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all praise is due to Allah we praise him
and seek his assistance we seek Refuge
with Allah from the evil within
ourselves and from the evil of our Deeds
whomsoever Allah guides none can
misguide him yet whomever he allows to
go astray none can guide him and I bear
witness that there is no God worthy of
worship except Allah alone he has no
partner and I bear witness that Muhammad
is his servant and his messenger
oh you who believe fear Allah as he
should be feared and do not die except
in the state of
Islam oh you who believe fear Allah and
speak the truth he will direct you to do
righteous good deeds and will forgive
your sins and whomsoever obeys Allah and
his messenger he has indeed achieved a
great
achievement brothers and sisters in
Islam Today We want to address an
extremely important topic in Islam it is
one of the most important things in
Islam but most people are not aware of
that
most people think it is from the actions
that you do after you complete what is
obligatory most people believe that this
is from the must or the that once you
finish your Salah once you finish your
and your and your if you have time left
over then you should do this but that is
not the case it is one of the most
important things in Islam and it is one
of the most
essential one of the most it's one of
the foundations of who the believing man
or woman is our topic for the today
is good manners the importance of there
are so many aat and so many that point
to the importance of this topic but as
we said so many people believe that it's
something that you do as something
that's must a when you when you finish
everything else then you do the or you
improve and you perfect your good
manners and your character and you're
kind to people but we see from many and
Allah says in the Quran when he's
mentioning why he sent the prophet
sallam Allah
says and we have not sent you except as
a mercy to the universe so here no doubt
we can understand how the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam was sent as a
mercy because it's through what he
teaches us that we can avoid the
Hellfire
and it's through what he teaches us that
will take to Paradise so we can all
understand how the sending of the
Prophet sallallahu alhi wasallam is a
mercy in the next life but no doubt
we'll all agree that the prophet being
sent is a mercy in the next life but in
this life as well and in this life you
cannot have mercy amongst human beings
if you do not have
good if we were to take the example of a
village and in this Village every aspect
of bad exists there is Envy there is
hatred there's jealousy there's
backbiting there is cursing there's
cussing every aspect of bad and no good
in this Village can you describe this
Village as being a place of Mercy or a
merciful merciful Village no because in
order to have mercy you have to have
good so when Allah says to the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam in the
Quran in this ay is an indication to the
importance of to the importance of good
manners likewise when the prophet
sallallah wasallam himself explains why
he was sent and he could say that he was
sent to teach people the Quran he was
sent so people would pray he was sent to
eradicate sh but the prophet sallallah
alaihi wasallam
said verily I was sent to perfect the
most noble of good character of manners
so it's as if the wording he's using
sallallahu alaihi wasallam it's as if he
was only sent to improve people's why to
show us the importance
of and good manners and good dealings
with other people it is something that
will give you success in every aspect in
life in raising children in being a good
teacher in being a good businessman in
dealing with your wife and for the wife
dealing with her husband everything
depends on good and your success in this
dun is linked to
good and for that reason we find IM
Malik when he was a young boy and he
wanted to start learning
knowledge his mother gave him advice she
told him go to the scholar of
ofina go to R and learn from his from
his manners before you learn from his
knowledge
and we've probably all seen people who
have gained a lot of knowledge as far as
information but they're very rude and
they're very harsh and dealing with them
is the difficult experience and nobody
wants to sit and learn knowledge from
them not only that but we have the best
message ever which is the Quran the
Quran the best message ever would not
have been accepted by the sah and they
have the best hearts ever if it came
packaged with bad they wouldn't have
accepted accepted the message Allah says
in the Quran to the prophet
sallam and if you were crude or harsh
and hard-hearted with them the
companions they would have scattered
from around you they wouldn't sit to
learn from you so that means even though
this message is so great and these
people who are willing to accept it are
so great they wouldn't accept this
message if it came packaged with bad so
in order to be successful in anything
you have to have good and in the you
need to have good as we will see
inshallah so IM Malik his mother gives
him this advice to learn from the
manners of before he learns from the
knowledge because if he has knowledge
and no manners who will want to sit with
him who will want to deal with that type
of person with Bad Manners but then we
see the effect of this advice of IM
Malik's
mother later on one of the student
students of Imam Malik a brilliant
brilliant man who gained all of the
knowledge of the Imam in the first year
he studed with the Imam for 20 years in
the first year he learned everything
that the Imam had but yet he remained
for 19 years and everything was
repetition to him so they asked him why
did you remain for 19 years even though
you gained all of the imam's knowledge
in the first year he said I remained for
19 years learning from his he was an old
in in manners the way he dealt with a
fellow scholar the way he dealt with an
ignorant person the way he dealt with a
child the way he dealt with the governor
or the
ruler every day and every experience and
every dealing of his was a lesson in so
this great scholar studied with him for
20 years 19 of it was just to learn from
his but then he says something more
profound he says and I wish all of the
20 years was just learning from his he
said I wish even that first year was
just to learn from
his and when we look at the every time
you see a Hadith that mentions a great
reward you think it's going to talk
about something great like Salah or like
or like or like Jihad but the Hadith
goes back and it mentions the greatness
of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said the most complete of
Believers in Iman what do they do the
best of them in manners the closest of
people to me on the day of judgment the
best of them in manners the most beloved
of people to Allah what do these people
do the best of them in manners the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said
to his companions the best amongst
you the best of you are the best of you
to their families and the scholars
explain why the prophet said the best of
you to their families why their family
specifically because the scholars say
that if someone has good manners within
his home home then it is very probable
that he has good manners outside of the
home because and we all know people like
this who were extremely intell extremely
well-mannered and polite and and gentle
in the Masjid but in their homes it's a
different story they even use profanity
and they curse and they always erupt and
lose their temper so the person who is
good with his family it is very probable
that he's also good outside of the house
and that's why the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam said
the best the best amongst you is the
best amongst you to his
family likewise one time the prophet
sallallah alai wasallam was sitting with
his companions so he asked them a
question he
said do you know who is the one who is
bankrupt they said oh prophet of Allah
the one who is bankrupt amongst us is
the one who has no Durham no currency no
money and no possessions
so then the prophet sallallah alaihi
wasallam explained to them that the one
who is bankrupt is the one who comes
forth on the day of judgment with a lot
of good deeds he comes forth with a
mountain of good deeds but he has also
come forth with Bad Manners he has
insulted this person and he has hit that
person he took the wealth of that person
and he might have killed this other
person so what happens this person will
take from his good deeds and then that
person will take from his good deeds and
then when his Good Deeds expire so these
are believers now that he offended in
this dun they will come and start to
take from his Good Deeds because he
offended them he insulted them he hit
them when his Good Deeds expire he will
begin to take from their bad deeds and
the prophet wasam explained at the end
of the Hadith then he will be thrown
back into the
Hellfire so we see the importance of
good manners from this Hadith the man
came with a mountain of good deeds so
perhaps he gave so much of his wealth in
sodak perhaps he prayed in the Masid
every single day perhaps he prayed he
fasted Ramadan obligatory fast he went
to Hajj he went to om he did so many of
the extra good deeds but he had bad
manners and because of his Bad Manners
they killed and destroyed all of his
Good Deeds so it can't be then that good
manners is just something from the must
from the extra good deeds that you do if
you have time left over over it is one
of the most important things and beware
beware brothers and sisters beware from
in from offending your fellow Muslims
beware of that because if they don't
forgive you in this dun and Allah will
forgive you for what you you are against
him subhah wa tala but if you are
against your believing brother or sister
make sure you get their forgiveness from
them in this D before they take it from
the most beloved thing thing to you in
the before they take it from your good
deeds but if we contemplate this Hadith
some
more where does this happen this this
tusia the settling of accounts between
the Believers where does this happen
this happens in front of the gates of
Jenna so what does that mean then all
the Believers gathered in front of the
gates of Jenna before the gates of
paradise are opened then the Muslims
will be called one by one because no one
goes into Jenna having issues with his
brother or his sister so everything is
settled between people so it happens
before the gates of Jen so what does
that mean that means this man the MU who
had so many good deeds in the beginning
he passed through so many stages to make
it in front of the gates of Jenna
because as you know if someone doesn't
have Good Deeds Death itself is a very
difficult experience the soul living the
body but he had a lot of good deeds so
perhaps he passed through this first
difficulty of death and then the grave
the questions of the Grave only the
Believers and the people of good Deeds
can answer perhaps he passed through
that stage as well and then there is the
torment of the grave and he P made it
past that stage as well then there's a
day of Resurrection for 50,000 years
people stand with the sun one mile away
from their heads and for the people of
Good Deeds it will seem like a very
short day and to varying degrees as
people have worse Deeds the day becomes
it's longer and longer and longer so he
may have made it past that stage as well
that difficulty as as well then there is
the questioning and standing in front of
Allah subhana wa tala and we know that
difficulty he made it past that stage
and then he start to cross the bridge
theat that's over the Hellfire you cross
this bridge and you make it all the way
to in front of the gates of Jenna so
this bridge the prophet wasallam
described it in the Hadith that it's
thinner than a human hair sharper than a
sword and it's as if Allah gave it a
mind of its own it's craftier than a fox
and people will some people will have a
lot of difficulty crossing over theat
some people will try to crawl some
people will fall off of it and those who
have good deeds will pass it very
quickly some people like the light the
bolt of lightning others like the blink
of an eye others like a fast racehorse
some will run some will walk some will
crawl and some will
fall so this man made it past that stage
and now he's in front of the gates of
paradise and
then his Bad Manners catch up with him
when they call him in front of everyone
who has a right to take from him then
the Believers come that he has insulted
and offended and then they start to take
from his Good Deeds then he takes from
their bad Deeds then he's thrown into
the Hell
Fire so it can't be that is not one of
the most important things in Islam not
only that but to stress the importance
of of we see that one of the wisdoms and
one of the the the benefits of all the
ACT of worship is that they're supposed
to impact
your one of the wisdoms and one of the
benefits of doing an act of worship is
that it's supposed to impact
your Allah says about in the
Quran establish the Salah Salah
prohibits the sins and the reprehensible
acts Bad Manners are included in the
reprehensible acts concerning Allah says
in
thean so there's no vain talk there's no
argumentation in Haj which is Bad
Manners
likewise uh with fasting we know that
when someone is fasting and someone
fights with you or curses you you
say I am fasting I'm fasting we have the
act of worship and the effect it's
supposed to have on your so it can't be
that is not one of the most important
things in Islam
Abu asked the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam which of the these leads most
leads people to Paradise the prophet
sallallahu alh wasallam
responded piety being God conscious and
having good manners these are one of the
things that two things that mostly take
people lead people into
paradise and having good manners then
Abu asked the prophet wasallam what of
the things that most lead people into
the Hellfire and the prophet responded
the mouth and the sexual organs the
mouth and what comes out of the mouth
again bad so we see good one of the
things that most take people to Paradise
bad one of the things that most take
people into the Hellfire so that we ask
Allah subh to improve our to to and to
perfect our good
character ask Allah for his forgiveness
surely those who ask for his forgiveness
shall prosper
narrates that the prophet sallallah
alaihi wasallam said that verily
believer attains with his good manners
the same degree as that attained by
fasting and establishing Salah with good
manners you can attain the same degree
as that established by fasting and
establishing Salah and because of the
Hadith that we saw the man who lost all
of his Good Deeds because of his Bad
Manners one of the early Muslims and one
of the wise
men he used to say that good deeds do
not compensate for Bad Manners while
good manners May compensate for bad
Deeds he's saying that good deeds will
not make up for your Bad Manners just
like we saw in the Hadith the man came
forth with a lot of good deeds but he
also came forth with a lot of Bad
Manners and his Good Deeds did not Avail
him so your good deeds do not compensate
for Bad Manners but then he
says and good manners May compensate for
your bad deeds and because we have a
Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam describes that the
heaviest thing on your scale and you
would imagine it to be you would imagine
it to be you would imagine it to be but
the heaviest the most dense of your good
deeds the heaviest thing on your scale
on the day of judgment is good manners
so your good manners could make up for
your bad Deeds so brothers and sisters
beware of offending belie your believing
brothers and sisters in this dun beware
of that do not do that and if you have
offended anyone seek forgiveness it is
not worth losing your good deeds on the
day of judgment it is not worth many
people coming up to take from you in
front of the gates of paradise for that
reason
sufan the great scholar one time he
heard that a group of people were saying
bad things about him or backbiting him
and insulting him and so on and so forth
so he sent them a bowl of dates as a
gift with a message saying I heard that
you have assigned to me yet you have
given me some of your good deeds
I could not find anything with which to
thank you besides this bowl of dates so
please accept it from
me because he he knows that they're
giving him from his Good Deeds so don't
even talk about anybody especially
someone that you dislike because then
you're giving this person that you
dislike one of the most beloved things
to you your good
deeds also a man one of the scholars
came to S as well and he told him I have
never seen abif IM
abif backbiting or speaking bad about
anyone so sufan tells him yes
abif Abu is more wise than to give to
let to allow someone to go away with his
Good Deeds so silence is one of the most
important things the Arabs used to say
keeping silent preserves reverence
people rever you the more silent you
remain
and who used to say
that talking is like
medicine he used to say that speaking is
like medicine if you give a little of it
it cures and if you give too much of it
it kills so with that we ask Allah
subhana tala to improve our and to make
us of those who are of the best of
character we ask Allah subh to accept
our fasting and our Good Deed during the
month of Ramadan and to assist us in
reaching the next Ramadan as well we ask
Allah to give Victory to Islam and to
the Muslims we ask Allah subhana tala to
give to Grant freedom to all the Muslims
who are being held unjustly around the
world we ask Allah to not make the Dy
the greatest of our concerns yeah Allah
do not make the D the greatest of our
concerns Ya Allah do not make the dun
the greatest of our concerns we ask
Allah to make us of those who hear the
speech and follow the best of it and we
ask him to send his Salah and Salam upon
his final messenger Muhammad and upon
his family and those who follow them
upon righteousness until the day of
Resurrection