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Facebook Twitter tweeting away and you
know as Muslims those who have submitted
to the will of God we're called to be
the best human beings possible to be in
a constant state of self-development now
with all the social media Madness
how are we supposed to be conducting
ourselves out there you see a lot of bad
things on the internet and we need to
filter out some of these things we're
having some bad interactions we might
not say it in person when we see someone
but now we're being many people what
they call trolls saying bad things
criticizing people in the wrong way and
you have some brothers also posting
nudity scandalous stuff crazy so we be
talking about all this and more so we
can protect ourselves and we can be
right with Allah with our creator we'll
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special guest shik omaran how are you
she alhamdulillah good to see you
alhamdulillah alhamdulillah
alhamdulillah it's uh you know
alhamdulillah so many great things to be
grateful for aren't there I mean we we
we when you meet a
Muslim he could be having the worst day
but he always say alhamdulillah
alhamdulillah absolutely how's your day
going alhamdulillah alhamdulillah and
and why is this before we get into our
main top why is this why is this you
don't you don't I mean it's like uh you
know people usually what I'll do is
people say how you doing I say thank God
good thank God thank God but to the
average person you know or we'll
translate you know we'll say God willing
we'll say thank God but this is we you
don't find people who are more conscious
of God than those who submit to the will
of God Muslims you know why is why do we
have this well there's always something
to be grateful for right just the
ability to say alhamdulillah to say
thank thanks to God is a blessing for
which you should thank God so there's
always a reason to say alhamdulillah now
you said something before you said just
for Allah giving you the ability to say
alhamdulillah and if you die on that you
thankful absolutely you know one of one
of the the scholars of Islam he said
that if Allah lets you die saying
alhamdulillah then you still owe Allah
alhamdulillah for the alhamdulillah you
owe him a thanks for letting you thank
him so see I'm benefiting from you I've
heard this I've heard you say this
before mashallah uh so tell us now you
know we talked about the the uh
madnesses out there you know in the
beginning you know the social media you
see it can be used for a lot of good
Absolut but you have a lot of things out
there that are bad and it affects you
know what your eyes see a lot of times
it comes in as a poison and affects the
heart and a lot of times Muslims they
they fall into sending out bad things
getting on a viral train and can you
actually be incurring sin uh bad Deeds
by posting something let's say a woman
who's who's scantly dressed you know
who's um you know you're not protecting
her H her but she's she's not protecting
herself and you're posting something
that is showing her just uh naked and
you're passing it along or you're saying
something foul you're P out there you
see all of this stuff don't you there's
a lot of issues um a few things number
one what you used to be able to just as
recently as 20 years ago which you
needed a studio to do now you can do
with a laptop right yeah um so people
can put videos out there people can put
certain pictures out there and things of
that sort and you have instant access to
the world uh people that you might never
meet in your life and so there are
people that are just addicted I think
the first thing to talk about honestly
with social media before we even get
into all that I think the most neglected
aspect of social media is that it
pollutes your mind and it teaches you
impatience it teaches you to waste time
right and and wasting time as you know
one of the great Scholars IM
may Allah have mercy upon him he said uh
wasting time is worse than death because
death disconnects you from the world
whereas wasting time disconnects you
from Allah so time is a great blessing
and you know a lot of times you know uh
I know Mah you know how to do you're big
on jiujitsu and stuff like that you know
go out there you work out you exercise
you play basketball you play football
when we were growing up in our
generation it was that it was work out
exercise play basketball you know do
what you got to do I don't know if
anyone took it as far as you did but the
point is is that living life okay
actually living life and they have the
saying online off life and I fully
believe in that that people are just
addicted to their devices you know
you'll you'll have a 13-year-old kid
whose parents will tell him go outside
and ride your bike and he'll say it's
hot outside we would have never said
that growing up it's hot outside right
you go out there and you play okay so
the point is is that people are addicted
to these devices and also one of the
things the prophet peace be upon him
said he
said haste is from the devil hastiness
and Rush is from the devil and we're
being taught to be impatient your
internet you know you remember dialup
internet you know I still have my AOL
email address and people make fun of me
all the time my first email address dial
up internet it takes time now people are
impatient that the page is loading too
slow this isn't coming up this isn't
coming up so people have this impatience
and they've got to comment on it on
something really fast they've got to
share something really fast they've got
to put their opinion on something really
fast people are are you know there's so
many processes going on that you don't
have time to to really think things
through anymore so you're acting without
thinking and you're living without
really living and so obviously that
opens the gateway to sin and it opens
the gateway to Shan you know the devil
to advertise certain things to you to
Market certain things to you so you'll
see a lot of times what what these what
will happen is they'll say you know
guess what she wore to The emys Click
guess what this person wore click right
guess what she said about what she wore
click
it's just it's just sucking you in more
and more and more and more and more so
the first thing we need to recognize
again is the waste of time and the
impatience that it teaches us the
hastiness that it teaches us and how
we're not allowed to really we don't
really get a chance to process things
and think about what we're doing anymore
uh before we do them and then obviously
the lack of modesty uh the prophet peace
be upon him if you look at all of the
signs of the day of judgment the vast
majority of them are lack of modesty is
The Disappearance of modesty and what is
you know online you know you post things
you know I ask people all the time you
know people ask me is it is it
permissible to put this picture online
and I tell them if you would be
comfortable posing in front of a person
in real life in the same pose that you
put up online which conveys you know
there was there was a something on TED
Talks that I couldn't I really can't
spread because there are certain images
but this lady was talking about what
images really convey and how a lot of
you know the the posing of of of of
lingerie models and women and things of
that sort in in these uh in these shoots
these photo shoots is I'm available
there are multiples of me right I'm all
yours so if you would have that if you'd
be willing to pose in front of a person
in real life with that same pose then by
all means go ahead and put it up right
and at the same time we don't recognize
what the we we have no idea who accesses
these pictures who gets a hold of them
I've seen I've seen a person you know i'
I've walked in mistakenly into a room of
a brother one time where he had the
profile picture of a Muslim sister
blowing up and hang hanging on his wall
all right you have no clue what people
are doing with your pictures and
obviously again the lack of modesty in
regards to how you how you what you
write online so I tell people all the
time I say look if you wouldn't say it
to a person in real life then don't say
it online so I meet people for example
on you know who who draw at me on you
know trolls on Facebook and Twitter on
social media they say terrible things
then you meet them in person they're
kind polite it's like it's teaching you
split personality so if you wouldn't say
it in real life then don't say it online
as well okay so just people living
vicariously through these these these
illusionary you know mediums of social
media whatever you want to call them and
and uh it's really concerning and it
really does enhance the lack of modesty
that the prophet peace be upon him told
us about and what we say and what we
portray and what we share uh of what
others post as well we're going to go
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brother says look I didn't take the
picture of her and he says what's wrong
with sending just like sending it just
like the guy says look I'm not drinking
the alcohol so he sells it in his shop
right so have you heard these excuses AB
what do what do you respond to that you
resp respond to that so there's a big
enough problem when you see something
wrong and you don't say anything about
it so the prophet peace be upon him he
said that on the day of judgment a man
would be raised and actually the full
context of the Hadith is actually and it
fits into what we spoke about with
advice in the previous
episode let not one of you belittle
himself so the companion said how do we
belittle ourselves the prophet peace be
upon him said that you see an evil that
you should speak about but you don't say
anything and then on the day of
judgement Allah raises you and you say
uh and Allah says to you why didn't you
say anything and you say oh my Lord I
was afraid of people and Allah says
Allah was more deserving of being feared
so it's bad enough the prophet peace be
upon him said you're a mute devil a
silent devil when you see people doing
evil and you don't say anything about it
okay now what's worse than that is when
you encourage them to sin then you're
not a silent devil then you are actually
a Shan you're actually a devil so so you
invite by your sharing for example of
that photo or that video or commenting
in a positive way you know so a sister
for example might fully be covered in a
modest way but she sees another sister
that's posing in a very very
inappropriate way and you know she she
posts online you look so beautiful and
and Praises her picture basically so
you're you're praising her and you're
you're encouraging her to keep on doing
that a brother might see someone post a
LW picture as well because a lot of
times we think modesty is only for the
women it it it always blows my mind when
you have a brother that's topless on on
on Facebook and wearing shorts and stuff
like that you know taking a picture on
the beach and he's going off on a sister
for not wearing hijab it's like brother
You' got to wear a hijab too you have
modesty as well you know what happened
to that whole concept of modesty for men
as well the prophet peace be upon him
was described as being more bashful than
you know than than than the shiest
Virgin if you will right he was
extremely
bashful very shy so the point is is that
you know you're not when you're praising
other people when they do wrong and then
sharing it so that perhaps you know I
would have gone online I wouldn't have
seen that evil but because you shared it
now I see it then you are just like the
one who who committed the sin in the
first place because we believe in Islam
in residual good deeds and in residual
sins you leave behind a legacy either a
positive Legacy or a negative
Legacy the prophet peace be upon him he
said the one who guides to good is like
the one who does the good in the first
place and by by analogy the one who
guides to evil is like the one who did
evil in the first place so when you
share it and you praise it then you are
as evil as that person and as that thing
which is being portrayed by that person
so technically now you press send and
you have a scantily man or
woman now other people see it because
now you're their friend you can actually
end up incurring the bad deed as long is
that's being sent is that right
absolutely you know there's a horrific
story that that I'll share with you um
that you know obviously before
pornography became as available as it is
today when the internet when internet
pornography first came out uh there's a
Sheikh Muhammad who tells the story
online actually there was a young man
who uh got a pornography subscription
online and he told his friends you know
in order to get popular and a lot of
times we sin to be popular because it's
cool out of peer pressure right so he
told his friends look give me your email
addresses and I'll forward you uh that
pornography um you know every time I get
that sub get that next batch and he died
at the age of 19 as a Young Man tragic
death all of a sudden died in a car
accident I'm taking over baby is in a
few days we're going to go man the world
is M bab hours there's no time to play
around trist please
look watch the
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the and then the day that they prayed
janaz on him those men went home his
friends went home and they still got
that pornography in their email and they
continued to get that pornography
because he had it on auto
sent Subhan Allah I mean it's it's
amazing that's his legacy right just
Auto and they tried to contact the
website they tried to stop it they
couldn't stop it as the subscription for
was for an entire year that entire group
of people was constantly getting
pornography sent to their email from
that young man's address even though he
was dead so that's you want to you want
something positive to outlast you and
you want to invite people to good and
not to evil as opposed to right now you
finish watching this program and then
you actually send this program and let's
say a might change someone's life a
million people get to see it or even if
just your intention by sending it maybe
even they watch a minute or it changes
someone life you will get those good
deeds even better maybe someone takes
shahada mhm and they get the same reward
as you do that's deep just because they
press share that's how you get rich with
Allah absolutely but the other way
you're incurring the anger of your
creator right the displeasure look
everything can be used for good or evil
mhm the the scars they always give the
example of even prostration you could
prostrate to Allah which is the ultimate
sign of submission to God or you could
prostrate to devil which is to the
shatan the devil which is the ultimate
sign of rebellion everything can be used
for good or evil social media is a
powerful tool and alhamd it's not all
bad I mean look what what we're able to
do on social media and the people were
able to reach and the way that that
Islamic events and projects and videos
get shared alhamdulillah it's beautiful
it's amazing so we have to we have to
teach ourselves in as a Muslim Community
and as as as God conscious people to be
uh to be productive with our social
media not to not to let us not to let it
render us unproductive and even worse
sinful has it happened to you where you
have um got invited to a friend's page
or you've seen someone that you might
know from the Masid and you go and then
you somehow went on their page and then
you just like startled like I can't
believe this is being is being put on
here have you seen that how many time
when I mean I remember uh you know I go
to an event or I go to even like some of
the youth in my Masjid right when when
Facebook first came out and they were
inviting me to be their friends and I'm
accepting their friends and their
profile picture is them at a bar you
know hanging out with them like man I
really don't want to see your profile
I'd rather maintain a high opinion of
you and I'll tell you a secret honestly
personally it's not a secret anymore I
personally don't have a personal page on
Facebook anymore because I don't want to
have a news feed I don't want to see
what anyone else is doing anymore
because I it it prevented me from having
a good opinion of certain people and I
didn't want that because I don't want to
think low of my brother or sister I want
to maintain that high opinion of them I
don't want Allah to question me for
thinking I'm better than them and I
don't want to feel like I'm better than
them so I don't want to expose myself to
their sins so if you get a private Page
by the way of omaran it's a scam
especially if they're asking for uh
money to a bank account in Nigeria or
Nepal or whatever I've had a lot of
those going on so so now if someone says
look brother I mean everybody's just
doing it I mean I mean you got 99% of
the people out there who are posting you
know these things it's all in in essence
of fun it's a laugh it's not a big deal
I'm not hurting nobody Allah says in the
Quran if you follow the majority of
people they will divert you they will
lead you astray from the path of Allah
we're always in the minority the people
successful people are always whether
it's in the worldly sense or in the
sense of of religion they're always the
few all right so it's only the strong
and the few that survive and you know we
have to consider ourselves to be
strangers that's what the prophet peace
be upon him said be in this world as if
you're a stranger there is no way that
you can possibly be a Muslim a
practicing Muslim without being socially
awkward in some way and what that
translates into in in the social media
realm in the realm of social media is
social media awkwardness as well when
other people are all talking about
something commenting on something
sharing a video things are going viral
and you take a backseat and you say wait
a minute you you know in a polite way
again I don't want anyone to become a
troll we don't encourage that because
you know and I think we should talk
about that in after the break but I mean
we don't want to encourage people to
become trolls and like be hateful when
they correct because that that leads to
a greater evil but at the same time you
have to be that that strange person
sometimes that person who says I'm not
okay with this and this is different uh
and this is not something I'm willing to
do so it's different in a good way
because this difference is keeping us
away from the bad things that have
negative side effects but the good that
we do in pleasing our creator everything
is good and there's no negative side
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social media responsibility being resp
responsible knowing that there is no
time when your creator doesn't see you
right Allah sees us at all times he's
the all seeing and the all hearing but
now this person his Iman went a little
bit low because they've been you know
fueling it with the wrong stuff and then
he also sees a billboard that says look
there probably isn't a God so just go
ahead and enjoy life what do you say to
this
person well I mean obviously look you
know if you don't fear Allah in public
you're not going to fear Him in private
so you know being conscious of Allah is
is extremely important you know I'll
give you this example especially with
what we look at online Allah says in the
Quran Allah knows which means Allah
knows the fraud of the eyes the Betrayal
of the
eyes and that which is hidden in the
hearts abdah abas may Allah be pleased
with him he said that what that means is
that you see someone in front of you
right so you see a sister for example
that you shouldn't be staring staring at
and so you know that she sees you so you
put your head down but as soon as she
walks away and she doesn't know that
you're looking anymore you stare okay
now the way I I I I see that now is that
you know in public for example you see
this especially for the more practicing
Muslims right you see a sister you see a
brother you see something that you
shouldn't be really looking at and you
put your head down because you know
other people see you but then you go
online and that same sister that you
were lowering your gaze from in person
you're looking at her profile picture
you're going through her photo photos
it's creepy it's it's really really
strange and creepy and awkward so fear
Allah in your public life and in your
private life to fear Allah only in your
private only in your public life is
hypocrisy to not fear Allah in your
private life or in your public life is
satanic it's even worse okay so a person
should strive to fear Allah and be
conscious of God and aware of God in
their private and public uh lives uh
just in short before I go to my next
question the the I know this is a topic
on its own but the motivation that we
get I mean obviously is to please our
creator before we meet him and then the
rewards I mean of paradise you know
people get Mo I get motivated knowing
that at the end there's light at the end
of the tunnel you got Jenna's fears
forever and now I mean obviously if you
read the Quran Hellfire is mentioned
constantly along with the good news of
paradise so can you briefly just you
know touch about let me give you this
really scary Hadith that I think about
often when I when I look at social media
the prophet peace be upon him said that
a man will come on the day of judgment
with his prayer with his Zak with his
fasting with all of his acts of
worship but he cursed this person he
insulted this person he back bited this
person he hit this person so the prophet
peace be upon Him says all of those
people line up and one by one they take
all of his Good Deeds until he's left
with no good deeds this is an adult
that's prayed his entire life fasted his
entire life right everything they take
all of his Good
Deeds alone the night of power is better
than than a thousand months of worship
gone prayer gone Ramadan gone zaka gone
and he says oh Allah I've got nothing
left and then he start to put their evil
on his back as well why is that so scary
how many people you know don't realize
who they're insulting online who they're
speaking bad about online that person
might be a friend of Allah a we of Allah
and the prophet Salli wasallam said that
Allah has
said whoever hurts one of my friends
then I have waged war on him you might
be Waging War on Allah with with a silly
tweet or a Facebook comment so take that
Hadith what you know but but instead he
came with his prayer his fasting but he
tweeted at this person he commented on
this person's status with these words he
said this he did that you don't know who
you're insulting you don't know who
you're offending you don't know who
you're hurting you might see one of
those people on the day of judgment and
they come to you to take your good deeds
and you don't even know who they are
because the only thing you've ever seen
of them is a Facebook profile picture
you have to be very very careful online
and so if the tongue as the prophet
peace be upon Him taught that nothing
causes a person to fall on you know fall
flat on his face in Hellfire like his
tongue because of what he expresses and
says and does with it then imagine your
keyboard and your phone and what you
write online so really you know how how
foolish would you feel on the day of
judgment
if Facebook was the reason you went to
hell how foolish would you feel if it
was just a dumb comment that I posted
online or something I tweeted out or
something I shared how foolish would we
feel on that day what would be the level
of remorse that Allah speaks about in
the Quran of the people of Hellfire if
it was just something so silly on the
other hand how good would you feel on
the day of judgment if you were one good
deed shorts and then it was something
good that you said online something good
that you shared online a person that
again took shahada because of a DA
program you you shared online or
something good that you posted and that
that good deed is the reason for your
entrance into Paradise so good character
good is to be expressed online in person
because it it will be the deciding
factor after our theology it would be
the deciding factor uh in regards to our
destination being Hellfire or paradise
and we ask Allah to grant us Paradise a
mean so before we go let's give someone
give them something tangible now because
I think it's pretty simple I mean you
post good stuff things that help people
you invite them you know to goodness
then you're going to have the reward of
that goodness but now obviously you post
something bad but for the person that's
got their moral compass mixed up a
little bit you know give us some
guidelines how does a person know okay
this is good it'll get me the reward and
this other here is incurring you know
the bad Deeds you know I'm really glad
you asked that question because there
are
sincere brothers and sisters that are
active online and again look if you're
good-look online you know if you're
good-looking in person good-looking
behind the camera you can speak well you
know you've got you've got a certain
platform you know you've got you've got
you're in with some Channel or whatever
it may be you represent something unique
you'll have a voice I mean social media
gives a voice to people that quite
frankly shouldn't really have a voice
sometimes there are a lot of good
brothers and sisters that try to put out
a video you know try to do something
good in the form of comedy in the form
of of Art and you know demonstrating
uniqueness and and you know the
intention is to demonstrates the
identity of Islam and in the process you
know they they they do things that they
shouldn't do and unfortunately you have
the trolls on there that go on there and
start calling them CID and start calling
you know women for example that aren't
wearing hijab properly they'll call them
online and it just disgusts me ho
jabbies that's like the new thing that
I've seen online and so
there's there's a principle in our
religion evil cannot be changed with a
greater evil and so unfortunately look
you're going to have people that live in
a completely different social context
cultural context they're going to go
online and they'll see the sister for
example that just became Muslim and she
put up she made a YouTube channel she
put up videos to talk about Islam and
hijab and her hijab is not proper and
they're going to call her names and
insult her uh and you you'll find you
know a brother who's trying to do some
comedy and this comedy is not really
appropriate but he was never really that
practicing of a Muslim anyway in the
first place and people start attacking
him now there's a responsibility of both
of them there's responsibility upon them
both number one this is a sincere advice
seriously I really mean this before you
do anything that's going to represent
your religion or say anything that's
going to represent your religion that
has the that that that has the
possibility of reaching thousands of
people sometimes even millions of people
consult someone of
knowledge Allah says ask the people of
knowledge if you don't know any better
ask the people of knowledge consult take
take an Imam into confidence someone
who's more knowledgeable than you
someone who's who's more you know who
knows more about the religion than you
take them into confidence and say what
do you think about this what do you
think about that because otherwise
you're going to make a lot of mistakes
and you'll make mistakes even if you
take people of knowledge and the
confidence but the mistakes will be less
in that situation and then you're going
to invite these trolls and then in the
process your arrogance will grow because
you will say don't judge me leave me
alone and you will ignore the things
that you could have actually done better
and you will refuse to acknowledge the
mistakes that you actually made because
you don't want to give more fuel to the
trolls and so you're destroying yourself
in the process and at the same time
those trolls will also destroy
themselves in the process because they
will be putting you down and they will
be earning themselves a ticket to
Hellfire as well possibly with that evil
tongue and with that evil speech so
everyone loses in that situation so if
you want to do something good take
people of knowledge and confidence and
ask Allah for sincerity in it more than
anything else ask Allah for sincerity
and guidance and at the same time take
the good of the criticism that comes
your way acknowledge your mistakes
acknowledge your shortcomings don't
defend them just because you're you know
sometimes there's a good project overall
it's a good project but there are some
certain aspects that are concerning and
people attack the entire project because
of those aspects don't defend the entire
project despite those aspects
acknowledge that you messed up in
certain ways and you apologize for them
own up to them and at the same time try
to make your project better and keep on
going and don't be discouraged and we
ask Allah to make us all sincere callers
to his way in some capacity and allow us
to serve his religion whatever capacity
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for ourselves that's what we need we
need that fuel for the IM and that's the
knowledge thank you very much we started
with peace we end with peace peace be
thank you and there you have it as the
last and final messenger sent to mankind
of prophet mhammad peace be upon him he
said the one who invites to good you
invite to good you can never go wrong
and then you're going to have an
equivalent reward just like the one who
does it that's just simple mathematics
it's easy to comprehend do good you get
good no bad side effects you do bad you
get bad lot of bad side effects so make
sure that you're posting the right stuff
saying the right words so we can live a
good life in the pleasure of our creator
so when we die we can avoid the Hellfire
and we can have the pleasure of our
creator and we can attain the Jenna the
paradise because every messenger of God
called people to worship the Creator not
the creation and they gave the good news
that if you do good you live a good
righteous life do the things that are
pleasing to your creator you get the
paradise and the warning if you follow
your desires and you disobey God and you
just run scantly and wild you're going
to have a lot of bad consequences and
then what you can end up in the Hellfire
so let's avoid the Hellfire let's get to
the genda of the Paradise by being good
doing good and make sure that you
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