muslims and say you guys are
over sexed and so on and so forth then
what happened they experienced what is
known as the sexual Revolution which
some argue it started as early as the as
the enlightenment period and the
Victorian period but uh for the most
part it started in the 1960s and then
the 1970s where uh people became a
little bit more I don't know what the
the best word would be loose or relaxed
as far as sexuality and amongst amongst
people and homosexuality as well so now
when that happened they went through
that change now they started to look at
the Muslims and say that you don't do
that enough now the hijab became a
problem and this now will it will
explain to us and to the sisters
especially why people have an issue with
hijab today it goes back to that
philosophy and you might meet someone in
the street who would not appreciate your
hijab but even they may not know why
they don't appreciate your hijab it goes
back to all this history here so then
they started to see the Muslims as too
strict when they became very loose they
said the Muslims are too strict and they
used would say that hijab is oppression
and they tell people to take off the
hijab they saw that in their religion
there's no intermingling between the
Sexes no shaking hands so that became so
now basically we just accused based on
the tides so when the tides were low you
know you guys were too you know excited
and then when the tides became High you
don't do that enough and you need to
relax with the hijab and the
intermingling and the shaking hands and
all that stuff
so the first extreme then was was
celibacy and the second extreme the
result of it is the society becoming
sexually loose and now of course today
we hear all kinds of arguments for this
and they are defended saying you know as
long as it's two consenting adults no
harm is done no harm is done and a man
and his girlfriend as they say and
they're they're alone in their apartment
and if they commit Zena which is
fornication then no harm is done but the
reality is much harm is done and the
rights of many will be violated and for
that reason I wanted to spend some time
on the effects of Zena on society
because even though even good Muslims
living in the west Zena is surrounding
them and by Zena again we mean
fornication which means an illicit or
illegal sexual relationship between a
man and a woman they're not married
that's Zena or fornication the zani is
the male who does that the Zia is the
female who does that the Zuna or zat are
is the plural
form so uh so they argue with you that
no harm happens and people even even
righteous people who live in the
societies where that is rampant they
develop a lack of hatred for Zena and
you know those who would listen or watch
TV or sitcoms it would be constant
constant mention of Zena but they got so
used to it people get so used to it now
that they don't cringe when they hear
about Zena and a whole episode of a
sitcom will be about committing
fornication and everyone just laughs
even the righteous people would watch it
and laugh and there's nothing wrong with
it they got used to it like that that so
we want to take a pause and look at the
harmful effects of Zena on Society on
individuals on men on women on children
because there is a lot of harm in it and
Allah doesn't make something Haram for
no reason and when Allah makes something
forbidden typically you'll find that
there's a lot of evil in it so the
effect of Zena on society in general or
as a
whole first of all many people grow up
not knowing who their biological father
is because the mother will have multiple
partners so they'll grow up not knowing
who their biological father is and one
of the when you study the purposes of
the Shar why was Islamic law sent down
one of the purposes of the of Islamic
law is to protect your lineage and to
protect the family as a unit so in order
to protect the family Zena has to become
Haram so many people growing grow up not
knowing who their father father is and
this is something that's that's not good
and even uh even non-muslims recognize
that this is not a good thing and one
show that I always reference a show in
the United States known as Mori Povich
so okay so everyone knows that so this
guy basically uh I mean I I doubt that
he has sincere concern in finding out
who the father is it's probably a
ratings uh issue but uh in his show
there will be a woman and she has so
many partners that she doesn't know who
is the possible father of her baby and
usually backstage there are four thugs
with their pants to their knees and
they're all saying it's not my child he
doesn't look like me and all that and
then he reads the results and then uh
four of them start dancing and one of
them is the one who is very sad and and
because he's the father so even then
people are trying to recog they
recognize that it's important for
someone to know who their biological
father is and we're going to come back
to that phenomenon of uh you know you
know of illegitimate children later on
as we go inshallah the other thing AIDS
and other venial and sexually
transmitted types of diseases this is
also something that affects society as
at large it affects the individuals but
this is something that has a negative
effect on the society altogether and uh
as a as a side note here I don't know if
that's the deterrent for the Muslim to
not commit fornication AIDS and and I
always talk about this billboard that I
saw in a Muslim country that shows the
like the outline the silhouette of a
prostitute and a car pulling over and it
says beware of AIDS this is in a Muslim
country and is this a good way to tell
someone don't commit Zena because you
could get AIDS or you don't commit Zena
because it's something that's Haram that
angers Allah subhana tala that Allah
forbade it but anyways all these kinds
of diseases is one of the results of
being sexually loose in
society likewise it's interesting that
Zena lead leads to more Zena Zena leads
to more Zena once people start
committing Zen in the society it will
increase it will keep increasing and
even the age for zena will keep will
keep decreasing get lower and lower they
tell you for example that 82% of teenage
mothers are themselves the daughters of
teenage mothers 82% that's very very
high so 82% of teenage mothers are the
daughters of teenage mothers so they're
they're their parent committed Zena when
they were young they did the same thing
so Zena leads to more Zena that the uh
the teenage mothers young teenage
mothers are or the children sorry of
these teenage mothers and who don't know
who their father is they are three times
more likely to spend time in prison and
even areas where there are a lot of
illegitimate children typically have a
higher crime rate okay we can also
link other crimes to the existence of of
fornication or Zena in a society for
example rape can you think of how rape
is a result of Zena being or is a result
of a sexually loose society as well can
you make that connection in your
head okay the connection is this
typically well and may Allah protect the
the women from that but typically when a
woman is raped the majority of the time
is it by a a total stranger who attacks
her in the park
or is it someone she
knows someone she knows right right the
majority of rape is known as date rape
where the woman knows the man and that's
why she was comfortable enough to be
alone with him somewhere and and things
of that sort so a lot of rape and
especially date rape it goes unannounced
and it's not um the people don't report
it many times a woman does not report
rape you know why because it's her work
word against his and if there ever is a
rape case you know what the defense will
be you can already guess it right what's
the
defense it was consensual consensual
right the defense is that it was
consensual so the defense for rape now
is it was only Zena you understand
because there's so much Zena Zen is now
used as a way out for rape as if it's
not nothing wrong with Zena so now
because Zena is rampant if a woman is
raped they tell her no you were just
committing Zena or because people commit
so much Zena that there'll be in
situations that will allow rape and
facilitate rape and in the end the blame
or the excuse is that no no it wasn't
rape it was only Zena as if only zen zen
there's nothing wrong with that so even
rape can be linked to having a sexually
loose society and then of course uh
orphanages adoptions abandoned children
children thr thrown in the trash all all
of that because they were born out of
wedlock there is the shame there's the
embarrassment there is the the family
will not accept that obviously and so
you have all of this as a result of a
sexually loose Society these are the
effects of Zena on a society on
individuals what it does is that when
there's a lot of Zena in society it
creates more sexual deviant because
people are used to having multiple
partners and they have all these um
throughout their life so so it uh so
they become desensitized to regular
things and it gets them to become more
deviant then it also devalues intimacy
even later on these people who had
multiple partners when they get married
they find it very hard to stay with one
spouse and it may lead to what they
refer to now casually as cheating or
Affairs things like that but it's hard
for them to be satisfied now with one
spouse so it devalues intimacy another
thing it does it
decreases is protective jealousy that a
man would have over his daughter that a
man would have for his wife that a young
man would have for his sister this is
the protective jealousy but you'll find
many homes now where and of course I'm
not talking about Muslim homes where the
father or the mother would you know
would tell the child you know is you're
going to commit Zena use protection
right so there's no anymore or the
father will know that his daughter is at
her boyfriend's place or her boyfriend
is coming to pick her up or the brother
will see his sister's boyfriend come
pick her up so he doesn't have anymore
doesn't have any protective jealousy
anymore and of course one of the other
things that it causes it causes the you
to get the wrath of
Allah and it causes the hardness of the
heart because of course it's a sin and
it's constant
sinning so this was now generally we
spoke about the effects of Zena on
society generally in general terms for
the individual now we want to to see
some of the effects that has on the
woman specifically and one of the things
about the woman is that the woman
typically reaches sexual maturity before
psychosocial maturity or let's just call
it mental to make it easy
so a lot of women they are now
physically able to handle that before
they're mentally able to handle the
effects of that so and and just as a
side note here this is a if it's a
maturity issue physically the woman is
able to have a child at a young age
Without Really many complications and
the only thing would be like the pelvis
has not widened enough to to facilitate
birth but typically the older a woman
gets the more difficult it comes for her
to Bear to Bear children the younger she
is the easier it is for her to Bear
children so the fact that a 13-year-old
woman can actually have a child and why
did Allah created it so that a
13-year-old can have a child now because
the 13-year-old in our society today uh
do not mature enough mentally and they
still believe that their children until
they're like 18 or even more than that
they act like children so the idea of a
a child having a child you know becomes
something that we we find distasteful
but if they were to mature at an early
age so if a woman was a mature woman by
the age of 15 mentally and she's already
obviously there biologically then what
would be the problem for her to get
married but because in our society
people don't mature fast enough and we
regard them as children for that reason
we see it as something
distasteful okay so what happens is for
teenage mothers
specifically so and I'm talking about
that they got pregnant as a result of
the
Z a number of things that they face one
of the things they face social isolation
they are more likely to have low levels
of Education as a result of the pregnant
y they have higher levels of stress more
common to find depression amongst them
and higher risk of leaving school which
is linked to their lower level of
education and then what another bad
thing that happens for the women and now
you can test this information yourself
and see if you've noticed this around
you is that the woman believes that sex
is all she's valued for so in order to
be valued she Embraces the sexual image
and develops it further and that's why
you'll find a woman who know who sees
that her only value is sex she will
dress Pro provocatively all her talk and
actions and everything will be to that
end or to reflect that and this is one
of the bad things that happens to women
and that's why you see women constantly
they degrade themselves on magazine
covers in movies and videos and what
have you because that's what they've
learned this is their this is their
value so this is one thing it makes this
woman now it devalues the woman she
becomes a sexual object and that's why
you'll find many times that um because
the the woman is looked at as a sexual
object so much so in the west that it's
hard for people in the west to take a
beautiful woman as a leader and that's
why whenever you find a a woman who is
in high or or powerful positions in the
west he is typically what they refer to
as androgynous meaning she has a male
type of appearance you'll find that
she'll have short hair and uh you know
she'll uh she'll act very stoic um and
be very like very like manly kind of in
in
Behavior because the society views the
more feminine type of woman as a sexual
object they will never accept them in a
leadership position or something like
that
so uh and of course on the woman again
one of the other effects is abortion
and you know until now you find people
who make these strange arguments they'll
say you know why is it that you know Zen
is a worse crime for the woman and not
so much for the man now of course
islamically the punishment for zena is
the same for male and female there's no
difference in the punishment but the
effects are are more severe on the woman
if she commits
Z the man for him it's it could be a
brief encounter and he moves on to the
next victim but for the women if let's
say first of all if the that encounter
becomes public then it's very it's a
very dishonoring and shameful thing for
her family more of a shameful thing for
her family they're both shameful and
this is some of the hypocrisy that we
have today where if a man commits Zena
you know it's okay but when the girl
commits Zena you know the father with
the help of her brothers will kill her
bury her somewhere and of course this is
not the Islamic ruling and has nothing
to do with Islam but it's even hypocrisy
so the father will know his son has
girlfriends and stuff but when his
daughter commits to Zena it becomes a
big deal and this is the scholars say
what was the same that they used to do
in Jah the men would accept Zena for
themselves but they wouldn't accept it
for the women but it's of course a bad
thing for both but going back to the
burden on the woman if as a result of
that Brief Encounter she becomes
pregnant then she can never sever
herself from the result of that
encounter
if she has if she gives birth as a
result of that she's forever stuck with
that Brief Encounter the man moved on
and she is stuck with the first
trimester of sickness and then N9 months
of pregnancy and then the pain of Labor
and if she doesn't throw the child in
the trash or give him up for adoption
she has to basically she's linked to
that child until one of them dies and if
it could be 20 years 30 years 40 years
this result of this operation remains
with her while that was not the case for
the man that's why it's a bit more SE or
it's a lot more severe with the woman so
do not be taken by these strange
arguments that we hear today where they
tell you why is it that if a woman
commits Zena you know society looks at
her like this but if a man does it he
well they're both bad that is a mistake
today but at the same time it is more
severe on the
women on
infants one of the things on the only
thing I'm going to talk about is what is
known as bonding and bonding is that
relationship or that strong connection
that happens between a mother and the
child and it can also happen between the
father and the infant sorry not the
child but the infant so during the
infancy this is a very important time
the bonding which is the the the strong
affection and the the the relationship
that the infant has with the mother and
typically there are a lot of studies
that have been done uh concerning
bonding If the child does not Bond
properly with the mother
what it does is that it uh it can cause
a lot of uh negative things in the child
give you a few examples and they tell
you the the less bonding happens between
an infant and his mother the more likely
that that child will not care about the
suffering of other people and actually
psychologists will have a chart where
they'll show you those who Bond a lot
will become humanitarians people who
care for others and things like that and
then they'll tell you people who Bond
less they might be like serial killers
and of course the chart will go from the
extreme of of serial killers to the the
severe humanitarians and of course to
varying degrees based on the individual
so uh the serial killers for example one
of the most famous serial killers Ted
Bundy he basically was a handsome and
Nic looking man is very kind nice man
but he was responsible for murdering
over 100 young women Ted Bundy himself
was was born to a 14-year-old mother so
Ted Bundy was born to a young mother who
neglected him as a child he did not bond
with her and one of the things is that
they they discovered this that uh he he
didn't bond well and he became the
result of serial killer of course we're
not saying that everyone who is
neglected as a child will become a
serial killer but there have been
studies done specifically with serial
killers and they found that typically
they you usually most of the time the
serial killer would hate one of or two
of his parents he'll either hate his
father or or he will hate his mother and
or or or he will be uh he would have
typically been abandoned by one or the
other of the parents either abandoned by
the father or abandoned by the
mother moving on to the
male typically they tell you the the the
young the male who commits Zena that
ends in pregnancy will leave during the
pregnancy or within the first 2 years
after birth typically they don't last
very long and one of the effects as well
as as a result of the absence of the
father is homosexuality so now we're
even linking homosexuality to a sexually
loose Society all this from Zena and
people want to argue oh it's just too
consenting as adults and who's harmed in
the process yes a lot of harm happens in
the
process so what's homosexuality have to
do with that homosexuality as you all
well know it's not a gene and it's not
anything that you're born with or born
as it's actually just a mental illness
it has been classified as a mental
illness as early as 1938 people always
knew that it was a mental illness but
why don't people know today that it's a
mental illness because in in the late
60s or early '70s it was removed from
the manual of mental illnesses that the
psych psych olist would put out every
year it was removed because of political
pressure the flow power generation they
put a lot of pressure and they removed
it from the list of mental illnesses but
it is a mental illness and people can be
cured of it and there are people today
and therapy that people go through and
they become cured of it so when you're
cured of something it's an illness
now uh some of the experts in the field
say that it's a result of alienation to
uh from males in infancy and from male
peers during the rest of one's life so
again if we're looking at this father
figure who disappears from the life of
this child the child then grows up in a
home where it's this young teenage
mother living with her mother or her
grandmother taking care of this child
and he does not get uh the the male
Father Figure so again even this can be
linked to having a sexually loose
society and of course another
thing uh uh and on the Family in general
is that the for example the younger
sister so if there's a is a s is a woman
who commits Zena in a family her younger
sister is less likely to care about
education and more likely to accept
sexual behavior at an early age the
younger brother as well if the older
person is his sister or brother who
commits Zena the younger brother will
will uh display a high-risk behavior and
he will become more tolerant of Zena and
more tolerant of relationships because
obviously he sees that happening he sees
his older sister with her child in the
house and he becomes more tolerant of
that and of course in the family the
Zena and the adultery it it severs
relationships sometimes between the
parents and the child other times
leading to to killing in these cases or
between spouses it will break up
marriages or lead to to killings as well
break up families and lead to killing
between the spouses and so on and and so
forth if all of that was not enough in
the in the next life there a
lot there's a lot of punishment also for
this evil
sin first of all committing Zena
fornication is one of the major sins
it's one of the major sins the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam explained in
a Hadith that the one who is like who is
an alcoholic or addicted to alcohol if a
Muslim is addicted to alcohol when he
meets
Allah he will meet Allah on the day of
judgment like a mush like someone who
worships Idols this is someone who
consumes alcohol and is addicted to it
when he comes on the day of judgment he
will come like a mush in front of Allah
and Sh is the worst thing as you all
know worshiping others besides Allah now
the scholars say that Zena is worse than
alcohol Allah subh says in the
Quran
so Allah is saying those who do not
invoke other gods along with Allah which
is which is the worst sin nor take the
life nor commit murder nor take the life
as Allah has forbidden nor commit
illicit sexual intercourse so the
scholars say fornication here was
mentioned with shik and mentioned with
murder so it's worse than alcohol and
from the punishments of the zat
specifically the prophet sallallahu alhi
wasallam described in in this dream and
the r that he saw and we know that the
dreams of prophets are true where he saw
some of the punishments of the people in
the Hellfire and he saw a tan which is
basically like an oven like the the old
ovens where it's a hole in the ground
that's heed he saw a tan in the ground
and the zun the people who who committed
Zena males and females were thrown into
that and this is their punishment in the
Hellfire and it had the horrible o odors
coming out of them and so on and so
forth but like we said as long as there
is a marital relationship then it's not
considered as a dirty thing in Islam and
it's considered something that you can
enjoy and something that's Halal and
there is no blame in it
whatsoever but what happens is that Zena
has become so rampant that we don't
reject it and we don't even uh in our
hearts we don't resist it even in our
hearts you know we hear about Z so much
we sympathize with Those who commit Zena
uh many Muslims are angry when they hear
that in Islam the zani is flogged he's
whipped why and they think that that's
they even say that's cruel the person
committed Zena weren't you angered by
that part of the equation that most
people they just say what why why do you
whip the one who commits Zen
and uh one of the deterrents of course
is the whipping in Islam but it's not
severe whipping and the problem is most
people they don't know these details so
they just think like they you know they
bring this fantastic Whip and they whip
the guy until his skin breaks actually
that's one of the rules the skin cannot
break and it's not you know the the
person cannot lift their armpit very
high it's not severe whipping or
anything and a a stronger part of it is
the deterrent that it's done in public
that's the strong longer deterrent than
the actual physical punishment because
if it was about the physical punishment
then the prophet wouldn't have been
lenient on even describing the object
used for the lashing it cannot have
thorns and so on and so forth so it's
not about physically hurting the person
but it's about the the embarrassment
from wanting to commit Zena but like I
said it's all over the movies the
internet magazines books jokes what
happens when people joke about they tell
you a joke about a man and woman who
fornicated together then there's a funny
punchline in the end so you'll be
sitting in a group in a gathering of
what you expect to be righteous people
one of them will tell a joke about Zena
and then everyone else will laugh what's
really happening in this Gathering
what's really happening is that we're
starting to accept this sin we're
starting to accept it there's nothing
wrong with it we joke about it because
though many people are doing it it's
rampant in the community you know or
it's in the Muslim country it's rampant
so people joke about it all the time
even some Muslim countries in the
magazine or in a newspaper they'll put
jokes about fornication and so when I
read it instead of being angered for
Allah that Zena is is spoken about and
that these people are committing Zena I
laugh you see what happens so it has
become so common and for our children we
let them see it in movies and we let it
be glorified in the books and the novels
that they read a man he will let his
daughter watch movies and the theme will
be Zena or sitcoms and the episode might
be about Zena and then she'll read these
romance novels with with the guy with
the muscles on the cover he sees her
reading that book he doesn't say
anything it's all about love and Zena
and all these things then he'll let her
sit in Gatherings where there's
intermingling and then they even make
marriage difficult for the men and the
women because of the the tribes the M
the skin colors the degrees we make
marriage difficult and then we're
shocked when the children commit Zena we
made we facilitated it for them we made
it available to them everywhere and then
in the end we want to be shocked when
they or we expect them not to fall into
the Haram now remember I said earlier
that we sympathize even with Zat and the
zani sometimes and like I said it's it
hasn't it's not a shameful thing anymore
so people who commit Zena now they come
and boast to their friends that they did
this and that last night the prophet
sallallah wasam he said these are the
worst people in his umah the people who
will commit a sin and Allah kept it a
secret did not expose them and they come
in the morning and expose themselves the
muah these are the worst people in the
umah I mean Allah kept it a secret they
could have kept it a secret but they
come and expose it they boast about it
and that's how it is today so those of
you obviously they're unmarried and
audience and especially the the men if
you're a virgin you probably laughed at
at school like it's not a cool thing the
cool thing now is to be a to to commit
the sin is the okay thing and the cool
thing and they've given it all kinds of
names and euphemisms and they make it
sound like something very simple
something very light but like we said we
even sympathize with people who commit
Zena I'll give you a simple
example okay and uh and this is an
example actually that I heard heard from
one of the scholars and it's not a
personal example anything like that but
he said that if you're watching a movie
where the theme has something to do with
fornication with Zena you might find
yourself taking the side of the zani let
me describe a scenario the scenario in
the movie is that there is a young girl
and she's in love with this young guy
and they love each other very much and
then they commit Zena with each other
then the father who is strict and evil
man even though he's the right the good
person he should be the good guy in the
movie but the director makes him the bad
guy he discovers that she's committing
Zena with this boy and he forbids her
from seeing him so there is a scene now
this is all hypothetical where the
father is sleeping and she's going to
run away with her boyfriend forever and
they can live a life of Zena and so she
creeps into his room and she's trying to
get the
keys as you're watching this scene whose
side are you
on I'm telling you even the righteous
people they would watch this scene and
they won't say Shah he wakes up Ya Allah
make him wake up and beat her you'll be
on her side the key clinkle and he goes
turn around and you hope he doesn't wake
up why not let him wake up and beat her
up with his
slippers he's committing Zena and he is
the right person his daughter is
committing Zena he has but no we're on
the side now of the zat watching them I
hope he doesn't wake up get the keys
okay just got to get out of the door you
did it girl now you commit Zena what do
you
think so be we've become used to it
people if there's anything you take away
from this lecture hate Zena and when you
hate Zena you can't watch sitcoms and
the whole episode is about this guy and
that guy and this happened by mistake
and they committed Zena and then the
whole episode is what the gossip related
to the Zena and you're just laughing
with the laugh track and it's this what
Allah created you for to sit listen to
stories about Zena and laugh with a
laugh track which is more embarrassing
in it's a fake laugh truck and you
what's the matter with you it's all this
anyways but really I would like us to
take away from this lecture the hatred
for zena in our hearts don't ever let it
pass by just like drinking water you
hear about Zen you're like huh you laugh
people who listen to uh to you know the
rap music and I know you're in the
audience you know the thugs the
G's y all G's in here up in here I
should say
I know what's up dressed all fancy
looking for shansi I know what's going
on
so look at all these questions all right
so
um basically we're saying hate it people
don't accept it you know your friends
want to boast you about Zena don't even
listen to that talk yeah I don't commit
Zena but he's telling me about his you
know experiences and his adventures no
don't listen to that hate it listen to a
song you know whoever it is Snoop is
talking to you about Z don't listen to
it how could you accept something like
that all right let me go over some of
the solutions that Islam put for this uh
for this uh problem for this
dilemma let me break it down for you
first of all one of the ways uh that
uh Islam solved the issue or one of the
solutions that Islam put forward is
marriage
true everyone with me marriage so Islam
made marriage a solution but in order
for it to be a good solution marriage
has to be easy and I always tell this to
people Islam is easy we make it
difficult look at marriage in Islam it
is so easy but we make it difficult the
prophet made it so easy everybody with
me all right Prophet said if someone
comes to you and you're pleased with his
religion and his
manners W to him that's it you like his
he's religious you're pleased with his
religion that his are good give him in
marriage that's it that's simple the doy
real low nice and low and easy but now
the doy is like basically the the father
is selling his daughter you know asking
for exorbitant amounts of money the
party has to be like this you have to
have this degree your house has to be
this many acres all kinds of things that
make it difficult at the same time of
course we're not saying that the men
should just take these young women and
make them live in a tent or something
like that but Islam made it easy and
we're making it difficult Islam made
marriage easy as one of the cures from
Zena being loose or rampant in a
society fasting if you can't afford
marriage then fasting is the solution
but I really wonder how many young men
in the audience of course don't show
your hand but how many young men really
fast because they can't get married
because they're single this is the weird
thing young men always complaining about
marriage lecture about marriage this
room would be full everyone's listening
everybody wants to know about marriage
but you're not able to do it you know
the Islamic answer how many people do
that few people if any and then they
complain I'm not married I'm not married
I'm single where am I going to find her
what am I going to do but fast don't
complain fast well I know some people
when they were single they would fast
every other day I know one guy fasted
every other day for 10
years yeah that's a solution the prophet
wasallam gave but how many people take
it they just want to complain without
doing the solution so
fast oh
really so that's one of the solutions
fasting all right lowering the
gaze where should you keep your
gaze in the
closet where should you keep your
gaze look down but you know something
let me tell you this brothers and I know
I don't even know why I'm saying this
because I know you won't believe me but
I'll say it try to believe me lower your
gaze you will have no problems
whatsoever ever you will not have any
high tension issues
or you know the whole the whole crazy
thing going just lower your gaze I know
it sounds like I'm simplifying it just
leave it there I know it sounds like I'm
it's not it's really like that it's
almost the closest thing I can tell you
and give you to a magic wand lower your
gaze this also for the Sisters people
think sisters can just you know
no so lower your gaze people how many
people do that though Nobody Does that
you watch movies women dressed
provocatively you know videos Mr you
know Snoop and all these people with
ladies running around and you watch that
and you expect to be calm for the rest
of the night lower your gaze you will
have no problems whatsoever but you know
what who lowers your gaze is the problem
lower your gaze and fast you'll be all
right you'll be like I don't need to get
married I'm serious lower your gaze
people lower your gaze it does fantastic
things also don't test yourself when it
comes to Zena don't test yourself most
people like to test themselves with
these things things related to Iman but
you don't test anything else that's dear
to you right sure a lot of you have
laptops you ever put it out in the
sidewalk and just walk away from it come
back 20 minutes later to see if it's
still there you don't test it because
it's dear to you you don't leave your
car with the keys in in the bad
neighborhood to test if it's still there
because it's dear to you you don't test
your IM because
it's thank
you that's it don't test yourself so
people no I'll be alone with her yeah
she's pretty but you know I'll just test
myself see if I can do this you I'll be
alone with her in the room yeah but
inallah my IM is strong enough you're
testing it don't test yourselves don't
intermingle Allah didn't want us to not
commit Zena and you all know this Allah
says not come near Zena there are steps
that lead people to Zena Allah is
forbidding you from any of these steps
that's the wisdom behind Okay that's why
there's no intermingling that's why I
can't touch the woman that's why we
can't sit alone together that's why we
can't chitchat and exchange phone
numbers and do all the other stuff that
people
do uh and I would like to also just
conclude with two quick points first is
that for anyone who commits any type of
Zena because there is the m major Zena
which is basically the two private parts
for an unmarried
people basically to put it in other
terms when the Pennsylvania goes into
Virginia okay that's what this is
actually no
joke it's the best way I could say it
that's the definition of Zena according
to Scholars so everything else is not
considered this major Zena that's
punishable by by Islamic law and if
there's a Islamic government but other
everything other than that it's it's a
lesser type of Zena just like the zena
of the eyes the zena of the hands is
touching all the other body parts have
their own lesser Zena anyone who commits
any type of Zena major or minor you
repent people you repent you don't keep
doing it and running away from Allah you
repent and come back to Allah all right
sincere repentance three things one you
have to stop what you're doing you can't
repent from Zena while you you keep
committing Zena so one just stop what
you're doing I'm telling you and the
Toba the gates of Toba are so wide in
Islam so wide I don't understand why
people would run away from Allah instead
of running to Allah just come back
crying to Allah one stop what you're
doing two regret it just have remorse
for what you have done and three resolve
to never go back to it that's it one
more time one stop doing it two have
remorse feel bad for what you've done
three resolve sincerely that you're
never going back to it again you're
never going back to commit Zena do not
run away from Allah and say well since I
did that I might as well keep having a
boyfriend or having a girlfriend run
back to Allah subh repent from it and a
as long as you repent even the biggest
sin sh if you repent before you die
Allah forgives it so what about Z what
about lesser Zena repent people do not
run away from Allah subh
and I want to end by just arguing
against the The Forbidden F fruit Theory
which is a very dumb Theory basically it
says that if you forbid people from
something it will become more rampant
and it it has truth to it in certain
parts but it's not a good solution in
other parts as I'll will
explain for example in Sweden they say
that in
Sweden there is much less there are
there's much less uh teenage pregnancy
among teenagers in in Sweden than there
is in the United States
then they started to do a study but it
wasn't a very good study they said they
went to Sweden and they discovered that
children are not told don't have sex in
Sweden they said no you can have it and
do it and this and that and use
protection and that's why they don't
have teenage pregnancy but in America we
tell them don't do it and that's why
people do it and so on and so forth but
of course uh this test the the study
really the conclusion is is lacking and
it's faulty because there could be other
issues related to it fertility is one
issue for example we know that
African-Americans are the most fertile
females more so than others so we're
looking at fertility issues we're
looking at the practices it's not about
the frequency what are the safe sex
practices in Sweden and how much do
people know about that but the problem
with it islamically this is not a good
solution and doesn't work for an Islamic
State because in the end are millions
committing Zena or not yes so our their
objective is just oh no no no no
pregnancy but our objective is we don't
want people to commit Zena so don't tell
me you know just teach them safe sex
practices the people will still be
committing Zena so inshallah I'm going
to end here I'd like to remind you one
more time to stay away from things that
lead to that to hate it in your heart do
not just let it slide when it's a joke
when it's a movie when it's a song hate
this wicked sin in your heart because of
all the evil and the effects that it has
on community and if anyone comes near
any of these things brothers sisters
repent to Allah subhana tala stop doing
it resolve to never go back to it feel
bad for what you've done and Allah subh
will forgive you it's that simple and
there's no one between you and Allah we
ask Allah subh to keep all of you safe
and to keep the children of the Muslims
safe from Z
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