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another episode of the dean show I'm Ed
your host and today we're going to get
some good advice you're a Muslim you
should be happy you've chosen to
consciously submit your entire self not
to a man not to anything in creation but
the creator of the heavens and earth the
one God the same God that Jesus peace be
upon Him worshiped the same God that
Abraham worshiped the same God that the
last and final messenger called the
people to worship Allah that's the
creator of the heavens and the Earth
there's no God besides him and you're a
Muslim you should be happy but now some
people are sad so we want to give some
some great advice so people can get to
be an optimistic of the beautiful
rewards of Jenna Paradise that are
waiting for those who have submitted
themselves and stay on this way all the
way until death we're going to be right
back with
Shake Basi to give us some advice on
being happy being happy right back on
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shik W Basi how are you sh very good
alhamdulillah excellent so uh I got a
chance to in some of the other shows
people know that you're the vice
president of elab in Institute and also
you're the IM of the Islamic CER Center
of Clear Lake yes yes so now you're
somebody who's qualified to talk about a
lot of these issues that we talk about
serious issues you know and and one of
them is because you know let's face it
you know sometimes I'm very excited to
do this show I'm very excited to sit
with people like yourself it gets me
going it gets me excited and you know
it's an Imam booster it's such a
blessing but there's also days in my
life that you know you get sad we're
human beings so we want to you know get
some advice and and there's some other
people out there who who you know they
accept this beautiful way of life and
you know they feel like maybe smiling a
lot is not good you know it's not good
for the soul maybe they they turn from
being a happy optimistic person person
being someone who's rigid and and
negative so you know we want some
encouragement and we want to know what
does Islam teach does it teach us to be
sad or to be happy okay uh first of all
I'm happy to be here alhamdulillah
alhamdulillah
um and I ask ask Allah to give you
success in your show and to always make
you and your family and your viewer
happy all the time amen uh let me start
by saying this this religion came to
establish certain goal we call them
ultimate goal of Shar of the sharw one
of this ultimate goal the sh I want to
establish in Earth is to make people
happy so that's one of the purpose of
revealing this book of sending the
messengers of Allah and basically all
this teaching one of the goal is to make
people happy not only in this worldly
life and also in the Hereafter as well
so happiness is one of the goals of
Islam one of the goals of Islam and it
encourage us to be happy and teach us
how to be happy how to overcome these
challenges in life these challenges in
life Allah told us that when he created
us Allah have put you together The
Scholar interpreted this word put you
together he said because you are certain
parts of your body been put together and
also certain emotions been put togethers
sometimes you are high sometimes you're
low sometimes you are happy sometimes
you make it sad sometimes nervous some
calm and all these been put together so
all the this psychological issues that
we go through and physical issue that we
we we also uh uh notice in our body the
changes all been put together and to
make that sophisticated creation which
is human being so Allah knows us more
than anybody else he's the one who
created us who has put us together made
us and also he told us that this life
will contain a lot of different
situations different challenges that
meet us
and he told us how to deal with it but
the point is that if you follow what he
teach if you follow the guidelines that
he gave you he guarantee you happiness
guarantee for this worldly life and the
Hereafter so not just the Hereafter but
this life this Allah subhana said those
who believe in me and will offer good
deeds and he said like this any male or
female usually he said any one but he
emphasized on all of humanities
regardless of their gender male or
female that they will believe they have
faith on me and they will offer Good
Deeds so he said I will let them live
good life happy life in this worldly
life then I will reward them uh in the
Hereafter with the greatest reward which
is Paradise so this verse telling us
that two reward won this worldly Life by
living a very very good happy life and
also in the Hereafter by entering
Paradise so the reward of the Good Deeds
of your submission to your Lord will
find it here the Tranquility the
serenity the happiness the the trust
that you have in your heart it will not
bring anything less than happiness to
your life now someone says you know what
look look look you know uh and they
quote this Hadith and they say the
prophet Sall wasallam said that this
life for the believer is like a prison
and a disbeliever is like his Jenna so
he goes he starts to have that prison
mentality he's rigid and rough and that
happiness is far from his mind is this
how we should interpret this that we got
to be like you know
unhappy uh first of all uh this Hadith
means it doesn't mean that this duny is
is like a prison it means that in this
Dy there is certain thing you are
prevented from doing it like when
somebody in prison he doesn't have
access to everything that he is aware of
so in this D there are certain things
I'm have no access to it like taking
your money I cannot take it I have no
access to it I've been preventing from
doing this stealing from you cheating
you I've been preventing as Muslim from
uh having an intercourse with just any
woman it has to be my wife you see so
that's what means present it means
you've been prevented from certain
things like the prisoner are prevented
from certain things while the cafer has
no rules of the people who don't follow
rules he make his own rules he's not a
prison it's not a prison he can do
whatever he wants he can break any law
that he wants you you that what this
Hadith means it never give that dark
image or look of this worldly life this
world Life is Beautiful the prophet Sall
wasallam said he pray and he supplicate
every day to his Lord by saying oh Allah
bless my ear bless my eyes bless my
strength so I can enjoy this life so I
can enjoy this life so this is part of
what we do as Muslim we really enjoy and
maximize our benefit from this life from
this life tell us for somebody just is
just coming over and there we know it's
a fact that uh Islam is the fastest
growing way of life in the world today
you know even more women are coming than
men you know correct me if I'm wrong uh
this is what we're seeing from the
statistics so many people are coming
from living life according to just
fulfilling their desires just anything
is like open to them now they come into
Islam and naturally Islam has some
restrictions okay if you want to be with
a woman or woman want to be with a man
you got to be married and you can't
drink alcohol and so many other things
that are harmful for you Islam cut it
off there's so much wisdom behind it but
some people because they're so used to
just doing things their own way
fulfilling their desires but now Islam
says hold on you got to stop here some
people might they they I see they they
fall into this depression for a little
bit how do they break out of this so
they can really be
happy uh first of all it's statistically
speaking very interesting to know that
uh there is uh women are more likely to
be unhappy than men they go through
depression than men more women than men
yeah there's one more unhappy than men
yeah um and is is is interesting uh
since you're talking more women coming
to Islam because I I believe Islam will
provide happiness Tranquility Serenity
security but uh why people feel happy
when they enter Islam
I don't feel I don't believe that
fulfilling ear your desire is going to
make you happy actually what's so
beautiful about the this religion it's
free you from being slave to anything
but Allah but his creat but your creator
you're not slave to your desire you're
not enslaved by the Shan you're not
slave of yourself you're not slave of
the money that you go after that's why
the prophet
said
he said the one who take the money as
his God he will live in misery he will
never be happy and the one who will take
business as his God he will never be
happy why because the moment you worship
the money you worship the one who owns
the money who control the money and and
so forth but when the moment you submit
yourself to Allah you only slave to him
you only control by him nobody else
control your life except him and that
the ultimate Freedom actually that the
ultimate fre and that's one of the
reason you feel happy you know I'm not
entitled to anyone in the world except
my Creator except the Creator let's take
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we're talking about being happy how we
can get from being depressed and sad to
something Islam encourages one to be
happy so these are would you say people
confuse the two with fun somewh you
might perceive as fun you know going
drinking and clubbing and all these
things which actually at the end have
some really negative side effects and
that leads to depression where Islam
prohibits these things because this is
for the betterment of society and and
and not confusing the two where true
happiness comes from what you said being
a slave not to these things but slave to
the one who created everything you know
uh there is uh about 16,000 people were
asked this question so identify
happiness yeah and people identify
Happiness by saying it is by uh
happiness in in wealth married uh Health
good health
uh basically having a lot of money
traveling and things like this and I I
believe all having fun you know whatever
it is I think these tools to happiness
MH this is not happiness happiness is
not in money there's a lot of people
have money and they're not happy a lot
of people drink they're not happy
actually they drink because they're not
happy and after drinking they will be
more sad more depressed but after using
drugs people go extremely low even for a
moment they drug themselves they receive
them themselves that's not happiness
happiness it is when you are content and
when inner soul your soul from inside
content and your soul is basically in
rest in peace and Tranquility when there
is Serenity inside your your heart and
this is you will not find it until you
find until your soul find its way to God
find its way to the creator of this
Soul uh basically it it's one of the
thing that Islam teach us about
happiness which is I I thought it it is
very unique Islam always asked us to uh
be positive in the way we think we have
a positive mental attitude towards
everything we always looks positive to
the future we look positive to our Lord
anything decreed upon us anything he
legislate for us we look at it as a
positive way the prophet sallam was the
most positive
person he was an optimistic and love
optimism which is one of the thing that
makes you really happy that you always
be positive
about basically H everything around you
everything happening to you you don't
look at it in a negative way it's the
end of of the word or you know what
that's that's that's it no you always
see opportunities in your difficulties
and that would set you apart from
pessimist people who always see
difficulties in their
opportunities uh so if if you look for
example the prophet sallallahu alaih Al
wasallam told us to build that optimism
in us he said uh whenever you pray to
Lord you always ask for the highest
things you don't even ask for the low
thing you ask for the highest level of
paradise when you ask Allah anything in
life you always know that he will answer
it to you sometimes by giving it to you
sometimes by giving breaks giving you
breaks in life things that might harm
you in future and Allah will prevent
H H from happening giving you a lot of
breaks in your life and sometimes he
keep it as a form of reward for you in
the here after so I know for sure that
whatever I prayed for is something been
answered also you say the prophet s said
when you pray to him don't say oh
forgive me if you wish no say forgive me
when you pray Your Heart full of trust
that there is out there a God and a lord
he listening and he will give me
basically what I want you you live if
you want to be happy you always see the
light in front of you there is um
experiment done in a
lab in two rats one of them was in a in
a basically Container full of water and
it's dark in 30 minutes this rat sinked
died wow okay they put the same exact
rat similar to it in the same exact
environment the only different there
were light on one of the side of this
container you know that right continues
swimming for how long 36 hours 36 hours
swim versus 30 minutes that he sink in
30 minutes because there's no hope no
light he give up that one basically 700
times more than the previous one 36
hours swimming why because he see the
light and this is human being when you
see the light when you see Allah tala uh
even if you don't physically but you see
him through his message through his what
he giving to what he gave to us you see
the the path that have chosen for us you
will have that strength to continue to
keep going not to give up not it's not
about the time to give it it's about to
push it's about to go farther it's about
to H not even to survive it put you in a
mood of strife to strive for the best
and to aim for the best for yourself and
that's what really make you happy now
someone says look look shake you know
that sounds good it's all sounds good
but you know what you know I just lost
my son I have uh you know my my my
father who's got cancer and I got to
deal with this every day you know that
person sounds like giving up oh it's not
happening to you why is it happening to
me and they really getting depressed
they say you're not in my shoes until
you walk in my shoes then talk what what
would you say to this person I'll tell
you I know that you are there's so many
people out there they have a lot of
problems in life I know that but as I
know there's so many problems out there
I know also there are so many solutions
out there the prophet said Allah never
sent in this earth that disease unless
there is a cure for it some people will
find it and some people wouldn't so what
I'm saying
here which is a great Muslim scholar
said that these diseases are not the
physical dis only even psychological
diseases economical problems there's
solutions for it it's your role to
search for it it's R you R to figure out
the wisdom behind it you know yes the
prophet sallam in his time a man came he
used to come to the message new Muslim
and the prophet missed him then he said
where is so and so he said he's
depressed at home his son passed away he
was in status of depression he is home
he didn't come to the Masid anymore the
prophet went and visited him and the
it's authentic the prophet told this man
if you wish I'll pray to my Lord and
Allah will resurrect the son to you
right now and you enjoy his company
until you die or you will be patient and
this son will be waiting for you in the
day of judgment will take your hand to
enter from any gate of the parad of the
gates the eight Gates of paradise that
you wish from any Gates you can enter he
will lead you into it yes it seems to be
very sad that he died but you know what
what is waiting for him in the Hereafter
is way greater than just having this boy
or this having this sometimes yes you
didn't get that phone call for the job
that you were praying for it maybe you
didn't get that woman that you were or
that man that you prayed for so many
times to have her or him as your spouse
maybe you never got that opportunity
that you've been seeking but you know
what Allah subhana T did not give it to
you for any reason but because he know
that's not the best for you you
sometimes we want God to act a uh
according to our timeline but he act
according to his timeline according to
to his wisdom according to what he sees
the best for us and that what Islam make
us see Allah in this way in this
positive attitude and that what keep us
going and going and going and I know for
sure that in the end of the days that it
will be the best for me uh tell us and
again I I got this from listening to one
of your your lectures and you had talked
about a brother that you knew who
something happened to him and he was
stuck in a hospital he was always so
busy but then at this moment are you
recalling the story that he sat in the
hospital and at that time he made the
best out of his time and he memorized
the Quran can you share this story with
us yes so many times so many times the
the the difficult moment that it goes in
our life it can turn to be the best
things ever happened to our life I I I
know a brother uh who had uh the
influenza the virus but it strike his
his spine uh basically and he he was
literally came move and this one of the
people who who always you will see him
everywhere he picked somebody from the
airport he tried to help this family he
always Mah in the
mood in in actions so to see that
person's paralyzed is very hard and one
of my friend when he went to visit him
and he said that I the moment I walk
into the house uh into his basically
room in the hospital with a big smile in
his face he said you know what
alhamdulillah now I have time to sit and
to be I will be able to memorize the
Quran I will be able to memorize the and
he was able to do that in 2 three years
I think down on the road he was able to
walk alhamdulillah through Physical
Therapy he was able to walk you know
liming a little bit but he he regained
his strength yes at that moment you
think it's the worst thing happened to
you but you don't know uh Allah let you
go through hard time because he want to
prepare you you know what's the
difference between the black diamond and
charcoal what's that sh it's they are
all from the same organ the only
different that the Black Diamond the
most expensive rock in the face of the
Earth versus that cheap charcoal that
this one has the ability to pair
pressure mhm and this one doesn't those
who have the ability to pair the
pressure go through this difficult time
with patient with sa they will come out
of it like this diamond very valuable in
Allah's eyes the are the true wi winners
amazing amazing we'll be back with more
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on the outside everything looks good you
see the $100,000 cards you see a lot of
diamonds you see a lot of females and
they think that this is you know this is
the life this is this is like you know
Paradise right here on
Earth it's not anyone's job to go into
someone's heart and change their heart
your job is to tell people what the
truth is and the reality of it is while
we're sitting here while I'm sitting
here constantly paying for the disease
The Cure was
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alone I am not afraid to stand alone if
a lies B I am not afraid to stand
alone I am not afraid to stand alone if
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back here on the dean show with Dr shik
W buoni and no matter what happens you
don't ever want to give up absolutely
whenever you feel it's the time to throw
it to towel you know this the time to
keep in the ring and you the the time to
keep going and to push for farther this
is the time you stay this is the time
you dig your heel in not the time to
quit so what can a person do when when
you feel like it just getting
overbearing overwhelming and you feel
like a test is put put on you that you
know like Allah uh the God Almighty the
Creator is saying like you feel like
that that that verse where he says you
know they were tested so hard they felt
like when is the help of Allah going to
come when you're feeling like that what
do you do the moment you see that the
moment you remember that Allah is
watching me seeing me hearing me and
Allah planning for me the best and I
start acting upon what I know is the
right thing you know I have we have to
learn how to move on in our life don't
ever stuck in a in a situation or in a
time uh of difficulty and you think
that's the end of it no go ahead and
explore other areas in life maybe did a
work out in this area maybe you need
it's a time to discover something else
maybe it's the time to move on to maybe
a new place new job a new person a new
environment just move on in your life
with trust in Allah subhana tala you
know smile at at the at basically the
word word will smile back to you you
know but instead of talking about if not
talking about your problem all the time
talk at your problem try to solve it
find new Solutions maybe Allah want to
direct you to find a new solutions to
the problem that you are going through
or the difficulty that you are have you
have right now uh so you you mentioned
smiling so this is something where some
people they you know feel like okay I'm
religious and I got to be rigid and no
smile you're saying smile yes the
prophet s wasallam uh one of his several
of his companions they said every time
we meet the prophet wasam and we see him
he smileing has big beautiful smile in
his face this is the the prophet sallam
how he always looked like he used to
smile more than anybody else he used to
joke with his companions and smile very
happy person very friendly uh uh person
sallallahu alai wasallam unfortunately
as you said some people for some reason
they're not very smiley faces I always
tell the people some people maybe feel
they lost their smile I have a good news
for you your smile didn't go didn't go
anywhere it's right under your nose it's
right under your nose just smile and and
see how this is will change you the
prophet sallam said smile is a form of
Charity a form of Charity it's make you
get agile every time you smile to
someone it doesn't matter what that
person's uh ethnicity is he's related to
me or not it's religion just smiling
it's a beautiful thing and it's not
going to make other people's happy only
it's going to make you also happy couple
more points just tell us this I feel is
very important Shay you know dwelling
too much into the past I should have did
this I could have did that or worrying
so much about the future you know oh if
this happens to me if I don't do you
know just dwelling too much in the past
going too much and worrying yourself out
about the future does this contribute to
you being miserable should you avoid
these things how should you balance this
out absolutely let me tell you worrying
uh uh worrying a lot or so much about
the future it will never empty the
future from its worry or its sorrow it
will only empty your today from its
strength that's only what going to
happen to you you know what as a Muslim
our main focus on now what I can do
today it's not about the past if I did
something in the past I learned from it
and the future it's in the hand of Allah
you know what it is now today what I can
do now to make myself happy what I can
do to make the people around me happy
what can I do to make the the
environment and the people and the
community that are living in better
place for me and for them and for our
children it is about now what you should
do I'm as for worrying about the future
you know what you don't know how long
you're going to live you just enjoy your
your life today by asking Allah subhana
T to bless you and to help you to
worship him to be close closer to him
and to to basically fulfill your day
with what will make you happy and your
family as well and and that seems like
busy doing good because idle time it
seems like if you if you're getting
bored you're going to find it's going to
leave room for shaan to to get into your
head so these things that you mentioned
is is keeping yourself doing good things
keeping yourself uh doing things
contributing contributing to society you
know Allah subh give us a lot of gifts
yeah and these talents that we have it's
Allah's gifts to us but what we do with
it it's our gifts back to Allah yeah so
it is really about how you going to use
all these gifts that Allah giving to you
and and that's why you have to keep
yourself busy doing and using these
things that Allah have given you in in
the in the right way thank you once
again for being with us may God Almighty
Allah reward you thank you and some more
great advice the opposite of sad is to
be happy and you gave you some great
great advice on how to be happy because
this is what Islam encourag enes us
don't be sad be happy and continue to
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we'll see you next time inshallah God
willing until then peace be unto you