uh always my least favorite part of the
day is the part after lunch and I do
always catch people dozing off so when
you get
sleepy feel free to get up refresh wo
and come back again I've been saying
that for years I've yet to see someone
do it so if it doesn't work I'll crumple
a piece of paper and throw it at you
publicly embarrassing that work but if
you do feel sleepy just get up refresh
wo and come back you know get coffee get
tea water whatever it is you need to do
um and usually after the lunch break
I'll I'll tell a poem I'll say one of my
poems on food
so just to get things started yet and I
don't think I've said any poems before
here right great we'll do another one
tomorrow but today there was a friend of
mine we used to eat together a lot so I
wrote him this poem I said
then oh and you can stop
recording we have I just leave so I said
to him I see you coming in your girth
eat and drink is what you were your only
talk is what to eat this type of chicken
that type of meat this type of food that
type of dessert you eat until your
stomach hurts follow the Sunnah I'm sure
you've heard fill with food to about the
third but you eat the whole bird the
whole chicken your only Sunnah is finger
licking
okay there's more where that came from I
only have two religious poems and five
on chicken and
no no Biryani
yeah
um there's a there's a DVD no a CD audio
CD one of my favorites related to da
it's
by don't get me started
on that's all I have to say it's called
a message from a new Muslim or message
from a new Muslim all right you can get
a hold of that it's produced by chinar
if you can get a hold of that it's just
superb superb City it's basically uh
they what I like about it first of all
is they did a study the chef made a
study before he just made the tape he
asked a lot of spoke to a lot of reverts
you know and a lot of you know questions
questionnaires and he found out the
things that they go through when they
become
Muslim and he put them in the in the
audio it's his voice it's as if it's a
non it's a new Muslim complaining to the
Muslim Community superb and these are
actual problems that they go through
message from a new
Muslim
puru
um so you know if you can get a hold of
that listen to it and and it will help
you deal with with non-muslims better we
were talking during lunch and they were
telling us about how how some Muslims
want to say the weirdest things during
da remember one time this guy became
Muslim so they had Anar for Ramadan on
his in his honor and uh this this other
Muslim other reever wanted to sit next
to him and talk to him about the dean
and stuff so he kept telling him and
this guy just became Muslim like a few
days ago he's telling him in Islam for
some reason he just chose T to explain
to this guy this new Muslim and this is
how he worded it said in Islam when we
can't find water to clean ourselves we
clean ourselves with
dirt and that guy was I see okay what
kind of religion did I get myself to if
I can't find water I take dirt and clean
myself he doesn't understand it I mean
you know it's it's just a quick WIP with
the face and hands that's it this guy
thinks maybe you got to take dirt and
just pour it over your head so yeah so
you listen to that tape discusses things
like this so you know you discovered
that as a community
really you know this whole da thing it's
a community project and it has to do
with a lot of issues from from patience
from from wisdom and so many times you
know this this new revert might make a
mistake in Salah and the uncle might
smack him after the Salah because you
know why did you do this thing correctly
I became Muslim three days ago so our
our commun is not even really ready and
able to accept and receive these new
Muslims and the complaints you know from
I remember one time this guy took a sh
in the Mas and just look within minutes
the or all the disagreements that he
went through within minutes so the first
guy came shook his hand congratulations
becoming Muslim this guy came hugged him
once congratulations becoming Muslim
then the next guy comes hugs him three
times and then then the next guy comes
hugs him three times and he tells him
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
used to hug three times okay so then I I
was watching this poor guy the next guy
comes and he starts hugging the guy
three times and then he says three times
right the guy tells him no once already
he's going all this you know
or the thing about you know remove the
gold and the guy becomes Muslim and is
like tell him to take the gold off was
telling is how some some rich guy became
Muslim in the Philippines so he invited
everyone to his mansion and so during
the the dinner he's passing out you know
food drinks to everybody and there was
guy sitting next to the tell him about
the gold ring tell him about the gold
ring he became Muslim in the morning
this morning he became Muslim
immediately you want him to to take off
the gold Rin but you don't even do
things like that when it comes to you
now a Muslim born Muslim practicing you
tell me what you did is incorrect is
actually inar and they resist they won't
change and you want this guy to change
his life overnight you know so there's a
lot of wisdom involved with dealing with
new Muslims message from a new Muslim if
you can get your hands on that it's
excellent um during the lunch break one
brother said that one time he was
lowering his gaze and talking to who
there were two women who was lowering
his gaze and talking one of them kept
laughing probably he assumes he was
laughing at the idea that he was not
looking at him so what do you do in a
situation like that I mean basically
um okay well anyways uh what what do you
do there do you just ignore the laughter
or do you do you address it who would
ignore it hands
up who would address
it and who's just Canadian
okay all right so a lot of people are
undecided right okay um those who would
address it what would you
say
yeah funny sorry
sh you teach kids or something you a
second grade teacher or something Shar
the joke with the rest of the
class along with you okay ask the
question see if they're fall but we're
saying you said you would address it
right yes so how do you address it I
mean address directly I mean directly
yeah yes sir I know I'm kind of funny
with them but you don't have to
laugh I like that I like humor with
these things you know un like humor you
know like sometimes people tell me
things like you know well you know you
know if it's just Wasing for the
violence in Islam you know or you know
you guys have to you know your religion
commands you to kill people and I always
say you know if our religion commanded
us to kill people we wouldn't be talking
right
now I I don't do that part but I do say
that I just added last part for last so
um so good so I like that it's a joke it
could work very well you know
funny uh anyone else anyone else all
right um now yeah go
ahead do you like me to tell
you you like me to tell
you okay so that's you're going to
address it directly because the brother
had a decent hunch that she was laughing
because he's looking he's l his gaze so
then then address it look there is no
script I mean I could never imagine
myself standing in front of two people
well one of them is just giggling and
laughing her heart out at me and I'm
just not I'm just not commenting I'm
following my script there is no script
I'll stop and find out what she's doing
what you know what's the matter with you
you know in a nice way so find out what
it is there's no script here I mean I
just can't to sit there and just someone
giggling at me the whole time and I
never address it and and maybe it's not
the the the gays thing maybe I need to
find out what it is plus do you think
someone who's laugh who's who ridicules
you to the point where they're laughing
at you might become Muslim probably not
probably not so let me fix that issue so
if you think my religion is a joke
because of what I'm doing most likely
you probably won't become Muslim unless
I address that issue so address the
issue there is no script okay and
address it however you want and and you
would ask you know are you are you
whatever what you want to ask are you
laughing because I'm not looking at you
or you may ask what's funny you can you
can say
that may ask what's what's
funny okay he um where was
we
don't all right now I can easily take
all the dudes reverse them and say these
are the DS right I think there's only
one repetition in here because there's
something else about it so we already
discussed the first one second one don't
use annoying approaches I'm going to
skip the example there just a funny
story but I'm skipping it don't be
evasive is that the opposite of be
straightforward it is right so why did I
put it here again because when you're
evasive it adds another you know what I
mean but I say don't be evasive and
someone ask you a certain question about
let's say the cross and the age of and
then you don't answer that question you
move around to something else they catch
that they're not dumb they'll catch that
and they'll think oh I got him and his
religion doesn't have an answer for this
and they don't have a good explanation
that's
why so I'm putting it here because it
adds another element when when you're
not being straightforward you're being
evasive it adds this other element that
you you have a religion with a lot of
holes in it you don't want to address an
issue because you don't have a good
answer for that issue I remember one
time this was being evasive this guy
says look answer my question wait wa
I'll come to your question there's a
building in the desert he has this
analogy he loves he wants to use it even
though it's not the appropriate place
and that guy started to smirk like okay
I got him he can't answer me that's why
he's going on to something else so he
thought in his mind I destroyed this
Muslim they don't have any strong
arguments they just like us they're weak
so don't be
Evas um you
know let see yeah so by the
way like for example the the Golden Rule
you apply that in that scenario you
don't apply it in every scenario you
know I might we might discuss I might
tell you the story of this person and
then I said this and they said that they
became Muslim that's a specific scenario
it happened to work now don't think like
I said there's no formula no magic wand
so don't think I can just take this
because it worked here and apply it over
there it doesn't work like that and so U
let's look at one issue with with um
this is a true story actual question
that came to me this man uh well
actually he asked he asked a she this
question question so he
said um basically he has a non-muslim
friend who said there's nothing wrong
with fornication and things of that sort
because as long as it's done with the
consent of the participants and there's
no problem with it so the Muslim then
tried a DA technique from the prophet
s so he tells him would you and you know
this the narration when the sahabi came
he say would you accept that for your
mother he said no would you accept it
for your sister he said no know so he
tolds him would you accept it for your
mother he said sure I mean if she wants
it would you accept it for your Center I
sure if it happened to with their
consent so the guy the Muslim was just
he was dumbstruck this is a method of
the prophet sallu alaihi wasallam and it
failed how can the prophet's method fail
so who will put their hand up and tell
us why this method did not work
here yes
that accept
this or or but here the culture is
different and people that they they
accept this issues so it
doesn't excellent so the sister saying
the culture is different and if we want
to use instead of the word culture
something bigger than culture that it
would be
Italian mentality is that what you're
were saying
mentality I didn't have I didn't know
they had Italians in the
araban like forgot about
it but you got to like that
one okay so religion right the prophet
used the technique with a Muslim first
who understands understands understands
obedience to Allah understands all these
things and he was coming to get a like
an allowance from the prophet but it
worked because he had all these you know
he knew jealousy Envy all these things
he had that's why it worked here so the
person the mistake the Muslim was making
he took a method something that worked
on the used it on a Muslim he was trying
to apply it to a non-muslim the person
said yeah he doesn't know about Z being
Haram
punishment okay yeah if she's consenting
she says yeah that's why didn't work so
what I'm trying to say don't think you
can take you know a technique or formula
and apply it where it doesn't belong
it'll probably work where it does belong
but not where it doesn't belong yes I
say
even the was talking to non Muslim in
this time in the Arabic culture they
wouldn't accept also you're very right
mother and and very right and I think
you all know this sometimes you find
books to exaggerate
about was ramp and stuff you know when
the prophet
came came to get the The Pledge from the
women after the Conquering of Mecca
amongst the things the conditions was
that they do not commit Z
so she
said free woman commits
Z can you imagine in free woman didn't
commit Z and now look what's happening
to the Muslims so yeah that's very true
so so that the culture argument does
hold yeah but uh and I I use the
religion more so because you know
because now these arguments are just all
over the place and you might find people
here and there from this culture making
the same argument but mus it on a Muslim
and here now this is a person living in
this time different culture different
religion so it won't won't necessarily
be applicable just as is take it from
here copy and paste you know right so uh
that what I meant by that last Point
let's not push in technique is that it's
not really a technique it's just that an
argument that when some when you're
trying to get someone to to accept Islam
because he has the ingredients or she
has the ingredients always a Muslim
jumps in and stops you no no don't push
him do you see me pushing him you're the
one pushing no one's pushing over here
so I'm just talking to the person and
you know I don't know how it works in
Canada but in the States you really
can't push people you can't they'll tell
you you in so many ways that if they're
not interested they'll tell you in
French and they'll use sign language as
well so it's not like you can push
someone to become a Muslim force him to
wear Goofy and grow his beard and come
to the Masid you can't so it's just and
and I'm going to come back to this
there's a theory perhaps why these
people don't understand
this
um okay very good this is one of our
discussion points at lunch never
interrupt a person that's giving
dawa and you don't do this when you have
your Muslim awareness week and
everybody's going to be involved in it
even if you're not officially someone
standing behind the da table you're
still involved in Muslim Awareness Week
am I right yeah because you're inviting
people to it you're letting your
classmates know about it you're inviting
your friend you're saying everybody come
even though you're not speaking you're
not possibly giving da but you're
helping you're part of this um part of
this group in on campus so what happens
is that a lot of people are excited
everybody wants to give da everyone's
got this little fact about s in the
Quran and they want to throw it in
they've got five people in a circle
around the non-muslim he's in the middle
and then all of them are interrupting
each other and he has to follow all of
them because Allah tells us to and he's
just looking around everyone's saying
one word and he's trying to who am I
going to pay attention to or he might
feel intimidated and everyone's
interrupting and remember we said we're
not just throwing information at people
like we described a month and a half ago
that you're taking people through an
organized thought process and so in
order to do that I can't go go from here
to here if you interrupt me take take us
over there then you interrupt me again
we go over here and then I try to go to
the next stage you take us somewhere
else doesn't work like that and the
story goes there there was this event in
a Masid and I was trying to give da to
someone talking about to working my way
to the prophets the pillars and there
was this MD doctor and uh they uh this
guy basically he had some scientific
fact in the Quran about chlorophyll he
wanted to he was he was itching just to
get it out you know I thought Mah this
will this will bring him to Islam so I'm
talking about he interrupts me and I
don't know where the where the thought
is that when no matter what I'm talking
about what how does it work when you
just interrupt someone then they're
giving that you interrupt you jump in
with some some fact you know you don't
do that with anything else in life you
know anyways so this guy jumps in
talking about chlorophyll in the Quran
he was just waiting for me to breathe so
he could interrupt me while I'm catching
my breath about chlorop in the Quan now
he's talking about this the miracle of
green chlorop the guy didn't knew
looking just so white chlorop then I'm
waiting for him to breathe you mean he
takes his breath I jumped in Im so
anyways going back to our topic we're
saying that this this that then he's
waiting for me the minute I catch my
breath he jumps in with about chlorop
again how do I get rid of this guy so
until finally I saw one of my partners
cuz if the partner was there he would
fix it immediately that's why it's so
good to have a partner none of my
partners were there then I saw one of
them from the distance and all had to do
was lock eyes and that's it I have to
wink that's it the minute he saw me he
knew what was going on he came
immediately and pulled the doctor's side
about the chlorop and then I talking
about so uh so don't do this to each
other don't interrupt you have a great
Point you're itching to get it out guess
why there's a thousand one other people
you can go tell them about it you don't
have to interrupt this guy and you're
going to come and ruin my catch I worked
hard and I caught this guy he was
walking I caught him I'm stopp and talk
to him you go catch your own guy you'll
get your own Prospect and give him down
all
right but unless like what's a very good
reason like they Overlook a certain
point the prospect asked them a certain
question but they didn't get it but you
got it so you ask you fix or you answer
that question that's a good reason to
interrupt
someone um don't get into a negotiation
which is uh you know I think you I think
alhamdulillah this next this new
generation you don't have to deal with
that too much but with all due respect
to the older generation oh man they
negotiate so much you have you ever been
to an Interfaith with some older people
it's a nightmare nightmare they have no
clue how to run inner Faith you know and
they just make it a negotiation where
you know let's all go to Jenna hey we
you go to Jenna I go to Jenna and they
just start to negotiate but of course we
don't negotiate in the in Islam and
Allah tell the prophet
wasam what
they wish that you would compromise with
them so they would compromise with you
but we don't compromise that's why we
all
know it came after the the offer they
made we worship your God for a day you
worship Our God for a day then they said
A week then they said a month then they
said a year and you know after a year of
worshiping Allah they're not going to go
back to worshiping
stones still the proph refused because
we don't negotiate
I think it was another point
about yeah I mean there's some things
like I this story I always tell about
how this guy you know he was addressing
a bunch of imams and he said you guys
need to be creative in your da
techniques and he told the story about
how he used to go with a cfer friend and
the cfer would ask for champagne he said
I would get orange apple juice so he
thinks I'm drinking champagne so he this
and he said that's an Innovative way of
giving da okay I need to understand
what's so innovative about that so this
guy is supposedly going to become you
know closer to Islam because you're
getting boozed up or
something why would he want to become
Muslim if he sees you drinking apples
you see think oh he drinking champagne
maybe I can become Muslim
too why so uh but that's just again this
people trying to negotiate trying to
water down Islam make it look like
Christianity and that might enti the
Christians to join into Islam you know
historically that has backfired sever L
for Christians when it comes to the
Pagan Faith you probably you're aware
that there are many Pagan practices in
Christianity Today how did they come
there the Christian du back then thought
it was in the interest of bringing
people into Christianity to make
Christianity similar to
paganism and Subhan Allah over the years
the Pagan practice had lived and the
Christian one die like you know
Christmas you know bringing a tree and
decorating it and all that stuff Pagan
practice date 25th of December even
similar to a pagan goddess or Mithra or
Mias that had the son and all that
so uh and then even though clearly in
the Bible say says it's not permissible
to bring a tree into your house and
decorate it and all that so it's a b by
their standards right and but again same
thing with Halloween the Pagan practices
are what lived and nothing Christian
remains Easter so many things so the
point is some Muslims try to do the same
thing it doesn't work and it backfires
so they try to water down Islam make it
look like Christianity that might bring
the Christians into Islam well guess
what if you make Islam look a little
Christian and they have 100%
Christianity why should they feel
compelled to enter into Islam don't give
up too quickly if the person you know
seems
uninterested and don't just give up too
quickly and sometimes you know we we've
encountered people that's were just
being you know sarcastic or or they were
like you know smiling sarcastically
things like that you keep going and
Subhan Allah they end up becoming Muslim
actually at the end of The Talk versus
what if I saw him you know smirking and
trying to be a wise guy and I just
walked away you know so it's it makes
more sense keep going with it don't give
up that quickly all right once you do
give up I really can't tell you
sometimes you give up a little bit
before you know think good things might
have happened and sometimes you give up
exactly at the right time but we'll
discuss it
more um
fify
information and again this is kind of
like what happens at inner Faith they
tell you you know Muslims believe that
uh that the Christians will enter
Paradise it says so in bak and the Jews
also will enter and then that that's
we're falsifying information then the
Muslim sits down the Christian gets up
and says well we're all you know
children of God and therefore I'll see
you when you get to Paradise now we're
all lying to each other here so and a
lot of people they're confused they
think that in order to coexist
peacefully you need to agree there's no
such thing you don't need to agree at
all to live with people in in peace all
you have to do is understand each other
you know when you don't understand each
other there's the fear of the unknown
when you know each other it eliminat it
removes that fear that's the end of the
story so you don't have to agree in
order to live together peacefully just
understand each other so if I lie to you
and tell you we think you're going to
paradise and we don't and then you lie
to us and say we're all children of God
we're all going to paradise and we're
not that means we just we don't still we
walk out from that church or from that
group building still we don't know each
other that's why you know make sure and
exaggerate information something you may
have heard this story by some Muslims
Islam gives the women more rights than
they're than they're given in the west
right now that a true or false statement
true it's false it's not true G crazy
rights here that really don't even
belong to them these rights they have
given them these rights in the west
Islam didn't give them these rights
Allah gives them the rights that they
that they deserve but they went
overboard so it's not a true statement
it's an exaggeration we don't want to
exaggerate we'll tell it as it is we
don't need gimmicks ever to spread Islam
but what I'm saying by change the method
not the message it's that same message
it comes to you through internet audio
tape CD you know speaker live speaker
microphones da in the street da at
University whatever it is but the
message is the same can come through
video through radio but the message is
the same but the method can change it's
not a problem you know so like one
because this came about one time someone
was telling me there's something wrong
with the da table and and maybe we're
not saying the right thing but if you're
talking about and pillars you for sure
are talking about the right thing maybe
you need a different method that's it
something to attract them that but
um yeah and I think we discussed that
that's the that's the um the inner fith
thing don't make misrepresent you know
Islam says some okay what if someone
comes to you and
says you know what will happen what do
you Muslims believe will happen to us
Christians somebody answer that
question yes sir you're going to help
okay thank you anyone want to word it
differently same same meaning yes
sir sorry be resurrected you will not be
resurrected they will be resurrected the
Christians will be resurrected Mormons
Mormons cuz if they won't be resurrected
then you know it's not a bad
deal as a Christian you have to deal
with the day of judgment right yeah if
you don't submit to the will of Allah it
will not be accepted on okay good if you
die woring more than one
God okay good yes sir any Christian
Muslim Jew atheist or anyone who dies
associating partners with goding God
Alone burn I like that you like what the
brother sh is saying he added
Muslim which makes it like it's not
saying just you I like that never heard
that before but it's good anyone else
like that
wow
tough I like that thank you sir thank
you very much it's nice okay sister in
the back and then we'll come to
you oh sorry sorry is that what you were
going to say he's saying that that you
know you know anyone whether Muslim
Christian Jew or so who dies associating
others in worship with Allah will go to
the AL fire so he even put Muslim in
there which is a true statement so he's
saying it's not just us versus you but
now let me tell you something most of
the time when a Christian asks you this
question for let's say it's a Christian
they're really just trying to see what
you're going to say they're just trying
to see if you have the guts because they
know the answer you think they don't
know the answer do you really think they
don't know the
answer you don't you do they know the
answer more most likely why because they
know that just about every Faith
believes they're right and everyone else
is wrong if they're right they're going
to par and every else is going to the
other place because if we the only ones
who are right but we're all going to
Paradise it really means we're all right
they know this concept people it's not
it's not going to be like well I
never they know
it they know it so they just try to say
How brave you are how you going to word
it are you going to be diplomatic or not
because if you ask them where are the
Muslims going guys will burn in hell you
know when the Rapture comes we'll all be
race to the cloud the Muslims will be
nuked and then when all the nuclear
stuff is gone we come back to earth and
live
peacefully okay that's nice let me tell
you how it's going to go
down anyway point
is the point
is
um just in a nice way now we need to we
need to note here that you can't tell
them where they're going right and in
Islam we say in general you know you
know Jews Christians will not go to
paradise but we don't say say this guy
won't go to Parise and I can't say you
know George Bush will go to the Hell
Fire right I can
hope but you can't for sure say this guy
will go to that you can't but as a
collectively as a group people who
commit sh yes they will go to um uh
don't make the comt with this this is a
real one of the DU made it's just really
good if you tell them when you're kufur
you'll be all right you go to paradise
what's the need
to for for them to become Muslim and
tell you know the Quran says Jews and
Christians will enter Paradise want to
become Muslim well no you just gave me
the Del that are un to Paradise so why
should I become Muslim uh don't make a
judgment based on looks have you ever
have you ever done that you looked at
someone said then I want waste my time
with him you ever done that
anybody just a few people okay what do
that person look like that you want to
share and what what was it about them
homeless guy n a homeless guy okay
homeless guy okay about
you same thing okay anything beyond
homeless that you just felt yes sir
there's a person
this Gothic kind of thing black on black
black nails black teeth everything
yeah what CLM classmate what was about
their look that made you just not his
teeth his
teeth what are you doing a dental
commercial guy has you know roted teeth
you won't give him da you don't want to
talk to him maybe had bad breath I don't
want to give him da by the way take tax
are your friend when it comes to that
one have mercy on
people okay all right so you know so you
know what remember the beginning
that you just have to direct people to
the truth that's your job doesn't matter
what they look like doesn't matter and
the example I give because this guy
really looked extreme we were at the
million family March this guy tall pale
white guy big guy wearing a sleeveless
shirt got tattoos from his neck all the
way to his wrists you all kinds of
devils and all kind of weird things he's
got you know his front fourtieth old
gold he's got bandanas piercings
anywhere you could put one on your face
all right and white contact lenses white
contact just imagine what this guy looks
like pale all the blue and white contct
lenses gold and piercings he's walking
like this and I saw I took a look at him
I saw him coming and then I looked over
here I saw a man and his wife I saw the
bird singing I saw the
butterflies why would I waste my time
with this guy I actually looked at I
said I'll have time for the Shan and I
went over to these guys and I spoke to
them for a little bit when I turned my
head a brother was calling us to hear
him take the shahad
he said I got out of bed today searching
for Allah that's what he said got out of
bed searching for Allah and he just
Allah brought him to some Muslims giving
dawa he became Muslim quickly and then
he was telling us this he said look I
don't want to just do this right now and
forget about it he says I want to become
a a good Muslim I want to learn to pray
I want to become an excellent Muslim I
lost out on that good shahada because
I'm in a judgment based on looks so I
you know I learned from that no matter
what the person looks like I'm going to
give him
D I don't care if they
have a telephone pull through their nose
I'll
get
okay got that joke huh all right let's
look at some of the techniques we have
in the room
here um what if you're giving D like you
don't have a partner it's like Isam
weend it's uh every it's all makes many
people uh and another brother comes like
you're you're talking to a non-muslim
and another brother comes and just
observes he's just there he's not he
doesn't interrupt he doesn't he just
sits there and problem no problem one
guy right yeah not another guy comes I
think maybe three probably at least in
the states three is not pushing it too
much I don't know what it is in Canada
but you know three is not bad but if
what if you see four or five and you're
alone right but someone across the room
from the other table sees five people in
you around someone he might actually go
to them he knows there the other four
are spectators might pull them aside and
say look we don't want more than two
people crowding around one person that's
it but if you know what if five people
crowd you have no partner and so on and
so forth what are you going to
do
s I just I just uh I'm just thinking is
it I know we can't make it a rule to
only have oneone but I feel like culture
here people get offended or intimidated
more than one person because it's the
it's what the Mormons do you know they
always Trav with the two and it could be
like a like a battle you know what I
mean it's like they have two people have
the upper hand know they're outnumbered
what is your opion well I would advise
you to not take my opinion on it I would
advise you to to test it out and to see
how that works and um and you might even
do a survey with Muslims as well you
know do you feel uncomfortable because
you guys are Canadian you feel
uncomfortable when two people talk to
you and because right now we're just we
could go off of your hunch and my hunch
but let's let's test it and see um I
don't know Canada well enough but I'm
I'm hoping that two is not really a big
problem what do you okay what are the
rest of you people
feel two is a problem put your hand up
three is a problem put your hand up four
is a problem put your hand no problem
put your hand any
number okay uh you want to add something
yes the like like people here like like
they're much more um emotional like the
last time someone like came up right to
my face and just started like like like
being honest and straight up he was
actually Australian he was just going to
school here wow okay all
right what I meant by that is uh it was
actually me who feeling uncomfortable oh
yeah you're the sensitive
one excuse me it's just like you're
you get a sense it's like okay what are
you doing here you're going to make him
feel uncomfortable and I'm just waiting
for uh the the brother who spectating
just to jump in with some random Point
yeah I know what you're talking about
and actually to be honest with you I
feel uncomfortable like that as well
especially now when you know oh let's
see what brother Kamal is saying at this
guy they're expecting me to be saying
some you know laying down the heavy
stuff on the guy and they and you see
all these brothers are so smooth like
I'm talking over here the non-muslims
over over there see a brother trying to
Edge in like this like you know
just another guy reading the paper right
there what are you expecting me to say
I'm saying the exact same stuff I'm
telling you right here there's nothing
new you know remember one time went to
New Jersey get the da workshop on a
Saturday Sunday we went out to some
Street da broke into groups and stuff
and we come back we reconvened at the
end of the day and all the groups the
pairs that were telling you know what
their experence the number of basically
they it was a number of days back then
so one guy it was a young kid and you
know he attended the workshop and
everything and and he's just waiting for
my group to say what the number so this
this group one sh this group two shad
and I'm watching this little kid and
then it came for our group okay brother
come on your group and then this kid was
just like waiting anticipating and we
said zero and this kid
was brother come hold talk yesterday
this is the technique and zero sh yeah
it's not
magic it's not like I've got something
phenomenal that I didn't tell you that
you got to sneak up behind me and hear
it oh that's how he does
it remember Allah does the rest you do
your
part yes sir question is say lot of
people ra this question
about so if you're saying that you don't
want to be
and stuff like that you address it how
do you address the issue not being
evasive I'm talking maybe just to give
an example specific on this issue right
okay let me let me we're all these
issues we're going to come and answer
them inshallah what I'm trying to do
right now is tell you that if someone
does ask you a question about an issue
you address that issue don't try to run
around and Escape it how we address the
issue that's when we're going to discuss
later on but for now what I want you to
know is if someone asks you a question
don't escape it it looks very bad so
answer the question you might say well I
don't know the as we're coming to
tomorrow I think in yes sir what about
having more than non-muslim more than
one
non-muslim what about having more than
one wife what did you
say yeah just kidding sisters kiding I
love how when I do these things all my
jokes like most of the sister just don't
find them
fun go ahead uh what about having more
than one non-muslim listening to you
like uh two fine fine but if they start
to you know affect each other with their
negativity it's to good to SP them apart
if you can but if you can't fine talk to
them you can talk to 50 at one time if
you want to it's not an issue yet you
know it's not does anybody have to
address each every one of them yeah it's
sometimes not everything is within your
control you know it's not like you can
always get the ideal da situation
sometimes you start talking to one guy
and he's actually there with 19 of his
beer buddies and they're all hammered or
whatever what are you going to do now
you can't always get it the way you want
so just you deal with your situation you
know I have two questions the first one
is that when you are talking about like
going out in grips what is the minimum
number of brothers are actually going in
one group and the maximum number they
break up into groups of two pairs okay
one two that's it but your whole crew
you let's say you took a bus of 50
people to hit this let's say Central
Park in New York big place and then they
break up into groups of two that's it
okay but then when you come back you're
reporting to one Amir or something or or
we're just sharing you can have an air
if you want but we're just talking about
we all sit down I usually insist that
the DU come and sit and talk after the
event because if we're at 10 groups and
we all spent one hour out there if I get
the the you know this person says this
group tells us the report this guy asked
us this tough question this is how we
answered it or how do you think we could
have answered it then we all put our you
do the in so when you share when all the
10 groups talk about their 1 hour of
experience it's as if you got 10 hours
of experience from their feedback that's
why by the way if you look at any salese
in the audience men or women great now
um I don't know which kind of
environment you work in but a lot of
times uh you'll find that within a sales
team or sales force they have the short
cubicles the cubicle wall doesn't extend
above the desk purposely they do that
for the sales team why they want the
sales team to talk together they also
sometimes give them breaks companies
where it's you know all sales oriented
they give them lunch break together they
want them to talk so they can share
different techniques so we use the same
technique with Dua I want to hear your
experience I'll learn from it you know
and you know I'll learn your way and
that's why honestly that's why tomorrow
I will ask you how you would answer the
question and so many times I would hear
such a perspective that I never
considered before you know over the
years I've got some excellent responses
things I never never considered so I
benefit from your experience and you
benefit from my experience and then just
like the sales team the sales Sports so
um so that's second question is like do
you have some sort of like Arrangement
just like for the brothers do you also
recommend the same stuff for the Sisters
as well
or yeah I mean most of the things that
we're talking about today and tomorrow
can be done by brothers and sisters okay
um like I wouldn't recommend sisters
have a weekly or a daily table in front
of a metro station or bus station you
know but I mean I would recommend they
do that in a probably a school or a
safer Place something like that but
generally for the most part most of the
things that the men can do the sisters
can
do sometimes there are some things to
tweak
here there was another question yes
sister I this as much of a question
but in my personal experience Canada a
lot of times they're really afraid to
offend whenever they want to ask
question always like I don't need to
offend and I find that they're a lot
more anxious I don't know how to get
them I let them know that it's always
okay to ask but that's it that's the
right way I me there's nothing you can
do beyond that you just let them know no
no no no question is offensive or no
question is that is not a good question
and and I'm here that's what I'm here
for feel free please to talk to me just
like that use their name do all these
things smile do all these things that
will get them to try to try to open up
to you a little bit so that's it there's
nothing beyond that that I know of that
you could
do okay um let's look at some creativity
over here you know handshakes I'm
talking about men with women and women
shaking hands with men what are your
ways of avoiding handshakes share with
us yes sir I
just you serious huh you know that's
actually one of my jokes that I tell
you because um there's a guy who said
that said you know when woman comes I
start
going he's like hi who are you you know
so now she doesn't want to try to shake
that hand so you actually do sneeze huh
okay good can you do a good sounding not
now but can you do a good sounding
sneeze no cuz my sneeze my fake sneeze
sounds really fake you know I don't
think but if you could do a pull off a
good one and you put glue between your
hands so when
you you're very convincing right
other techniques yes sir have can in
your pocket and you give it to okay all
right so you must walk around with a
full bag of all the time you know
anytime you see a woman sir
this I improvised uhhuh my friend
improvised it and I used a lot okay
comes uh to
take
Islam my culture they not allowed to
shake hands hands except uh their wife I
mean if their husband them or us if the
husand is besides
them actually even then can't happen but
okay but so what the brother's
doing he's going now the other route the
explaining so now let's hear
specifically some explanations some just
explanations for now how would you
explain it verbally brother told me at a
job interview he just said because of
Islam's respect for women I don't shake
nice because of Islam's respect for
women I don't shake hands with women
nice what else verbally verbally now yes
sir I don't believe I have the right to
touch oh there you go where' you get
that
from huh listen what's that just a CD I
listen through a while really yeah his
name you might know him actually this
uhhuh the course is
called you're joking right you're joking
right no I got that from you okay all
right now all
right uh yeah so this brother is a poet
and he words it so nicely he says I
don't have the right to touch you and so
you know people are like wow oh I didn't
know is that special you know it's very
nice what are the
explanations can't hear you I said this
brother says I don't have the right to
touch to women and they feel that very
honored and respected it's it's kind of
nice he doesn't have to go through the
whole list and you know but we can you
know aunts we can shake hands with uh
you know cousins know but so it's kind
of nice and quick and and at the same
time very you know I don't know what the
word is not romantic but
flowery anyone else yes sir I just said
please forgive me I like you
man please forgive me just don't
all right okay good what else and how
how does that work for you um she just
smil you
know yes just the question what about if
it's a reverse forist I'm waiting for
sists to say something what do you say
because you could say the same things
you know in Islam we're not allowed to
touch and shake hands with the opposite
you know yeah go ahead I
I don't take okay and that that will
work I think most people will understand
that so it's a religious thing and
you're politely apologizing that you're
not going to be shaking my hand they'll
accept that yes we are gloves sorry no
still even if you're wearing gloves
just now of course please and I know one
time I asked what are we're trying to
think of creative Alternatives one time
some guy put his hand up said well so
and so gave a f it's okay I understand
that there's a f for everything we're
trying to be creative Beyond I'm not
trying to be rude I'm just trying to say
we're trying to be creative beyond the F
because like it just said in the
beginning avoiding handshakes so and so
said there's a f you can shake hands
okay next point but I'm trying to be
creative here beyond the yes
sister okay so maybe the sister saw that
these are a little apologetic and even
though other others amongst us might see
it as just an explanation but you might
have something you know more of an
explanation and according to you less of
an apology if you if you do then feel
free to use that um if you feel that
yours is a bit apologetic you might you
know Kick It Up on notch or something
like that yeah I say I don't to
offend sh okay very nice yes sir or just
give herl keep her hands busy uhhuh very
good yes explanations I don't think I
will have any problem the same thing
that the brother said I was taking a
class uh here in Cal and I had a Jewish
guy sitting beside me all beer
practicing Jewish and the teacher was
trying to shake his hand because we were
playing a role MH and he told him I'm
very sorry not to offend you but it's
religious purposes I can't shake your
hand Jewish person right beside me good
so I don't think it's any
problem excellent and then when she came
to shake your hand you said I'm his
cousin
apologize uhhuh there you go excellent
very good excellent
now very good very creative Crow there
are some other people who used um who
were saying that you occupy your right
hand who said you said that yeah you
gave her you give her something and
that's another method that we that were
taught at this
company he said when it was a Muslim
company so they said if woman extends
her hand to shake your hand you put your
business card in her hand then you bring
the you turn the her attention to the
card so and it works so wonderfully so
she extends her hand you say well you
know I'm Kamal that's my name that's you
turn the attention to the card because
if you just give her the card she might
take it and then put her hand what do
you
do
so and we used to walk around that
company we have cards everywhere I mean
I had cards here here go like this a
card would pop up because you know
suddenly someone would come in then we
used to ask them did you notice that I
didn't shake your hand and they would
actually say no I didn't notice did not
notice kind of like what brother Shir
was doing earlier with you know look
looking it's as if you're looking but
you're not they won't even probably not
even notice it um and here same thing we
ask did you notice I didn't shake your
hand they would say no well actually
because of Rel religious reasons and you
explain and because of that now you've
explained and saved yourself from the
goodbye handshake so it works well so if
you had do have a pamphlet fine and what
if you don't have a pamphlet you can do
this other thing where you you occupy
your right hand and you don't make any
effort to free up your right hand and so
and you start the greeting because
there's a greeting with the handshake
and there's one without so if you come
up to someone like this they might
expect that you quickly free up your
right hand and shake their hand right
but what if you come up to them
like that for example they say Hi how
are you I'm the one who called you on
the phone my name is so and so and
you're doing this like very clearly I'm
not or suppose even your left hand's in
your pocket I'm not making any effort to
free up my right hand you know and you
will actually see see them they will
look at your hand and then they start to
free up the right hand and then they
leave it alone you know um I used to
work somewhere a lot of sales people
would try to come and and get our
business and one of them a lot of time
saleswoman would come and you would see
them because part of Sal is that firm
hand ship and I would occupy my right
hand and they would start to put the
folder on the other hand then they see
I'm not making any effort to free my
right hand and they just talk and they
even say goodbye without trying to so
you can there are ways where you can
even stop someone from initially putting
their hand out psychologically also now
as the brother was saying when you have
your wife with you or your husband with
you there's no need to to shake the
other person's hand because your wife
will save the day if a woman lunges at
you and if a man you know tries to you
you save the
day
so
said your hand here grab his hand and
then from there you go
in you just want to stay awake after
lunch that's
all um all right so that's as far as the
handshakes how about how about um
anything else that I forgot with the
handshake
out to shake your they feel like
disrespecting them by not doing and
that's why you try to keep your
explanation as nice and sweet as
possible and in the end what are you
going to do if you're one of those
people who want compromise there what
are you going to do you going to I would
rather offend them than offend the LA at
some point you know go ahead I think
these things people have a lot more
cultural sensitivity much more yes and
actually they would be more interested a
lot of times when I say start i c can oh
really why and then they actually ask CU
especially their business people because
they don't want to offend someone else
later on right very good excellent so
it's very true yeah go to an Arab
country and you refuse to shake a
woman's hand oh the things that you hear
what am I a dog huh am I impure huh
matter with you Kar don't say these
things to me you're saying this to me
and and uh one time uh true story go
ahead
youlim
are Muslim and they shake
hands what are
you
areed well yeah and actually I found
that Muslims just affected by refusing
to shake their hand more
yes that's true that's true so basically
what if what if sometimes you you refuse
to shake a woman's hand she says well I
have a lot of Muslim friends
and uh they shake my hand tell them well
they're different I'm actually a kind of
Muslim I'm called fundamentalist wahabi
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mus just kid what are you going to do
right I mean one time I went to work
somewhere and the lady said you have to
shave your bead I said no she said said
well my boyfriend is Muslim and he
shakes his beard so he's got a
girlfriend and you're using him as an
example a role model now so you deal
with these things all the
time true story I won't say the shef's
name though respectable scholar and
woman young girl became Muslim so she
says I want my mother to meet you
tomorrow he said fine just let her know
that we don't shake hands in Islam with
women so the next day the girl brought
her mother and her mother came to the
sheh and she said my daughter tells me
you guys don't
hug the
sh sometimes they don't get what it
means yet you know one time
so when when you give da who likes to
use the name Allah put your hands
up okay and who likes to use God
more and who uses
both excellent and who gives no da
whatsoever keep your
hands okay so look uh I I mean I love to
use Allah but I also use God it's not an
issue but there are two things I want to
talk about very quickly on this point
one why some Muslims don't like to use
Allah and two the benefit of using Allah
some Muslims don't like to use Allah
because they think the non-muslim might
think Allah is some other
God so no this is going to be happening
for a while oh okay anyways
some Muslims think that if I say Allah
they might think I'm talking about some
other God so the answer to that the
remedy to that is just a quick 15 second
disclaimer so you just say so Allah Sent
His prophets and by the way Allah means
it's the same it just means god in
Arabic it's the same God of the
Christians the same God of the Jews it
just means god in Arabic and if you go
to a church in any Arab country the
Bible says Allah and they say in church
Allah understood understood that is
that's the end of the problem that's it
and by the way there are very few people
who if any who believe this whole Moon
God thing so most of the time people
understand that Allah is God it's just
the name of God in Arabic explain to
them like that and you can feel free to
change your inner and go between using
Allah and saying God as well the thing
the advantage of saying Allah is that it
sets you apart from everybody else that
Jehovah's Witness knocked on their door
and said God you know this person you
know the Mormons knocked and they said
God and when you say God you sound like
the you know you need to submit to God
well I do submit to God you need to
submit to Allah feels like I need to
move towards Allah it will set you apart
in your speech from everybody else you
know I mean I know you don't say Lord
but imagine you said you need to submit
to the Lord just oh you sound so
Christian
now but any anything quickly there on
the Allah part so there no rule that
says you have to use Allah you have to
use God use both but if you're afraid
that you might misunderstand who Allah
is give a quick disclaimer quick
explanation
yes fine fine you can we can go even
further from but just whatever if brief
will suffice alhamdulillah if not you
can up it up to you saying that in
Arabic Bible the word God has been
mentioned as Allah yeah
yeah okay um okay clothing and this is
I'm trying to get something else out of
the discussion Point number
three suppose I'm going to give Street
da not that I do but suppose I'm giving
Street
da uh well you know I don't know if this
works for Canada this question or not
but let's let me take you to the US you
can just guess here all right I'm not
really interested in what the answer I
just want to get to another Point
suppose we're going to give da in
Washington
DC should who how many people think it
would be more effective if I put on some
white th versus some pants put your
hands on that th is more effective how
many people think it's more effective if
I put on pants and a shirt hands
up okay those who didn't put their hands
up I don't know what you're wearing for
that
one now you maybe you think well both
are probably the same who thinks they're
both
equal okay you know what we found from
Collective years of of Collective I said
not just I'm not saying is what I found
a lot of Dua over the years we found
there isn't really much of a difference
not really now I know someone now is
thinking well I can think of a scenario
where if you're wearing a th you could
get shot probably is a scenario like
that and at the same time I can think of
a scenario where if you were a th you
come off as more uh what's the word I'm
looking
for credible yeah so the truth is yeah
there could be some weird scenario but
in general we didn't find much
difference you know that but actually
believe it or not the the slight Edge we
found in that scenario that I mentioned
not saying put on a th and stand in
North Courtyard but I'm saying in that
scenario that I mentioned we actually
found that there's a slight advantage to
the th believe it or not because people
think of you as a little bit more
credible and think of you as a clergy
within your religious system someone
with rank even though we don't have rank
and at the same time the th also brings
you da now remember I said that one time
and one guy said that that's just can't
believe that and he next Friday he's
wearing a thob and some non-muslims said
hey so tell me what is this about what
is this religion so the th does bring
you dawa and you know I remember one
time I was at a restaurant this lady
came to me she said are you a rabbi said
yeah I'm a black
Rabbi all right can you be aggressive
sometimes in da yes really who says yes
put your hands up who says never put
your hands
up okay you can be aggressive sometimes
who can give us an example from the
prophet when he was hard one time yes
sir
when was coming to
him came to the wasn't he aggressive
with him didn't he grab him and Shake
him don't do it next week please Shake
anybody but so any other times you can
think of in
the was it
yeah is that right okay I didn't know
that okay any other
thing you became Muslim no there wasn't
it wasn't it was actually very gentle
with him very gentle he told him that I
want to see your face again no no it
wasn't like
that it was like I don't want to see
your face again it was actually the
prophet because he's the prophet of
Allah didn't want to do any Injustice to
so he said make sure I don't see you
just so that because the prophet was so
hurt by what did that the pro because
this is the prophet of Allah people he
didn't want to even Grimace or lose a
smile If he if he was smiling and he saw
and the smile disappears out of the
prophet of Allah that's very very harsh
and very hurtful so the prophet was so
deep detailed and delicate that he
didn't even want to frown at the face
ofi if he ever saw him because when he
seesi he will remember the hurt his face
will change that's how detailed the
prophet was he didn't even want to
affect him that much that's why he told
him you know don't let me see you he
didn't mean you become Muslim but I
don't want to see your face ever again
that's not how the cont so it was
actually very gentle from the prophet
anyways the idea is sometimes there like
the debate debate is in the sense d and
he's a little aggressive you know I
think I tell the story of the the drug
dealer in DC you know we're trying to
give him that one he's just being so
arrogant this guy he's talking to us
about bricks and you know what bricks
are somebody knows what that is cuz he
kept telling me Allah give me a brick if
I become Muslim said what's a brick he
said a brick of
cocaine apparently that's the wholesale
item and then they break it down into
the retail
ah you have to bear with
me ah heard all these jokes before I
recycle jokes you know it's good for the
environment
so um anyway so we we got really
aggressive with this guy I mean he was
just constantly making fun of us had his
beer in his hand I said oh yeah all
right so I started to let him have it
about the questions in the grave and so
on and so forth when we left he was just
standing just like this was you couldn't
speak you know you had to as the brother
said had to shock him out of his comfort
zone anyway so sometimes it could be
sometimes but generally it's da it's an
invitation it's nice it's sweet it's
kind it's you know it's gentle and you
know some of the best du that we know
they're the best because they
care was the best because he cared even
when they harmed him he could have
retaliated he cared and I mean that
might sound a little bit you know or
whatever but it's actually the truth
those who care they're the best du one
of the best du we had in DC used to say
these are my people I love them and I
want them to come into Islam that's why
he worked better than we did CU he
cared all right what's our time looking
like uh is it break we have 3:40 3:40
and we stop at
5: so um so how about this then 350
we'll take a 10-minute break and start
it for okay so ahed will be the
timekeeper okay walkway points you'll
know what they are I can't give you any
any guidelines whatsoever you know maybe
if some yeah sure if someone's
intoxicated you walk away if they're
crazy you walk away for sure if they
just want to Simply
argue remember the
point so just want to argue for the sake
of arguing you might want to break it
off and say well you know it was nice
talking to you this is some reading
material and we're here here you know
for the rest of this week give you know
the same place feel free if you have any
questions and you break it off right but
I'm also afraid to tell you give up too
quickly because there's one sister she
used to never give up and she would send
me a message with her partner you know
come help me out I just look if he's
being difficult leave him and go on to
someone else but she doesn't and then
every time I look she's still giving da
and then in the end they're calling me
to tell the guy here say the shahad so I
learned from her don't give up too
quickly know so you'll have to figure it
out the time when you walk away but when
do you walk away exactly you'll you'll
know when you walk away
question sorry I can't hear you if
you're bu R they're actually asking
something to
if they're intoxicated yeah
ask okay well I mean there's uh I mean I
guess we need to Define how I mean I
hate to use these terms but we have to
let's say determine if the person is
tipsy or hammered or
wasted all these other terms that they
have so if it's just Tipsy yeah I think
you could probably keep I mean as as a
brother I know I can't give you a f but
as a brother if someone's a bit tipsy
you keep keep talking to them if they're
with their mental faculties are there
they understand what you're saying if
they're a little Beyond if they're
beyond you know understanding and
tomorrow they won't recall any of this
don't waste his time I don't care what
he's asking about you know tell me about
the for for sure some other time you
know so I wouldn't waste my time if
someone is beyond the point of
comprehending what I'm saying but as a
sister especially I mean I think in your
scenario you didn't say that you're
alone with the person right CU I would
say get out of there and is drunk
already that's not a good situation but
if yeah it's a public place he's a
little bit beyond comprehending what
you're saying don't waste any time you
know say you know contact the MSA
tomorrow when you sober
up take a cold shower drink some coffee
then talk to somebody
else what else is the uh
okay you know that if you look at the
ayat that mention da
they all say like look at this
verse
right call to the way of your
lord whoever calls to Allah so when it
says it's telling you it's an indication
that there
is there because you're calling to
Allah and when is for Allah
it's not about you it's not about your
ego you don't get personally offended if
someone and this is the key if someone
refuses to take your pamplet you don't
get upset if someone you know you know
makes an argument and he's just trying
to you know and he's got an ego and he
says something that attacks your pride
you don't get offended because it's all
about Allah it's all for the sake of
Allah that's why is the most important
part in your da the most important thing
but of course it's also one of the most
difficult things as well so set out
doing it for the sake of Allah the whole
week this whole week is for the sake of
Allah I'm calling to the religion of
Allah to the de of Muhammad so therefore
if the person refuses I did my job okay
it's not about my reputation as a that
I'm going to be the best out of the
students that I have the largest number
of Shas that's why this whole number
thing doesn't work
not only does it push you to get cheap
quality Shas for the sake of counting
the numbers but it's not about you it's
about the religion of
Allah that's why if there's so many
things won't won't matter so many things
won't matter your title the name on the
poster all these things don't matter if
it's for the sake of Allah so the good
news is you can always refresh your ni
and renew your Nia in Islam so for
example
you're you decide okay for this whole
week I'm going to be giving da with the
MSA Islam awareness week it's all for
the sake of
Allah Tuesday things start to creep into
your right because you got one or two
Shas and then all the brothers are like
wow you're the best amongst us and we
all want to spend some time and learn
from your techniques and get some your
some of your bar and all that so now
things start to get to your head good
news is Tuesday night you can refresh
your intention renew your intention for
Wednesday morning and so constantly
don't let the Shan come to you from this
door always refresh your intention renew
your intention remind yourself that it's
about Allah it's for the religion of
Allah it's not about you your reputation
or what have you so
um you know what are the uh can I see
the the first
slides thank you sir
can I look can we go to the first
page slide number
two look at that
verse Allah says in that
verse so you cannot guide the the blind
from their strength you know you only
you can only cause them to hear you know
the the proofs the aat you can only
cause them to see these signs or to hear
these signs or to know these signs
that's your job to direct them to that
to let them know that I'm sorry can I
see that
and uh we said that
one it's for the sake of
Allah and at the same time you know the
third slide there on the last one on
that page you see the rewards you know
if you see the rewards of Da and it just
keeps multiplying and it keeps going on
and on if you bring one person to Islam
you know one there's one brother is very
business-minded and he showed me this
idea that he had of and if one if two
people become Muslim or one person
become Muslim and he marries and and
they have children they rais them upon
Islam within 10 years the number of
their if suppose each you know they just
get two children the number of offspring
that and reward that will be related to
you it's phenomenal within 10 years how
many people have become Muslim because
of you and your reward keeps going
then he does it like within 50 years
within 100 years and comes up to be a
huge number of people you're in your
grave and you're still getting good
reward you know now and but what if we
the prophet said for Allah to guide one
person through you is better for you
than the whole world and everything
that's in it or better for you than the
best of wealth if we really felt that
how much that would we do if we really
felt that or that your reward keeps
multiplying and multiplying you teach
one person Salah you get reward every
time they pray and then they teach 10
people Salah you get reward every time
these 10 people or these totally 11
people pray now if there was a stock
that worked like that if a brother comes
to you said there's a stock and it's
going to multiply just like your a same
way but you have it's going to close in
one hour you have to put everything you
can in you act like crazy to put get
gather all your money and put it in
because it's going to multiply so much
what if we really felt like this about
the Hadith and our when we give doubt
how much we really give we give a
tremendous amount of doubt so try to
take these things to heart do it for the
sake of Allah do it seeking the rewards
with
Allah let me
see
good like what if someone is being very
argumentative with you huh five minutes
okay what are ways you can stop someone
from arguing with
you just like that guy you know yes sir
basically asking him like what's your
main issue like something like just to
clarify what what he wants to go go
about and then answer that question
things like that okay that's nice I've
never heard that break like saying
something or maybe just make him like
make him not confident about his
arguments something like say I didn't
understand what you're talking about the
whole time like I didn't understand your
point you pleas go back or something
maybe I can caly back what he was saying
so that he stops so everything you say
he argued you know so you say there is
one God how do you know we have well how
do you know that's how do you know this
how do you know what if they just
arguing with you so much so good okay so
you're saying what what's what are you
really looking for what's your issue huh
but yes repas what he says to you sorry
repas what he says to okay but what but
it's not just he's just repeating one
argument he is which is your right if
that was the case if that were the case
but here he keeps whatever you say he's
just jumping on it and they actually
took us to a place like this one time
these people were arguing over every
little point and we just came up with
one sentence every time we say it it
would stop arguing yes sir I would say I
don't understand what you're saying okay
and that would stop it from arguing
and okay yes what you what do you hope
to gain what do you have to what do you
hope to gain huh what you hope to gain
from arguing with me like this
huh okay anyone else sisters someone
keeps arguing with you yes just tell
them you're wrong you're wrong huh wow
okay you married
sister that's kidding I push it
sometimes it just come
out the husband in their is
probably I don't know that
sister now we know what you go through
at home you're always
wrong back with him like you tell him
like there's one God he's like how do
you know that I'll be like how you know
mhm okay you throw a question back at
but they but they're still going to keep
going how do you stop them from being
argumentative yes you can just say why
don't you think about what I told you
and I'll think you're saying and then we
can I like that very nice never heard
that one before yes sir argue back argue
back you're trying to stop him from
arguing you argue back you're actually
letting him win now H I'm answer some
questions what do you think why do you
think we do this uhuh nice I like that
why do you think we're doing this huh
one just tell straight up not to Oh I
like
that we can't we just you missed it h
on he
said just say I'm not here to argue and
that's what we were doing this was
Austin Texas they took us to this place
everybody was arguing the minute you
just start to speak they argue with you
so we were just we were just ending it
the whole day we're just telling people
look I'm not here to argue with you and
they would say me neither go
ahead what if you tell I mean look what
are the chances you tell someone look
I'm not here to argue and they say well
I
am there's not much of a chance but if
some because one time it did happen to
me actually I thought I was all smart I
said I'm not here to argue he said I
am so well that makes life easy for me
because if you're only here to argue
then we can't get anywhere because
you're just going to argue if I give you
a truth you're going to argue so let's
do this this was a coworker so I said
let's do this this at another time when
you really want to find out what the
truth is okay I don't want to argue that
I ended it because he just told me look
I'm going to be a jerk today so okay
I'll end it but what the brother said
tell them look I'm not here to argue
most people especially the stranger
would say well they us should tell I'm
telling you we did it a number of times
at that one place and they would say I'm
sorry go ahead like I'm me neither go
ahead you know that's
it you start arguing you you they you
lose
you did what they wanted you to do
there's another way also you can just
totally ignore the fact that they're
being
argumentative just take your take it you
just take your time or let me finish the
point and now like that yes sir perhaps
you give them analy that
could analogy of C you FP it upside down
you P water water won't get
oh so you're telling that's an analogy
to deal with argument arguing
argumentation okay great you can give
that analy as well very
nice
um okay so let me let me
H oh it's time to take a break sorry all
right it's uh it's break time um this is
this is not Salah time this is a
10-minute break okay does the sisters
want this break for me at all or I can
just do what I
do okay I mean
yeah
yeah the organizers they were saying
they were going to pray after we're done
at
5
yeah that's okay with everybody then
we'll do 1 hour then we'll do so this is
a break 10 minutes and there we go and
I'm going to be here