sisters how do you choose the right
husband in Islam you always hear about
the Hadith of the Prophet sallallah alai
wasallam telling the men look for these
things when choosing the righteous
spouse or the righteous wife is there
anything in the Quran and the Sunnah
that tells the woman how she should
choose the right husband
what should she look for absolutely and
I'm going to give you a couple of those
guidelines
inshallah sisters number one when
choosing a husband when looking for that
Mr Right you want to make sure that
you're looking for a husband that is
righteous and kind to his own family to
his mother and his father to his parents
to his uh sisters to all of his siblings
why because the prophet sallallah alaihi
wasallam first said that the best of you
are those who are the best to their
family some of the scholars they mention
here that this is more specific to the
Man simply because he's the one in
charge of a family he's the one that's
responsible of taking care of that
family so it is extremely important for
him to be the most kind and to be the
most honorable and most responsible to
his own family so you want to make sure
how is that husband treating his family
his mother and his father how does he
speak to them what kind of relationship
does he have with them does he treat his
siblings as though they are actual
brothers and sisters to him or does he
treat them like strangers does he help
out around the house is he a person that
is responsible of taking care of himself
or does his parents have to take care of
him all of these little things you're
looking for because it will tell you
that if he is responsible with his own
family he's going to make sure that he's
responsible with you and he's going to
make sure that he's going to fulfill all
of those rights when both of you are
living together so that's that's the
first thing is his relationship with his
mother and father number two you also
want to look for a man that is
responsible at all levels he's
responsible financially financially he
can provide all of the needs the
fundamental needs that you need to live
a healthy life so he can give you a
place to stay a roof over your head he
can pay the groceries he can buy you the
things that you need he can take care of
the children all of those little things
he needs to be able to do he needs to
have a solid income so that he can take
care of himself and the family this is
why the prophet sallallah alai wasallam
told us one time that the person if he
is able meaning if he's physically able
he's emotionally able he's int
intellectually able to take care of a
family then he should do so he should
get married so sisters you want to make
sure that that future husband has a
solid financial responsibility behind
his slate and he is able to deal with
all of the emotions of a woman all of
the different challenges that come into
that marriage you want to make sure that
he's mature enough to handle those
things number three
sisters you want to look for a husband
that has what we call in
Arabic which is actually a type of
jealousy in other words when he sees you
he wants you for him alone he doesn't
want to share you with others and what
do I mean by this when you walk outside
and you yourself sisters you feel
uncomfortable that others are looking at
you that other men might come and
approach you and talk to you and laugh
with you and open up a conversation you
want the husband that will be there to
protect you at all levels to make sure
that you're safe to make sure that
whatever circumstance that you're in you
are comfortable being there so you want
that husband that is going to look out
for the well-being of every single
aspect of your life if you don't feel
right in a certain place if you go over
to a friend's house and things just
don't feel right you want the husband to
be there to listen to you to talk to you
to sit down with you all of those little
things you want the husband that can put
aside all of his responsibility and sit
back and have a good conversation and
moment with his wife do those three
things sisters inshallah you will have a
good husband and remember the prophet
sallallah alai wasallam once told us in
an authentic Hadith in a when a good man
comes to you and he's got all of these
responsibilities he's got all of these
criterias with him but you refuse him
for trivial reasons you refuse him for
reasons that really have nothing to do
with the marriage then perhaps you may
be a source of corruption for the entire
Earth in other words that ideology you
will pass it on to others and it would
only cause problems later on wherever
you are we ask to protect us from this I
thank
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you