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question the person asked I believe it's
a male he said I I need some advice he I
I've explained the importance of the the
the modest way of dressing Islam which
is the hijab we know as Muslims this is
uh something that's required he said to
my wife for years now but she seems not
to take the issue seriously she's a good
person she prays but but won't put the
hijab she fears it will upset her family
you know they're Muslim too it says by
name but it seems like not by action
what we call Ramadan Muslims he's
talking about here or when someone dies
they'll bring out an Imam to read the
Quran you know uh this is how much they
implement the dean he says so she fears
upsetting them please give me some
advice we have a daughter also and I
fear she might follow in her footsteps
if she doesn't set a good Islamic
example for the child I need some advice
talk to us he
says okay well I'm saying talk to you
but he's saying yes uh first of all
thank you for having me again your show
thank you Eddie may Allah bless you and
bless your effort and accept from all of
us amen um as for this brother uh my
advice to you uh first of all I ask you
to uh always show your love and support
to your wife H as being your wife don't
uh uh be mad if she may be lacking this
area because is understood from your
question she's a good woman she's a
great woman be grateful thankful to
allaha and I think through uh love and
and good relationship with your wife I'm
sure that you will have a good influence
on her in this area don't give up and
don't change your feelings towards her
uh that's number one number two uh I
want you also to ask Allah subhana T day
and night in your prayer uh I I know a
lot of people like you in in your
situation a lot of good Brothers good
friends of mine uh unfortunately their
wives they don't uh dress properly they
don't wear hijab uh all the time so what
I will uh tell you the same thing I've
been telling them pray to Allah ask him
uh always from the bottom of your heart
that Allah open her heart to see the
truth the way you see it as well uh so
that's number two number
three um as far can I can tell that he
his wife knows that she has she need to
wear hijab but she doesn't want to upset
uh her family one thing I will tell uh
basically uh this sister uh what you
really need to care about the feeling
that you really care about the most is
Allah subhana tala how Allah sees you is
he's pleased with what you do or he's
upset with what you do I think that's
the most important thing in life what is
my relationship with the Creator before
my relationship with any creation uh he
has the one the right over me over
anybody else anybody else and I want to
tell you
something whoever Allah will be pleased
with him he will make other be pleased
with that person if Allah pleased with
you he will let other to be pleased with
you as well and whoever Allah subhana T
is displeased with no one will be
basically pleased with him so if you
really want to please your family please
Allah T's first and I'll tell you your
family will accept it maybe in the
beginning they feel something strange
not used to it but down on the road they
will accept it they will respect it uh
because it's not something I made it up
or you made it up it's something Allah
our creator he have chosen for you and
he didn't choose this he didn't ordain
this he didn't leg just late this for
you for no good reason it's for the best
for you and for uh for for you in this
world life and in the Hereafter as well
so what I want you to do sister to tell
your parents why you doing this you're
doing this because you pleasing Allah
subhah wa ta'ala because that's what
Allah order you to do and also because
you don't want to uh uh make Allah angry
at you or you want to suffer the
consequences of disobeying him the
prophet Sall wasallam said there is two
kind of people among the people of
Hellfire I haven't seen them and he
said a woman who dress but in the same
times they not dressing one of the
meaning of thisi said that she cover
part of of her body that's supposed to
cover and she doesn't cover the rest and
which is basically that what uh some
woman will do when they don't wear hijab
and also the prophet sallam
said he said that the woman who go
outside showing her Beauties in front of
p in the public places in front of men
who are not related to her the prophet
sallam said when she walk she walk while
Allah is angry at
her that Allah is angry at her so my my
dear sister y take this issue seriously
the issue of wearing hijab is not just a
recommended it's something W it's not
just um uh not wearing hijab is
just ass and it's one of the serious
sins in Islam and I think you inshallah
with determin ations and Trust in Allah
you can take that steps you can walk
with your heads up high and you have
full trust in Allah tala that he will
change their attitude towards you and if
you get a little bit of test a little
bit of challenge be patient and Allah
would reward you for it let's take a
break with that said and we'll be right
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themselves is when you come back from a
night on the town you've been drinking
you've been boozing you've been dancing
you've been hanging out with girls guys
whatever number
one did you improve yourself as a human
being number two did you contribute
anything to the betterment of humanity
the amazing thing is is that the most
advanced studies in
Psychology about human happiness
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Creator and none of the creations and I
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alhamdulillah okay so I just just want
to spend a just just a little bit more
time on this question is that okay yeah
I want to ask you now because we you
said you also have friends in a similar
situation and many of us do also so now
uh is is the brother also is this
important on him because if he doesn't
pay too much attention to this and he
lets it go let's say he tried a little
bit he's not consistent he's got to be
merciful nice kind and obviously not
oppressive and whatnot like you said but
if if he's not consistent he just gives
up and then lets the wife do what she
wants and now she's creating a fit out
there for is he going to carry the sin
no you don't carry the sin for your wife
everybody responsible for his own
actions as long as you give the advice
you give
the you tell her about what what you
what Allah said is right and and then
the end of the day it's her call and
allaha will hold her accountable for her
action but you will not be sinful for
that so what is too much when does he
like say okay I told her like say the
person told her once twice or does is a
lifetime just continually advising in a
nice way you know honey I love you more
can you you know do this Allah will love
you more you just keep doing it yes but
I think the person need to work a lot on
is strengthen the relationship between
his wife and Allah believe me the moment
that her Iman will be strong she will
take that decision she will put that
hijab on um you know I was teaching a
course this weekend and in uh here in
Chicago yeah about F of love so I had
three girls in the class uh they decide
to wear hijab after the class and they
said we've been debating all these days
but alhamdulillah after attending the
class uh
basically class for two weekends we've
been coming we've been listening we're
ready to make that decision they were
ready now and I was so happy because
they walk into me and and one of of them
at least walk to me and she tell me that
very clearly she said I want to thank
you I'm now ready to put the hijab I
took that decision now it's like I I'm
not going to take it off I've been
putting it since I started the class so
you can see it in her eyes that this is
the right moment she she's thinking
about it for a while but something hit
her heart she attended the class she
listened to advice maybe a verse maybe a
story something strike her and she made
that decision so I'm trying to say he
need to work in her and his wife to
strengthen her relationship with Allah
so it will be ready for that you know a
lot of women also feel shy because as
you know when a sister wear hijab she
stands out in the street more than me
and you and anyone else yes so a lot of
them they don't like this attention in
the society here so they're scared from
putting the hijab but when you tell them
no you don't stand out in in in a like a
sore thumb or anything like that you
stand out as a most
beautiful Al dillah respected uh uh one
because you obey Allah you put this
because you're making a declaration that
I'm putting it because Allah want me to
do that and I'm submitting myself to my
Lord's well can this be now we know
we're tested you know Muslims you know
we're facing a test every day can this
be one of the maybe biggest you know
test that she's going through but if she
passes she circums this that this can
land her in in Paradise absolutely the
more things are difficult to do and you
stand up for it and you do it the more
your AER will be the your reward will be
Allah will multiply the reward for you
and at the same time we know Allah is
the most loving the most merciful he can
forgive but don't you open up yourself
to you know the anger of Allah if you
just continue disobeying him absolutely
why would why would put myself in a
position like that it's like 50/50 kind
of chance you know he might forgive he
might not we don't know yeah yeah I know
that even a lot of sisters they don't
wear hijab and they are wonderful sister
they are good muslimas they do a lot of
good things I don't underestimate your
roles at all I have I I have my
community sister who not maybe wearing
hijab uh they very active they
contribute a lot and we as a Muslim
Community I think we should give them
opportunity to do to contribute to work
but I believe also my heart the more she
will do things good deeds like this she
will eventually inshallah reach to the
level that she can make that decision
and and one day you will be surprised
she will come and she will bring the
hijab and all those people that many of
us we fear they're not going to be in
the grave with us are they it's just us
there absolutely and that's finished we
got one shot now abut so yeah this is
out of the love that we're doing because
we love our sisters don't we we do and
we want the best for them absolutely
alhamdulillah alhamdulillah we're going
to move on we spend a little extra time
because we feel this is a very very
important issue and we want people to
benefit from it so we have have people
like yourself to help us and we're
moving on to something here uh the the
person wants to know now they want to
know about what are some of the benefits
of praying the night prayer and what
time does it start okay so what time is
it officially the night prayer and can I
do just one unit only or how many do I
have to do when I pray the night prayer
since you know it's hard uh for me to
keep my eyes open that late at night so
the benefits and what are some of the
rules of it and you know do I just can
do one unit how many do I have to do
before I can go back to bed do I also uh
this I want to add it's not part of it
but does a person actually also then
they have to sleep many people think you
have to sleep then wake up or can you
just say you're up at 1: in the morning
or 12 does that consider a night prayer
please answer this okay uh the night
prayer which is a volunteer prayer uh
start after you pray Isa start after you
praying Isa so doesn't matter any normal
situation we pray is on time and after
that the night prayer time start all the
way to the feder prayer aan when it's
called so you have all this period this
period of time to do the night prayer
you can do it in the beginning and you
can do it in the middle you can do it in
the end of this period of time you can
do it anytime you want anytime you want
and the way you do it as the prophet
said night prayer is
two then you end it with one then you
end it with
one if a person cannot offer anything
except one that that's fine because
said pray with even if it is one but the
best way to do three the minimum that's
the best way because he said two then
you add one to it so three three ra
three raas three units he said uh in his
question U or her question I don't know
so basically that's the night prayer you
if you know that you can W up in the
last third of the night that will be the
best time how would you basically
calculate the last third of the night
you start from the sunset to the sunrise
and you look at this time you divide it
by three so the last third night the
last third of the night will be whatever
time let's say it's from uh 1:00 all the
way to 5: for example or to 4 a.m. where
the fer prayer comes that will be the
best time to pray your night prayer the
best time to pray your night prayer
because the prophet sallam said this is
where Allah accept more the of everyone
awake at that time uh the prophet told
about one of his companion he is the
best one if he makes if he prays in the
night you know night prayer was
obligated on Muslim in the beginning of
Islam then Allah oate this and he made
it only volunteer otherwise in the
beginning it was obligated every Muslim
obligated to wake up in the night and to
pray but Allah made it easy in us and
only made five days five prayers
obligate obligated on us uh when you
stand up beside before Allah in the
night you're just declaring that you
love him more than anything else more
than anything that you desire and Allah
finally in s after he mentioned those
who woke up in the night and leave the
bed and they pray he immediately
said no one can imagine the amount of
reward waiting for
you because of what you used to do in
this world of Life what you used to
offer and one of it no doubt is offering
this night prayer so when you have like
things are getting tough and rough this
can be an antidote to your problem
getting up at that oneir of the night
and praying absolutely absolutely no
doubt I know one sister she she had a
she's a Russian sister okay she's her
her husband and this a while ago they
went to Russia to have her passport
pictures but she wearing her hijab and
they said no we you have to take off
your hijab and she's a new Muslim she
said I'm not going to take off my hijab
and her husband told her they had a lot
of trouble there so they want to go back
to their where they live in Dubai so
basically her husband told her you know
what just take the picture she said no
I'm not taking the picture and she said
this brother was telling me the story he
she wake me up in the night and she said
wake up and she pray every night she
said every day we go to the passport
office to do the will they reject us so
she wake me up and she said look I was
reading in the night and I come across
this verse what is it
in whoever have worship Allah Allah will
give him an exit she wakes me up and she
let me read this and he pray with her he
said W next day when we went to the
passp office we went to the same exact
officer all of a sudden this General
called me and he said come here I see
you coming every day what do you guys
have here I said we know we have have
the passport we want to renew it he took
it he signed it in one hour we got the
passport with her picture with the hijab
and we left that's what does
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inshallah okay the the brother's asking
he says he needs some advice on how to
deal with his wife that you know she's a
great woman up until that time of the
month this called what PMS okay is that
can I say that yes is that prop okay you
know it's that time of the month and
then you know it becomes like somewhat
of a of a living hell it's very
difficult he needs some advice he needs
some advice what could he do should
leave the house should he run to uh you
know uh take a
vacation no no no uh first of all uh you
have to understand that woman go through
a lot of uh cycles and different of
emotions ups and downs especially during
her period uh basically a lot of
hormones things going on in her body you
know uh she might a little bit act
differently than normal what you need to
do you need to understand this and not
to be angry or frustrated with her and
to give her room you know to give a
little of her space I don't mean by that
to leave the house or anything but you
can easily asking her what she wants
don't to try to her at her maybe at that
time just communicate with her talk
about what she wants What She Likes what
how can I make this period of time
easier in you how can I be uh I need to
be maybe a little bit more sensitive in
what I say to my wife during this period
of time and that's what good husbands do
they they just ask their wife how I may
best love you and and be the best to you
and the prophet wasam said the best
among you to their family are the best
among you so uh I will advise you to
open a line of communication with your
wife about this issue now on this issue
when the woman is going through this is
she allowed what can she do to to temper
this like can she we know know she can't
pray all right so this is even more
difficult for her I mean could she read
the Quran could she make vick what can
she do to help him absolutely first of
all if she gets so nervous and angry the
prophet told us to
say oh Allah protect me from thean
that's one two she can make even if she
doesn't pray this will take the anger
away also the prophet said if you're so
angry sit down and and he said if you're
sitting and you're still angry just lay
down in another word just cut the
conversation don't involve in in
argument if you're so angry just cut it
off you know sit lay down just do
something else and also one more thing
that you basically if you're so angry
like this and it's something notmal you
start making Allah even while while you
have your menes or even reciting some of
the verses of the Quran and if it's
something out of control you might be a
a good idea for you to see a counselor
and to talk to talk to her about this is
is uh taking any prescription Xanax or
any of these things that calm a person
down is this allowed in Islam um this is
has to be through if the doctor said
it's not harmful and it's it's good for
her yeah it's allowed okay we're out of
time but any I mean we're really excited
that you know people are taking the time
they want to know they want to learn
they're saying that the rat race of life
is not giving them peace and contentment
but what's going to give him peace is
submitting to the one God the creator of
the heavens and earth doing Islam so
what advice do you have for those people
now that you know they they they really
want to change their lives they have so
many questions some people might have
some doubts how do they continue on this
this journey you know you always ask
yourself when you look around you and
you see everything existing in this
world it's for a purpose there's a
reason behind it there is a benefit
behind its existence so I think the
question that you have to ask yourself
what is the benefit of me being here
what's the purpose of being here
what I'm doing uh basically what's the
purpose of my existence in my life I'm
fulfilling this Destiny or not you know
I live in Texas okay and I have a
neighbor who had uh uh basically a a
hunting dog yes and he take this hunting
dog every uh weekend uh basically to to
out outdoor the moment EDD he put his
truck okay and taking the the the dog B
basically to the to this Farm or Ranch
this dog in the backyard jumping up and
down and so excited why because this dog
was not made to stay in the backyard of
somebody's house yeah this dog was made
to be running in the field in open area
so this dog so excited because he's
going to meet the destiny and the
purpose fulfill the purpose of his
creation you know what this is
exactly us if we don't meet the purpose
of our creation we just locked in that
in in a small place in my daily life and
my busy life I I'm not fulfilling what
I'm created for and the only time you
get that Rush that excitement that
happiness that basically feeling when
you start fulfilling the Destin your
destiny you're fulfilling the purpose of
your existence which is to worship Allah
subhana tala and to submit yourself to
him and that moment life will taste
different things will be look completely
different because at that moment you met
your destiny that
Allah have prepared for you great advice
great advice thank you once again sh for
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