my dearest brothers and
sisters in the early
1400s the Bishops and the religious
authorities of the Christian World got
together in a beautiful place called
London very beautiful place called
London and they all got together to
debate whether women were human or
not and they came up with a conclusion
that no they were not
human right in the year
1746 in
France again a very enlightened group of
Christian
clergymen got together in a very
beautiful place in a very very beautiful
place called
Paris in order to debate whether women
truly were devils or have we improved in
our thought of who they are so they had
a debate for 3 Days intense
debate pros and cons pluses and
minuses who are they what are they
what's their true
nature they're talking about their
mothers for God's sakes they're talking
about their mothers and their wives and
their daughters and their sisters what
did they conclude they concluded that
they are human but their souls are
lesser than the souls of
men and this was a conclusion
of this Council of clergymen in the year
1746 and in the year 1700
700
after the birth of Jesus Christ a man by
the name of Muhammad sallahu alaihi
wasallam had a very different
conclusion he had said
women are not only equal to men but they
can actually be sometimes even better
than
men so
it is such a shame that when a prophet
Muhammad sahu alh wasallam this blessed
man who gave such value to women and
remov these misconceptions and these
idiocracies that people said about their
other
half that Subhan Allah that it is now
today that we say that Islam denigrates
women what a irony Subhan Allah what a
hypocrisy Y what a hypocrisy the West
are children of these same bishops from
France and of the same same bishops from
from UK who said these sort of things
and today now we believe that we have
liberated women whereas Islam had done
that so many years ago my brothers and
my
sisters truly not only did Islam
liberate women but of aurity Allah subh
explained that in the Quran he gave
women far more credit than we do
sometimes in fact in a very amazing
couple of verses in Surah al- Imran
Allah subhah wa tala teaches us a very
important lesson he teaches us that a
woman can indeed be better than a man
and he says it very clearly and he says
it with a very very clear example let me
tell you the story
of of the wife of
Imran the mother of
maram
why oh my Lord I have consecrated for
you made sacred for you what is in my
belly meaning she was pregnant so she
wanted to make whatever was in her belly
sacred for the cause of God only
indeed you are the all hearing and the
all
knowing when she delivered the baby she
said oh Allah I have delivered a female
child female child she wasn't expecting
that whenever someone says I'm going to
keep this child for God or I'm going to
do something special with this child
what do they think male the default is
the male isn't it the default is the
male but Allah wanted to prove a point
so what was a point it's coming up very
soon so when she gave birth to the baby
she said what oh
Allah I have given birth to a female
child then she
says only Allah knows oh Allah why I
have given a female
child and I have called her by a blessed
name of maram and indeed I seek
protection for her and for her progeny
from the cursed Shan then Allah
says so her Lord meaning the Lord of
this woman the mother accepted this
offering from her with a beautiful
acceptance and gave her a beautiful
dwelling and made the prophet Zakaria
responsible over the Affairs of
Mariam every time Zakaria would enter
upon manum he would find so much food
and wealth with
her he would say
oh where in the world is all this
from she would
say it's from Allah don't you
know that indeed Allah provides to
whoever he Wills without any any measure
then then listen to this next verse for
this is the point of my evidence today
and if the only thing you go back with
is this next verse then that will be
sufficient because God
says it is at that point because of the
advice of maram that she that that
Zakaria the prophet of God called out to
Allah saying what oh Allah give me a
righteous
child oh Allah give me a righteous
blessed child indeed
verily you hear all duas so my friends
this is my point of evidence today that
a woman taught a
prophet to
have that a woman taught a prophet to
have IM in Allah that a woman taught a
prophet how she is the recipient of so
much good and so much care from Allah
and that was because of her Superior
level of Iman Superior level of Iman
that she had
indeed she was an exemplary woman the
mother of Isa Jesus Christ may Allah
have mercy on them both my brothers and
my sisters in Islam Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala gives the examples of the women
of paradise and makes the parable of the
women of paradise to pearls have you
noticed that he
says if you were to see the beautiful
women of paradise you would think that
that they're like concealed pearls have
you seen concealed pearls well imagine
pearls beautiful mother of pearl covered
in satin beautiful satin silk clothing
covered up lightly covered up and then
lightly uncovered beautiful covered up
pearls that's
how that's what Allah subhana tal
describes women of Jenna as I can see
our brother smiling like
happiness you're lighting up the
room
mashallah beautiful bright smile mallah
happy man excellent now this is
important you know why it's important
why have you thought of why does God
give the example of the women of
paradise to that of pearls have you
thought of that well if you look into
history pearls were the most expensive
of all
Jewelry pearls were the most expensive
it's not diamonds diamonds are forever
it's a Deb's marketing tactic it's a
marketing gimmick it never used to be
diamonds as a woman woman's best friend
wasn't it was always a pearls was a
woman's and a man's best friend as well
because pearls used to fund Wars with
one war one war with with one PE I'm
sorry they would fund multiple Wars it
was well known that the Romans would use
pearls to stud their th Thrones they
would use pearls to stud their
horses with a single Pearl they would
fund multiple battles into Germania
multiple battles for years and centuries
years they would fight with just one
Pearl and also in that
Infamous Infamous uh banquet which was
thrown by Cleopatra have you ever read
about that the banquet the most
expensive banquet in history what was
the most expensive banquet in history
you can read it up in um what's that
again please believe it or not no it's
not
actually it's in the almanac of the uh
of the World Records right you can read
it in that it says the the world's most
expensive
banquet was the banquet of Cleopatra for
Mark Anthony when Mark Anthony wanted to
invade Egypt so Cleopatra invited Mark
Anthony to a to some supper for some a
food and said I'm going to give you the
most expensive and most amazing banquet
so Mark Anthony rocks up thinking
there's going to be like plates of food
and all of the sheep of uh Egypt are
going to be slaughtered for him and he's
going to have the most expensive thing
right the amazing guy is going to come
and Conquer Egypt and these slaves of
his are going to offer the best of
offering so what did Cleopatra do as
soon as Mark Anthony walked into her
Palace Cleopatra said no food nothing
there's nothing there except a goblet of
wine Goblet of wine then she took a
mother of pearl that she had right one
mother of pearl another mother of pearl
that she had earrings then she dissolved
the M PE in one of the wine goblets and
she dissolved the other one in the other
wine goblet and she gave it to Mark
Anthony to drink and Mark Anthony agreed
this is the most expensive banget so you
see pearls was the most expensive thing
the most precious thing any man would
die and kill for a pearl and that's why
God gives examples of pearls not because
anything else not because they
particularly shiny or pretty no because
they were counted to be the most
expensive of all human jewelry of any
jewelry to
mankind right so what's why why am I
talking about this because if the women
of Jenna are being resembled to pearls
it means righteous women because women
of Jenna are righteous women that's how
you end up in jenah right because you're
righteous so righteous women are like
pearls meaning righteous women are as
expensive as as precious as
pearls smile
smile it's free it's
charity righteous women are as expensive
as pearls have you not heard thei
ofam the most expensive or the most
precious provision that Allah has given
anybody in this world is a righteous
woman have you read the Hadith right
that's how it all fits in does it make
sense now makes sense it does because
truly righteous
are a blessing for anyone blessing for
the husband blessing for the kids
blessing for the community blessing for
the family blessing for the society
blessing for the nation blessing for the
world because righteous women Subhan
Allah can truly change the world I know
my wife may Allah preserve her and enter
into Jenna with me but Allah if she
could not do and did not do or refus to
do politely what she does for me by
looking after my children and
facilitating me to do the da work that I
do and I travel almost almost um 75% of
my weekends right away from home if she
did not do so Subhan I would not be able
to do what I'm doing
now pure and simple it is for this
reason
why wasallam said the wife of a mujah
has the reward of a
mujah amazing isn't it why should a wife
Miss out what just the man is going to
get the reward just because he's
fighting no he was able to fight and die
in the cause of Allah because his wife
was patient and looking after his
Affairs if his wife wasn't doing so
would his mind be able to do so
sacrifice himself for Allah's cause not
at all it is for this reason why the
wife of a fighter has the same reward as
a fighter by necessary Cory as well the
wife of a righteous man has their a
reward of the righteous man as well in
the authentic in the verses of the Quran
Allah subhah wa tala
says enter you and your wives into Jenna
and be merry and happy in ITB abas
mentions in the of this verse the most
number of intercessions that will happen
on the day of judgment is that a man
will enter Jenna is that a man will
enter Jenna and say oh Allah I am in
level 72 my wife's
1166 oh Allah raise her up to me and so
Allah will accept that intercession and
raise her up just because of the Dua of
the of the husband and because of the
righteousness of one of them in the
other way as well is also true if a wife
is at a higher level then she makes LA
to Allah oh Allah I can't spend an
eternity without my husband raise him up
to me so then he also gets raised up to
the level of the wife mallah my brothers
and my sisters
these are the examples that we have
these this is truly why righteous women
are so important and so precious to us
all indeed Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
gave us tremendous examples of exemplary
women in
history what better example can I give
you than the wife of the greatest enemy
of God who was he F who was she
AIA the wife of the
Pharaoh the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said four women completed the
IM who are
they Asia who
else who else
FAA
and these four women completed the IM
perfected the IM completely perfected
the Iman meaning they totally believed
in Allah and perfected the belief in
Allah with their tongues with their
hearts and with their limbs the actions
were were perfect their hearts and the
actions of the heart was perfect and
their statement of the tongue was
perfect and it is for this reason why
they had completed it who are these four
women well we spoke about mam what about
she was the wife of a tyrant so next
time when one of you thinks that your
husband is so bad or your husband you
know doesn't pray your husband is not as
practicing as you are perhaps don't
think that you are going to be
doomed take it easy take one step back
Allah subhah wa taala showed that the
wife of us of f could have perfected her
Iman so you too can perfect your Iman
too you too can Excel you too can be
saved and you too can be a very very
righteous person just like she was what
did she do by the way she saved a
prophet of God did she not Mam and she
was a stepmom for
mahatam and of course that ended up
being a great Mercy for all of mankind
because M saved the children of isra
Israel from the from the from the
naughty
Pharaoh also take the example
of in the most deepest and the darkest
times of wasallam this woman
was was his beloved this woman was his
was his soulmate this woman was it for
him Subhan Allah he married her and she
was patient he went to the cave of Hera
for 6 months or 8 months only to come
back to just get some food and then go
up again and she was
patient he struggled to spread the
religion would be out of the home not
have enough money to bring back home for
food she would be patient and yet on the
day when he came back back from the cave
of H thinking that he had gone mad it
was it was she it
was who
said no Allah will never will never
disgrace
you Allah will never disgrace you it was
she who did it do you know the effect of
the actions of Khadijah on this man
Muhammad s wasallam let me tell let me
demonstrate how deeply and madly this
man was in love with this
woman due to her
actions in one authentic narration in
bukari it's narrated that the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam was
asleep and he this was in Medina when he
was asleep and he was in the Hut
of asleep at that time suddenly a woman
knocked on the door and said allum said
whatam allum suddenly the prophet woke
up in a in in complete shock and
bewilderment imagine waking waking up
like you're
asleep he had just
heard a sound that sounded
like
Khadijah why because that was halah the
sister of Khadijah whose voice resemble
the voice of Khadijah Subhan Allah so
had just heard the voice of Khadijah
again and he could not forget that voice
of all voices the one that he could
never ever make him forget
was a voice of his
soulmate because he could recognize that
he could recognize that forever and he
would never ever forget it so what did
he say listen to what he said oh
Allah said what oh Allah don't torture
me make this the voice
of make this Hal not don't make me hear
voices Ya Allah make this The Voice
voice of Hal amazing
amazing we look for love in the worst of
places in the darkest and the coldest
and the ugliest and the deepest part of
the night wrong places This is Love a
love when a man is still in love with a
woman many years after she has passed
away many years after even her family
has forgotten about her this is what you
call love so at that point
saw the expression ofam and what do you
think she
said she said yeah Allah oh prophet of
God what do you want with a woman who
has passed away and her bones have dried
up and she's become and become
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dust one thing you can't get rid of is
jealousy right what do you want with the
woman who's passed away bones become
become dry and become dust what do you
want with her and so and then she she
said whilst Allah has given you
something better than
her who she talking
about right she's talking about herself
masallah so articulate so
what so what
did say
Ali wasallam said
no Allah has not given me better than
her indeed Allah has blessed me with her
love my brothers my sisters The
Challenge on you sisters is to make your
husbands fall in love like Khadijah made
R fall in love with him the challenge
for you is to create a husband that
loves you long after you pass away the
challenge for you is to create a husband
so madly in love that he'll be like Shah
Jahan who know Shah
Jahan who know Shah Jahan no one know
Shah Jan Shah Jahan the one who built
Taj Mahal remember the one who knows the
story of Shah Jahan he had this really
pretty wife called
mumtaz and mumtaz said that you know you
have to promise me you'll never get
married to anyone after me which he
readily
promised and then thereafter when uh
when she passed away from child birth
then thereafter he built a huge Palace
and he got all the most amazing um
amazing stones from all the deepest
parts of the Ganges and from all
different parts of India and then did
you know about the story then after they
built that big mosum to house the grave
of mtas who had become dust and Bones by
now right to build that
mosum he poked their eyes up and he cut
their hands off of all the workers 2,000
workers it took to build that huge thing
he cut the hands off and he poked the
eyes out please Brothers don't do that
okay but obviously the reason why he did
that was because he didn't want anyone
to ever build another replica of the Taj
mahad okay and he did that as a
dedication to his wife to his wife
mtas all I'm going to say is
mumtaz mumtaz means excellent or perfect
right in
Arabic okay take the example my brothers
my my sisters
of as well at the age of
18am passed away when she was married
to you see the wives of truly had a
difficult time because he had a number
of wives right he had nine wives at one
one stage and the wives of wasallam the
prophets sallu alaihi wasallam traveled
in his 10 years in Medina he spent 3
years traveling 36 months he traveled
and 19 battles he fought so he he fought
19 battles he traveled 36 months of that
7 years he was in Medina right 7 years
in Medina of that every single year that
he was in Medina in Ramadan he spent 10
days in okay basically means including
yourself in the mosque away from
everyone else so that you can remember
the day that you will be alone with your
God in the belly of the Grave so he did
for 10 days in Ramadan uh every single
year in the last year he stayed with uh
in EA for 20 days in Ramadan okay on top
of that in one of the years he actually
stayed away from all of his wives for
about 1 month if you minus from the
seven years that he was with his wives
because everything else he was traveling
or whatever from that you minus all the
days he did and you minus all the days
that he was in that in in uh he was uh
that he had stayed away with his wives
and you divide that by the number of
wives he had what's the average number
of nights you get I did the sums and I
got an average of 2.18 nights per wife
per
month I can see silence I can actually
see silence this time not just hear
it yeah 2.18 nights what makes a woman
stay with a man when the man can only
give her 2.18 nights a
month it takes a woman of tremendous
patience would you agree it takes an
Exemplar woman a woman of Jen and this
is why I pray and I make a sincere door
to Allah that may Allah forgive our
mothers the wives ofam and enter them
into the highest of Jenna with their
Habib with their beloved for an
eternity because they sacrificed the
most difficult thing to them in order to
achieve some greatness and in order to
achieve something great for Islam which
they did Subhan Allah an 18yearold woman
never to get married after her beloved
passed away was an amazing
thing would say are you used to make Dua
to Allah oh Allah let me see my beloved
husband in my dreams so Allah answered
my Dua and he let me see him every
second day my
dream
mallah and then she used to say I
couldn't tolerate it sometimes so I'd
make more Dua to Allah until Allah
answered my Dua and he let me see him
every single day in my
dream Subhan Allah you think about it it
takes an exemplary woman w exemplary
women of exemplary patience exemplary
dedication to be how these exemplary
women were subh truly they were pearls
truly they were pearls Subhan Allah how
else could wasallam do what he did
Subhan Allah if he didn't have examples
of these exemplary women that his wives
were take the example of this beautiful
woman by the name of
fa the daughter ofam
one of those who also had perfected her
IM or her faith as well as wasallam had
said the prophet also said that Fatima
would be the first to follow him from
his family to the Hereafter meaning that
she would be the first to pass away in
one amazing amazing couple of verses
Allah subhanahu wa taala says Allah
revealed a couple of verses in the Quran
which I came across when I was reading
the T of of
uhi I I came across Ross his explanation
of a couple of verses of the Quran and
the verses of the Quran go like this uh
Allah subhah wa tala
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says what is this verse saying this
verse mentions that Allah T quotes
people who give charity in the cause of
Allah are those who say verily they feed
the poor the orphan and the the poor the
orphan and the prisoner of war the poor
the orphan and the prison of War by the
way prison prison of war was actually a
non-muslim isn't it that's why they were
prisoners of War so Allah is actually
saying that it's actually good to be to
give charity to non-muslims so next time
you actually ask yourself can I give
charity to non-muslims can I feed them
can I do of course you can goodness to
all of humanity is what Islam talks
about
so they feed out of the love of
Allah a poor man and orphan and a p
prison of war and they
say verily we feed you for the face of
Allah we do not ask you for any reward
in
return nor even a word of
thanks verily we fear a day we do this
because we are afraid for ourselves on a
day in which the hearts will turn inside
out from Fear on that day which is the
day of
judgment right and these verses by the
agreement of all the scholars of Islam
was revealed
regarding they were revealed regarding
who why because Ali who was the
son-in-law ofam used to carry things on
his head and Ferry Water and Ferry
things from people's house to other
houses and then get some some wheat and
Bali for as payment he would take the
wheat and Bali home fa would then use
that wheat and Bali to actually cook
bread with it so one day Ali did some of
that fairing came home after hard days
of work in the 55° C heat of Medina
which I'm telling you is far hotter than
Malaysia brought that that that barley
back home she made bread with it she
made three loaves of bread one for her
one for him and one for Hassan and
Hussein but before the food could be
served to Ali and and Hassan Hussein a
prisoner of war walked by so she looked
at him saw that he had just been freed
and he hungry so she gave him a piece of
bread two more to go and then orphan
passed by she rubbed her hand over his
head felt sorry pity and gave him a
piece of bread not thinking of anything
not thinking where they're going to eat
and then thereafter a poor person walked
by and she gave another piece of bread
so the blessed family went to bed hungry
that night the whole family and so Allah
revealed this
verse do you know what's amazing about
this verse do you know what's amazing
about this verse is that thereafter
after these verses God describes
Paradise in no less than 15 verses an
extensive description of Jenna extensive
description of paradise now whenever you
go to any extensive description of
Paradise in the Quran you will find that
God talks about the beautiful women of
of Jenna as well which are the women of
the husbands that are cre or the wives
created for husbands God talks about
them except for these places this part
in the Quran in this extensive
description of Jenna God does not talk
about the or the women of Jenna the
beautiful women of Jenna
whyi
Saidi said amazing when I read this like
oh my God
unbelievable you want to hear it you
sure keep you in
suspense okay may Allah have mercy upon
him said Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loved
the action of Fatima so much and knew
knew her
jealousy of other women because she
didn't want Ali to take another wife
knew her jealousy so much so that he
revealed verses about Jenna and did not
mention the at all because he did not
want want to
offend fa
allahar
amazing these verses were obviously
revealed for Fatima right because the
good de that she did he didn't want to
offend his slave didn't want to offend
his slave he knows a slave doesn't like
something he won't even mention in the
Quran because of the feeling of
offending his slave because he was so
happy and so amazed with her act you see
righteous women when they do righteous
Deeds then by Allah not only are they
equal to men they can far exceed men as
well so much so that Allah above the
seven Heavens can reveal verses recited
till the day of judgment in amazement of
his slave in amazement of the actions of
a righteous woman by the name of
fa my brothers and sisters let me give
you other examples other than the wives
or the family of take the example of a
Woman by the name
of and she was the wife of a man of a
sahaba by the name of Abu
tal initially was married to a man by
the name of Malik who was a drunkard he
was a non-muslim and he died died in his
disbelief from Malik aruma gave birth to
two sons which I'm sure you know the
names number one is anas bin Malik and
number two
is it's okay it's okay I have five
children too if my wife was looking
after them I wouldn't be
here all right so Subhan Allah Allah
have mercy on our mothers Subhan Allah
Allah have mercy on our
mothers okay where was
I are you paying
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attention just kidding SOA she gave
birth to two sons who who whose names
you all know number one was Anin Malik
and number two was Malik anus Malik at
the age of four saw this woman said that
wasallam needs a servant someone to look
after his Affairs not really servant to
do this and that but someone to be with
him operations manager for any for lack
of better words for little things okay
or a PA secretary if I may use that term
all right call it a servant okay needed
a servant to look after his Affairs and
to help him do this and that get this
and get that so what does she do at the
age of four at the tender age of four at
the tender age of four beginning of four
not even ending of four at the beginning
of four she went to wasallam even though
she lived about 10 uh 10 uh houses down
the road she went to the house
of and said Allah I would like my son to
be your servant and to serve you and to
stay with you in your house so accepted
that now my question is to you is this
at the age of four is a really tender
age it's a age when you play around with
your children it's a age where my
daughter subh allaham is about three and
a half at the moment so cute so cute a
you want to bite her
cheeks and then you get afraid that that
the child security agencies will be
called upon you so you don't bite her
cheeks so you kiss her
cheeks so cute Subhan Allah that tender
age when they're speaking to you on the
Skype and phone I don't know what she's
saying but she's having a deep
conversation with me telling me
everything that Aisha is doing and Yu is
doing that age you just want to freeze
them at that age please maram don't grow
up free we're going to freeze you at
that age don't grow up anymore we love
you at that age anything more and then
anything more and then we unfortunately
tend to lose our children or they become
older and
uninteresting at that age beautiful that
kiss is like a million dooll kiss
mashallah and she runs and she hugs her
dad and takes a shoe of her shoes off my
of of my feet and takes my socks and
then she gets me water at that age mom
mom dad wants water she runs and she
gets water Subhan Allah amazing so at
that tender age of four which mother
would do
that either one of two types of woman
would do it either someone completely
mad or someone completely sane but knows
what's right for her kids and that was
ARA you see this boy grew up in the
house
ofam so much so that of the descriptions
of that we have available to us of how
the man Muhammad wasallam looked right
the only ones who
described are the little sahab that were
little at that time the only
descriptions we have are from anas and
from abdah and from a few other sahab
who were all little small at that time
Abu Bakr never described Omar couldn't
describe why because whenever they were
in his presence they lowered their eyes
they were in so much humility and
humbleness in his presence that they
could not bear to raise their eyesight
to look at him so it was the little ones
that looked at him you know the little
ones would look at him and so it was
honest with describe in great detail and
an used to say because he had become
blind towards the end of his life he
said my eyes have become blind but I can
see my beloved in my dreams so he used
to see as well in his dream even though
he had become blind mallah anus the
prophet wasallam servant little servant
became such a righteous man and the
prophet made so much Dua for this man
made so much Dua that anus would say W I
could not move a single Stone except
that I found gold underneath
it right meaning that he couldn't do
anything except Allah would give him
wealth and Provisions until when he
passed
away he had no less than 12 126
children 76 of whom passed away before
him Subhan Allah obviously they weren't
all from the same
wife okay anyway but the the whole point
was the man was exceptionally blessed
and the man was exceptionally Rich when
he passed away he had three wives and
when he had these three wives he left
money behind for
them and when he calculate the amount of
money that he left behind for each of
them it's approximately approximately
after my calculations for what money was
worth at that time to now approximately
about $36 million us for each one of his
wives and that is by the way after you
calculate the fact
after we calculate the fact that the
children that the wives get 1/8 if there
is children in inheritance law the wives
get 1/8 and if he has three wives then
that's a third of 1/8 so that's how much
did I say 56 million the 36 so 36
million that's 1/3 or 1/
18
amazing
mashallah the best of this world and the
best of the Hereafter best of this world
the best of herea why because of this
woman who
sacrificed her deepest Desires in order
to please in order to to do what is
better and righteous and better for her
better for her son we're not saying that
our sister should do that sisters thank
you I don't want your a four-year-old
kid I can't raise them I've got my own
kids thank
you inshah I'm not saying that we should
do the same what I am saying is look at
the examples of such a person and it
takes exemplary dedication exemplary
dedication and tremendous patience to be
able to do that subh especially when
your child is living and growing up just
10 blocks down the road 10 houses down
the road Subhan
Allah take the example of with Abu Talha
when Abu Talha when he married AB when R
married Abu Talha Abu Talha was a
disbeliever so Ruma basically told Abu
Talha that I would marry you as long as
you accept Islam so Abu tal accepted
Islam and that was her marriage gift
which was Abu Islam so they had a happy
relationship this was of course after
Malik had died which was the first
husband had passed away after drinking
Etc many years later she migrated to
Medina and then got married to Abu tal
right so her second husband AB was a
righteous man and with with he had one
child one son one and only son who who
Abu tal used to love so much he used to
play with this child he used to love
this child and as like any father and
Abu tal used to work in the crops and
and and cultivation so go out in the
morning and come back at night after
working for a hard day in cultivating
wheat and Bali and all those sort of
things in Medina so Abu Talha one day
went away to work and Ruma was looking
after the child and lo and behold the
child put something in his mouth started
choking and unfortunately the child
passed away the child passed away at a
tender age of 1 or 2 years old the child
passed away so Ruma the mother was
heartbroken imagine your child passing
away what would you do
cry despair be in angony your heart
would be tearing inside you you don't
know what to say your limbs would fail
you your legs would give
away you would your head would be aching
your heart would be pounding your mind
would think ridiculous
things right we can imagine all of these
things right if our child would to pass
away don't you think so but what did R
do well she said it's going to be she
obviously shed tears and she was sad and
very very sad but then she calmed
herself down this is an authentic
naration bukari she calmed herself down
and said it is time for and Abu will be
back and he and she didn't want Abu tal
to come back to a house of s
sadness he wanted she wanted Abu to come
back to a house of Happiness what did
she do she put the child back into the
cot into the bed covered the blanket up
with the child's head outside of course
still dead by the way child's dead but
patting the child as if putting the
child to sleep and in Walks In Abu tal
so Abu tal says oh is he asleep yes sh
sh sh don't make noise so she he Pats
the child and pretends the child is
asleep so AB says okay okay I won't wake
up the child
now amazing and this authentic narration
then she went and she cooked food and
she put it in front of Abu tal and they
ate and they and she she was happy with
him and after they ate they went to
sleep and Abu Talha wanted to sleep with
her and guess what she actually slept
with him on that night in the morning
when they woke up for fud time aan was
given Abu tal woke up first thing he did
was go to his son he wants to wake a son
up play with this little apple of his
eye and he goes there and he finds the
child
cold Subhan Allah the child is dead then
he turns around and he looks at raesa
did you know this romea said
what said
yes but I didn't want to trouble you
because I knew you'd have a hard day and
I didn't want you to come back to a
house of
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sadness
what Subhan Allah you think about this
this is it's it's it's
insane it's
insane it's not
insanity this actually by Allah is
actually how the most sane people were
that they loved each other so much so
they were so exemplary in their
mannerism to each other that they didn't
want to even disturb the husband and his
feelings because yes eventually the
husband will find out that the child has
died but why trouble him now when the
poor man's had a very difficult day at
work why trouble him now let him eat let
him have some food let him have a little
bit of sleep and then thereafter he
would be sad time will come for his
sadness he will find out she wasn't
going to hide it but look how exemplary
this woman was I used to have a teacher
by the name of Abu yusu he was a student
of Al who had come to Melbourne
Australia to teach us many many many
years ago he used to give classes
whenever he gave classes you was from
Jordan he would say oh how I miss my
wife Sofia he would speak about his wife
praising his wife like there was no
other women in the audience at all he
would say oh how I miss my wife sopia
and he would tell us
wah he would tell us that every single
time he would walk into the
house his wife sopia would run to him
would hug him would kiss him take his
coat off him take his bags off him take
his shoes of his feet wash his feet put
the food on the table and then take the
food in her hand and then feed it feed
it to him and he says oh I miss my wife
sopia Subhan Allah may Allah forgive our
brother our our she Abu Yu he passed
away on a trip between Melbourne and
Sydney in a car accident Subhan Allah
passed away and he never got to see his
wife safia I hope Allah joins them up
again in Jah Subhan Allah truly it's
exemplary women like this that control a
man's heart when a woman is so exemplary
when a woman is a princess she will
build a prince if she can't marry one
she will build the prince in her home
and truly my brothers and sisters truly
if she doesn't build a prince in her
husband then she will build a prince in
her children because such are the
exemplary women by Allah such are the
exemplary women of
Islam take the example my friends of a
Woman by the name
of uh what's her name again the the
sister of a what was her name
asak was a woman who prepared her son
for battle she was a woman who was
tough ready she wanted to prepare her
child for battle who was her son
Abdullah Bin
zuir masallah prepared him for battle
the only one to do ta when Makkah was
being pelted with stones in the pillage
of mekah in the time of of yazid was who
was IB Zu he was the one who was walking
around he was the one who was doing ta
and he made his her son into this
exemplary human being this fighter in
the cause of Allah and by Allah this man
Abdullah Zub came back to to her to his
mother and said oh my mother do you see
this pillage of makah going on what do
you order me to do
and the mother of course replied oh my
son death is better than this living and
she ordered her her her son to go out
and fight until he passed away because
she would rather Muslims live in Isa and
honor upon
honor than to live a life of disgrace
and she would rather sacrifice her son
for this cause rather than bring
disgrace upon upon Makkah and upon the
Muslims in Makkah my brothers my sisters
I can give you so many examples I'm just
getting started I've got
literally literally 50 examples
here by Allah the women when they're
exemplary they truly are exemplary the
mother of bukari the mother of bukari
bukari may Allah have mercy upon Him
became blind at the age of
12 and regained his sight at the age of
16 bukari said my mother used to make so
much Dua for me when I when I
lost once and this is bukari writing in
the man of his in in the story of his
mom he wrote that at the age of 16 my
mom made so much Dua for me for the last
four years since I lost my eyesight that
she saw a dream where ibraim came to her
dream and said Allah has returned ibraim
Alam the prophet came to her in her
dream and said Allah has returned the
eyesight of your son because of your Dua
for him Al bukari says I memorize more
than a million Hadith with its chains
right I memorize more than a million
Hadith with its chains 500,000 of them I
memorized when I was
blind which was when he was blind what
the how did he memorize when he was
blind when he couldn't read you see his
mother used to patiently sit and read to
him she read and read and read and read
and read until bukari memorized it
Subhan Allah amazing isn't it it's when
the mother when the mother does this to
the child every one of you have a chance
to raise bukari in your home every one
of you can every one of you loves your
children don't you you love your
children every time summer comes you buy
them nice clothes every time winter
comes you buy them even better clothes
then summer comes comes again then you
buy them different wardrobe again then
comes winter then again you buy them new
clothes you give them every comfort you
give them every care but unfortunately
brothers and
sisters the true care that we fail to
give them is to treat is to is to raise
them to be exemplary human beings for
the and that is exactly what I hope that
you will all be inspired from the
stories of these great women to do with
your own
children because truly don't you see how
when bukari recites and we say when we
say narrated by bukari we say may Allah
may Allah have mercy on him are we not
actually giving the reward back to his
mom as well of course because it's the
mom who made him memorize it so every
time you actually benefiting from B
bukari guess what it's the mom who's
getting the reward as well you see the
prophet s you see Allah subana tells us
in the
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Quran
this is in what does Allah say verily we
are the ones who have created life and
death and we are the ones who will write
down what people have done and the
effect of their deeds so if I'm giving
this knowledge to you then inshallah
this is going to be if if I do do it
with with sincerity this is in my deeds
and if you act upon the knowledge this
is for my Deeds as well because that is
from the actions of my
but did you realize this point that my
beloved father my esteemed father may
Allah enter me and him in Jenna hand in
hand my esteemed father is now getting
the same reward whilst he's asleep
what's the time yes whilst he's asleep
in
Australia has a difficult day had his
nice food inshallah had a nice meal and
now he's asleep and he's getting the
same reward whilst his son is doing that
you know why because I am from the
effect of his deeds I Abbas said the
sons of a man the children children of a
person of a man and a woman the children
are from the effect of their deeds so
your children if they're good then then
then what they do will be in your Deeds
as well and if they do
bad then that will be from the effect of
your Deeds as well so be wary of what
you teach your children and rejoice if
you taught them something great create
them into great leaders if you cannot be
a ruler well then you you have a
potential of building a ruler
who can have tremendous effect on this
world and you whilst you are in the
comfort of your home can be the
recipient of all that reward that your
son is doing and all the Magnificent
thing that he is earning so build
righteous children be that woman That
Rocks the Cradle and as a result by
default and defacto rules the
world be that person my brothers and
sisters my sisters in Islam be that
woman the one who can truly by Allah
truly change the world through her
effect on her children children truly
Change the World by her effect on her
children because by Allah you can truly
truly do so much of service to Islam if
you were to raise the Next Generation to
be exemplary human beings take the
example of the mother of
Salah mother of Salah used to lash her
son lash
him at the age of 6 years old at the age
of six he used to send
Salah to where to where the knights
would train the Muslim Knights would be
training he would say go my son wake up
in the morning go and clean their
Stables go and prepare their swords
where they're fighting and they're
training watch them train and he would
not she would not allow him to come back
home until the Nightfall watching them
how they fought watching them what they
did at the age of six did Salah conquer
Jerusalem except by the training of a
mother like this and she was a Kurdish
woman she was a Kurdish woman and that's
why the scholars used to say the son of
the
Kur the son of the Kurdish woman
conquered for us
Jerusalem which is why our brothers and
sisters mallah now are still there in in
Islam's thirdd holiest place mallah
allahar has it not happened because of
dedication of mothers like this Subhan
Allah because of this IM Malik may Allah
have mercy upon him said by Allah the
greatest reason for me being where I am
today is my mother my mother would wake
me up after fuder my mother would wake
me up before fuder make me give me a
shower put my turban on in my head and
at fud time send me off to the to the
Salah and say go and study and come back
at nightfall and I would come back at
nightfall she would take my clothes off
my body she would ask me what I learned
that day then she would prepare food for
me and I would eat and then she would
stay awake until I fell
asleep this is the mother of Imam
Malik my brothers and my sisters my
beloved mothers in the audience what do
you want to achieve with your
children before that can I ask you a
question what do you want to achieve
with your life what is it that you want
to
be why do you just want to be the wife
of this man in the audience why not be
the the wife of this man in the audience
but also something exceptional for this
um the Builder of a Nation Builder the
raiser of a Nation
Builder raise your kids to be Nation
Builders umah builders in your home
raise your husbands to be people that
truly help the
umah for goodness sakes don't cook for
him if he doesn't listen to
you use your
charms women have ways right my wife has
ways over me which I don't even realize
until it
works okay use your charms use your
tactics use your energies use your
strength use your Focus use your
dedication use your passion use your
emotion use your heart use your mind
build your families build your children
build your husbands build the community
help the umah and become like these
exemplary women
were he he said
he he said I had 326 teachers of them 86
were
women 86 were women IB ha said I had
1,300 teachers who narrated who are
narrated Hadith from
1,300 teachers who are narrated Hadith
from off them
387 were
women where are the scholars of the
women
today where are the scholars of the
women today why do we resign why do you
resign yourself to be less than what you
can be why would you stop yourself to be
less than what you can be in medical
school when I was in medical school as a
as a medical student before at least 60
to 65% of the of the people studying
medicine were now the point is it's
generally true is it not so have a look
the number of people actually in in in
these sort of science is actually women
outnumber men especially in Australia I
don't know whether that's the case here
in Malaysia or not but especially in
Australia they do outnumber they do
outnumber the number of of uh of
students in a class of boys and girls
that actually are at the top more women
than men more boys than more sisters
more females than males are actually at
the top right if this is the case in
secular stuff and in secular studies why
can you not also excel in Islamic
Studies why is it that the ones that
actually spreading Islam around the
world are males what ever happened to
females where are the Muslim Muslim
female Scholars where are
they become a female Muslim scholar I
will send my daughters to
you become a female Muslim scholar and I
will listen to your talks too and you
can put your finger in your mouth so it
doesn't sound nice okay like Aisha used
to do she used to give talks to
thousands of men who would come to
listen Hadith from her and should put a
finger in her mouth like that why
because she had a very pretty voice and
she didn't want the other men to feel
fitna from her but that didn't didn't
prevent her from actually talking that
didn't prevent her from spreading the
knowledge spread the knowledge right
become true exemplary women that
mashallah you're all becoming in your
professional lives become that in your
religious life as well inshallah when
you do that you will become like the
examples of these of these men and women
that we have seen
inshallah right let me end let me end my
brothers and my sisters in Islam by
reminding you
all that the women who truly Excel women
who are exemplary should never ever feel
that they are anything less than men
Marilyn
Monro
Marilyn
Monroe
said she said what she
said okay anything she says is nice
right
so she said she said it is imbecilic of
women it is imbecilic I'm I'm surprised
she even got that word it's imbecilic of
women to aim to be
equal to
men they should aim
better right of all the things she said
I think this made sense to me okay I
tell this to my daughters but I don't
say it's Marilyn Monroe because they
don't need to know okay yeah because
ultimately women who just want to be
equal to
men are just aiming too
low women who want to be better than men
then that is the women that we want and
these were the exemplary women of the
mothers of the Believers and these
people who completed the IM they weren't
happy with simply being how their
husbands were no or being like any other
person no they said I'm going to beat
that man I'm going to be better than him
I'm going to be more knowledge than
knowledgeable than him I'm going to
build a better home than him I'm going
to raise a scholar in my home that is
better than him and I'm going to build a
leader in my home a Salah in my home
that is going to be better than this
leader right that's how
says and you have that ability you don't
have to be that yourself you can achieve
it through your children and by Allah
you can achieve it whilst you are
happy uh lying in on your bed asleep by
Allah and your child is Conquering the
Earth with his knowledge and his wisdom
and his greatness and and you are the
recipient of all that reward whilst you
are lying in the belly of the Grave
alhamdulillah brothers and sisters I
hope that inshallah you all benefit from
this and then you take this example and
then you change your lives and you
become truly the pearls that Allah
subhana describes examplary women to
be any questions yes there
is my name is
sh I have to thank you for such an
inspiring speech I truly Inspire it I
one of those women mention I have a very
uh short question
um it's about of the stories of the
Prophet
wives which you Tau earlier I believe
that this thing is focused more on the
prophet PE upon him and their
relationships with him as well for
example she is she is known to be a
prophet a greatest spiritual emotional
and material supporter but she's also
known to be renowned business woman who
employed the young Prophet at that time
and then got married to him so my
question is after their marriage you can
see that the details were scar except
for the children she had and the
reaction that she had to the prophet's
Revelation so my question is I would
like to know how
did actually manage to become a
successful business woman given the fact
that during the time um many newborn
girl were actually buried alive so the
fact that actually become successful
business woman how she actually do about
excellent alhamd sister articulate
articulated her question quite
eloquently alhamdulillah um and uh the
question is that uh and the point that
that she made is very very pertinent is
that you can be a a fantastic U you know
believer of Allah and complete your IM
while still being uh a exceptional
business woman as well uh and the
exceptional and and the exception the
her exceptional business expertise was
shown by the fact that she used to
choose the best of people to work with
her uh and of course that's why she
actually chose
to actually work for her as well uh and
to manage her Affairs as well and that
that actually shows a level of business
expertise when you can choose the best
people to work for you and that you can
attract the best of people to to to do
business for you uhad had a very helpful
family uh her uncle uh who was a who was
a well-known academic at that time um um
I've forgotten his name now if someone
can remind me of the name of the uncle
of rasool of Khadijah
no no not
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um that's
it uh was a man who was an exceptional
who was an exceptional academic as well
as a very uh different sort of person
when it came to women and helping
Khadijah and her sisters Excel uh and
was the one that actually Khadijah would
rely on would would ask for support and
advice and it was really the support of
a man like what fail that allowed khad
to actually excel in her business and
and to do what she did um so it was who
was also the same man that Khadijah took
to and asked Allah uh let me tell ask
what your what your cousin what your
nephew has just seen uh and told about
jiel coming down and this man this angel
came down and said that and then said
this is namus this is the same angel
that came to Mam and then he said I
wish I I wish I was a a young camel of
meaning young body uh when you people
will throw you out uh and so said is my
people going to throw me out yes your
people will throw you out IB said this
this narration from is an evidence that
was a was a Believer uh and he was one
of the first to believe in and
so is in J inshah so was one of those
guys who have had a very uh good
upbringing upon khad which was what
which was what was responsible for
Khadijah being able to do what she did
and many of the noble women wasn't just
Khadijah many of the noble women at that
tribe also used to uh at that time also
used to deal with inara as well in
business and trade khad was not the
exception she was just uh a number of
women she was part of a number of of
women that actually used to do business
at that time so yes there were some
group of women that were also so killed
you're right but they were not it wasn't
the norm the norm wasn't that they would
kill the baby girls it was really
certain tribes that would excel in that
sort of thing it was a bedu in Arabs for
example that used to excel in killing it
wasn't the norm that all all women would
be killed rather it was from certain
tribes of lower lower levels of society
that would then excel in killing um
their their female children Allah Knows
Best Rest were very different
alhamdulillah