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you how you been alhamdulillah very well
very well you are coming in from
Wisconsin yes making the murder have you
heard of uh the uh documentary
documentary everybody's talking about
yeah is he your neighbor no he's not
he's about an hour or so away so you
know if he's my neighbor then you know
the same as you guys are as well okay so
he's quite out there uh how you been
what's new since the last time we've uh
met up well there's a lot of stuff going
on I mean we're in in an election cycle
so that's obviously new one going on and
people are getting pounded with that
daily um a lot of stuff going on across
matter of fact in Indiana just hearing
about the the three Muslim brothers who
were recently killed out there may Allah
have mercy on them um so a lot of
different things going on different hate
crimes a lot of things on that
perspective but also a lot of good
things um as well you know with Canada
welcoming with open arms different you
know refugees and really set an example
of love for people so you know alhamd
all praise do to Allah a lot of things
are you know are happening it just
depends on what we choose to focus on
now that was uh in Fort Wayne Indiana
that was uh the three young men who got
killed execution style was that what
correct yes yeah has any any uh new
developments on that catch anybody I
haven't really seen I mean it hasn't
been well publicized throughout the
media so I haven't seen U much updates
regarding it yeah and we're starting to
see I mean this is this is something
that's on the rise obviously do you
think have they seen that this is has
anything to do with ha being a hate
crime would you um are they going in
that direction well it's funny because
with with my experiences um America has
a LoveHate relationship with what they
want to consider a hate crime just like
what they would like to consider um
terrorism you know we know that there's
a a serious double standard so obviously
you know to to those of us who can
evaluate a situation objectively it
looks like it's obviously you know hate
crime likely you know due to their
ethnicity and or their religion of being
Muslims you know especially with the
climate that's being pushed today sadly
with the a lot of trump supporters if
you will and a lot of the overt bigotry
and the days from the 50s and 60s kind
of being played out in the media I want
to show you a clip I want to ask you and
get your feedback on this uh we we're
going to watch this clip real quick what
am I anymore if I'm not this and I was
literally sitting there and like
thinking about killing myself in that
exact second I'm like I'm nothing I'm
like what do I do anymore and no one
gives a anybody me anymore without this
and um now my question is what is your
take on this when you have somebody
who is probably the most popular woman
in the world you know around the Rous
right yeah yes now she's looking to
achieve great success she's achieved it
money she's achieved it Fame stardom why
would someone uh you you take a turn in
life you have an obstacle in your path
you you you you suffer some kind of
Calamity and whatnot but what would you
know you've achieved what millions are
looking up to you they they'd love to
achieve you've achieved that why would
someone contemplate suicide
it's funny you mentioned that um and
there could be a number of different
reasons but it all kind of boils down to
this feeling of hopelessness and I
remember when I was a juvenile I was a
teenager had thought about suicide
several different times and one of the
things is this emptiness inside for this
bigger purpose so even though you
mentioned uh money and fame and many of
these things that people look to achieve
these are all external things what if
that inner peace doesn't exist with you
then you're still still missing
something and we know that that that's
the biggest piece of the puzzle to your
life's happiness is having that inner
peace where you actually generate that
peace you generate that love you
generate based upon the knowledge that
something is bigger and you're moving in
that direction of course we found that
with
Islam that's what I I I want to focus on
for a little bit we're going to take a
break and then we're going to go off
from here purpose you know when somebody
has purpose the difference you know the
whole world can be coming down on them
and you know the the might for a moment
be some of that hopelessness but right
they're right back in it you know and
suicide doesn't even cross their mind
and and why why is such of of a dram
dramatic difference here we have a lot
to talk about we're going to be talking
more about this clip of Ronda Rousey
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youum back here on the dean show and we
just saw that clip with what would
probably be with no exaggerating
probably one of the most popular women I
don't know if she still is but she was
definitely Rhonda Rousey is that correct
right top of her career she was in
movies was I think fast and furious and
and then she was of end not just the
Talk of the Town but talk of uh the
world absolutely maybe not in the Muslim
world but uh
she's in Dubai who knows oh she was okay
so okay so all over the world but now
you have someone who's achieved that and
people look up to him people the reason
you know a lot of times okay we we'll
bring up a certain celebrity a certain
star because people shoot to be like
them right and now when we see someone
who's achieved the greatest height of
stardom of Fame of you know money
Prestige this person at the end is is
thinking SU side right well similar to
to Robin Williams who took his life last
year I mean made dozens or possibly
hundreds of movies was famous for
decades had all the money all these
things that people look towards but
sadly they're looking towards something
that's external you know I I remember
first coming across um Islam and not
wanting to have any parts of it you know
I saw it from the outside I had a p
perspective of it but I was raised
Christian so I wasn't really interested
in it but the second time I came across
I was facing challenges in my life and
my religion at the time being Christian
wasn't satisfying that so I had that
hopelessness but I was open to something
and to look at people and stories that
we have even Christians would have in
their Bible we have the story of Yousef
or Prophet Joseph who was locked away
you know for false allegation but he was
still locked up and still had an inner
peace or you had the story of Jonah or
you know a if you will who was in the
belly of a fish you know hopeless but
still praying out to us Lord are these
people who went through drastic
situations and circumstances many times
we don't recognize that it's these
circumstances and challenges that shape
us when we look at metal and what metal
Smiths and metal lgers have to go
through to really create iron or
different swords or different things
that are strong they have to go through
the fire and really have to to be
cleaned and fill it in order to come out
the other side so when looking at
rondaos having all this stuff it's just
like having many other celebrities
whether they look to feel their their
void their Gap with alcohol or different
drugs or different addictions you know
some people have that hopelessness and
look at you know might as well end it
all only because they have this fall
false conception thinking that well I'm
just going to go to dirt or I'll just go
to sleep as though there's nothing after
this life and and that feeling really
gets pushed a lot by what we see in
front of us every day when people say
are you successful or successful
generally they're talking about
financial success so they're looking at
the things and the materials that they
can buy you as opposed to are you
successful with your are you successful
with your your mental stability are you
Su successful in understanding your
purpose you know and the the bigger
picture of thing because we're all going
to die we're all going to die we all
have questions about what's going to
happen after this life but having the
proper answers to those questions is
what separates those who know obviously
and those who don't know for those who
have hope and those who are hopeless
isn't that what should be the
fundamental question for every human
being where did I come from why am I
here where am I going when I die I
remember having in second grade I asked
my teacher uh Mr warley at the time cuz
she was doing a class and I was raised
in Christian school and I remember just
sitting there you know what was before
this you know before my parents gave
birth to me you know how was the
universe it was obviously still going on
and I'm like seven years old at the time
and asked that question like why am I
here what's what's the purpose what am I
supposed to do because there was a time
I wasn't here and of course what's
coming so those three questions I
remember beginning asking myself in
second grade of course I didn't get the
answer until I was a teenager and
discovered Islam but without those
there's an emptiness it's like a puzzle
and this is that heart of the puzzle and
at least that's how I feel you know and
many people that I know that have
accepted Islam or that come to it
understand the peace the inner peace
that comes with it because no matter all
of the other things they're just things
they're things that stimulate your you
visually or your senses but what is it
that it does for your heart you know
that's that's a major question that many
celebrities can't answer would you say
you're only as strong as what you
actually you you live for you live for
this human being let's say you're in a
relationship and then that relationship
comes to an end question people end up
wanting to kill themselves there's all
hope is lost you have a certain position
you have a certain amount of money
people jumping off buildings because
they've lost let's say they had a
billion they lost a few uh million of
that let's say 50% of they still got
another 500 million and these are true
stories people I mean um jumping off
buildings because of this well recently
it's funny because I think it was maybe
three four days ago um when an executive
from Oklahoma uh an oil exec who was big
for Shell Oil and really bringing Shell
Oil about was with the Oklahoma City
Thunder he was instrumental in that own
maybe 20% of the team he just recently
killed himself he was um charged by the
Department of Justice with fraud okay
and doing leases oil leases and stuff
like that in Oklahoma took his car or
SUV ran it right into a wall and killed
himself the day after he was actually
charged you know this feeling of
hopelessness or being exposed as a fraud
not knowing that there's something after
this life and again you know I'm
grateful to be able to have found that
within Islam that answers all of these
questions and gives you something to
look forward to and much more so
something to work towards in this life
to prepare for the one to come and the
statistics don't lie if you look at the
countries where people have gone the
furthest away from belief in the Creator
these are places they have the most
suicide rates right and this tells you
something I mean this tells you when a
human being is not I mean obviously
living what you've been created to live
for there's always going to be that void
indeed it's it's funny because PBS just
recently did I don't remember the name
of the show there was a study that
talked about people that believe in God
or higher power not only have more
peaceful lives in and of themselves but
they live more purposeful lives so they
give more in charity no matter how much
they earn it's usually those who earn
little that give more because they give
a larger percentage but because they're
looking towards something no matter what
the religion but knowing that there's a
God and something bigger allows them to
live better and have more hope and I
remember a quote one of my mentors told
me said you know when there's no faith
in the future then there's no hope in
the present we're going to go ahead and
continue on this topic
about purpose we were talking about we
took off Ronda Rousey an example of
someone who's made it to the top right
and we want to give her hope some hope
indeed hopefully because you never know
she might be actually tuning in to the
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Alum welcome back to the dean show and
we kind of went in this direction after
watching the clip of Ronda Rousey who
was at the Pinnacle of her career she
suffered a defeat probably never saw
that coming right eagle takes over and
then you kind of just end up uh thinking
your Unstoppable self-sufficient you
forget about you chase all these
material things and you forget about
your true purpose reflecting about
purpose you think you're unstoppable
then the person gets brought down to
reality it's they get humbled indeed and
some people change for the better other
people just uh they don't learn a lesson
what do you what are your thoughts I
guess is kind of part of the human
psychology
um sometimes we get built up so much
that we create an alter ego when you
look at the story of of Fon or Pharaoh
in Egypt calling himself a God knowing
obviously that he wasn't but building
himself up and having those people to
around you that don't remind you of the
good or remind you of your ultimate
demise whether it be Michael Jordan
being the greatest basketball player of
all time or you have a young Mike Tyson
or you have Muhammad Ali all of them
have their time and all of us are weak
and we all know we're going to die but
to have that reminder many of us we we
don't like to think about death or we
might not have our Wills done and you
know we are optimistic when it comes to
things we should be really serious about
and concerned about and realistic about
so it's part of human psychology to kind
of stay away from those negative
emotions but when you're thrust in it
again some people turn alcohol or drugs
or other addictions or some you know
just feel hopeless and want to end it
all because they don't have something to
pull and to pray to or to pull and get
closer to to give them some type of
perspective sometimes these are the best
times when someone's at a humble State
they realize that they aren't
Unstoppable that um they are more
important things to life um they suffer
a loss like this in their lives they
might be thinking so what do you like to
tell someone if you had an opportunity
to talk to someone like Ronda Rousey you
know and to to really get them to to
reflect more not about Fame Celebrity
Status money material things but to
really uh motivate someone to think
about purpose why are you here in this
life and you know definitely when you
die you're going somewhere after you
leave indeed well I really look at from
two perspectives one is to learn a lot
from children because there was a time
when you Tred to learn how to walk you
wobbled you fell down you cried you got
back up you kept on going so being
persistent and failing is a part of
learning you know when we talk about
learning or playing with a new computer
program is really just learning the new
computer program but we learn about our
playing and getting involved with it and
just like all fighters know you know
you're not you're going to get hit and
it's moving forward I mean it's an old
Chinese proverb that says you know fall
down seven times get up eight so we know
these things and we know to be
consistent but know that everybody who
was at the
top no they didn't just stay at the top
they all came down you know this is
normal human history can be summed up in
in two words you know struggle and
progress so we have to have that in our
lives so we must honor that struggle
whether we're honoring it growing up as
little children whether we're honoring
it in a career or in a relationship in
marriage or in parenting or whatever we
must honor that struggle and those
challenges because it helps us get
better for example um less than three
days ago I was getting off a plane and
can you imagine being on a plane with a
brand new pilot that hits turbulence and
loses his mind that doesn't have some
experience in turbulence or do you want
to be with the pilot that has been
through turbulence before knows how to
bring it down you know certain feet to a
clear area or how to avoid a storm or
how to work its way through a storm you
know so when something happens you know
what to do you have some type of
experience and that's how we're built as
humans we come in here knowing nothing
already pre programmed but we need to
keep it going and honor that struggle
the second thing is obviously asking
those questions and reflecting on it you
know I always tell people listen no
matter what your belief system is if you
have a belief system you know give
yourself the asset test study study the
books study all books study all
religions study whatnot study and get
into its core because when you get to
the core if you're seeking truth you
know realistically and truthfully then I
believe your your mind and your heart
will be open up to the truth but always
be open to it I mean I'm a Muslim so I'm
going to fight the acid test I have I
have the Quran I know it's a perfect
book know if there's one error in it I
would have to put it down and disbelieve
in it even though I believed in the book
before they had numerous errors in it
but once it was open my eyes were open
to it my heart was open to it then I was
led to Islam you came from a Christian
background correct yes yes I was
Christian Christian School I know the
Bible thoroughly I know Jesus never said
I'm God he never said I'm the Son of God
he never said worship me none of this he
said you know son of man my father your
father my lord your lord you know and I
questioned this and then I looked at
Paul who never met him who used to kill
people that follow what he taught you
know um when he was Saul of Tarsus he
never met him then he had a vision all
of a sudden he wrote 80% of the New
Testament and that hit me because I'm
like this person never met him you know
wrote this and he actually had fallouts
with the true actual Disciples of Jesus
so I'm you know I'm picturing things and
I suggest people picture things like a
movie in your mind when you're reading
something or when you're studying
picture the events yeah had a technology
different man cameras and computers and
all of that but the interactions were
the same the relationships were the same
the needs of humans two and 3 thousand
years ago were the same that they are
today you know you want love and and to
have Intimate Relationships you want to
procreate you want to communicate all of
these things are the same so the
difference is technology but if you take
the technology out and you're on a a
study for truth you know it's my opinion
that you will come to the truth if
you're honest with yourself if you're
open to all of the possibilities and
then use your mind to differentiate
what's true and what's not you know I
had to do that I disowned all organized
religion I believe there was a God I
studied ancient African commit religions
I studied uh Judaism of course
Christianity Hindu Buddhism I studed all
of this stuff and then when it came to
the short Sur of Quran you know very
short Sur of then I said know I believe
this this is simple it's to the point is
deep I understand this that was the same
short chapter of Quran that my father
had read in Translation he said you know
I believe in this by looking at a book
with by Ahmed
um so if you're on a genuine search and
you're truthful with yourself believe
you will ultimately be led to Islam and
one of the things some people try to do
is try to delay studying the Quran or
study Islam because they say you know
I'll have an excuse if I know nothing of
it but doing that is just trying to fool
yourself you want inner peace you want
to know who your creator is you don't
need an inter intermediary between you
two or an intercessor between you you
know go to the one who created you put
you in your womb and took put you in
your mother's womb took care of you
there brought you out here into this
life gave you a healthy mind and body to
to work with in order to move to the
next transition after this life once
these answers are met just by speaking
on my own you get a peace that nothing
can come in between because you know
we're going to die that reminder is
reminder to do what you can now with
what you have now because YOLO is a joke
you don't only live once no you only die
once so it's Yodo all right so you know
that's what I would definitely suggest
and that's what I suggest to parents
that's what I suggest to different
teachers and people that work with
children in particular because they're
Geniuses and many times we kind of put
them in a small box and we want them to
live with full engagement and with joy
we got 30 seconds left tell us uh where
people can get a hold of you you also
run a parenting yes I'm a parenting
coach at outstanding Muslim parents.com
uh so which outstanding Muslim
parents.com
you could you know find me we do
different workshops different speaking
engagements we train and teach parents
really how to be outstanding because we
believe average is nothing but the top
of the bottom or the bottom of the top
you know so we so for example I do have
you know some books I I'll share with
your audience uh Muslims Parenting on
Purpose that we um rip for parents just
to really raise their children up in
understanding our Islamic culture um we
also do do different programs a two DVD
program or online program called
outstanding parenting fundamentals
one-onone Workshop in a CD program and a
six we at home study course as well so
you know come see me at outstanding
wis.com or invite me to your community
it definitely be um a pleasure to speak
with him insh thank you very
much peace be with you in the mercy of
Allah and thank you for tuning into the
dean show purpose why you've been
created where did you come from why are
you here and where are you going with
when you die very fundamental questions
which we get sidetracked we get
sidetracked with money with Fame with
family with a thousand and one different
purposes but we forget to reflect on
what is the true purpose of life there
has to be a Creator the one who designed
all of this that's just logic it makes
sense and who best to tell us and why
we've been created so it is befits you
behooves you to ask within yourself why
have I been created and then seek out
the truth and if you seek then you shall
find but if you're seeking to find that
happiness and money and fame and power
it's never going to happen and then at
the end you're going to end up losing
hope and you can see an example from our
sister in humanity the road that someone
takes but there's always hope if she's
tuning in now is the time to make a
change for the better and hopefully God
willing it could be made clear as it has
been for many who have sought to know
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