Satan really was clever he is The Great
Deceiver he is he's very clever what a
genius thing to make it ridiculous to
believe in him the greatest trick the
devil ever pulled was convincing the
world he didn't exist now before we open
up this topic on Satan for us for
thousands of years people around the
world have believed in the existence of
Satan an entity that is thought to be
the embodiment
a pure evil I want you to understand
this word satanic is connected to
Satanism which is connected to Satan
shaan which we'll be discussing
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here assalam alaykum no stranger to the
dean sheala currently the director of
human concern International formerly the
director of isna correct in Canada
that's correct like I said no stranger
to the dean show how you been welcome
back no complaints always nice to be
back and thank you for having me thank
you for accepting the invitation now if
me and you were opening up talking about
Satan's you know Satanism people like
okay with a genius thing to make it so
that even saying you're you've
communicate with Satan or saying you
sound like a loon you sound like a loon
there's a lot to unpackage here he was
talking so he started off with Satanism
and this is connected to obviously
Shayan and he's talking about a guy who
was studying the religious symbols but
and then he connected this um these
patterns nobody was deciphering them
until this guy came along he didn't
mention the person who started to
decipher these patterns and lo and
behold he deciphered that you have this
satanic uh cross you have this Freemason
map on there this ancient and then the
term ancient Greek Egyptian you're
actually
and there's a lot of uh stuff from the
past mixing with magic and all that what
do you got to say what do you think but
at the end of the day we don't know if
this is true or not look at your M
closely there's a gap right here in the
letter M it's never connected so you go
into Hebrew the letter VAV is also the
number six short top long tail short top
long tail you could have here in Hebrew
666 on the can but my interest is the
word monster what do you see in the
O there's a cross okay what has Christ
got to do with an energy drink let alone
the name Monster so I thought well maybe
this is a Christian company then BFC at
the bottom of the can do you know what
that stands
for that's the f word big
can in fact they you write it on the
side of the can so I know that's the f
word okay now do you know what a mil is
yes that's on the box mils dig it and
you will too this is not a Christian
company at all so why would they have
put a cross on the can here is the
message
Antichrist 666 and Hebrew but it's a
nice way to open up the the topic of the
devil Shayan and really let people know
you know who the devil is the you know
the the enemy of mankind and hopefully
they can how to protect themselves of
course uh now you
know ask the people knowledge if you
don't know defines who thean is you know
he calls him the one that deception the
one that deceives
you he's your staunched enemy clear
manifest so he so take him as an enemy
as he takes you as an enemy so they
called a few things the one that even
uh but I want to clarify that you know
this is who he is and this is who is not
he not is not the Fallen Angel so a lot
of people think that the that this is
the Fallen Angel which is obviously not
true because uh the the angel are made
of light and Shan is made of fire so
definitely uh not there and then also
Angels do not disobey the command of
Allah and Shan did so that's obviously
not a
match Allah puts to bed in in he was
among the Jin the J that you cannot see
Jan like J J all of that that has to do
with the Jin that you cannot see it's
unseen so he was among the Jin that you
know came out the seeds but
Islam he disobeyed the command of Allah
and after that I will tell you one thing
just as an FYI do you believe it there's
people that are actually worse than Shan
I'm just saying if you're interested to
know who's worse thanan stay tuned inah
you know who they are tell us tell us oh
my God okay so people who are worse than
the devil worse than Shan but can devil
the devil can be the Unseen the gin and
humankind yes there are two types of
Shan
sh of the in when you can see you can
see you cannot see andan translates to
what the disob what is it the Shan
actually is is sh is like the
disobedient the one that came out of the
The Obedience of and so on so the
rejected the Cur the accursed all of
these are labels of of Shan no need for
introduction but what we also need to
know that Scholars say the worst which
onean ins Oran Jin they
say you know the the the the the human
Shan is worse than the Jin Shan why
because when the Jinan comes all you
have to say
I seek protection Allah and Satan the
rejected he he becomes he belittled he
goes away yeah scared but if if the
human being in front of you he's a he's
a a Shan of the ins of the human being
you say he's still there wow yeah but
let me just finish this circle inshallah
who is worse than
Shan the scholars say the one that is
worse than Shan is the one that doesn't
pray just a reminder for brother and
sister inah if you haven't prayed yet
well it's time never never despair of
Allah's Mercy because Allah forgives all
sins and comes back except shik of
course before you die and then uh you
come back Allah will turn all the good
deed bad deeds into EV good deeds and
turn you from the the bad places to good
places Bad Company Right company so on
so the one that is worse than Shan is
actually the one that that doesn't pray
why because
which means Shan Satan the rejected was
commanded to bow down to Adam and he
refused bow down in respect of course
not in in worship by the command of
Allah but the children of Adam us were
commanded to down down to bow down to
Allah our creator but we refused which
one do you think is worse the one that
was commanded to bow down to Shan to
Adam that he refused or the one that was
commanded to bow down to Allah and
refused so it's just a reminder for
brother and sisters yeah for those who
don't want to be worse than Jan I think
it's time to pray before you prayed upon
they should move you to really look for
a higher like if there's a devil
obviously there's a Creator and now
there must be a purpose because the
Creator is the most wise you didn't just
create all this for any foolish purpose
right there has to be a just like Elon
Musk he creates the car Tesla and
imagine if there was no instruction man
how to use it that would make no sense
what about us going deeper now going
deeper into when you and there's a a
saying that um the greatest I don't know
if you've heard of this the greatest
trick that the devil played on mankind
is to convince people he doesn't exist
so others of course yeah so but people
are talking about they're fascinated
with this but then was the action behind
when you really to see that if he exists
which he does he's there he's he's
working to deceive you from living your
true purpose worshiping your Creator and
everything that comes from there but
then they just stop there what why do
you think this is well Allah say do not
be deceived about the deceiving one and
of course he's the one that like I mean
if he doesn't exist I don't know what to
to tell you because he runs in your
veins that means as long as you're alive
and there are tricks plenty of tricks
that he pray he plays and of course
we'll talk about the tricks we'll talk
about how to counter it and how to
recognize it and what you have to do to
protect yourself inah throughout the
episode but uh he does indeed exist
because God Almighty mentioned it's in
the in the Quran we believe in it you
know we pray said that he does exist
even
abdah
Inari again that he he came three nights
in the road tried to uh take away the
the the alms and the the B musl and all
of that of the so he caught him and he
says you know what I I have the children
let me go three times and he came back
on the third night he says that's it I'm
not going to let you go this time
because Prophet says what happened to
you your guest in the
evening he said he didn't he's lying
he's coming back he say he's not coming
back he come back then now third time he
says okay I'm not going to let you go so
it says I'm let me go and I will tell
you something that is very beneficial
for you he says before you go to sleep
say and then Shan will never touch you
till the morning so Prophet says what
happened he told them what the Shan told
him he says
he told you the truth even though he's a
habitual liar so we learned something
now that before you go to sleep uh you
make sure that you recite and obviously
make and all of these and I want you to
bad Muslim Muslim it's a free app we
have free stuff so please make sure that
you you learn about it and I'll finish
with a joke it's a it's like a man that
wanted to um his wife with with with
your permission yes please go ahead um
just to like Shan is heavy like so we
need to like lighten the Lord a little
bit so a man that was asked by his wife
U honey do you see me in in in uh in
your dreams he goes no no I actually
don't see you honey in my dreams he goes
why not goes I I recite before I go to
sleep don't do that don't know that's
not a good idea I mean this is a very
heavy serious topic and I I was there's
there's a few things uh one of them
before I get to my next question I was
just thinking like imagine like this is
amazing to see Prophet Muhammad last F
mus sent to mankind peace be upon him is
that we have the ultimate Miracles the
Quran tamper free tamper proof a living
Miracle anyone wants to put it to the
test is there if you're sincere it'll
guide you to to guidance of course um if
you're sincere because you do have a lot
of people who you know are not sincere
and what happens it takes them to the
place they want to go right exactly now
if a person's sincere they look at the
Quran that's one thing then you look at
prophet Muhammad's life you know he did
Miracles there prophecies there's just
so much thing documented it's not things
that you have chain and narrations of
hundreds of people witnessing things
Miracles but then you have this also you
have how where does a person have the
the time the ability to come up you have
so much the and the the the
supplications that are there in Islam
like no other way of life no other
religion that just blows my mind all of
these things you know describing you
know uh the shaitan if you don't when
you come in the house if you don't say
bismah he's got a place to stay uh
before why is he you know if you don't
say bismah in the name of God Allah
before you eat he's got food to eat you
know these details it's like just
amazing alhamdulillah that's why Islam
is a comprehensive religion it's a way
of life it's not a fad or something you
wear on a Friday or Saturday or Sunday
and you take off it is as every aspect
in your life Islam is telling you what
to do what not to do for your own
benefit it is true even when you eat
like you said you know when you when you
actually take off your clothes when
you're you say so he doesn't see you
unclothed when you wear something you
say
all even when you have intimate
relations with your
spouse all of that stuff and when you go
to the bathroom oh Allah protect from
protect our children Froman and that's
the first rights when you go to the
bathroom you
say male and female so every aspect of
your life you can actually see that
Allah is trying to tell you protect
yourself Froman by and that's why he
says so those who remember he didn't say
the one that is what this is
intellectual individual that has an
amazing mind that those just say a human
being smart person that remembers Allah
because Shan will stay away from you and
Allah will remember you in if you
remember him in yourself he remember in
yourself remember in in public Allah
will remember you in better public
meaning to the engin you have these
secret societies these Cults so now if
we look at it if we we were like people
wanted to get our message
the you have the Shah on some of the the
coins of the past is that correct
correct right the there's no deity where
they worship except the one God
Allah so you want to push your message
out so what you these secret society the
Masons which he's mentioning you know
can this be people in these positions
that now they're pushing their agenda
subliminally you know subtly just
pushing this out and uh what are your
what are you of course these are the
soldiers of Shan because soldiers of of
course they work on his behalf these are
the arrows thatan uses so we have to be
clever and also be aware of what it
is which means I want to know evil not
because I want to know evil because I
want to know evil so I can stay away
from Evil so we have to also know the
tricks
ofan talks about seven so he number one
is exactly what you mentioned number one
on Shan's list is to
commit become you don't believe in Allah
or ascribe Partners onto Allah number
one on his list because if he cannot
tell you to do that then he goes down to
number two which is B an innovation and
some of the scholars said actually it's
worse than uh the other one because a
you will think you're doing something
right so you will never repent from that
but you know this is something that is
huge because you think you're doing
right but you're not and you haven't
followed the Quran and Sunnah you're
doing something at disobedient and you
will actually tell people to do it that
is wrong and and you get offended if
people do not follow the B Innovation
amazing so this is number one on his
list number three he talks about major
sins about you know you when you can you
lie and you steal and you commit
adultery and all of these things major
sins if he can get you to do that he
will go down the notch it will go to
minor sins you know not the the big not
the big guns but you know what a lot of
Lem you know the minor s looking here
doing that talk about this all of these
things if he cannot do that he will step
one down you'll go to the
mub mubah is what's permissible he tell
you know what this is allowed this
allowed so you waste your time doing
something absolutely no benefit
whatsoever you know watching uh you know
uh India playing Pakistan zindabad you
know because
a whatever it is so that's exactly what
it you'll be wasting your life away
wasting time which is precious because
Allah takes an oath by time so he's
actually taking away your Capital so he
makes you waste time what are you doing
sh what are you doing man I'm killing
some time you're actually killing
yourself so if you cannot do that yeah
of course so repat that repeat that
again yeah so the the one about you know
what are you doing yeah I'm killing some
time you're literally killing yourself
because you are mere number you are mere
a Breath You Take a pulse that you know
that comes in a blink of an eye these
are days numbered so remember so the
heavens and the Earth and the Sun and
the rise it's like your clock every time
the sun rise and sets sets you closer to
the grave and that's why Allah says
Ponder and reflect about theat otherwise
you haven't really thought about it so
when you go to to sleep as if you're
going to coffin when you control the
room temperature you you're controlling
the your your temperature of your grave
so you have to think about it in these
aspects even some of the righteous used
to actually have a grave and they would
go inside and
says take me back and they would and
alhamdulillah I give back so I go back
three times says be conscious of Allah
one day he says you will hear nay so
these are the things that he was trying
to to get you out then he steps the way
down a bit number six he goes okay well
something that is uh lesser a benefit
for example you
know time when you say allahar means
allahar God is greater so I'm not going
to watch that movie I'm not going to
watch that game because I'm literally
saying Allah is not abbar God is Not
greater this movie is Akbar this match
is Akbar yeah so he's going to tell you
oh he'll tell you the oh
sayh read Quran isn't I don't
say one is letter one letter 30 he'll
remind you of all good things to leave
you for something that is beneficial
more timely don't pray on time no let's
do this so this is something if he
doesn't get the sixth he goes to the
seventh which is if you're in a path of
Da inviting other to the path of Allah
you're righteous you enjoying good and
you forbid evil and all of that stuff he
will get people to nail you he will I'm
not going to mention those type of
people because they're known all their
job is to make sure that they point the
fingers and fish for Falls for
and the scholars and the people that do
da and everything else so they leave
everybody they leave the Christians
leave the Jews they leave The Atheist
they leave the agnostic they only nail
the scholars
of and that's the trick of Shan they say
you know I'm the only one that's right
everybody is wrong so nail that one so
you will get harmed by their hand by
their tongue by the social media so you
have to stick this says this path is not
easy this path of Da is not easy so we
have to also understand all these seven
tricks and recognize them before it's
too late uh we know the uh family this
is the core of society you also do
you've been doing you know for years I
mean over probably couple decades or
more right marriage counseling and you
know the authentic Hadith with the shaan
the devil the satanic forces go out and
you have the main devil Shayan elbl and
he sends his armies out and then they
come back say what you do what you do
what' you do and then he's okay that's
kid stuff then the one says I broke up
husband from his wife he gives him Crown
can you elaborate on that of course and
what have you seen um has it been going
up the destruction of the home the
family what's the cause and what can we
do to uh what advice do you give with
all your years of experience of course I
mean uh over 35 years doing this
alhamdulillah Allah blessed me that you
know I taught some courses I wrote books
by the blessing of Allah and I done
counseling I don't do counseling anymore
just
saying I'm retiring from counseling so
please don't call me okay so what what
the it's a triangle were you left
scarred from that uh it it drains you
after 35 years because I was told by the
doctor to stop doing counseling for the
simple reason yeah he said I'm an
emotional guy so what I do is I absorb
people problems then live them so he
says you have to stop because I actually
go home and to be honest I used to cry
because how could a Muslim brother do
that to a Muslim sister How could a
Muslim that sister treat her husb Muslim
brother like that I used to take it
personally and obviously he cannot do
that but of course uh just a triangle
Theory okay guys just think about it uh
your your husband is here the wife is
here Allah above all of course so what I
tell the the the the triangle Theory
from our Scholars may Allah bless them
for teaching us the closer you are to
Allah the closer you are to each other
the further away from Allah the further
away from each other so all you have to
remember when you take the oath my
brother when you take that
oath you know they've taken the strange
an oath from you and the oath is
hold on to her in the best way possible
if things don't work out even if she
wrongs you you still have to be good to
her I know it's a bad deal man but
that's the deal so let's seal the deal
now he says hold on to her in the best
way possible and if she wrongs you you
still have to be good because the wordan
is there is being good to those who are
about to you not good to those are good
to you so number one is being away from
Allah so away from the Quran and Sunnah
also understand that we listen so much
to the other side and say you know what
oh we we let Shan come in exactly what
he says and from a minor thing would
blure and that's why Prophet says when
comes say three times and that's the
time is been uh the study shows that you
need to calm down not to make the
decision on a on a whim not a need J
action and he says change your position
if you're standing sit down why because
when you're standing you worthy to fight
when you sit down you still have a
little more and if you're sitting down
lie down even even more if you lay down
you know just sleep and and and so he's
trying to tell you if make make why
because water will put out the fire pray
so and say spit three three times dry
air on your left but make sure your wife
is not there just
saying and do what used to
do when Prophet
Muhammad
said if sees you in one path he will
take the other side he asked him why he
says this is the trick the trick that
used to do so he said that Omar every
timean asks him to do something he
recognizes The Whispers ofan he does the
exact opposite so Shan says that's a bad
deal man every time I want to do
something bad he does something good so
I'm going to leave him alone so you have
to think wants you to go to sleep don't
come wake up for okay you say you know
what if I don't wake up for I'm going to
do he's going to wake you up for so make
sure that you understand and never
despair of Allah's mercy so the scholar
say look with the eyes that you looked
at something bad look at the Quran with
the hand that you've done something bad
give a Sak with the feet you went to
bars use the same feet go to the mass so
in the places you disobey Allah you go
back to do the righteous Deeds you see
this is how you beat Shan and he
won't he power he's powerless when when
you have again there's a list of things
that we can talk about number one
is Allah says you know I can't touch
them Can't Touch This
when when you have sincerity with the
sake of Allah he cannot touch you this
is uh one of the greatest greatest
things that he can do and how important
it is to to um keep the families
together did you see in in your 35 years
did you have much success in that in
helping uh couples you know to reconcile
or was just a tidal wave you know the
push just so a tsunami that it was just
uh overwhelming and and what what um
what what do you see another complaint
by some people is that we see again you
know the dean is balanced the man has to
be kind patient with his wife he's the
provider of the maintainer uh but then
we have this fush the modern day
feminism right and then it seems like
some complain that some imams they'll
talk and bring up certain Hadith or
certain things that kind of cater to
this and this is doing a disservice have
you have you heard this of course yeah
but but reality check okay guys Islam
gave women uh over 14 rights over, 1400
years ago to talk about it online I'm
not going to go there up until now women
don't get the same paid as as as as men
right here in the US so don't tell me
about the human right they had to fight
to to get rights they had to fight to
Islam gave them rights 14 over 14400
years ago so when the sister said I want
to be equal I go my dear sister you
don't understand God Almighty raises
woman three times higher than men as a
mother and a father why do you want to
come down to us and that's why I tell
the sisters don't compete with your
husband just complete your husband don't
compete complete exactly very nice and
that's it's not a competition leave that
uh you know that the scoreboard out
everybody has a you know a place in
society everybody has a rules and roles
to play and that's when you when you
start the competition you go well that's
what Shan starts to whisper you said
this well I'll see you outside because
you know what blah blah blah you said if
you're a man divorce me I'm a man I'm a
man who the man you the man but if
you're the man proph
says the strong man is the
one when you control your anger at the
time of Rage when you're at the time see
that's so that's why I tell Brothers you
the man so if your wife tells you like
this turn around walk away yes turn walk
away is right there there thean that's
his job his job is to make sure to break
you he says I stayed with him till he
divorced his wife so obviously sisters
if your husband is angry let him go if
your and the Prophet this is when
Prophet was asked AA was not angry with
him he was not angry with AA they asked
him why he says when I get angry she
calms me down she doesn't add fuel to
the fire when I when when she's angry I
calm her
down before he got married his his wife
says and I don't know you you don't know
me can I say a few things says yes he
says I don't know you you don't know me
can you please tell me what you like so
I will do and and you I'll tell you what
I like you will do simple formula but
right now we have all these things that
we're fighting and finding and and you
do this I do that if you don't do this I
it's not that I tell the brothers and
sisters please do things for the sake of
Allah don't do anything for anybody you
see when you do it for the sake of Allah
you you accept and expect the reward
from Allah not from a human being so do
it because Allah commanded you and I
want to please Allah yes and if you
leave something for the sake of Allah
Allah Grant you something better W I
tried it when I had an argument with my
wife you know I'm just saying she's from
was and she's like a serious
M so I said W I'm going to I'm not going
to argue I'm going to leave this for
your sake w w a few seconds she came
back and apologize and leave it for the
sake of Allah don't add fuel to the fire
turn around take the high road why do
you think Prophet Muhammad says the best
of men the best his wife why because
your wife knows whether you do or not
not your wife knows whether you
pray or not your wife knows whether you
betray or fulfill the promise your wife
knows whether you're generous Riser your
wife knows what you you tell the truth
or you lie your wife your wife your wife
knows so that's why Islam says has fruit
the the of the acts of worship is your
your character so you can't come in the
M act like and go home when you're alone
with your wife you act
like and that's why he said cut to the
Chase he says the best of men the best
is wife because of the and he gave you a
reward he says the most beloved to my
heart close me here after the best of
character so your wife has the key
keeper she they has the key if you want
to be with him yes
it's a big course and he turned the
table on women you're not
off when our Prophet said you know asked
the woman if you are you married she
said yes he didn't say do you pray do
you fast he one question put his eggs in
one basket like he did with men turn a
table he says how are you to your
husband says I do my best says good
because he is your heaven and he is your
hell so Allah told us the winners
are if you protect yourself from the
Hell Fire granted permission to enter
the paradise that's the ultimate Triumph
and winning that's why you are each
other's measuring stick so why don't we
work to say you know what when I got
married Allah I said listen are you
ready to go to Jenna going to put your
hand in my hand let's go to Jenna you're
not going to hear me say I said you will
hear me
say this is this is among so many
secrets that you can do in you know the
AY in the Quran ver word of God Almighty
the Quran this is for us to live by and
there's a verse in there Allah the
almighty The Majestic the Supreme the
creator of the universe is saying if you
differ in anything anything turn back to
Allah and his messenger have you seen
your 35 years that either one party or
both parties and if both parties would
adhere to this would this solve most of
the problems but do but do you see when
someone brings this up sometimes people
like have you witnessed this yes of
course even the scholars
say that's what the says if you differ
upon anything take it back to Allah and
his messenger Quan andah and the scholar
say even if you differ things you you
follow a different method for example
okay uh your your husband is a Hani or
Maliki whatever it is right so when you
differ upon something The Scholar say go
with the opinion of your
husband so keep the peace as long as
he's right I mean we're not going to
differ if there's both they have proof
and they're valid you know prove that
they're they're authentic the scholars
accept so even then to keep the peace at
home go with the opinion of your husband
even though that May differ with your
opinion just to keep the peace as a
matter of fact Islam in Muslim you're
allowed you're allowed to lie but I have
to justify that okay don't take that as
a green light God you're allowed to like
your spouse you know to to keep the
peace it's not like you but not lying
about something like okay uh does this
dress make me look fat for example you
look amazing the best since I got
married that's the context behind it
yeah yeah so you know your food is so
good honey could you please keep it a
secret uh you know I I love my
mother-in-law all these things you're
receiving her line make you look
intellectual you know that briani belly
makes you a great place for my coffee
mug things like that you're allowed just
to keep the peace and that's where we
drop the ball we uh look for the
scoreboard you did I did this and that's
why I tell brothers and sisters
look understand the oath you've taken
when you told her father I accept
marrying your daughter you know what
that means you become an author the book
you sign
the story you wrote with your wife will
be read by your own daughter and I
promise you somebody will come and treat
your daughter like you treated somebody
else's daughter so before you say
anything to your wife or do anything to
your wife ask yourself a simple question
would I accept anyone to treat my own
daughter the same way I'm treating and
remember your wife will come to you one
day and say honey I have some good news
the doctor told me pregnant you
prostrate to thank Allah for the gift
he's giving you can't hardly wait you
start thinking will I be a good father
put good writer good role model the day
comes you'll never forget the day I
never forgotten the day and you know you
this is the day that you called Aba
father you'll never forget the day she
calls you AB or smiled on your face made
you forget the misery of the world raise
her hand if you care she'll own your
heart now you won't forget the day that
she ate solid food for the first time or
walked her own feet for the first time
walked away to go to school somebody
walked up in your
door
Uncle can I have this beautiful flower
that bloomed in your heart do you
imagine she and that's why the oath is
stringent and that's why Allah
used comes from his name comes it's
telling you this is a Divine combination
this ma is if you think in 50 years you
stand just looking at your wife watching
the sunset sitting on the swing holding
her hand said nothing but you feel happy
but after you've seen her with no makeup
on and all of that stuff still hold on
and if it's not there you have to have
mercy upon one another and our Prophet
he's he says he's your mercy that I sent
for you and he is a role model follow
him and if you do I will love you and
that's why I tell the brothers help in
the house yours I every time I do this
raise your hand through you know if you
help it's awkward for the brothers
sisters rais your hand if your husband
helps you hardly anybody come on man
help it now it's yours you know this is
don't stop dating your wife for example
I tell that all the time you know
because when we start working you know
when we get married we work out I
remember going in the backyard doing
pull-ups and push-ups and sit-ups and
then you know you dress well you know
the PO you take showers you dress well
you you write poems but after you get
married you know I said comes out
everything goes down Allah
says whatever you ask of them give them
before you take and lead by example in
order to follow it's a lot to to to
throw at you but take what you can so so
this is this is a good point so you you
help out out of your
your your love for the relationship your
wife your you know you you want to um go
ahead and do some extra and get the
rewards but how about now when it's
flipped and it's it's looked at like now
no no this is your responsibility now
you have to go to work and come and
every day wash the dishes clean you know
and it gets to that extent right so when
we talk about these issues you have to
discuss it before you get married not
after you get married and remember the
majority of Scholars says your wife is
not so not obligated to serve you and
when I share with the brothers they get
they they're shocked the majority of
scholar says the wife is not obligated
to serve yes but if she does serve you
and why do I share that with the
brothers I said be grateful to her the
Hadith says you haven't thanked Allah
till you thank the people so don't take
it for granted and don't get
complacent and and and there's something
I tell the the sisters too when Prophet
says and tell the sisters all Prophet
mham told you to stay away from three
things to be protected from the Hellfire
don't harm your husband in abundance
with tongue because your tongue has two
gates your teeth and your lips so before
you say anything to your to your husband
think twice be grateful to him for what
he does same thing as I mentioned
because men are just big babies but
women when they have their own babies
they forget their first baby so don't
forget your first baby and be grateful
to them and the third he says if he's
good to you all the time only makes one
mistake say I have never seen any good
from you you're a
loser and that's when we say sisters to
go to the this is how to protect
yourself from to go to the other side
easy pray your five daily prayers on
time fast the month of Ramadan protect
your chest you was good to one man in
your
life is that too much amazing there's so
much more of course and I'll give you
better than that four things that will
open eight gates in Jenna for you on a
day that is 50,000 years just doing four
these things The Scholar says even said
you know uh I'll give you six for one
that's four for eight if you want the
reward for congregation prayer following
Jan
W you have to lose one that's according
to the it's long story but I'm not going
to go there but I'm just giving you cut
in the chase if you want to get all that
reward just have to be good to one man
in your your life my dear sister your
husband and our Prophet wasallam
actually give her a bonus says have I
told you who's going to Jenna says tell
us he because among the list he says if
a woman is angry with her husband her
husband is angry with her again knocked
on the door says I will not be able to
go to sleep unless you please with me
she's in Paradise she's in Paradise
that's deep she's in Paradise yeah um
tell me uh going back uh obviously this
is revolving around we opened up the
satanic forces trying to destroy Society
the home and whatnot uh let's shift over
to Sibling Rivalry uh other family
disputes have you've dealt with a lot of
these and how uh how how how is this
something again when you go back to turn
back to Allah is a me Allah and his
messenger view differ anything and then
are people implementing this
implementing this in most of your in
your counseling sessions with uh sister
and sister brother and brother other
family members and what what do you see
the state here and what advice do you
have have that I look at Tru cause
analysis root cause analysis first of
all did the father marry a righteous
woman that's number one I look for is
the father a good role
model is does he
have
is you Le fear for your
Lage you have to
have that was that was a seventh
grandfather according to
so who was the most knowledgeable of the
he used to do and prolong his prolong he
says I'm doing this for my child for my
son because I remember what Allah said
in so I have to have TA first in order
for me to do this but we we jump we
point the finger to the children but did
you raise them righteously did you give
him righteous environment did you give
him righteous uh company were you and
and and so one thing I tell the the the
parents is please do not compare them to
each other that's the that's where they
get the Rivalry because jealousy even go
y look what happened it's in the Quran
so the Rivalry between them is because
you know what uh this why can't you be
like your your brother why can't you be
like your sister or or or why why do you
have to become like that you know what
talk about the the PMA the positive
mental attitude have the competition
think about it give him the delegate
responsibilities them give them the
their worth listen to what they have to
say involve them in in the decision-
making process these these are extremely
important things for for the child to be
raised properly and I said I mentioned
earlier even the Dua not just the number
one H for the children is righteous
mother number two is the Dua before you
have intimate relations that's soan will
not touch them of course they're not
going to make they going to make a s but
they will die in the state of Islam
that's what the scholar say so there's
it's a long list of things in order for
you to be able to handle our your
children and and so on and so forth and
it's a mirror effect the mirror effect
is they reflect you it's an address for
you
so basically you raised this child why
are you complaining you raised it
there's an exception of course even
Prophet ibraim couldn't help his father
and could not help his father and so on
so that even could not help his son so
these are the exceptions and we cannot
build a theory upon exceptions but Allah
has taking you off as long as you've
done your job teaching them Quran and
Sunnah making sure that righteous
company righteous environment that comes
fromi the man that killed 99 lives it's
a long story but I'm sure most of us
know even killed 100 but the the scholar
says if you want to
change he said Rush haste he didn't say
didn't say go you have to
rush that's why I use this which is a
village the environment righteous
company they're in so you have to
understand that your children have to be
with righteous company and righteous uh
uh environment I'll give you three
inshallah to be able to get the
righteous company that you have
when you see them they remind you of
Allah I I haven't I haven't prayed yet I
look at brother Eddie oh my God I
haven't prayed
yet remind me you remind me of
Allah when I see you how you walk how
you talk how you act how you dress how
you you teach me you guide me the Quran
and
Sunnah when we talk you get IM boost a
shot in the arm you remind me of Heaven
hell life Hereafter this is the three
things that you hold on to the comp you
keep in order for you to be saved now
what do you what do you have brothers
called Mimi tutu Lulu Fifi and suzu and
they have earrings Galore and all this
stuff what the guys look like girls and
girls look like guys and unbelievable
she it's unbeliev this among the signs
of time so these are the things I tell
this is how to not just look at what the
the siblings are fighting a human being
the human nature is fine but look at the
root cause analysis and you find out if
it is to be it's up to me point the
finger to yourself first as a parent as
a guardian before you talk to your
children
all right beautiful uh we covered a lot
here you you open it up with the prayer
making sure that uh this is one of the
main things the devil Satan wants to
keep you away from submitting to your
creator he's he didn't obey do you want
to be a bigger shaan by not submitting
to the one who created you how how do
you want to close this go ahead take it
away well I let me tell you that I've
said this before um you know the Salah
is the first thing you'll be asked about
in the Hereafter if Allah accepts it
he'll accept everything else if he
doesn't accept it he won't won't accept
anything else and so I hear the old
excuses why are you not praying man oh
she I was so good-look she I had the
girls right left and center the dam are
you more beautiful than YF Alam of
course not but he didn't deter him to
pray so I was so rich are you more like
more thanam no you're not are you you're
so poor now because because you're not
going to you're still going to pray if
you're not going to pray in this life
you're going to pray in Hereafter nasty
place soam so he used to say that the
heavens is my cover and the my the the
Earth is my is my bed so you don't you
cannot go there so please remember why
because any other in act of worship
people can make it up for you but you
can nobody can make up your prayer for
you it's a specific personal physical
you have to do because it is honored
because you condition yourself could you
imagine you're linked to Allah yes so
think about Salah comes from you can
stand in front of Allah yes it's a big
topic but I'm just going to cut it the
chase here so think about it why is it
that because Allah gave you all you take
away all the excuses well you know what
um I'm I'm traveling we'll combine two
and two that's fine or yes but you're
not gonna make one and a half and two
I'm just saying three and two and so
he's making it easy okay I I can't I
can't the
Masid this whole earth is made of Masid
I can't find water I just told you that
you can dotion I can't
find do your best to find the if you can
just do
your and you what I can't stand up sit
down I can't sit down lie down I can't
lie down move your head I can't move my
head move your eyes I can't move my eyes
think about in your brain I can't think
about you're dead you don't have to
worry about it anymore you're not
obligated so what other excuses you will
come up with my brother and sisters so
please remember this prayer and thean
that always say is your measuring stick
when you hear do you actually live
accordingly and is God is greater than
anything else says then he says the most
one that is repeated all
time are you really from the
do you think will know you to be from
are you following his if you want to do
whatever it is you want to be
successful this is what you if you don't
get it if you want success in both abots
if not then
remember there's only one deity
deserving to be worshiped which is
Allah thank you so much again my
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