I will be speaking inshallah in this
lecture about or in this short talk
about
repentance but when I Was preparing to
talk about this topic I found that this
topic is quite big topic and there are
many or various issues need to be
covered in this topic so I selected I
decided to select some issues that are
not covered properly or that have not
been discussed properly in most of the
times and I'll be speaking about some
misconceptions regarding the TBA
regarding
repentance because these misconceptions
I feel that uh we need to understand
these misconceptions and how to deal
with these
misconceptions it is of a great
importance for us to be able to deal
with these misconceptions first of
all the first point just as an
introduction to this important topic
what is TBA many of us do not know the
reality of TBA and how can we perform
TBA to confess by your heart that you
regret what you have
done and that you have a commitment not
to do it
again so you regret what happened and to
have a commitment not to do it again and
if you are doing it to stop
it this is the brief meaning of TBA now
many people say do I have to make make
Toba by tongue for example to say that
oh Allah I am repenting to you
now or just by regretting I will be
making Toba this is a discussion between
the scholars we don't want to get into
that but it is good that you stop
yourself okay throughout your day and to
say to yourself talking to Allah oh
Allah I Repent to you now repent from
the mai the sins that I have committed
previously and I I am declaring a
commitment now not to do this Mai and
I'll try to stop any that I have been
involved
in it is good to have that it is good to
have that
declaration throughout your day now
sometimes we cannot declare that by our
tongues we can declare it by our hearts
throughout the day for example if you
drive a car and while you are driving
just all of a sudden stop okay stop
thinking and say to yourself let me make
Toba how do I make Toba while I'm
driving by your heart okay regret all
the mai that you have done or some of
the mai that you have committed
previously not necessarily all of them
but even some of them and decide not to
do this Mai again and ask Allah to give
you the ability not to perform or make
these Mai again and if you are involved
in a now stop it so that is a Toba that
is a
if you are driving for example and maybe
you
saw a picture okay of maybe
inappropriate picture ladies or whatever
okay and you drove you
continue then you need to tell yourself
let me make from that particular and all
similari so make that as a Toba if you
had a bad intention towards a brother or
you said something bad about him it is
very important for you to stop at a
certain point and to say to yourself I
will never do that again I will stop it
and I regret it I regret that I have
done that and I will try my best to ask
this brother
forgiveness that is another type of of
Toba so in brief this is Toba in brief
this is Toba one of the biggest problems
one of our biggest problems is that if
you check your day or your days you will
say that you will see that there are
many days where you do not do TBA at all
we do not do TBA at all and this is a
big mistake yes it is true that after
Salah maybe we
say but we don't do the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam said
said and seek his forgiveness for I do
repent 70 times every day 70 times every
day and this is something that we need
to find a solution for it in conclusion
the best solution for that is to make a
commitment that you repent number of
times every day so when you go to bed
just ask yourself how many times did I
do repentance
today and in many times we discover that
we haven't done enough of repentance so
just before go to sleep say oh Allah I
Repent to you from whatever I have done
today and try to remember some of the
mai some of the mistakes or sins that
you have committed and just before go to
bed just make sure that you repent from
all of them or each one okay
individually both are considered to be
TBA but of course when you repent from
each one that is much
better so this is
Toba now some of the misconceptions
first of all
Allah asked all believers to repent to
him
come back to Allah repent to Allah all
believers so you may have you may be
successful in this Ayah Allah is giving
us a command and this is the first point
isba is not something recommended only
but it is an
obligation you have to do
it this is one of the misconceptions
many of us think that TBA is not
really something obligatory to be done
yes it is obligatory to pray five times
it is obligatory not to say bad words
but many of us don't think that it is
obligatory to make Toba no it is
obligatory to make Toba because all of
us make mistakes all of us make sins and
therefore all of us have to make TBA
from these
sins this is one thing in this ay Allah
says
who all people he did not
say he
said all of you Believers have to repent
to Allah there
is this this rule is applied to all of
you no
exception and the result is you may gain
success gain success in this Dunya and
in the Hereafter and the benefits of and
the fruits of TBA can be gained in this
Dunya and also in the Hereafter many of
us think that the benefits of the TBA
can be gained in the Hereafter only but
actually the benefits of the TBA can be
gained or will be gained at this life
before the
Hereafter the some other misconceptions
main
misconceptions many
people especially shabab they know that
they are going to do some
Mai in particular certain
Mai let us speak frankly here okay with
openness the biggest Masia that the
shabab are facing is what the thei
related to the opposite gender
as they say to the the brothers they are
facing the mai the sins related
to the opposite sex or sisters similarly
women are facing Massi related to the
relationship with
men and the problem with those
Mai that they are continuous
Mai so for example if a brother has a
relationship
illegal relationship or Haram
relationship with a sister it is very
difficult for both of them to stop
that and all of us know this now here
the Shan comes and starts to deceive
both of them both the brother and
sister for
example both of them they communicate
with each other and maybe they exchange
some text messages or they meet even or
maybe they do something more than that
and they know that if they repent they
will do it again so the Shan comes and
will tell the brother or the sister
listen but if you repent now you know
that you will do it again and this is
hypocrisy so so the best thing is not to
do it is not to repent because you know
for sure that you will do it again and
one of the main conditions for TBA as we
said is to regret to stop and to what to
have a commitment not to repeat it again
so that CH that condition is invalid
Therefore
your is
invalid and therefore you don't need to
do
it this is a big problem and this is a
deception by thean to what to take
people away from the right path and more
over to what to
mislead them more and more until they
reach to the a point that they cannot go
back to
Allah so we have to be careful of this
what is the solution of this big problem
no even you know that you don't have
enough strength to stop the you have to
repent and there is a difference between
knowing that you are awake a weak person
and you might fall into this m again and
having a wish not to do it is the
difference clear you don't like to do
the M
again okay you don't like to do the Mia
again but you know that you are weak and
you will do
it so just
by okay hating the Mia and the fact that
you don't like to do it again
this is a very good
sign and it might be accepted as the
condition for as a condition for TBA so
you regret that you are doing it you are
trying to stop it you are trying to stop
it you are putting an effort to stop it
and you wish not to do it
again that may constitute a
Toba even if you know that you are weak
and you will fall into the M again even
if you knew if you know that you have
repented before and you have made the
mistake
again and in the Hadith of alkari the
Prophet sallallahu alaih wasallam
says that Allah
says that a slave okay committed a and
then he said to Allah oh Allah I made a
mistake or I made committed a sin oh
Allah forgive me Allah would
say my slave knew that he has a lord who
forgives the so I for I I forgive his
Mia then my slave repeated that M again
and then he said oh Allah I made a
forgive me Allah will say that again
that my slave knew that he has a Lord
and his Lord forgives the mai so I
forgive his
M the third time that slave committed
the
same so Allah and then he asked Allah
forgiveness Allah would say the same
thing the fourth
time that person committed the
again committed the sin again so he said
to Allah oh Allah I made or I committed
a oh Allah forgive me see he never
stopped asking forgiveness from
Allah and this is the very important
thing that's why in the Hadith the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
said if you
don't if you don't if you stop asking
forgiveness then Allah would replace you
with people who
commit and ask
forgiveness so this person the fourth
time when he made that M he asked Allah
forgiveness Allah would say that my
slave knew that he has a lord That
Forgives and this time I would say to my
slave I have forgiven you
do whatever you want to do the scholars
explain this Hadith and this statement
do whatever you want to do it doesn't
mean that continue doing Mai but it
means continue okay if you cannot
stop as far as you continue
making and asking me forgiveness I would
continue forgive forgiving
you okay okay so this is very important
we see this with many brothers and
sisters and we receive many
calls okay I promised myself and I had
maybe NE sometimes I have I had a
commitment not to do this Mia again but
I couldn't stop it and then after some
after some time I decided just to
continue with my M and not to ask
forgiveness from Allah because I know
that I am a hypocrite person I cannot
stop the M no be careful continue repent
Allah says the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said that Allah accept the
repentance of a
person means he will accept his
repentance as far as he doesn't reach
the death bed or the time of death
in the
other until the day of Resurrection so
Allah will continue accepting this
that's why Allah says in the
Quran Subhan
Allah said Subhan Allah Allah is telling
those who killed his slaves his people
the righteous people of the
trench yeah Allah is telling those who
tortur them those who threw them in the
trench of
fire Allah is telling
them means if they repented after what
after they have done what they have done
Allah would accept theba from
them although they have done that so it
means that Allah will what will continue
accepting the
Toba from his people in the other
Ayah Allah
says
those who said that Allah is the third
of
three believe in Trinity huh they
disbelieved
and there is no God but Allah and if
they don't stop what they have been
doing what they have been saying then
they will be
punished and then Allah says
although that's why said Subhan Allah
look at the mercy of Allah they
attributed to him and Allah is telling
them don't you repent to
Allah don't you repent to Allah they
insulted Allah and Allah is open the
doors for them and he is asking them to
enter those doors by repenting to
him
and that's why in some of the some of
the the quotations that Allah will never
eose the B of the Toba the door of
TBA and some scholar said c mentioned
that the one who is telling people that
or telling a sinner that Allah will
never accept yourba he rejected the
Quran he rejected the Quran why because
Allah talking about those who
attributed well to him means that he has
a son and Allah encouraged them to
repent and Allah told them that if you
repent I will accept your repentance
those who insulted
Allah told them that if you repent your
repentance will be accepted those who
tortur the Believers Allah
said and Allah says
in
if you have committed so
manyi don't despair don't lose hope
because the door of TBA is open for you
any time any place so just go back to
Allah
and and the Hadith all of us know theith
that Allah is more pleased with the TBA
of his slave than the pleasure a person
would get okay a person in the desert
who has a camel and on that Camel he has
his food he has his drink and he lost
that Camel in the desert so he lost hope
and he was waiting for death then all of
a sudden he fell asleep and then he
found that Camel so he will be so happy
Allah is will be more
happy if any of his slaves repent to him
that's why mentioned that some of the
the righteous people gave this example
he said said I saw that a young a child
was kicked
out his
house and his mother kicked him out and
then he
went and he was crying he was a young
boy and
he he saw that he has no
shelter nowhere for him to go so what
did he do he went back to the doorstep
and he stayed next to the door and he
was crying until he slept while crying
all of a sudden his mom opened the door
and she saw her young boy sitting in
that or sleeping in that
situation then she took him hugged him
embraced him and she started to say to
him oh my son please don't disobey me
because once you disobey me I might do
this to you and I hate to kick you out
of my
house
Allah would
do more than this mother would do to her
son so Allah
says
flee flee from who from the punishment
of Allah to who
to
Allah so imagine that child he was
kicked out of his house but to go to
where he has nowhere to go but to go
back to
Allah the second misconception
is many people many people they are
falling into some sins all of us falling
into Mai but some people when they do
certain Mai or certain
sins in order to justify for
themselves
thesei they start to defend their
position
yeah until they reach to a point that
they don't that this m is a real
Sin did you get this
point for example someone is lying he
lies a
lot and then when someone is advising
him brother don't lie okay because the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said
okay if you lie this will lead to Fu and
Fu will lead to Hell
Fire he will say no no this is not lying
I'm not lying this is just a
joke and then he will start to defend
himself and maybe he will ask some
Scholars whether this is a lie or he
might even do some research about this
point and he starts to justify for
himself that what he is doing is right
and it is not
wrong and maybe you have seen
this all of us some Dua for example they
fall into a
sin okay some practicing people they
made some mistakes they fall into some
sins here we have to be careful don't
justify the mistake accept it as a
mistake don't ever defend yourself and
if someone told you you are a practicing
person the other day Okay I noticed that
you haven't prayed F in the m f in the
Masid don't say well the Masjid is
far okay and Sal is not W is not
obligatory on me because the distance of
the Masid okay is far and I cannot hear
the no accept it say I'll try my best
why because if you try to justify it for
yourself you will not
improve is that or not you will never
improve because next time subconsciously
when you want to wake up for f prayer
you will say to yourself yeah but the
Masid is far
away and it's not obligatory upon me to
pray because you had already prepared
yourself for that stance for for that
position okay so be careful some
statements we make sometimes as Dua as a
speakers and some practicing people they
may make some statements wrong
statements and then they might be
approached by some people and they might
tell them well I don't find that this
statement was an accurate statement or
an appropriate statement so they will
start no no no no no but this statement
I have heard it from so and so scholar
and no this statement there is nothing
wrong with it because it is supported by
this Del and that
Del no even if that statement can be
considered correct don't defend it
unless it is a clear-cut
statement okay if you take a position
that is a doubtful position don't defend
it as far as it is a doubtful position
don't defend it say I'll try okay my
best you know we all human beings and we
make mistakes may
Allah help me to avoid this and the
other point Brothers don't think that
the people the Dua the scholars the the
speakers are what ideal people safe from
mistakes because once you start to deal
with them from this perspective you will
not accept any mistake from them and
once any of them make any mistake
you will what ignore him and you will
never listen to him
completely and that is a big mistake so
that mistake you treated wrongly okay or
you dealt with that mistake wrongly and
that led to a bigger mistake so we have
to be
careful
okay some some of us when they do some
mistakes okay or they commit somei
hidden Mai hidden for example some of
the shabab have
maybe kind of relationship with some
sisters and they are hiding
it it's
good it's good to hide
it is good to hide it be careful thean
will come to you and he'll say come on
people around you they see you mallah
with the beard okay or they might tell
the sisters they might see you with aab
even and you are doing this secret
mistake if people knew about it then you
will know what will happen to you you
are a hypocrite why are you doing this
you have to
expose this sin in order for you not to
be hypocrite in order for your friends
with a male female not to consider you
as a
hypocrite and they start to what to
expose themselves this exposure leads to
what uh lead to
Mu what does muar mean muah means or it
will
lead to the fact that the person will be
proud of that Mia
once he was hiding it he was
what
ashamed and he was trying or she was
trying to
what uh to cover it up and to get rid of
it but once they expose it they are
proud of
it and they will persist in doing that
Mia so that led to another and Allah
says
the steps of thean one step lead to
another step so don't do that this is a
big misconception or is a big
problem the another misconception is
some people make Mist make mistakes and
commit
somei for
example okay some this is typical with
some liberal
people or with some people who cannot
practice Islam for example a person
cannot you grow his beard he is shaving
his
beard the Shan will come to him and he
will start hating those who have
beards and then the second step the Shan
will come to him to in order for him to
defend his position to justify this
stance he will start talking
bad okay talking badly against those who
have their
beards and then he will start what
accusing those who have beards that they
are
hypocrites and even he might reach to a
stage to find all possible ad and proves
that beard is not a
Sunnah so sisters for example they don't
like they are not used to have
hijab what do they
do they start to hate hijabi sisters
they start to talk against
hijab until they may reach to a point
that they will side with those who are
working against the interest of Muslim
and Islam and you will be
surprised this person is not an evil
person why is he siding with those
enemies of Al Islam why it started like
this it started okay simple like this
and because this person or this person
was not careful of himself he did not
put or she did not put attention to this
misconception or this deception by the
Shan he or she reached to that point
okay so if we don't
do okay a certain commandment if we make
a mistake we should not hate that
command we should not also hate the
people who are applying that
Sunnah yeah and you might find this with
some brothers who
are for example they don't like to to
see some practicing Brothers we wearing
certain clothes okay or practicing
certain in their
appearance they don't like
them because they don't like that
appearance they start to talk badly
against
it
another misconception
is some people
they are making mistakes and they are
committing thean comes to them and will
be telling them that listen why are you
worried of this m look so many people
are doing
it I remember a person
said that thean he had a big problem and
he said he was searching the internet of
okay through these
websites and he
said how this started the Shan came to
me and he told me do you think that all
these practicing people are not doing it
secretly no no don't ever don't ever
believe in them I'm sure every single
person is doing it
secretly so if you are doing it okay all
of them are doing
it Subhan Allah look at this c yeah so
now he will take that
what lightly is that true or
not why how because thean is justifying
it to him through this misconceptions
that everyone is doing
it and like one
time I received a call a sister was
involved in Zena yeah she was involved
in
Zena and while she was married I told
her sister do you know what you have
committed that you have committed a
major sin and if we were to apply Islam
on you you would be
stoned she started to laugh and she said
you should appreciate that I am coming
to you to ask you a
question and do you believe do you think
that all these Muslim women who are
wearing hijab and working in the city
they are free from Zena all of them are
doing Zena but I was Brave and I came to
you to ask you a question and you are
telling me this they are doing it
secretly and they don't they they don't
have enough courage to come to talk
about their
mistakes so I said sister come on what
has this to do with that I'm giving you
an advice about the gravity of your
problem and you are telling me you are
trying to justify this by telling me
that all
sisters working in mixed environment are
doing these sins this is not a
justification don't deceive yourself
don't fool yourself even if all of them
are doing it this is still a major
sin okay okay so this is a
misconception a very dangerous one that
leads to another bigger
misconception which is
what once people get used to some sins
they will take it
lightly they will take it
lightly um maybe it's good sometimes to
speak about some examples of course we
don't give the details of those examples
okay so these are very general examples
and sometimes we even change the
examples a little bit I remember a
person came to me and he said to me
please make Dua for me because I am
involved in Zena and I'm doing it
frequently I said to him brother are you
just telling me
this you are taking it lightly he said
said yeah I know that it is a mistake
and but what can I do I said what a
mistake Zena is a mistake one of the
Grave sins is a mistake you know the
punishment of Zena you know theth of the
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam who
said that he saw in the uh at night that
Those who commit Zena will be put
in t like an oven
and they they will be burned in that
oven he said yeah I've been doing this
for some time yeah you've been doing
this for some time don't make it as a
light sin that's why said
that Al and he is giving the example the
M when he commit a sin he will see
himself as if he is sitting next to a
mountain and the mountain is about to
what collapse over him so he's afraid
because the mountain will what fall on
him and the cfir or the maaf he sees his
sin as what H as a
flyer that dropped on his nose and he
just said like this and the F went away
this is the sin from his perspective
Ive that's why they say okay don't
look how small the sin is but look how
big okay the one you s to is how big
Allah is
and ab said or or one of his students he
said once you look to a small sin
as if it was a big sin Allah will
consider it a small sin if you look at a
big sin okay as if it is a small sin it
will be considered as a very big
sin okay so we should
never we should never ever look at any
sin as a minor mistake even if it is a
small sin okay out of respect to Allah
look at it as you are
violating the laws of Allah the laws of
the one whom you
love consider it from look at it from
this
perspective some of
us okay are involved in some Mai because
they are involved in some Mai they
ignore doing some small
or minor good
deeds and just to to give the brief
concept
okay remember the Hadith of the of bani
is the prostitute of bani is that the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
mentioned she was a
prostitute and while she was walking she
saw what uhuh a dog you know the Hadith
she saw a dog Thirsty
Dog she never said to herself come on I
will help that dog by providing him some
water helping him to drink some water
but I am a
prostitute she never said this that is
something you are doing this major sin
but do
something the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said it
Subhan
Allah the one who is thinking that who
is believing that there is a Hell Fire
and he might be thrown into the Hell
Fire he will try to stop himself from
going into that Hell Fire he will not
say the H fire will just touch us for a
few days
no
you said a few days okay a few
days a few days a few days no brothers
there are
small that we can do every single one of
us can do you might see a poor Muslim
person asking you for one pound maybe he
is right he is he is truthful or he is a
liar just as that moment out of
sincerity say to Allah oh Allah I am
doing so many mistakes I'm doing I'm
involved in so
many I am giving this one pound no one
is watching me except you Allah I am
taking it while I like that pound maybe
I it is the only pound that I have but
maybe you will forgive me because of
that
pound so oh Allah forgive me because of
this good Good Deed that I am doing it
for sincerely for
your pleasure and give it while you are
walking and maybe you have committed
1,000
sins say to Allah oh
Allah oh Allah I confess that I made so
mistake so many now oh Allah just
forgive
me don't say oh what the what is this
going to do with those Mai that you have
committed don't be deceived by the Shan
Brothers okay that's why the person who
is Keen about himself he will try every
opportunity to
gain to
win protect yourself from the hell fire
even by giving what a peace of one date
as
a
um the last one that I would like to
mention is okay of course there are many
things but because of
time many of us as we said are involved
in many Mai some of us are involved in
so many Mai some of us are involved in
somei we
def but okay I know that I am making so
many
Mai and for example I am unable to lower
my gaze yeah let us take this and a
friend of mine he is not lowering his
Gates so shall I tell him brother this
is something wrong and this is a sin
don't do it how can I tell him while I'm
doing
it h someone came to one of the
and he told him don't you encourage
people to do good deeds and to stop Mai
he said what about
myself he said the Shan wants this from
the Believers the Shan wants them to say
what about myself if I start enjoying
good and forbidding evil I should enjoy
myself okay to do good and forbid myself
from doing bad yes you should do that
and you can encourage other people to do
good deeds and forbid them from doing
the
mai and that's why they said Allah
commanded us to what to enjoying Good
Deeds to stop doing bad Deeds although
Allah knows that we are sinning is that
true or
not so means that even if you are
sinning continue enjoying the good and
forbidding the
evil some people might say this is
hypocrisy no don't act as if you are
don't pretend as if you are doing that
good deed for example is difficult I
will encourage people to do but I should
not encourage them and pretend that I am
doing it Mah every night no say this is
I know it is difficult and we have this
shortcoming not to do but it's good to
encourage each other to
do so I'm not reflecting manifesting
that I am
doing if I am encouraging people to
lower their gaze and I'm not lowering my
gaze I should not say brother what is
this you are not lowering your gaze you
know that this is a big sin okay and you
should be ashamed of yourself because
you are not doing it so here I am giving
him the impression that W I am safe from
this no don't do it like this but say
brother although I am falling into this
Mia but this is a big problem and we
have to avoid it and you have to
encourage me to avoid it I'm encouraging
you to avoid it and Allah commanded us
to enjoy the good and
for
okay there are many other misconceptions
but maybe because of time
constraints whatever we have mentioned
inshallah will be enough and we ask
Allah to give us and to help us to
repent to him don't forget to repent to
Allah before go to sleep once you go to
bed just once you are lying down ask
yourself how many times did I Repent to
Allah
today if you haven't repented repent at
that time don't say well it is a minor
issue no no no repent to Allah Allah
likes it Allah will make you a stronger
believer Allah will make you a better
person Allah will be pleased with you
Allah will love you and you will start
having the love enjoy the love of Allah
and enjoy being with
Allah