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bah alhamdulillah you're watching
lifting the fog and I'm your host youf
Estus for the next few minutes we want
to talk on the subject of removing and
clearing up some of the misconceptions
misunderstandings and
misrepresentations about Islam and what
Islam
teaches our program today is going to be
a continuation of a program we were
doing earlier on the subject of the
treatment of women in
Islam we mentioned in our other program
that that there's a chapter of the Quran
called
an meaning the women this is a whole
section of Quran
dedicated to the better understanding of
what we said about rights and
limitations in
Islam we also discovered in our previous
program that in fact women have rights
that they were never afforded before
Islam came also men had limits that they
had never experienced prior to Islam and
together these two together the rights
and the limits bring about a whole way
of
life we also discovered that in general
this is the way Islam approaches
everything showing you the rights and
showing you the limits I recall that
when I was still a Christian when I
encountered the person that helped me
get to Islam that that was some of the
most important part of his talks his
speeches to me were on the subject of
Rights I recall one of the times we were
together and he was talking about the
heart of a human being regardless of
whether it was a Muslim a Christian a
Jew or any person but the heart of the
human being is something so dear to
Allah that he does not like anybody to
even scratch the Dignity of a person's
heart and when he used that term I said
what a beautiful teaching don't even
scratch a person's dignity because you
hurt the heart you've done an amazing
thing something not good what
soever I recall also talking about the
rights constantly Islam is coming up
with what is the rights of a particular
part of Allah's creation of course we
mentioned in our previous program the
first rights in Islam are Allah's rights
his right to be worshiped alone without
partners
that's number one and of course the
saying in Islam
is there is none that has the right to
be worshiped only Allah and all worship
is only for
him he has no
Partners after that is the right of
Muhammad to be regarded as a messenger
and servant of almighty God as such to
follow these teachings that he's
presenting
Muhammad and then after that is the
rights that the parents have over us
then after that is the rights that we
have in our family the rights that we
have as being husbands and wives and
children and of course the other side is
the limits the limits the
limits without the limits what are the
rights and so Islam is bringing this
beautiful
balance now when we talk about women and
this is specifically we want to do
tonight
night someone came to me one time and
they said how can you be in a
religion that allows a 53y old man to
have sex with a six-year-old
girl as soon as I heard this I was so
angry I felt inside that I I was going
to explode How could somebody say such a
statement it indicated it indicated to
me that that this is a person who either
doesn't understand Real Islam or else
this is a person who's trying to start a
fight because this is not something
tolerate tolerated Islam at all even now
talking about it I feel it again because
it's a lie number one and it
misrepresents everything Islam is all
about but let's break it down suppose
somebody came to you with that and what
would you do I hope that you would
benefit from these programs I hope I've
been from it as well for this to learn
how to control ourselves when people
approach us with that we must not
react not not react in kind what we have
to do is be even
Kinder somebody comes to you with this
question how can you be in a religion
where a 53y old man has sex with a
six-year-old girl remember this the
prophet sallam peace be upon him was
attacked much harsher by the people of
aai so it's up to us to respond like
this thank you for asking me about my
religion now they're going to go
huh thank you for asking me about my
religion in Islam it's forbidden for us
to lie if we lie we can go to hell
forever and Islam we have the proof we
have the clear evidences the texts have
been authenticated and preserved for
14400 years even if I did lie you could
prove quickly that that's incorrect so
we have the truth and we have the
proof but we have something else
too what we have here is a way to
present the wisdom or the hikma of an
answer and that's now going to be your
responsibility to show the people the
real truth of
Islam and you do that by looking in
examining the question
itself is there in fact in the question
a false statement because if that's the
case we have to straighten the question
out before we can answer
it and then ask them while we're giving
the answer if you hear something that
you like and you said Gee where that's
that's nice I didn't know that and you
admire it and you say yeah I want that
for me then are you going to be
prepared to reconsider your position and
consider worshiping your God and my God
and your lord and my Lord worshiping him
on his terms without partner partners
because you see in fact that's all Islam
is about anyway worshiping God doing
what he wants you to do but now let's
come back to your question you ask me
about an age difference 53 and six and
you ask about specifically a verb an
action which is sex to have sex I will
share with you something that if the
question contains a mistake in it I
can't answer
it example if you came to me and you
said by the way Yousef
is your mother out of jail yet yes or no
this is the two choices yes or no how
can I answer this
question my mother's never been in jail
no nope yes or no is she out of jail
well she's not in jail therefore she's
out of jail okay my mother's out of jail
good I'm glad she got
out she never was in so no matter how I
answer this question it's a trap I can't
answer a question like that because it
has what it has a lie in the question so
let's go back and and look
again the verb the act of sex if
somebody said does your religion
permit a 53y old man to have sex with
six-year old girl the answer is no
because in Islam it is not permitted a
man of any age to have sex with a woman
of any age there is no sex in Islam
except through what legitimate
contractual marriage there has to be
something which is legitimate in Islam
established for the benefit of the woman
and the benefit of the man because of
the rights and the limits that we've
been talking about the mistake here is
to forget when we're talking to these
people they're meaning one thing and we
mean something else we're considering as
Muslims they're talking about the
relationship of a man and a woman in
marriage whereas they're just talking
about sex period
this is a mentality that is derived from
years and years of being exposed to
television and movies and periodical
magazines newspaper radio Etc and these
trash magazines at the checkout counter
of the grocery store sex sex sex this is
on their
brain it's not permitted in Islam we
don't have boyfriends and
girlfriends we don't have Mistresses we
don't have the
prostitutes I'm sorry to say but we
don't have these kinds of things in
Islam this is not a part of Islam it's
all forbidden what do we
have what we have in Islam is marriage
and that's it if a man is married it is
forbidden for
him to have a girlfriend or to have a
mistress any of these kinds of things or
just what they call one night stand all
of these things are so forbidden in
Islam a man can be punished severely for
such a thing as this and of course I
have to tell you the same is true for
the woman if the woman would engage in
something outside of marriage she
likewise can be punished it's in the
Islamic
law marriage is a sacred sacred thing in
Islam from the standpoint that once you
enter into this contract you don't break
it but it's the only way you're going to
have a sexual relationship
when there is sex and there is a child
that child has
rights right the woman has rights the
man has rights the child has rights but
it comes about through a contract
something that's signed upfront that
people understand what it's all
about so the answer to the question is
that doesn't exist in Islam now I know
what's going to happen they're going to
say yeah we're talking about the prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him and BL blah
blah blah and his relationship with one
of his wives and she was a little girl
hold it let's go back it was a marriage
and let's go and look at the text itself
I told you in Islam we can prove what
we're saying we have the proof let's
look you're going to go to
sahkari and you're going to pull up a
statement in there in English
translation talking about AA and she's 6
years old
okay but did you know that that's not
what it says it doesn't say sex anywhere
in there and by the way this is on her
Authority she's the one narrating this
so before we go any further I'm going to
ask you do you accept Aisha as being a
truthful source of information because
if you don't there's no point in going
any further and if you are going to
accept what she says are you going to
accept everything she says or just what
you want to
hear because she also
said she also also said there's no God
to worship except the Lord do you
believe that are you going to accept
that never mind let's just keep moving
she tells us in this authentic Hadith
teaching or story in
Islam that she was outside playing she's
playing in the dirt having fun and her
mother now listen to this her mother
comes to her and takes her inside who's
inside inside is her father father and
her father is talking to her father's
best friend and distant cousin which
happens to be Muhammad wasam peace be
upon
him there is something being presented
or offered here which is
marriage the father is offering her hand
in marriage to his best
friend but it didn't happen because she
said and read it for yourself she went
back outside and was playing in the dirt
Why didn't it happen and what did really
happen and when did it happen the answer
to these questions and more are coming
up in the next part of this program the
next segment so be sure you stay tuned
to hear the answers to this when we
return with lifting the fog we'll be
right back after
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darkness and equated the Earth with
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as if nothing is running you see we are
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alhamdulillah we're back you're watching
lifting the fog I'm your host JF Fus and
we've been talking about a very serious
subject the general topic of course is
the rights and the limitations in Islam
but additionally we've been talking
about the position of the women and
specifically dealing with this question
mark of what is the relationship here
between Muhammad peace be upon him and a
young girl because the accusation comes
that how can you be in a religion where
a 53y old man is having sex with a
six-year-old girl and we found in the
first segment that absolutely this is a
lie it's not true there is nothing like
that in Islam we found that Islam does
not permit any kind of sexual
relationship outside of marriage so so
the first thing we have to find out
about is about marriage and we discussed
that to some extent then we mentioned
the person who actually is relating or
narrating the story to us is who it's
Aisha herself and she is the wife of
prophet Muhammad peace be upon him let's
look at their specific condition about
this man and this woman together and
what was the true relationship and how
did it come
about we spoke of a Hadith where we
found that she was six years old and her
mother had brought her into the house so
that she could hear her father offer her
hand in marriage to his best friend
which happened to be the prophet of
Islam Muhammad IB
Abdullah peace be upon him uh but she
tells us that she went back outside
because it didn't
happen let's look in the Quran and see
what we find about this chapter 4 now
we're talking about Ana chapter Ana
chapter 4 of the Quran is dealing with
the women
look at verse number 19 if you have a
translation if you don't have go to our
website and get one they're free
download put it in your computer verse
19 says the Believers oh you who believe
you cannot inherit women against their
will as we discussed in previous
programs it was a practice of the
ignorant pagans the mushin of the
Arabian Peninsula that they would try to
inherit the children's wealth and what
they would do let's say for instance
that some parents die and here's a
six-month-old girl or a 18-month-old
girl a baby he can say that's my wife
and just claim her as a wife to do what
to take her wealth
away so now it comes that no you can't
do that if you look in the first part of
this chapter you'll find that that's
exactly what it's talking about and
dealing with the wealth of these little
girls that you're not permitted to marry
these little girls to steal their wealth
or mingle it with your money and when
it's subject of marriage comes up marry
other women but we're not on that
subject tonight we already talked about
that but this particular verse here in
verse 19 is saying you can't inherit
these women against their will you're
not allowed to get married to these
girls until they're old enough to make a
choice and they're not old enough to
make a choice until what until they are
old enough to have a baby now the
prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him is
the example for us through the rest of
History till the last day to see how to
deal in these particular instances so
that we can give these rights and stay
within these
limitations here's a girl let's say that
she's an orphan can I marry her well is
she mature enough to have a baby no then
no you can't marry her because there's
nobody here to sign for her to say that
okay this is my daughter you can have
her she has nobody so it has to be that
her parents are there or somebody
responsible for her and she has to be
old enough to do what to have a
baby and that is why when IA was only 6
years old that the prophet Muhammad
peace be upon Him obviously did not
accept these terms because the girl
isn't old enough not that he didn't want
to be married to the daughter of his
very best friend his lifelong companion
which was Abu Bakr that was not the
reason because in those days if you
would reject a marriage offer
or if you turned down an offer that was
being made in marriage for somebody in
your family it could cause a big tribal
scene a big problem but here is Muhammad
who is not marrying peace be upon him
not marrying the daughter of his best
friend and there's the only one reason
why because it wouldn't be considered
right in Islam she's not old enough
because keep reading you find another
Hadith in sah bukari another story and
it's clearly stating now she's older
several years have gone by and and the
similar situation takes place they bring
her into the house and now she is old
enough to have babies she has started
her menstrual cycle and now the example
for us comes that yes as soon as they're
old enough to really be a mother to have
a baby that's the earliest they can be
married and it was offered again and it
was accepted by Muhammad sallallahu alhi
wasallam peace be upon him but watch
this she again talking
about may Allah accept from her tells us
that they were married married married
focus on this word marriage because
that's what they had a
marriage and she says that when they
were married they played together they
had fun they romped together they chased
each other they had races she talks
about this herself and he peace be upon
Him talks about it to his companions to
mention that if you have a chance to
marry a virgin girl then raise her up
and have fun with her and play with
her the emphasis was on what to have a
companionship in developing this love
between each other she's the one who
talks about sex in other hadiths and she
narrates over about 2200 roughly
authentic hadiths or stories coming from
her many of them dealing with the
relationship of a man and a woman and
yes she talks about sex in the most
beautiful and sweet way a way that if
you read it you say oh my God isn't this
nice talking about how a man is to be
intimate with his wife being close to
her and coaxing her and just not being
rude not being crude not just going to
her like an animal no going to her in
the most beautiful
way now watch
this she is considered to us today to be
one of the top Scholars of Islam
especially in the areas of the
woman she was married to Muhammad peace
and blessing be upon him until he passed
away and he passed away in her arms with
his head in in her
lap and she had so much love for her
husband do you know that she never ever
ever spoke bad about him she never
uttered a word in all of these hadiths
or stories that would even dispar her
husband even the least little bit and do
you know that she never even considered
being married married to another
man think about this in fact her honor
and her dignity with this respect is
defended by Allah Allah defends her in
the Quran in chapter 24 Surah anur in
the most beloved way to show that this
is a woman who is beyond reproach when
it comes to the SE subject on this sex
so so much dignity so much respect is
here for her and look at this she lived
into her 70s
always speaking the very best way about
her husband and I ask you to be honest
do you know any woman that could do that
today even go 70 days without saying bad
against her how about 70 minutes how
about seven minutes that a woman doesn't
say something against her own husband
this has become a topic of a joke in
this situation comedies called sitcoms
this is the way they act in television
all the time making jokes about the
husband making jokes about the family
cutting down the husband and making up
fun of him and this lady this highly
respected mother of the Believers as
she's called never said anything like
this or even indicated it was
permissible to talk like this in fact
I'd like to share something with you and
I'd like you to think about this real
deep there's a famous love story in the
English language it's considered a
classical love story called Romeo and
Juliet it's written by Shakespeare
even Muslims by the way know this story
very well it's a story of two young
lovers who love each other so much but
their tribes were feuding against each
other in such a horrible way that it was
not even considered a possibility that
they should even talk to each other much
less ever get married these two young
teenagers like 12 or 13 years old by the
way approximately the age of Aisha when
she's getting married here they are
lovers not
married they can't be together so
they're so distraught one of them takes
poison and the other kills
themselves double
suicide and that's considered a love
story I'd like you to do something and I
want you to think about what I'm going
to offer you right now I would like you
to take the stories of Aisha and
Muhammad s alhi wasallam peace be upon
him and remove from these stories these
hadiths the teachings of Quran remove
anything which has to do with time date
place or Nam so nobody will be able to
identify except the story itself then I
want you to take that story this
beautiful story this relationship take
that to any psychiatrist that you
know take it to any sociologist take it
to any marriage counselor take it to any
social
worker and let them read the
story and then ask them what do you
think about this story the story of a
relationship between this man and this
woman they're playing together they're
having fun together she said we used to
race and and he would Chase and and I
would beat him but then I got older and
I got heavier and then he would beat me
she used to talk about the relationship
in such a sweet way that that there
could be no mistake of this great grand
affection that they had so much so that
even when he was dying he wanted to be
in her
arms and what do you think they're going
to say when they read this
story I Venture the guest they're going
to tell you this is the story that
Shakespeare meant to write to have a
real beautiful love story where not only
do they live here happily every after
but when they
die they die and go to
and live happily ever after
there that's the real story you're
talking about a love story that's the
best love story that this Earth has ever
seen between a man and a
woman having said that I want you to
think about something you came to me
with an
innuendo you implied something very
filthy and very
dirty and now you found something very
beautiful
and very very
sweet if you recognize now that someone
has lied to you if you see that this has
been misrepresented to you if you can
see now this fog lifting
up can you look into your own
heart and can you
realize that this is another indication
why you and I should consider worshiping
our Lord of alone without any
Partners couldn't we worship the god of
Muhammad the god of Aisha the god of
Abraham and Adam worship Him Without
Partners and ask him to open our minds
and open our hearts to this real truth
because that's really what this is all
about and we pray and ask Allah to lift
this fog from all of our hearts in our
minds
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